Find Your Strongest Life: What the Happiest and Most Successful Women Do Differently

Find Your Strongest Life: What the Happiest and Most Successful Women Do Differently

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by Marcus Buckingham

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• How to make the most of the role you were born to play • How to get others to understand who you really are • The successful strategies of other women like you

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Brooke: When I read the “Ten Myths” that opened the book, I was completely hooked. The statistics are interesting and fresh. I also related to the problem that sets up the book: "Which parts of me should I cut out?" As I read, I could see myself in the Marcus’s big-picture analysis and statistics. The early part of the book made me anticipate a breakthrough. And Marcus delivered. Overall, he explains a woman's dilemma perfectly . . . in fresh terms with a unique spin. The main ideas in each chapter were so engaging. Chapter 6 in particular is worth the price of the book. I have already started looking for strong moments in my life, and I want to tell every woman I know to do the same. It is definitely life-changing.

Rebecca: It was really good. It was awesome. And to be honest, perfect timing for my life. I'm REALLY in that place. I can't tell you how badly I've been depressed for the last several months just trying to figure out what to do differently so I'm not so miserable. On one hand, I'm grateful I have a job still. I have a mortgage and bills and all that. But on the other hand...I can't continue to work at a job that gets me nowhere, is not rewarding, not challenging, and mentally drains me. I really have started avoiding my family because I've become so rude and snippy. It's a bad cycle. BUT...God willing this year (sooner than later) I will be able to put this behind me and do what I love :) Even if it's making half as much money. Thanks for thinking of me to read this. I needed it!Delaney: I was on a plane as I finished reading the manuscript. I was going to be with my daughter who is a law student. As I finished the pages, Marcus helped me gain a new understanding of myself that stood out like a neon sign: I am the person who helps others build infrastructure, get through situations ,and set everything right. It goes beyond motherhood. I am an event planner by birth. I see big pictures and the components necessary to get from vision to execution. The content helped me to reframe my own thinking. Very helpful. I’m excited to take the online test and see which role I'm born to play. Jennifer: As a working mother, I found the concept of the book fascinating. There are daily struggles of trying to balance being the perfect wife, mother, and employee, and the book helped me truly understand how to navigate all those demands.

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Author Marcus Buckingham has earned business bestseller lists with motivational primers such as Now, Discover Your Strengths and First, Break All the Rules. Now this Oprah favorite applies his talents as a fulfillment teacher to work-stressed women. First, typically, he encourages them to break the rules, to disregard myths about balance and disconnection between a woman's home life and her work life. Then he shares lessons that he learned from his wildly successful Oprah workshop that resulted in more than 100,000 unique online contributors. Research-based strength building.

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Find Your Strongest Life: What the Happiest and Most Successful Women Do Differently 3.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 46 reviews.
Erin_Daugherty More than 1 year ago
I feel as if Marcus Buckingham has good intentions to lead women toward success, it's just not my vision of success. And his image of a happy woman is nothing like my vision of a happy woman, perhaps because one of us IS a woman. I like to live and let live because I believe each one of us has a unique path--and that once you find that path, you're on the road to your best life. Find Your Strongest Life seemed to promote one lifestyle: high-end exec who flies the red-eye to be sure to catch her son's school play (that also happens to be Buckingham's description of his own wife). If you want to get on the road to success--you want that partnership at the firm and you're struggling to balance the guilt you may feel leaving everything else in life behind, then this is the book for you. Another book you might want to check out is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE 2.0. I really enjoyed that one.
