Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad / Edition 1

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Get the inside story on a single gay man's struggle to adopt!

Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad is the story of one man's journey down the road less traveled—a single gay man adopting and raising his two sons. Author Kevin McGarry recounts his passage into parenthood after years of having his natural fathering instincts stifled by the limits—real and perceived—of being gay. This unique book details the emotional, financial, practical, and social realities of the adoption process for gay men.

From the author: "We take risks by coming out of the closet as gay men and at the end of the day, we are emotionally happier because we took those risks. By coming out, we are being true to who we are. The same goes for anyone, gay or straight, who has gut instincts for parenthood. I knew over the years that I had parenting instincts because I had this incredible envy of other dads. I would watch them with their kids and wish that somehow, I could have that role. It was painful at times because being gay, I didn't think parenting was in my life plan. Had more role models been available to me, the process would have been a little less difficult."

Much more than a "how-to" guide to adoption, Fatherhood for Gay Men is the personal account of a single gay man's struggle to become a father despite the real and imagined limitations of being a gay man. The book looks at the adoption process (domestic and international) from the inside, providing unique insight into:

  • conducting a homestudy
  • costs (fees and expenses)
  • what countries allow men to adopt
  • alternatives to adoption
  • life as a new parent
  • online resources
  • and a state-by-state review of adoption laws, categorized by "Completely Legal," "Favorable Climate," "Mixed Success," and "Illegal"
The book also includes results of the 2000 study by Gillian Dunne, senior researcher for the London School of Economics Gender Institute, of 100 gay fathers and fathers-to-be. "Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad is a heartfelt and heartwarming story of a father's refusal to be denied a family.

Visit the Author's Web site at http://www.fatherhoodforgaymen.com

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Editorial Reviews

Out Magazine
Inspired to be a parent? Turn to this book.
Bob Page
By taking a progressive approach, McGarry OFFERS VERY REALISTIC INSIGHT INTO THE THINKING AND THE PROCESSES INVOLVED IN BECOMING A GAY DAD IN TODAY'S SOCIETY. In walking the reader through the various stages of his adoptions in a foreign country, McGarry provides an emotional and practical picture of what one can expect as well as the eventual triumphs that occur as one begins and passes through the journey of forming a family. This book would have been a tremendous help in dealing with the various starts and stops awaiting us in our adoption process.
Founder and CEO, Replacements, Ltd., and Dale Frederiksen, Vice-President of Product Information, Replacements, Ltd.
Louis Bayard
I only regret that Kevin McGarry's honest, searching, and comprehensive guide wasn't around when my partner and I were adopting. For readers embarking on their own parenting adventure, this book is A MOTHER LODE OF INSIDE KNOWLEDGE and, equally important, A WELLSPRING OF HOPE. It's a book written from and to the heart.
Author of Fool's Errand and Endangered Species
American Boyz
A slim but information-packed book whose time has definitely come: THE DEFINITIVE GUIDE TO ADOPTING CHILDREN IF YOU'RE A GAY MAN OR A GAY COUPLE. . . . Includes an appendix of useful Web sites and listservs as well as a state-by-state guide to the legalities of single gay adoption and gay second-parent adoption across the country.
Library Journal
After adopting two Vietnamese infants, McGarry, a gay single man, felt the need to let other gay men know that parenting is possible for them, too. Chapter 1, "Closet Daddy," is an insightful reflection on parental instincts that gays often deny because of their community lifestyle or societal prejudices. The book goes on to cover the various elements of international adoptions: home study, countries that allow single men to adopt, cost, the current law in each state regarding gay parenting, how to prepare for the baby's arrival, and so on. When chronicling his trips to Vietnam to adopt his sons, McGarry uses diary extracts that are riveting and emotional. Unfortunately, the book suffers from many repetitions and, in some cases, contradictions. In "What Countries Allow Single Men," the author lists Cambodia, whereas the preceding chapter does not mention Cambodia in its discussion of the same list. As the book is only 107 pages, such oversights are unforgivable. Jean Nelson-Erichsen and Heino Erichsen's How To Adopt Internationally, revised earlier this year, covers the adoption process in greater detail, whereas Jesse Green's The Velveteen Father addresses fatherhood for gay men with more substance. An optional purchase for larger public libraries or where gay literature is in high demand.-Maryse Breton, Davis Branch Lib., CA Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781560233886
  • Publisher: Taylor & Francis
  • Publication date: 6/28/2003
  • Series: Race and Politics Series
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 126
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.10 (h) x 0.40 (d)

Table of Contents

  • Foreword
  • Preface
  • Chapter 1. Closet Daddy
  • Chapter 2. Sacrifices and Trade-Offs—Kids versus Corvettes
  • Chapter 3. My Journey to Vietnam
  • Chapter 4. Being a Gay Dad
  • Study by Gillian Dunne
  • Testimonials
  • Chapter 5. The Adoption Process
  • Homestudy
  • Dossier
  • Medical Reports
  • BCIS (Formerly the INS)
  • Chapter 6. How I Chose Vietnam—Destiny’s Children
  • What Countries Allow Single Men to Adopt?
  • Chapter 7. The Bottom Line—How Much Does it Cost?
  • Chapter 8. What Are the Current Laws on Gay Parenting in Each State?
  • Chapter 9. Other Ways of Becoming a Gay Dad
  • Surragacy
  • Coparenting
  • Chapter 10. Big Decisions
  • Boy or Girl?
  • Baby, Toddler, or Older Child?
  • Transracial Adoption?
  • Domestic or International?
  • How Old Is Too Old?
  • Chapter 11. Preparing for Life With a Baby or Child
  • Baby Shower
  • Names
  • Preparing Your Home
  • Your Trip
  • Day Care
  • Your Social Life
  • Chapter 12. How to Avoid Problems and What to Do if They Arise
  • Chapter 13. My Decision to Adopt Again
  • Chapter 14. Life with Kids
  • Afterword
  • Helpful Websites and Listservs
  • Web Sites
  • Listservs
  • Index
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