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Posted January 24, 2004
Lionel Dahmer's account of the events surrounding the evolution of his son's decent into madness. This book serves not as a voyeuristic portrayal of one of the most sensational crime stories in recent times, but rather as a father's sensitive and thoughtful attempt to understand the mind of Jeff Dahmer. I was most impressed by the explanation of the possible psychological effects of the rather turmoiled environment in which Jeff was raised, seen as a contributing factor, along with alcoholism, control issues, and possible 'genetic mutations', that triggered his compulsions to commit these horrible crimes. This book was difficult to put down. I really appreciated Lionel Dahmer's attention to detail and analytical approach in his attempt to understand what were surely very troubling and emotional issues for him and his family.
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Posted November 3, 2011
I highly recommend this book. I can personally relate to Mr. (Lionel) Dahmer's fate in some ways, as I'm sure many others can (even though his son's outcome was much worse than my stepson's.) I feel for Shari (Jeff''s stepmother) - a lot of things she went through (being the stepmom, doing her best to help Jeff and support his father) are familiar to me.
This is very difficult subject matter - finding out your son is responsible for the deaths of so many and then trying to search for answers as to why, how, and the self-blame.
Mr. Dahmer tells a tragic story of love and loss which, I think, should be a warning to us all. It is enlightening because when one goes down a path of destruction, I think all family members and friends wonder "Could I have, should I have, seen what was possibly coming, could I have prevented it, done something different to change this terrible outcome?" Of course, the answer is we'll never know.
That "The Dahmer's" have now been saddled with the crimes committed by Jeffrey for the rest of their lives is unfortunate. It seems Lionel did everything he could think of (at the time) to help his son, a son who was unwilling or incapable of taking advantage of everything his father tried to do to help him, all the while dealing with his own distress - with his failed marriage, elderly mother, job, etc.
** SPOILER? ** I sometimes wondered where Jeff''s brother, David, was during all this turmoil. Did Lionel leave Jeff's brother, David's, participation or non-participation in Jeff's fate out of this book on purpose or was it at David's request? Then again, this is Lionel's (A Father's) story.
** SPOILER ** I am left with a few questions, too. I wonder where and how Jeff got all these drugs that he used to try to control his victims, chemicals, etc. used to "dispose" of them, ... He was making around $9.00 an hour, had to pay for his apartment, the trips to bars, alchohol... I wonder what happened to the police officer's who sent a young boy (Konerak Sinthasmphone) back to Jeff's apartment (only to be killed a few hours later.) I remember when that happened, the comment they made over their radios that they had ("sent the drunk/high homo back to his gay boyfriend" - something to that affect), the outrage after Jeff was caught, the race card being played (with good reason?), the officer's being punished in some way. There seemed to have been plenty of times when Jeff should have been "caught" (which you will see as you read this book) by cops, neighbors, family members (all the way back to a very close call when he committed his first murder.) But I have seen the same thing when reading about other killers - John Wayne Gacy, Ted Bundy, BTK, and on and on.
** SPOILER? ** This book was published in 1994, prior to Jeff meeting his end on November 28, 1994. I recently read another book, "There But For the Grace of God: Survivors of the 20th Century's Infamous Serial Killers" - HORRIBLE book, waste of time, but it included in an appendix a transcript of a hearing between Jeff's mother's attorneys and his father regarding the disposition of Jeff''s brain after his death (his mother wanting Jeff's brain turned over for scientific study, his father on the other side, trying to at least fulfill Jeff's wishes in his will.) Dad still trying to protect his son and honor his wishes, even after his son's tragic death. Very sad.
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Posted July 30, 2004
Though A Father¿s Story if full of five star information, it was written by a man whose own ignorance in child rearing was too often displayed. I do however, believe it is a must read for anybody who finds Jeffrey Dahmer intriguing. Which brings me to the conclusion of a four star rating.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.