Table of Contents
Foreword Nina Hartley ix
Preface to the Second Edition xi
1 Recovering from Reticence 1
2 What Exhibitionism Is - And Isn't 17
3 1 Like to Watch - And Listen 31
4 Learning To Show Off 45
5 Too Shy to Talk? 69
6 The Librarian Takes Down Her Hair - Awakening Erotic Personas 91
7 Finding Words That Are Hot For You 111
8 I Like To Be Watched 123
9 Practice Makes Perfect: Some Hints for Finding Partners 143
10 Go Where the Exhibitionism Is 155
11 Techno-Exhibitionism: Showing Off By Bits and Bytes 175
12 When Showing Off Is Your Job 189
13 Exhibitionism And Your Partner 207
14 Resources For The Recovering Shy 229
Appendix 1 "Dirty" Words and Phrases 231
Appendix 2 Chinese Taoist Sex Words 235
Appendix 3 Feeling and Emotion Words 237
Appendix 4 Some Erotic Roles 241