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Father Knows Best
     

Father Knows Best

by Armin A. Brott, Jennifer Ash
 

The best-selling series of parenting handbooks for expectant and new dads is now available in a three-volume boxed set containing The Expectant Father (Third Edition), The New Father (Second Edition), and Fathering Your Toddler (Second Edition), all by critically-acclaimed author Armin Brott.

The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips,

Overview

The best-selling series of parenting handbooks for expectant and new dads is now available in a three-volume boxed set containing The Expectant Father (Third Edition), The New Father (Second Edition), and Fathering Your Toddler (Second Edition), all by critically-acclaimed author Armin Brott.

The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-Be (Third Edition):
This invaluable book explores the emotional, financial, and even physical changes the father-to-be may experience during his partner’s pregnancy. Written in an easy-to-absorb format and filled with sound advice and practical tips for men on such topics as how to make sense of your conflicting emotions, how pregnancy affects your sex life, and how to start a college fund, this volume reassures, commiserates, informs, and entertains. It also incorporates the wisdom of top experts in the field, from obstetricians and birth-class instructors to psychologists and sociologists.

The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year (Second Edition):
How can you become an effective, involved father when you see your baby only briefly after work? What is the best way to start saving for your child’s college education? The answers to these questions and hundreds more are found on the pages of this easy-to-follow, information-packed volume. Author Armin Brott devotes a chapter to each month of the first year. In each chapter he charts the physical, intellectual, verbal, and emotional changes the child is going through, and examines the emotional and psychological development the father may experience. He also covers such general parenting issues as coping with crying, finding quality child care, and understanding changes in the relationship with one’s partner.

Fathering Your Toddler: A Dad's Guide to the Second and Third Years (Second Edition):
At what age should you introduce your child to computers? When and how should you go about drawing up a will? The day your child starts preschool, how will you cope with the pangs of adult separation anxiety? The answers to these questions and hundreds more are found in the pages of this information-packed volume. Author Armin Brott devotes a chapter to every three months of the second and third years. In each chapter, Brott charts the physical, intellectual, verbal, and emotional changes the child is going through and examines the emotional and psychological developments the father may be experiencing. He discusses issues that may develop between fathers and their partners as well as matters that involve the whole family. In addition, each chapter contains a section called “You and Your Child,” in which activities and issues appropriate to the given age are discussed.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
"Smart and father-friendly." — Sesame Street Parents

"Brott writes honestly and earnestly. His wry sense of humor will be a relief to hassled parents." — Time

"He offers solid, practical advice…Brott is nothing if not thorough." — San Francisco Chronicle

Praise for The Expectant Father (Third Edition):
"One would be hard put to find a question about having a baby that’s not dealt with here, all from the father’s point of view." — Library Journal

"For fathers soon expecting the ultimate gift—a new member of the family—The Expectant Father is his best friend." — CNN Interactive

Praise for The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year (Second Edition):
"In this third of his perfectly targeted book series for the modern dad, Brott demystifies child development…and make[s] fathers…enjoy the vital role they play in their kids lives even more. A great addition to any parenthood library." — Child magazine

Praise for Fathering Your Toddler: A Dad's Guide to the Second and Third Years (Second Edition):
"Another great book in an intelligent series for dads. Armin Brott writes terrific parenting books for dads. They are well researched and the tone is encouraging and friendly.” — Parentsworld.com

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780789211132
Publisher:
Abbeville Publishing Group
Publication date:
12/06/2011
Edition description:
Second Edition
Pages:
979
Product dimensions:
6.50(w) x 9.30(h) x 3.00(d)

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Excerpt from: The Expectant Father

Introduction

When my wife and I got pregnant in July 1989, I was the happiest I'd ever been. That pregnancy, labor, and the birth of our first daughter was a time of incredible closeness, tenderness, and passion. Long before wed married, my wife and I had made a commitment to share equally in raising our children. And it seemed only natural that the process of shared parenting should begin during pregnancy.

Since neither of us had had children before, we were both rather ill-prepared for pregnancy. Fortunately for my wife, there were literally hundreds of books designed to educate, encourage, support, and comfort women during their pregnancies. But when I began to realize that I, too, was expecting, and that the pregnancy was bringing out feelings and emotions I didn't understand, I couldn't find any books to turn to. I looked for answers in my wife's pregnancy books, but information about what expectant fathers go through (if it was discussed at all) was at best superficial, consisting mostly of advice on how men could be supportive of their pregnant wives. And to make things worse, since my wife and I were the first couple in our circle of close friends to get pregnant, there was no one else I could talk to about what I was going through, no one who could reassure me that what I was feeling was normal and all right.

