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The Everything Guide to Raising Adolescent Girls: An essential guide to bringing up happy, healthy girls in today's world


One minute she's screaming that she hates you and the next moment she's crying on your shoulder-an adolescent girl is a contradiction in terms: half-child, half-woman, all hormones. Though she may try and push you away, this is the time in her life when she needs your guidance the most. With the expert advice in The Everything Guide to Raising Adolescent Girls, you'll be able to give her that direction and help her overcome the obstacles she ...
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One minute she's screaming that she hates you and the next moment she's crying on your shoulder-an adolescent girl is a contradiction in terms: half-child, half-woman, all hormones. Though she may try and push you away, this is the time in her life when she needs your guidance the most. With the expert advice in The Everything Guide to Raising Adolescent Girls, you'll be able to give her that direction and help her overcome the obstacles she may be facing.

This essential guide shows you how to handle such sensitive adolescent issues as:

  • Dating and sex
  • Drugs and alcohol
  • Mean girls, cliques, and peer pressures
  • Self-esteem and confidence issues
  • Money and responsibilities
Like it or not, your daughter's life is changing and so is your relationship with her. Help her navigate this challenging life transition and equip her with the right tools to become a confident and happy woman!
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781598694420
  • Publisher: Adams Media
  • Publication date: 2/1/2008
  • Series: Everything (Parenting) Series
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 725,999
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 7.50 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Moira McCarthy is the mother of two girls-one having survived adolescence, the other in the midst of it. She is a writer and award-winning news reporter with more than twenty years of experience. McCarthy is the author of The Everything Parent's Guide to Children with Juvenile Diabetes. She has appeared on CNN, Larry King Live, and twice on the front page of the New York Times. She has contributed to Family-Life magazine and was a former editor at the renowned Boston Parent's Paper. She's been a playgroup coordinator, PTO president, carpool queen, and all the other skills today's mothers of teens need. She lives in Plymouth, MA.

Technical Reviewer: Mary E. Muscari, Ph.D., R.N., is a specialist in child health, mental health, and forensics. She has more than thirty years of experience working with children and teens. She has written or coauthored more than 100 publications, including Not My Kid: 21 Steps to Raising a Nonviolent Child, Not My Kid 2: Protecting Your Children from the 21 Threats of the 21st Century, and Let Kids be Kids: Rescuing Childhood. She lives in Hawley, PA.

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Table of Contents

Introduction     xi
Where Has My Little Girl Gone?     1
Sugar and Spice?     1
The Years Before Adolescence     4
Wishes Versus Reality     6
Your Little Girl Is Growing Up     9
Thought Processes as She Grows     14
Life with Mom     17
Your Relationship with Your Daughter     17
Your Image of Her Life     20
Her Image of What Her Life Should Be     23
No Such Thing as the "Cool Mom"     26
Your Changing Relationship     28
Life with Dad     33
Daddy's Little Girl     33
The Importance of a Father in a Girl's Life     37
Appropriateness with Her Friends     40
Are You Wrapped Around Her Finger?     42
Working Toward Your Grown-Up Relationship     44
Communicating with Your Daughter     47
Are "Good" Talks a Myth?     47
When She Speaks Rudely to You     52
To Share Your Past (or Not)     54
Lying: Why She Does It and What It Means     56
Discipline and Punishments     61
When to Punish and When to Ignore the Issue     61
The Enforcer: Mom or Dad?     65
No More Time-Out Chair     67
When You Should Back Down     69
Follow Through     71
Letting Her Face Consequences     73
Your Daughter's Self-Image and Self-Esteem     77
How Self-Image Is Formed     77
Competence and Adequacy     81
Self-Control and Problem Solving     83
Coping with Unrealistic Expectations and Rejection     87
Developing Emotional Maturity     91
Helping Her Emotional Maturity Develop     91
Coping (and Embracing) Failure     96
Stressed Out     98
Volunteering and Public Service     100
Learning on Her Own     103
Miss Independent     105
Age-Appropriate Independence Goals     105
When to Let Go and Of What     109
Too Much, Too Soon?     113
Learning to Let Het Survive on Her Own     115
Money Issues and Teens: What's Realistic?     117
Your Daughter's Value System     123
The Importance of Character     123
Affection and Kindness     127
Honesty and Trust     132
Social Responsibility     136
Spirituality     138
School and Social Issues     141
"Mean Girls": The New "Popular"     141
Bullies and Cliques     144
Smart Girls and Their Issues     147
Girls with Educational Challenges     149
The Importance of Getting Involved     151
Girl and Social Aspects of Sports     153
Let's Talk about Sex (and Dating)     157
Handling "The Talks"     157
Masturbation     162
Dating 101     163
Sexual Pressure and Where It Comes From     170
Types of Sex Today     171
How to Handle It If She Does     173
Sexual Orientation     176
Risky Business     179
Handling "The Other Talks"     179
Smoking     181
Alcohol     184
Inhalants     187
Legal and Illegal Drug Use     189
The "Choking Game"     191
When and Where to Get Help     192
Twenty-First Century Issues and Technology     195
Online Social Networks: Keeping Them Safe     195
Instant Messaging, Texting, and Cell Phones     199
Privacy and the Internet: Is It Okay to Snoop?     202
Today's Pressure on Teens: Can You Relieve It?      206
Keeping Up with Trends and Material Goods     209
Coping with Mental Health and Behavior Issues     213
Loneliness     213
Anxiety     217
ADHD in Girls     220
Depression and Suicide     222
Eating Disorders and Body Images     226
Taking Care of You During Her Adolescence     229
How Adolescence Affects You     229
Dealing with Worry     232
Guilt     234
Anger, Disappointment, and Acceptance     236
Pampering 101     241
Resources     245
Additional Survival Tips     249
Index     253
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