The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-Be

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An information-packed, month-by-month guide to all the emotional, financial, and yes, even physical changes the father-to-be may experience during the course of his partner's pregnancy. Incorporating the wisdom of top experts in the field, from obstetricians and birth-class instructors to psychologists and sociologists, The Expectant Father is filled with sound advice and practical tips for men.
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An information-packed, month-by-month guide to all the emotional, financial, and yes, even physical changes the father-to-be may experience during the course of his partner's pregnancy. Incorporating the wisdom of top experts in the field, from obstetricians and birth-class instructors to psychologists and sociologists, The Expectant Father is filled with sound advice and practical tips for men.
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Editorial Reviews

Children's Literature - Mary Quattlebaum
My husband Christopher is anticipating his first Father's Day with our baby Christy, now eight months old, and happily agreed to be the dad consultant for this review. First on his list of recommendations were Armin Brott's friendly, informative guides: The Expectant Father and The New Father. Interspersed with a month-by-month account of the development of the fetus in the first book and infant in the second are discussions of dad's emotions, tips on financial planning, and ways to support the mother. Cartoons and amusing anecdotes throughout keep the funny bone well tickled.
Library Journal
There is plenty of literature available for expectant mothers but significantly less for fathers-to-be. While both these titles address the overlooked father, their different approaches complement each other. Brott and Ash give practical advice on everything from where to have the birthhospital or hometo how to start a college fund. How much does delivery by a midwife cost? What are the nutritional needs of the mother-to-be? Prenatal communication, sex during pregnancy, crib furnishingsone would be hard put to find a question about having a baby that is not dealt with here, all from the expectant father's point of view. In addition to practical problems, a man experiences profound, personal changes when he becomes a father. Heinowitz's goal is to help expectant fathers become the kind of engaged, involved fathers that they wish to be. In the process, he discusses coming to terms with one's own experience of childhood, accepting one's own feelings and emotions, dealing with the stress of parenthood, and even fathering through divorce. Both books will be very useful not only for expectant fathers but also for men wondering if fatherhood is right for them, and both are highly recommended for all public libraries and medical libraries serving obstetricians and their patients.John Moryl, Yeshiva Univ. Lib., New York
Publishers Weekly
In this updated third edition of Brott's guide for new fathers, the parenting expert (Fathering Your Toddler) gives dads-to-be a month-by-month breakdown of what to expect as they prepare to welcome a baby into their family. For each month, Brott and Ash give a rundown of what mothers, babies, and fathers are experiencing physically and emotionally, from moodiness and food cravings (which fathers aren't exempt from) to balancing fatherhood with work. Rather than simply offering a laundry list, Brott and Ash explore, explain, and perhaps most importantly, assuage anxiety about the issues that arise and evolve over the course of a pregnancy. Seemingly every topic of concern is covered, from morning sickness, foods to avoid, midwives, doulas, and adoption to worries over miscarriage and birth defects, the latter addressed with calm, sympathetic advice. Brott and Ash's measured, experienced tone offers assurance and guidance for those new to the stresses and worries of impending fatherhood, making this a must-have for anyone expecting. (Sept.)
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Praise for The Expectant Father:

"This is an essential book for all expectant fathers." --Publisher's Weekly

"Brott writes honestly and earnestly. His wry sense of humor will be a relief to hassled parents." -- Time magazine

"...stood out immediately...because of its perceptive insights"--San Francisco Chronicle

"The best guidebook to date for both the prospective father and his partner in their journey through the nine months of pregnancy... a must for fathers-to-be." -- John Munder Ross, Ph.D., author of What Men Want and Father and Child

"One would be hard put to find a question about having a baby that’s not dealt with here, all from the father’s point of view." -- Library Journal

"For fathers soon expecting the ultimate gift—a new member of the family—The Expectant Father is his best friend." --CNN Interactive

iParenting Media Award

"The What to Expect When You’re Expecting for men. . . . If you know an expectant father, first baby or not, make sure he has this book. --Full-Time Dads