thedeena63 More than 1 year ago
Well, hmmm. I requested a copy of Marcus Buckingham's book quite awhile ago from a program called BookLookBloggers, but shelved it and then forgot about it. When I reactivated my account (I took a much needed sabbatical from reviewing), there it was, just waiting for my review. So I dug through my overstuffed bookshelves, found the book and sat down with it. Truthfully, I have no clue why I requested this book! I don't care for self-help, life coaching, or anything with 'easy steps' I'm kind of disappointed in myself. The book is well written. Marcus knows how to tell a story, and some of the anecdotes he shares are interesting. But, in all honesty, I didn't make it past chapter five. This just isn't the book for me. So I'm going to ask a favor of you, my faithful readers. If you see "Find Your Strongest Life" in your bookstore, or come across it online, check it out. See what you think. And give the book a fair chance. My thanks to my friends at Thomas Nelson Publishing for sending me a complimentary copy in exchange for an honest review, and for not holding my tardiness against me:-)
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HarmoniousGlow More than 1 year ago
Genre: Self-help Rating: 5 out of 5 stars Summary: Marcus Buckingham teaches readers to look for their strong moments and passions. Women are not happy today, and that seems to correspond with the fact that there are more choices available, especially in the work place. So how do women become happy? They find those things they enjoy the most and choose to recreate them as often as they can. Feelings of being overwhelmed spring from having to little of what strengthens you, Buckingham writes. Of course, you're not going to get your dream job overnight, but it's up to you to keep pushing forward and finding ways to use the strengths that you enjoy. "Career success is a lifelong practice - a potent combination of paying attention, working hard, and gradually pushing your life toward the moments and activities that strengthen you." Review: While I am single and in the beginning stages of life (freshly graduated and looking for work), I got a lot out of this book. I'm disappointed that it's so focused on married women and women in their later years (40s and 50s), but I suppose that goes with the territory of talking about switching careers and finding peace in the middle of stress. The book focuses on how to reorganize your life so that you focus on the positive things and work to enhance the things you're good at that you enjoy. I definitely related to what Buckingham had to say about strengths and weaknesses. He writes that a true strength is something you enjoy and are good at. A weakness can be something that you're good at, but that you don't enjoy and that isn't good for you or doesn't contribute to your happiness. You need to avoid doing the things that drain and bore you, and if you have to do them in the meantime while you push toward a better strength, then you can find ways to put positive spins on the weakness. You can find ways to use your strengths so that your weaknesses won't seem so bad. Buckingham gives several strengths and describes them in detail. He also provides a test online that you can take to find out what your strengths are. I don't put much stock in the test, though, because my results didn't really fit me. But Buckingham makes up for this with the last section of his book, which focuses on specific situations and how to deal with them. It answered some of my questions about my stress over finding work. But I didn't walk away with a solid, I need to do this and this is how I make a decision. Overall, though, I got a lot of encouragement out of this book. It's a lot of obvious content written in such a way that makes you think. I recommend to any woman.
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K_Hayek More than 1 year ago
Marcus Buckingham is a credible and gifted author who has created a great resource for women. He shares lots of evident that the women who are the happiest and most fulfilled are those who don't "juggle" everything in their lives. Instead, the women who do the opposite, by having a "strong life," draw in a few important things into them. This book helps woman figure out this life skill, of drawing a select few things that are important to them and then finding strength from these. In order to find their strengths, Buckingham shares a Strong Life Test for woman to take to determine their strong life roles. There are nine roles that emerge through taking the assessment that can really impact your life- through helping you focus on your strengths!
A_Balanced_Life More than 1 year ago
Find Your Strongest Life is a self help book that gives women realistic tips for building or rebuilding a successful life. Marcus Buckingham did an excellent job of examining the obstacles that can stand in a woman's way and prevent us for living a life that is intentional. This book is a great resource for women of all ages and stages in life. After reading this book I have clarity and was able ot develop a strategy to strength various areas of my life. Find Your Strongest Life was an easy read that also allows its readers to identify their lead and supporting life roles. Identifying our preferred life roles allows women to be start thinking about the choices we make. Instead of arbitrarily living life, we can design a life that is authentic and full of integrity. The book refers its readers to The Strongest Life website so that its readers can do an immediate assessment of their life roles. This assessment is another tool that women can use to Find their Strongest Life. The end of the book provides great tactics for tackling a stronger future. There are quick tips for developing a stronger future, a stronger career and how to cultivate stronger children. Reading this book gave me inspiration and motivation to be intentional in living each day.
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SKSDesigns More than 1 year ago
Powerful book with common sense guidance to see the bigger picture in work in and in life. Following you passion is crucial to not only being happy in what you do but also being top notch in your career field and relationships with other people.
ntp77 More than 1 year ago
This is my 5th or 6th book now that I have reviewed in the Thomas Nelson Blog Book Review. When I saw Marcus Buckingham's new book "Find Your Strongest Life" I was thrill to be able to read it. Yes I did judge a book buy its cover-well buy its title. I did not know until the book arrived that is book was gear more to women to me say will me a man. So I sit it aside thinking how can I give this a fair review? Well read it and find out! This is what I found Marcus states in the introduction of the book that there are nine life roles that will measures you they are: Advisor, Caretaker, Creator, Equalizer, Influencer, Motivator, Pioneer, Teacher and Weaver. As I read those 9 roles I stop and thought they cover two important women in my life. First be my Mother and next my Wife (not in any particular order). Marcus talks about how you take these roles and find your lead role you then anchor yourself to that lead role and build upon it from there. This book is as old commercial years ago said "maybe strong enough for a man, but it was make for a woman" sure applies to this book. Thanks to Thomas Nelson Company for letting me review this book. I recommend this book to all women who need a little pick me up!
