Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life


When our expectations are met and things go according to plan, we feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. Risking little, we feel safe, in control, and on-track. But when life throws us a curveball or does not live up to our expectations, we end up with an Expectation Hangover. This particular brand of discomfort is profoundly sobering and uncomfortable.

Christine Hassler urges us to not wallow in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, and instead see these hangovers as ...

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When our expectations are met and things go according to plan, we feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. Risking little, we feel safe, in control, and on-track. But when life throws us a curveball or does not live up to our expectations, we end up with an Expectation Hangover. This particular brand of discomfort is profoundly sobering and uncomfortable.

Christine Hassler urges us to not wallow in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, and instead see these hangovers as catalyst for profound transformation. Often life has to throw us a curveball (or several) so that we look in a different direction. When we fully treat our Expectation Hangover on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual level, we learn courage, faith, surrender, and love, and we make room for the kind of unexpected things that lead us more directly to a life we love—rather than a life we planned.

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Until we learn to take effective corrective measures, disappointment can become an infectious disease. According to self improvement specialist Christine Hassler (20 Something 20 Everything), those who suffer from what she calls "expectation hangovers" must learn to free themselves from never-ending cycle of self-doubt and self-recrimination. The measures that she recommends are radical: Instead of simply wrestling with past mistakes and misfortunes, she shows how readers can actually use them to become stronger and prepare for coming challenges that life is certain to bring.

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“Christine Hassler’s clear voice reminds us, no matter where we are in life, of a timeless truth: that we all have within us the ability to meet life’s challenges, be empowered through adversity, and move from struggle to grace.”
Arianna Huffington, editor in chief of the Huffington Post and author of Thrive

“If this book has landed in your lap right now, and you’re wallowing in an Expectation Hangover of your own, consider this a sign from the Universe that you’re ready to press ‘fast-forward’ on this phase of your journey. With this book, you will be guided through your Expectation Hangover with love, compassion, and sensitivity to how much you might be hurting right now.”
from the foreword by Lissa Rankin, MD, New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over Medicine and The Fear Cure

“Hassler’s work will equip any reader who is open and committed to change to succeed.”
Library Journal

“Life is difficult, not unfair. We all need to be truly educated and prepared for life’s difficulties. Christine Hassler’s new book can do that for us. Just as hunger leads us to seek nourishment, an Expectation Hangover can help us to nourish our life. When you are willing to ask yourself, ‘What am I to learn from this experience?’ you will find what ultimately nourishes your life. Her techniques contain the wisdom of the ages and sages. Read, learn, and transform your curse into a blessing and life’s charcoal into a diamond.”
Bernie Siegel, MD, author of The Art of Healing and 365 Prescriptions for the Soul

“Christine Hassler is a divine teacher and guide. In Expectation Hangover, she helps us reframe our disappointment by guiding us to see our obstacles as detours in the right direction. This book gives us a window of opportunity to change our patterns and open our hearts to a new way of perceiving the world.”
Gabrielle Bernstein, New York Times bestselling author of Miracles Now

“Warm and encouraging wisdom for when things don’t go according to plan. Christine Hassler is a tremendous ally for navigating through life’s most challenging moments, and this book is a powerful road map for dealing with disappointment in an efficient and empowering way that becomes a doorway to profound personal growth.”
H. Ronald Hulnick, PhD, president, University of Santa Monica, and Mary R. Hulnick, PhD, chief educational officer, University of Santa Monica, coauthors of Loyalty to Your Soul

“If you’ve never been disappointed, you don’t need this book. For everyone else, here’s an approach that will shift you from letdown to breakthrough. Christine Hassler’s insightful and practical book will get you moving quickly and powerfully toward greater success and fulfillment.”
Marci Shimoff, professional speaker and #1 New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason

Library Journal
According to life coach and speaker Hassler, people suffer from expectation hangover when they're continually disappointed when life doesn't turn out as expected. To help readers create a future based on understanding who they really are, the author offers a multidimensional treatment plan that includes a range of tools and techniques. In order to deal with emotions, she suggests exercises that revolve around releasing feelings. To address psychological needs, she encourages rewriting one's story. Hassler states that there doesn't need to be disappointment on the spiritual level if setbacks are viewed as opportunities for learning. A particularly handy section of the book contains quick fixes, among them, directing readers to stop people-pleasing and to be of service. The author's best advice: "Don't go to a Chinese restaurant for nachos." VERDICT Hassler's work will equip any reader who is open and committed to change to succeed.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781480524880
  • Publisher: Brilliance Audio
  • Publication date: 10/2/2014
  • Format: MP3 on CD
  • Edition description: Unabridged
  • Product dimensions: 5.25 (w) x 6.75 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Meet the Author

Christine Hassler left her job as a successful Hollywood agent to pursue a life she could be passionate about. In 2005 she wrote a guidebook for quarter-life women, 20 Something, 20 Everything, and later wrote a book for men and women, 20 Something Manifesto. Today she supports people of all ages as a life coach and speaker. She leads seminars and retreats at colleges, conferences, corporations, and in beautiful locations around the world. She has appeared as an expert on the Today show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style, and PBS. Christine is a member of Northwestern University’s Council of 100, the Young Entrepreneur Council and is on the faculty of the University of Santa Monica. She lives in Los Angeles.

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Table of Contents


Foreword by Lissa Rankin, MD
What to Expect

Part One: Expectations

Chapter One: My Expectation Hangovers

Chapter Two: The Whats and Whys of Expectation Hangovers
“Expectation Hangover” Defined
Why Expectation Hangovers Happen

Chapter Three: What Does Not Work
Numbing the Pain
Being Strong
Pep Talks
The Next Best Thing
Spiritual Bypass

Chapter Four: Awareness and Acceptance
The First Step out of Disappointment

Part Two: Treatment Plan

Chapter Five: A Holistic Prescription for Treating Your Expectation Hangover
Role-Playing Rx

Chapter Six: The Emotional Level
How We Suppress Emotions
Role-Playing Rx: The Surfer
But I’m Not Angry!
The Power of Vulnerability
Make a Date with Your Feelings

Chapter Seven: The Mental Level
Your Story
Role-Playing Rx: The Horseback Rider
Thought Time Travel

Chapter Eight: The Behavioral Level
Role-Playing Rx: The Scientist
Compensatory Strategies
Your Superpowers
Avoidance Traps
Your Core Values

Chapter Nine: The Spiritual Level
The Goal Line versus the Soul Line
Your Spiritual Curriculum
Role-Playing Rx: The Seeker
Living Inside Out
Surrendering to a Higher Power
Lesson Quest
Your Life Purpose

Part Three: Prevention

Chapter Ten: Managing Your Expectations
The Secret Sauce for Pursuing Goals

Chapter Eleven: Quick Fixes That Work
Quick Fix 1: Stop People-Pleasing
Quick Fix 2: Go Your Own Way
Quick Fix 3: Don’t Go to a Chinese Restaurant for Nachos
Quick Fix 4: Wake Up from Comparison Comas
Quick Fix 5: Be of Service
Quick Fix 6: Be a Kid
Quick Fix 7: Gorge on Gratitude

About the Author

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