"...extraordinarily helpful...packed with specific advice."—Portland Oregonian

Winner, 2005 Adding Wisdom award from Parent-to-Parent

"For the dad-to-be, author Armin Brott's The Expectant Father is a terrific gift, offering insight into pregnancy and the first few weeks of parenthood."
—BabyCenter.com

Library Journal
Brott has updated his best-selling guide with new information on adoptive fathers, multiples, infertility, and dads in the service. It remains the most comprehensive father-to-be title out there, organized by month with every conceivable subject covered. Brott breaks down the material by what's going on with her (subdivided by the categories physically and emotionally), what's going on with the baby, and what's going on with dad-to-be. His style is conversational but not dry, at times humorous, and always honest. Accurate, up-to-date, on target, and comprehensive; libraries should update to the new edition. . —"Parenting Short Takes", Booksmack!, 12/16/10.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780789212122
  • Publisher: Abbeville Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 5/19/2015
  • Series: New Father Series
  • Edition description: Fourth Edition, Fourth Edition
  • Edition number: 4
  • Pages: 352
  • Sales rank: 1,001,489

Meet the Author

Armin A. Brott is a nationally recognized parenting expert and author of Abbeville’s New Father series, including: The New Father: A Dad’s Guide to the First Year; Fathering Your Toddler: A Dad’s Guide to the Second and Third Years; Fathering Yout School-Age Child; and The Military Father. He has written on parenting and fatherhood for The New York Times Magazine, The Washington Post, Newsweek, and dozens of other publications. He also hosts “Positive Parenting,” a nationally syndicated, weekly talk show and lives with his family in Oakland, California.

Jennifer Ash is the author of Private Palm Beach and a contributing editor to Town and Country. She and her husband Joe, and their son Clarke and daughter Amelia make their home in New York City.

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Introduction

When my wife and I got pregnant in July 1989, I was the happiest I'd ever been. That pregnancy, labor, and the birth of our first daughter was a time of incredible closeness, tenderness, and passion. Long before we'd married, my wife and I had made a commitment to share equally in raising our children. And it seemed only natural that the process of shared parenting should begin during pregnancy.

Since neither of us had had children before, we were both rather ill-prepared for pregnancy. Fortunately for my wife, there were literally hundreds of books designed to educate, encourage, support, and comfort women during their pregnancies. But when I began to realize that I, too, was expecting, and that the pregnancy was bringing out feelings and emotions I didn't understand, I couldn't find any books to turn to. I looked for answers in my wife's pregnancy books, but information about what expectant fathers go through (if it was discussed at all) was at best superficial, consisting mostly of advice on how men could be supportive of their pregnant wives. And to make things worse, since my wife and I were the first couple in our circle of close friends to get pregnant, there was no one else I could talk to about what I was going through, no one who could reassure me that what I was feeling was normal and all right.

Until fairly recently, there has been precious little research on the man's emotional and psychological experiences during pregnancy. The very title of one of the first articles to appear on the subject should give you some idea of the medical and psychiatric communities' attitude toward the impact of pregnancy on men. Written by William H. Wainwright, M.D., andpublished in the July 1966 issue of the American Journal of Psychiatry, it was called "Fatherhood as a Precipitant of Mental Illness."

But as you'll soon find out, an expectant father's experience during the transition to fatherhood is not confined simply to excitement--or mental illness; if it were, this book would never have been written. The reality is that men's emotional response to pregnancy is no less varied than women's; expectant fathers feel everything from relief to denial, fear to frustration, anger to joy. And for anywhere from 22 to 79 percent of men, there are physical symptoms of pregnancy as well (more on this on pages 53-55).

So why haven't men's experiences been discussed more? In my opinion it's because we, as a society, value motherhood more than fatherhood, and we automatically assume that issues of childbirth and childrearing are women's issues. But as you'll learn--both from reading this book and from your own experience--this is simply not the case.

