An Ex to Grind [NOOK Book]


The battle of the sexes rages on in this smart, witty, and extremely timely comedy from the phenomenally popular Jane Heller

At first, Manhattan financial planner Melanie Banks adores Dan Swain, her pro football player husband who's got a sexy Oklahoma drawl to go with his athletic good looks. But then his career comes to a screeching halt and he spends the next few years out of a job, seemingly unconcerned about it. Suddenly, she's the one bringing home the bacon and ...

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The battle of the sexes rages on in this smart, witty, and extremely timely comedy from the phenomenally popular Jane Heller

At first, Manhattan financial planner Melanie Banks adores Dan Swain, her pro football player husband who's got a sexy Oklahoma drawl to go with his athletic good looks. But then his career comes to a screeching halt and he spends the next few years out of a job, seemingly unconcerned about it. Suddenly, she's the one bringing home the bacon and falling out of love with the paycheck-devouring, couch-sitting mooch. Divorce is the answer, she decides -- only to learn she has to fork over alimony while he lives like a prince on her income and she has to share custody of their precious dog, Buster. Consumed with the unfairness of it all, she plays dirty, hiring a high-profile matchmaker to find some unsuspecting female she can dump on Dan for ninety days and cause him to violate their cohabitation clause.

But then Melanie's scheme backfires. Her ex's new love revitalizes him, miraculously transforming him into the focused, responsible go-getter she always hoped he'd be. And now, with the ninety-day clock about to chime, she realizes she wants him back.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Nowadays, a woman might bring home more bacon than the lazy pig she married does-an idea Heller (Best Enemies, etc.) runs with in her latest breezy, easy read. Melanie Banks, wedded to her job as a financial planner and freshly divorced from former football star Dan Swain, hates writing him that monthly alimony check, which he spends on Cristal and Gucci moccasins as he languishes in their fancy apartment, while she must settle for dingier digs. Since he's sworn off remarriage and a new career, nursing old injuries to his knee and his pride, Melanie's only out is a bit of legal fine print: if Dan shacks up with a woman for 90 days, he forfeits his right to Melanie's money. Her scheme to find him his ideal woman works all too well: Dan falls for a vixen veterinarian, invites her to move in and shapes up into the man who first stole Melanie's heart. Catastrophically obsessed with the new couple and hell-bent on winning Dan back, Melanie lets her work slide and deflects the advances of her heartthrob neighbor. Readers drawn to Heller's zippy style and culturally astute wit will forgive the ham-fisted plot, which rollicks toward a reassuringly happy ending. Agent, Ellen Levine. (July) Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
Kirkus Reviews
The author of, most recently, Best Enemies (2003), introduces the "bumbo." Melanie Banks is a successful financial planner living in Manhattan. When she married football hero Dan Swain, the two were perfectly matched, good-looking up-and-comers. Then he blew out his knee and turned into a "bumbo": a slacker who sponges off his hard-working wife. By the time their divorce is final, Melanie is glad to be rid of him, but she's not so glad about the alimony she'll be paying for years to come. When Melanie realizes that the payments stop if Dan cohabits with another woman for 90 days, she hires a matchmaker to lure her ex into new love. The plan succeeds a little too well. Not only does Dan fall head-over-heels for a gorgeous veterinarian, but this dream girl also inspires him to take a shower, put on a suit and find a job coaching football. Meeting the new-and-improved Dan, Melanie wants him back. Any woman who has dumped a loser only to see him become another woman's Prince Charming will feel a twinge of pathos here, but such sympathy will last only until she remembers that Melanie is the diabolical creator of this sorry situation. She engineered Dan's transformative romance with Machiavellian determination and, in the process, manipulated and lied to several people-including Dan. Melanie tries to explain why her love of lucre supercedes ethics or decency (her mother died when she was small; her father was a poor provider; she equates money with security), but this isn't enough to make her appealing. Heller may hope that the phenomenon of well-paid women supporting their less-successful exes will become talk-show fodder-indeed, the prologue features Melanie protesting that there really are alot of women just like her-but Heller's story this time out doesn't succeed as entertainment. Unlikable heroine, mean-spirited plot.
Boston Globe
“Jane Heller is feisty, funny and fully in control.”
“Wildly inventive.”
Palm Beach Post
“Sharp, witty.”
USA Today
People Magazine
"Wildly inventive."
Bestselling Author - Karen Robards
"An Ex to Grind was a joy from beginning to end."
New York Times Best-Selling Author - Carly Phillips
"Come along for a witty, fast-paced and clever ride! Jane Heller is at the top of her game."
Karen McCullah Lutz
“An Ex to Grind is the perfect battle-of-the-sexes tale for today’s world.”
Amanda Brown
“Lively, warm, and wise. Melanie Banks is a heroine to root for, and I couldn’t put this book down! ”
Bestselling author Karen Robards
“An Ex to Grind was a joy from beginning to end.”
New York Times bestselling author Carly Phillips
“Come along for a witty, fast-paced and clever ride! Jane Heller is at the top of her game.”
“Wildly inventive.”
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780061860492
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 10/13/2009
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 400
  • Sales rank: 562,877
  • File size: 467 KB

