- Chapter 1. Closet Daddy
- Chapter 2. Sacrifices and Trade-OffsKids versus Corvettes
- Chapter 3. My Journey to Vietnam
- Chapter 4. Being a Gay Dad
- Study by Gillian Dunne
- Chapter 5. The Adoption Process
- Medical Reports
- BCIS (Formerly the INS)
- Chapter 6. How I Chose VietnamDestiny’s Children
- What Countries Allow Single Men to Adopt?
- Chapter 7. The Bottom LineHow Much Does it Cost?
- Chapter 8. What Are the Current Laws on Gay Parenting in Each State?
- Chapter 9. Other Ways of Becoming a Gay Dad
- Chapter 10. Big Decisions
- Boy or Girl?
- Baby, Toddler, or Older Child?
- Transracial Adoption?
- Domestic or International?
- How Old Is Too Old?
- Chapter 11. Preparing for Life With a Baby or Child
- Baby Shower
- Preparing Your Home
- Your Trip
- Day Care
- Your Social Life
- Chapter 12. How to Avoid Problems and What to Do if They Arise
- Chapter 13. My Decision to Adopt Again
- Chapter 14. Life with Kids
- Helpful Websites and Listservs
- Web Sites
Fatherhood for Gay Menby Kevin Mcgarry
Pub. Date: 01/28/2003
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
Get the inside story on a single gay man's struggle to adopt! Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad is the story of one man's journey down the road less traveled-a single gay man adopting and raising his two sons. Author Kevin McGarry recounts his passage into parenthood after years of having his natural fathering
Get the inside story on a single gay man's struggle to adopt! Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad is the story of one man's journey down the road less traveled-a single gay man adopting and raising his two sons. Author Kevin McGarry recounts his passage into parenthood after years of having his natural fathering instincts stifled by the limits-real and perceived-of being gay. This unique book details the emotional, financial, practical, and social realities of the adoption process for gay men. From the author: "We take risks by coming out of the closet as gay men and at the end of the day, we are emotionally happier because we took those risks. By coming out, we are being true to who we are. The same goes for anyone, gay or straight, who has gut instincts for parenthood. I knew over the years that I had parenting instincts because I had this incredible envy of other dads. I would watch them with their kids and wish that somehow, I could have that role. It was painful at times because being gay, I didn't think parenting was in my life plan. Had more role models been available to me, the process would have been a little less difficult." Much more than a "how-to" guide to adoption, Fatherhood for Gay Men is the personal account of a single gay man's struggle to become a father despite the real and imagined limitations of being a gay man.
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This book was not helpful to me. As a matter of fact, it summarizes everything that is wrong with our society today... Sadly.
I¿m not a big reader ¿ can barely keep up with the newspaper and my work stuff. One reason I liked this book is that people like me can make time for it. It¿s short, to the point, and got me crying at least twice during the first three chapters. Like the author I¿m a single gay guy still figuring out gay men, hoping for that monogamous never-ending relationship. This book showed that although being a father would probably be easier if part of a couple, the biggest qualification is a strong desire to be a father. Clearly not all men (gay or straight) are cut out for it, but Kevin proves that one¿s sexual orientation does not bear on his ability to be a dad. If I adopt I will pick up this book, probably cry again as I extract just the how-to parts, unable to avoid parts that choked me up. It¿s a great primer - one that doesn¿t overwhelm you with too much detail yet has all the necessities. Think of the barriers Kevin had ¿ (1) gay, (2) single, (3) male, (4) adopting in a faraway developing country (5) doing it a second time. This man clearly has guts and, you¿ll see from all his preparation, was made to be a father - a role model. Through his story and guide, he makes easy what till now I would not have thought possible. Although the book¿s target is gay men, it's an inspiration for anyone contemplating parenthood.