Sandra43 More than 1 year ago
Marcus Buckingham has developed a practical guide for women to help them identify their strengths in order to live more productive, fulfilled lives. This book is a timely tool for use in today's stagnant job market. It is chock-full of advice and tips for the person who's been laid off to the person seeking to make a career change based on their strengths. I was required to take a more comprehensive "strengths" test a year ago by my employer (based on a previous book by Marcus Buckingham) and was pleased to see the results were similar to those I received from taking the condensed version in the Strong Life Test. Knowing your strengths can be life changing. I truly feel content, fulfilled when I am using the strengths God has equipped me with and although I was somewhat disappointed by the lack of scripture references, the book is still a practical tool that can help you know your strengths, your Godly-given gifts, if you don't already know what they are. (Memeber of the Thomas Nelson Book Review Blogger program @
Jennmarie68 More than 1 year ago
Marcus Buckingham seems to really understand the struggles that women face. By understanding what struggles women face he is able to give us a plan on how to make our lives stronger. He gives advice on how to make every aspect of your life stronger: work, relationships, raising children, and personal life. I think the ideas make sense to some extent, but the ideas he presents go against all popular ideals. But I think that's the point, obviously what we've been told to do isn't working so a different plan of attack may just be what we need. I liked the ideas and have started to try and use them in my life. It was a fairly well-written book. The information is pretty straight forward and easy to understand. Overall I'd say this was a decent book.
Chris-Stewart More than 1 year ago
What parts of your life do you find most enjoyable? According to author Marcus Buckingham in his latest book, Find Your Strongest Life, if you focus on these small moments spread throughout each day, your level of personal satisfaction and all-around happiness about life will improve. I conveniently left out the subtitle of Buckingham's book, due to my being a man. If you're interested, it's "What the Happiest and Most Successful Women Do Differently." (my emphasis added) So why would a guy want to read, let alone review, a book designed specifically for women? Good point. My wife asked me the same question. Primarily, since the idea of a male strength guru giving women advice on the keys to their personal happiness made me smirk on contact. Perhaps I'm married to someone in the minority, but my wife's first thought on looking over the book was "How does this guy know what women need to do?" Basing his recommendations on numerous surveys and a significant dose of shared experience with his wife, Buckingham doesn't shy away from the tough questions of life, namely work, spouses, kids, and the ultimate need for greater meaning. His ideas make a lot of sense to me; I'm curious to see if working women feel the same way. I felt his emphasis on self was refreshing and bitter all at once; on one hand, I appreciate his call to seriously consider the activities that each of us uniquely enjoys. On the other, he took healthy introspection to the precipice of self-deification and dared me to look over the edge. Uncomfortable to say the least. Ultimately, I enjoyed his encouragement to press forward toward a healthy, unbalanced, fulfilling life. I'm extremely grateful that the online Strong Life test companion to this book is totally free to the public. Unlike his previous tests, Strong Life helps you determine your lead and secondary life roles. Whatever your gender, I highly recommend you Gooogle 'Strong Life Test' to find his site, as it helped me understand that I'm a better teacher/advisor than creative or motivator. Other than an unhealthy preoccupation with self, my only other qualm with the book is its intentional (down to the exclusive use of He pronouns for spouses) bent toward women. I hope he releases a similarly-themed book for men so I may avoid the stigma I've endured in reading this book. All in all, an excellent read.
DaveAnthold More than 1 year ago
Marcus Buckingham (@mwbuckingham) has done it again with his latest book release Find Your Strongest Life. This book is primarily targeted for women as the subtitle indicates - "What the Happiest and Most Successful Women Do Differently". Just as in previous releases (Now, Discover Your Strengths and The Truth About You), Marcus pulls from his years of research in to the strengths revolution. His research shows that although women have more opportunity, more advantages then forty years ago, they are less happy today. This book begs to answer the "why" question and provide an opportunity to show how each person can excel in their strength role. He points out that there are roles that women are born to play and are stretched and pulled in different directions and want to be "all things, to all people". In previous strength tests, the goal was to identify your five core strengths that defined you, each one being separate. In this book, he states that they want to pull your strengths together to show what your Lead and Supporting roles would be. These roles include: Advisor - "what is the best thing to do?" Caretaker - "is everyone okay?" Creator - "what do I understand?" Equalizer - "what's the right thing to do?" Influencer - "how can I move to act?" Motivator - "how can I raise the energy?" Pioneer - "what's new?" Teacher - "what can she learn from this?" Weaver - "with whom can I connect?" (p. 102-119) Each person is unique and the Strong Life test helps identify the Lead and Supporting roles of the individual. One of the fascinating points of the book is that he argues that women should strive for imbalance, not balance. Their lives are always trying to fit into a perfectly balanced life - each part being given equal billing when that just isn't the case. This book is chocked full of valuable information including some practical, "How-To's" to help guide your journey as your review your life, find your Lead and Supporting roles, and strive for imbalance while not freaking out your friends and family. Sprinkled throughout the book are stories that showcase the principles in the book, whether success or failure or taking the long way around to seeing their strengths. This is a book that needs to be on every Human Resource desk, in the coaching and training department, and widely read among friends and family. This book has the potential to revolutionize the way women approach life, business, and family when they act within their Lead and Supporting roles. Pick it up today!