Meet the Author

Jane Heller promoted dozens of bestselling authors before becoming one herself. She is the author of thirteen books including An Ex to Grind, Infernal Affairs, Name Dropping, Female Intelligence, and Lucky Stars. She lives in Santa Barbara, California, where she is at work on her next book.

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An Ex to Grind
A Novel

Chapter One

Let me begin with a few words of caution for women in their thirties and younger: if you think sexual equality is a nonissue, a relic from your mother's or grandmother's bra-burning past, a subject that's so yesterday, think again. The debate over it is back in a new and particularly insidious form, and I need to warn you about it. Please don't groan and say, "Sexual equality? She must be an alarmist." I know what I'm talking about.

You see, this isn't about whether women can succeed in the workplace. That's a given. It's about whether our success has cost us; about whether the fact that we're running companies and winning Senate seats and performing delicate brain surgeries has made us vulnerable to men who will glom onto us for our bucks, not our boobs.

I'll be specific. I was a thirty-four-year-old woman in the once-male-dominated field of financial planning, pulling in a high six figures as a vice president at the Manhattan-based investment firm of Pierce, Shelley and Steinberg. I was well regarded and well compensated, because I was good at helping my already wealthy clients become more wealthy. The sexual equality thing never crossed my mind.

But then something snapped me out of my complacence. I began to notice that with women grabbing more and more of the big-ticket jobs, men were being relegated to the so-called pinkcollar ones. Suddenly, women were the doctors, the lawyers, and the college presidents, and men were the nurses, the paralegals, and the librarians. We were undergoing a seismic shift in our culture, and I realized there had to be a consequence.

Well, there has been a consequence. Men,discouraged by our growing dominance, are starting to shrug their shoulders and drop out of the workforce altogether, leaving it to us to support them. Take a look around if you don't believe me. Ask your friends. It's happening, and it's throwing off the balance, impacting both the way we hook up and the way we break up.

This still isn't hitting home for you? To be honest, it didn't hit home for me until it hit my home.

In the early years of my thirteen-year marriage, my exhusband was the breadwinner. Then his career ended abruptly, and I became the breadwinner. At first I wasn't concerned about our change in roles. A study had just been released reporting that wives were outearning their spouses in over a third of households, so I knew I wasn't the only woman bringing home 3 the bacon. I accepted the fact that if you're the partner who's up, you should assume responsibility for the partner who's down, no matter which gender you are.

But then my ex-husband's bout with unemployment became chronic, which is to say that he didn't lift a finger to find himself a new career. The marriage unraveled. We couldn't handle the role changes after all. But as distressing as that was, the divorce was worse. Why? Because I got stuck assuming responsibility for the partner who was down, ev en though we were no longer partners!

I was forced not only to hand over a huge chunk of my assets to my ex but to pay him alimony too. "Maintenance" they call it in New York state. Whatever. We're talking about me having to write checks to the guy every month for eight years. I was a good and generous person who gave to numerous charities and never cheated anybody out of anything. But this? Well, I balked, to put it mildly.

