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In her widely acclaimed, bestselling memoir, The Sweeter the Juice, Shirlee Taylor Haizlip asked us to redefine our concepts of race and family by examining her biracial heritage — how different gradations of dark and light skin led to a split in her mother's nuclear family, and how various relatives have been reunited many years later, some of them previously unaware of their layered racial makeup. In this eloquent, moving, and eagerly awaited continuation of her story, Haizlip pushes further into the ...

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In her widely acclaimed, bestselling memoir, The Sweeter the Juice, Shirlee Taylor Haizlip asked us to redefine our concepts of race and family by examining her biracial heritage — how different gradations of dark and light skin led to a split in her mother's nuclear family, and how various relatives have been reunited many years later, some of them previously unaware of their layered racial makeup. In this eloquent, moving, and eagerly awaited continuation of her story, Haizlip pushes further into the fascinating terrain of family, race, and racial passing. Just over ten years ago, Haizlip's African American mother was reunited with her sister, who had spent her whole life passing for white; both women were in their eighties and had not seen or heard anything about each other since early childhood. Now Haizlip answers the many questions that linger from the previous book: What happened between these long-separated sisters after their reunion? What did they learn about each other, and about themselves? Is it possible to heal the wounds caused by such a rift?
In rich, elegant prose, Haizlip contrasts her mother's fulfilling adult life with her aunt's solitary white existence. They lived on opposite sides of the race line, but both women, says Haizlip, were plagued by "America's twin demons: a paranoia about purity and an anxiety about authenticity." These women and other members of the author's extended family come vividly, achingly to life in these pages, turning this astute cultural investigation into a poignant, delightful, and highly personal narrative. Haizlip deftly, fluidly conveys the complexities of this story — the sadness, comedy, danger, anger, confusion, shame, fear, longing, excitement, and joy of her family's rupture and reunion. We learn how Haizlip's mother's abandonment by members of her immediate family affected her daily life; we learn about the lives of relatives who left her behind, and of the members of succeeding generations who knew of the rift, and of those who did not.
Haizlip's readers, too, appear here — after The Sweeter the Juice, Haizlip was flooded by letters in which people shared similar family stories of bi-racial heritage, passing, and the eventual revelation of an extended racial makeup. She includes some of these letters here, affirming that her own seemingly unusual tale is actually a very familiar, very American story: of the tumultuous, complicated interactions between black and white communities and individuals — interactions marked by fear and distrust, but also by camaraderie, ardor, and love. In sharing her own and her readers' stories, Haizlip forges a new picture of America's hidden racial past and its multihued future. Passionate, indomitable, and always generous toward her subjects, Haizlip explores what happens when the race divide exists within one family, and the effect of secret racial histories and their revelation on individuals and America at large.

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Haizlip's The Sweeter the Juice described her quest to reunite her African-American mother with Haizlip's aunt who'd passed as white. After the success of Sweeter and a widely publicized family reunion on Oprah, Haizlip assembled this sequel as a meditation on her experience exploring family racial roots. Apart from the epilogue describing her mother's death, however, very little of this book is written by Haizlip. In the first section, she offers a few stories of celebrities (e.g., Carol Channing; a former Queen of England) and lesser-known people with mixed racial origins, intercut with extensive passages from other writers about white privilege, passing and the meaning of race. The second section reprints-unedited-letters from family members describing how they felt about the book's revelations and about being on Oprah. The third section reprints-unedited-letters from fans who loved the book and connected to it in some way. Some have genealogical queries, some need to air racial opinions, some bare their souls about other issues troubling their families, like adoption or religion, and some even submit poems. Since Haizlip doesn't reprint her responses, reading these missives one after another is like thumbing through a stack of mimeographed Christmas letters, full of chatty details about people one doesn't exactly know. Still, it's amazing that Haizlip's book inspired so many people to sit down and write about themselves. If Haizlip's mailbag is any indication, there are many people out there who are curious or worried about their racial identities and very grateful to Haizlip for opening this discussion. Agent, Faith Childs. (Jan. 15) Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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This is the follow-up to The Sweeter the Juice, which chronicles Haizlip's search for her black mother's light-skinned family members, especially her sister, Grace, who abandoned her 76 years ago to live as white. Addressed to readers of the first book, Finding Grace is more of a supplement than a sequel. Most of the text is made up of letters from readers of The Sweeter the Juice about how they were moved by or identified with Haizlip's story, as well as solicited letters from family members about how the reunification of the family affected their lives. Unfortunately, little of the correspondence presents fresh perspectives on passing and racial heritage. Readers don't find out about the experiences of the "white" family members while passing, how they felt about their decision, or how race influenced their lives. For an exemplary narrative about the life of a black person who appears white to most, read Toi Derricotte's The Black Notebooks: An Interior Journey. Suitable for collections that own The Sweeter the Juice.-Sherri L. Barnes, Univ. of California Libs., Santa Barbara Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.
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Veronica Chambers, Los Angeles Times Book Review Author of Basic Black: Home Training for Modern Times May this stirring American voice tell us many more stories.