blueeyesRF More than 1 year ago
Have you ever found yourself wondering why you are in the career field that you are in, or unhappy with the one you don't have. I had the opportunity to read Marcus Buckingham's new book, Find Your Strongest Life. He taps into, what the most successful and happy women do differently. Throughout the book Buckingham tells us stories of a few women and parallels their lives and what it was that placed one as successful and the other dreaming to reach their success. The book is powerful and encourages women to focus on their strengths and NOT their weaknesses. He suggests many tips for recalling moments where you found yourself confident, successful, and happy as well as those times that we weren't. I love the example he gives of his child when he was in first grade. He and his wife are going to his classroom to learn of all the work the children have been working on. Buckingham realizes that this is going to be the first time that he has seen his child's school work in comparison to his classmates. I imagine it is a pretty scary feeling for parents. He says that the first thing they see is a wall of art. And he describes a few pieces as just being great, and then he spots one that is just in pencil and not very good and notices his son's name on the bottom. He shares his thoughts of embarrassment and suggest to his wife that they get him a tutor. When the teacher comes up to them and tells them he wants to show them something. The teacher takes them to another part of the room and shows them their child's math work. They were to have a math equation and then draw a picture. Well, while most children were picking such things as 2+2=4 and had wonderful pictures, his son was picking equations such as 15-8=7 and had a not so great picture. Buckingham immediately notices his son's strengths and is ashamed that he hadn't focused on those in the beginning. Although, I am not a parent, this story reminds me of how often we are trying to fix the areas we aren't as good at, rather than emphasizing on those that we are good at and making ourselves better. One of the other things I love about the book is that Buckingham has included a test and the results. He gives you a site to take the test and then throughout the book allows you to really see what you are good at, and what careers might be a good fit for you. My lead role is: Teacher and my supporting role is Influencer. I will stop now because I know you are dying to go and take the test to find out your roles and getting this fabulous book.
TheRightWord More than 1 year ago
Very rarely am I caught off guard by a book. Before I received a message from Thomas Nelson, as one of their book review bloggers, that this book would be made available to those who were already reading something (usually it's one at a time) I had already decided that this wasn't a book I wanted to read. I had looked through the selections available and something about the title--perhaps it's the editor in me that doesn't like the combination of "strongest" and "life"...something about that irks me...don't really know why--just didn't appeal to me. The thought that this was also written by a man and I questioned how effectively he could really relate to what women are going through also made me look for something else. Then, when this offer came up to review it when I already had a book for review, I decided why not. Perhaps it would be helpful. I had never heard of Marcus Buckingham. I was looking forward to a spiritually uplifting book, that would affirm what God's will was for women (after all this was publisher that specializes in this sort of thing), that would point out even through the examples he gave of women who contacted Oprah after that one show, God can still use those situations; how he pointed out to those women and shared the gospel with them. How he used examples of women in the Bible and Scriptures to validate God's view of women and how He created us and how He views us. The points in the opening chapter were really very interesting. I was intrigued by them and agreed with them -- that women are more stressed out now with all the choices. That "women's lib" for all it's whoopla really hasn't improved life that much for women. We're often too stressed out running from one thing to the other that we can't enjoy life anymore. It's been so ingrained in us that we have to work to be happy...when that's not necessarily true for everyone. But as I read through the introduction and the first couple of chapters it occurred to me there was no mention about the Christian experience. What advantages Christian women have over non-Christian women. I can't imagine what it would be like to go through all that I am without having a relationship in Christ. That's what I expected to see. Perhaps it was because this book was written by a man and from a man's perspective. It's impossible to completely get into a woman's psyche from a male vantage point. Women are very much emotional creatures and I found this book too analytical and not emotional enough. The only time I found my emotions engaged was reading the quotes from those women who contacted Oprah. This is not a book I would highly recommend, though I can't say I wouldn't recommend it at all. As demonstrated by the number of higher reviews, there were some people who liked it. But it is not a book will be recommending for our church library. As a spiritual resource for busy moms and women, it was highly disappointing.