Maybe you're thinking that if we're the big achievers now, we should stop whining and just fork over the cash in the divorce. But here's the thing: when it's your turn, you won't want to fork over the cash any more than men did when they were hogging the power seat.

Did I go to extremes in my effort to wriggle out of my legal obligation to my ex? Sure. Do I regret what I did to him? Deeply. But I was caught up in that nutty fantasy about men—that even as we're out there conquering the world, they're supposed to be the strong ones, capable of rescuing us, or, at the very least, providing for us.

It's all so confusing, isn't it? Well, maybe this little story of mine will help sort things out.

Or maybe it'll simply confirm that equality, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholden.

Sign here," said my d iv orce a ttorney, Robin Baylor, a fortysomething black woman with impeccable credentials. Harvard for her undergraduate degree. Yale for law school. Louis Licari for the auburn highlights that were expertly woven through her short, spiky hair. The two of us were sitting in her elegantly appointed, wood-paneled conference room at a table the length of a city block. She had just passed me the gazillionth document pertaining to Melanie Banks (me) vs. Dan Swain (my ex). "It's the last one," she announced.

"Promise?" I said with pleading eyes as I glanced at the huge file she had on Dan and me. So much paper. Such a waste of trees.

"Trust me, yours wasn't as complicated as some," she said, and she wasn't kidding. She'd handled my friend Karen's divorce, which became a truly unsavory affair after it was revealed that Karen's ex was not only an insider trader with the SEC breathing down his neck but also a bigamist with two families on opposite coasts. "You've waited out the year of legal separation, and now you're just signing the conversion documents. Once these are filed, you're divorced. Case closed."

"Closed?" I said. "I wish. Thanks to this settlement, I'm tied to Dan for seven more years.Having to pay him while we were separated was no picnic, but having to write him checks for the next . . . Well, the whole thing makes me sick." An Ex to Grind
A Novel
. Copyright © by Jane Heller. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 12, 2005

    great beach read

    A funny, light read. You can't stop turning the pages to find out what Melanie is up to next!!! :-)

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 19, 2013

    Loved it

    I was at the local library and was searching the shelves and found this i saw the library had quite a few of her books (always a good sign to me) i finished it in two nights.....easy read...funny and just great chick lit. Definitely my type of book i read to relax. Cant wait to get more of her books and will watch B&N for sales.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 28, 2005

    Delightful & Fun Reading!

    Every book Jane Heller writes I read. Her style of writing is fun, interesting, and truly entertaining. This book is all of these things and more. You will really enjoy these characters. Even Buster the dog is entertaining! Jane Heller's novels are just delightful! I'm looking forward to the next novel by Jane.

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  • Posted December 9, 2008

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    A fine book to take to the beach

    In Manhattan financial planner Melanie Banks and football hero Dan Swain seemed like the model married couple until he blew out his knee ending his sports career. Dan becomes a sponge living off his wife¿s income, but doing nothing with his life. Disappointed and disgusted with her 'bumbo' husband, Melanie divorces Dan, but New York forces her to provide him with alimony and joint custody of Buster the dog................ Melanie detests paying this slacker any money so she hires matchmaker Desiree Klein Heart Hunting to find Dan a woman to live with for ninety days, which will end her payments to him. Instead Buster introduces Dan to his veterinarian, they fall in love and he now has a cause to better himself and get past the self pity. However, Machiavellian Melanie sees in the new Dan the old Dan that she loved and married; she wants him back so she revises her plan not caring who is hurt in the process even Evan who offers kibble to Buster as a way to Melanie¿s heart.................. Though Melanie rationalizes why she throws ethics out the window, fans will not feel empathy towards the wicked witch of the east. On the other hand, the transformation of Dan from superstar to super slacker to superman seems real as Melanie gives no support emotionally when he most needs her while his new love encourages him to get back in the playing field as a coach. Fans of Jane Heller will see her trademark humor underlying the serious plot, but the star Melanie fumbles the ball as she is too callous about others for the audience to care about her................. Harriet Klausner

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