Until fairly recently, there has been precious little research on the mans emotional and psychological experiences during pregnancy. The very title of one of the first articles to appear on the subject should give you some idea of the medical and psychiatric communities attitude toward the impact of pregnancy on men. Written by William H. Wainwright, M.D., and published in the July 1966 issue of the American Journal of Psychiatry, it was called "Fatherhood as a Precipitant of Mental Illness."

But as you'll soon find out, an expectant fathers experience during the transition to fatherhood is not confined simply to excitement—or mental illness; if it were, this book would never have been written. The reality is that mens emotional response to pregnancy is no less varied than women's; expectant fathers feel everything from relief to denial, fear to frustration, anger to joy. And for anywhere from 22 to 79 percent of men, there are physical symptoms of pregnancy as well.

So why haven't men's experiences been discussed more? In my opinion its because we, as a society, value motherhood more than fatherhood, and we automatically assume that issues of childbirth and childrearing are women's issues. But as you'll learn—both from reading this book and from your own experience—this is simply not the case.

Who, Exactly, Has Written This Book?

When Jennifer Ash approached me about collaborating with her on The Expectant Father, we agreed that our goal was to help you understand and make sense of what you're going through during your pregnancy. Thats an important goal, but one that is clearly dependent on your partners being pregnant. A good understanding of your partners perspective on the pregnancy—emotional as well as physical—is essential to understanding how you will react. It was precisely this perspective that Jennifer, whose son was born only a few days after my second daughter, provided. Throughout our collaboration she contributed valuable information and comments not only about what pregnant women are going through but also about the ways women most want men to stay involved.

A Note on Structure

Throughout the book, Jennifer and I try to present straightforward, practical information in an easy-to-absorb format. Each of the main chapters is divided into four sections as follows:

What She's Going Through

Even though this is a book about what you as an expectant father are going through during pregnancy, we felt it was important to summarize your partners physical and emotional pregnancy experience as well.

What's Going On with the Baby

This section lets you in on your future child's progress—from sperm and egg to living, breathing infant.

What You're Going Through

This section covers the wide range of feelings—good, bad, and indifferent—you'll probably experience at some time during the pregnancy. It also describes the physical changes you may go through, as well as the ways the pregnancy may affect your sex life.

Staying Involved

While the "What You're Going Through" section covers the emotional and physical side of pregnancy, this section gives you specific facts, tips, and advice on what you can do to make the pregnancy yours as well as your partners. For instance, you'll find easy, nutritious recipes to prepare, information on how to start a college fund for the baby, valuable advice on getting the most out of your birth classes, and tips about how to be supportive of your partner and stay included in the pregnancy.

The book covers more than the nine months of pregnancy. Jennifer and I have included a detailed chapter on labor and delivery and another on Cesarean section, both of which prepare you to understand and help your partner through the birth itself. Perhaps even more important, these chapters prepare you for the often overwhelming emotions you may experience when your partner is in labor and your child is born.

We've also included a special chapter that addresses the major questions and concerns you may have about caring for and getting to know your child after you bring him or her home. And finally, weve included a chapter called "Fathering Today," in which you'll learn to recognize—and overcome—the many obstacles contemporary fathers are likely to encounter.

As you go through the book, remember that each of us brings different emotional baggage to our pregnancies, and that none of us will react to the same situation in the same way. You may find that some of the feelings described in the "What You're Going Through" section in the third-month chapter wont really ring true for you until the fifth month, or that you have already experienced them in the first month. You may also want to try out some of the ideas and activities suggested in the "Staying Involved" sections in a different order. Feel free.

A Note on Terminology

Wife, Girlfriend, Lover…

In an attempt to avoid offending anyone (an approach that usually ends up offending everyone), we've decided to refer to the woman who's carrying the baby as "your partner."

Hospitals, Doctors…

We realize that not everyone who has a baby delivers in a hospital or is under the care of a medical doctor. Still, because this is the most frequent scenario, we've chosen to refer to the place where the baby will be born as "the hospital" and to the people attending the birth (besides you, of course) as "doctors," "nurses," "medical professionals," or "practitioners."

As a rule, todays fathers (and prospective fathers) want to be much more involved with their children than their own fathers were able to be. Its our belief that the first step on the road toward full involvement is to take an active role in the pregnancy. And its our hope that when you're through reading The Expectant Father—which is the book Jennifer wishes she could have bought for her husband when she was pregnant and I wish I'd had both times my wife and I were pregnant—you'll be much better prepared to participate in this important new phase of your life.

Meet the Author

Armin Brott has written on fatherhood for the New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, Washington Post, American Baby, and Parenting. He is the host of a weekly radio show on parenting. Mr. Brott lives in Oakland, California.

Jennifer Ash is the author of Private Palm Beach and a contributing editor to Town and Country. She and her husband Joe, and their son Clarke and daughter Amelia make their home in New York City.

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