AlanDanielson More than 1 year ago
"Find Your Strongest Life" by Marcus Buckingham is being released today but I was given an advanced copy of it to review. Initially I was excited because I LOVED the other two Buckingham books I've read, "First Break All The Rules" and "Now Discover Your Strengths". But when I realized this new book was written specifically for women I thought, "I'm a guy! How on earth is this book going to benefit me?" To my surprise, it was actually very helpful! Buckingham writes about how women can be happier by finding their "strongest life", which he describes as living your life for and through one's strengths rather than dwelling on one's weaknesses. He says that every woman tends to fall into one of nine categories of strength and that they should live every part of their lives from their strengths. If women live in and through their weaknesses then Buckingham says they will be living unfulfilled lives and will always long for something else. This made perfect sense to me because playing to your strengths always brings better results than playing to compensate for your weaknesses. My wife took the Strongest Life Test and her results were spot on! Reading the book then through her eyes really helped me get the most out of it and I learned a lot about how and why my wife thinks the way she does. It helped Stacey evaluate all the commitments she makes and whether or not she really gets to be herself while doing them. Now she has a "language" that helps her articulate why she should or should not do something. This is very helpful for me because, like most husbands, I don't always understand her thinking processes. I definitely recommend this book to women, but I also strongly suggest that every husband read it too. Anything that helps with your marriage is a good thing!
VWM More than 1 year ago
Why would a man write a woman's self help book? Would he have any credibility? Why would a man want to read such a book? In today's world, can a woman truly "have it all"? A fulfilling career full of passion and performance? A belief that she is truly becoming the best, authentic version of herself? A happy, healthy life outside of work? In Find Your Strongest Life, Marcus Buckingham through extensive research has found that "in the last 40 years women have secured for themselves greater opportunity, greater achievement, greater influence, and more money. But over the same time period, they have become less happy, more anxious, and more stressed; and in ever-increasing numbers, they are medicating themselves for it." He reveals the powerful key to bring fulfillment, peace, and control into a woman's life. He also dispels some typical myths about balance, multi-tasking, and being happy by having it all. I found this book little slow and more technical at first but quickly picked up and connected emotionally through actual case studies. To anybody interested in learning, he offers a self-test and guides you through the results. A good portion of the book offers quick reference type tactics for you career, relationships, and just life. This book was has a unique and interesting perspective and can help any woman that is interested. It also will help any man who reads it, as we do not live alone. We have spouses, daughters, co-workers and we need to understand. Highly recommended. This Blog/Review is a result of being a member of Thomas Nelson's Book Review Blogger program :
FaithfulBP More than 1 year ago
Okay, to preface this entire review I must say that I am probably not the demographic audience for this book. Well Lazer, what demographic are you then? Thats a great question. Male, 18-25, College student. Most likely intended audience for "Find Your Strongest Life"- Female, 25-35, Working Professionals. So, with that being said I will jump into the review having none of the demographic characteristics to give a proper review of it. Marcus Buckingham is a revolutionary strengths based solutions speaker and author. He, in his book "Find Your Strongest Life", gives solutions to many problems facing women in the workforce in trying to "have it all." In the introduction to the book Buckingham says, "'Having it all' means drawing enough strength from life to feel fulfilled, loved, successful, and in control, then that is something every single of of us should aim for and every single one of us can attain." This becomes the reason for the message of the book. The book teaches skills to women that are the reason for living fully such as Catching and Cradling and important moments. At the end of the book there is a section called Strong Life Tactics. In this section of the book there is a host of techniques and ways to build a stronger career, build stronger relationships, build stronger kids, and build a stronger future. Overall, I believe the book to be helpful for women looking to make improvements in their life. The book was organized in a logical and easy to understand manner which would be helpful for people who have little time to do reading for fun. I would recommend this book to my Mom, because she is hungry for success.
mrsrfrank More than 1 year ago
This book is really a great, easy to read, and insightful book. It is a realistic and honest approach for women to find what they are most successful at. It seems as though Marcus Buckingham really has great insight into how women are feeling in the current world we live in and he has some practical advice for those that need help feeling happy and whole. I think it is also great for this book to come out at a time when women are feeling like they need to have everything and be everything. Marcus clearly makes it known that this doesn't have to be, that we need to find our "strongest moments" and focus on those if we really want to feel fulfilled in a extremely difficult culture. No longer do you need to pretend to be someone you are not, and this book will give you the help to make this realization a reality. This is not just for business women, this is for all women. I hope to dig deeper and get to know more about my strongest moments. The resources available in the book and through the website are very inpiring. This would make a great group study with a close group of women as well!