Who, Exactly, Has Written This Book?

When Jennifer Ash approached me about collaborating with her on The Expectant Father, we agreed that our goal was to help you understand and make sense of what you're going through during your pregnancy. That's an important goal, but one that is clearly dependent on your partner's being pregnant. A good understanding of your partner's perspective on the pregnancy--emotional as well as physical--is essential to understanding how you will react. It was precisely this perspective that Jennifer, whose son was born only a few days after my second daughter, provided. Throughout our collaboration she contributed valuable information and comments not only about what pregnant women are going through but also about the ways women most want men to stay involved.

A Note on Structure

Throughout the book, Jennifer and I try to present straightforward, practical information in an easy-to-absorb format. Each of the main chapters is divided into four sections as follows:

What She's Going Through

Even though this is a book about what you as an expectant father are going through during pregnancy, we felt it was important to summarize your partner's physical and emotional pregnancy experience as well.

What's Going On with the Baby

This section lets you in on your future child's progress--from sperm and egg to living, breathing infant.

What You're Going Through

This section covers the wide range of feelings--good, bad, and indifferent--you'll probably experience at some time during the pregnancy. It also describes the physical changes you may go through, as well as the ways the pregnancy may affect your sex life.

Staying Involved

While the "What You're Going Through" section covers the emotional and physical side of pregnancy, this section gives you the specific facts, tips, and advice on what you can do to make the pregnancy yours as well as your partner's. For instance, you'll find easy, nutritious recipes to prepare, information on how to start a college fund for the baby, valuable advice on getting the most out of your birth classes, and tips about how to be supportive of your partner and stay included in the pregnancy.

The book covers more than the nine months of pregnancy. Jennifer and I have included a detailed chapter on labor and delivery and another on Cesarean section, both of which prepare you to understand and help your partner through the birth itself. Perhaps even more important, these chapters prepare you for the often overwhelming emotions you may experience when your partner is in labor and your child is born.

We've also included a special chapter that addresses the major questions and concerns you may have about caring for and getting to know your child after you bring him or her home. And finally, we've included a chapter called "Fathering Today," in which you'll learn to recognize--and overcome--the many obstacles contemporary fathers are likely to encounter.

As you go through the book, remember that each of us brings different emotional baggage to our pregnancies, and that none of us will react to the same situation in the same way. You may find that some of the feelings described in the "What You're Going Through" section in the third-month chapter won't really ring true for you until the fifth month, or that you have already experienced them in the first month. You may also want to try out some of the ideas and activities suggested in the "Staying Involved" sections in a different order. Feel free.

A Note on Terminology

Wife, Girlfriend, Lover . . .

In an attempt to avoid offending anyone (an approach that usually ends up offending everyone), we've decided to refer to the woman who's carrying the baby as "your partner."

Hospitals, Doctors . . .

We realize that not everyone who has a baby delivers in a hospital or is under the care of a medical doctor. Still, because this is the most frequent scenario, we've chosen to refer to the place where the baby will be born as "the hospital" and to the people attending the birth (besides you, of course) as "doctors," "nurses," "medical professionals," or "practitioners."

As a rule, today's fathers (and prospective fathers) want to be much more involved with their children than their own fathers were able to be. It's our belief that the first step on the road toward full involvement is to take an active role in the pregnancy. And it's our hope that when you're through reading The Expectant Father--which is the book Jennifer wishes she could have bought for her husband when she was pregnant and I wish I'd had both times my wife and I were pregnant--you'll be much better prepared to participate in this important new phase of your life.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 6
Introduction 9
The First Decisions 13
The 1st Month
The 2nd Month
The 3rd Month
The 4th Month
The 5th Month
The 6th Month
The 7th Month
The 8th Month
The 9th Month
Labor & Delivery 141
Cesarean Section 156
Gee Honey, Now What Do We Do? 162
Fathering Today 188
Selected Bibliography 199
Resources 202
Index 204
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