Jill Nelson, The New York Times Book Review Author of Volunteer Slavery: My Authentic Negro Experience The Sweeter the Juice is a meditation on the meaning of race, color, ethnicity, and family. And as such, it is a quintessentially American story.

David Nicholson The Washington Post A rich, compelling saga that should be required reading in the nation's schools and colleges, if only to prove that America has always been a multicultural nation, even if most Americans haven't always been able to admit it.

Dr. Dorothy I. Height President of the National Council of Negro Women This is a richly textured, beautifully shaded American story which will broaden every American's life. It helps us all understand more fully how and why we got to be who and what we are. Shirlee Taylor Haizlip is a masterful storyteller.

The Boston Globe A family history that startles as it unravels an intricate true story about confronting the past and dealing with the demons crouching there.

Ruth F. Brin Minneapolis Star Tribune The book is fascinating reading...and it will reward its readers with important insights into what it means to be an American, black or white, rich or poor.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780743200530
  • Publisher: Free Press
  • Publication date: 1/6/2004
  • Pages: 288
  • Product dimensions: 6.34 (w) x 9.36 (h) x 0.99 (d)

Meet the Author

Shirlee Taylor Haizlip is a native of Connecticut. After living all of her early life on the East Coast, she lived and worked for eight years in the U.S. Virgin Islands. She returned to New York and Connecticut and is now settled in Los Angeles with her husband. The mother of two Yale-educated daughters, she is the author of The Sweeter the Juice and, with her husband, In the Garden of Our Dreams.

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Chapter One: A Twice-Told Tale

A Passing Story

In her recently published autobiography, Just Lucky, I Guess, Carol Channing wrote what television promotional spots for a well-watched national show would later tout as "a shocking revelation."

It seems that on the eve of Carol's leaving home to attend Bennington College when she was sixteen, her mother told her that Carol's father had black heritage and had been born in Georgia, rather than in Providence, Rhode Island, as Carol had been led to believe. Her mother shared the information with her, she said, because she wanted Carol to know that she could very well have a child who looked colored.

Carol's paternal grandmother had been a black woman who had a baby with a white man. The baby was light skinned, and the mother fled the state, taking a job as a domestic in Providence. The circumstances of the mother's leaving were not offered, but one could assume that her remaining in the Deep South town with the white man's son was neither prudent nor safe.

At some point, young Channing "crossed over," as the vernacular was then, and passed for white. He attended Brown University on scholarship, served in the First World War as a white man, and returned to have a successful career in journalism. He became a Christian Scientist lecturer on the West Coast as a white man.

As a child, Carol remembers singing with her father songs she thought were hymns but later learned were gospel. Her father, she said, loved music, and the first Broadway show her parents took her to was the all-black production of Green Pastures.

Famed entertainer Ethel Waters became her son's "unofficial" grandmother. One of her best friends and frequent costars on the road was Louis Armstrong, and she appeared in a traveling show with Hines, Hines and Dad, the black family singing-and-dancing act out of which Gregory Hines would emerge a star. She reported that she often went to the Savoy Ballroom in Harlem "to learn the latest steps" and was usually the only white person there. It is clear that Carol Channing had a special affinity for black people.

When CNN television host Larry King asked Channing if her father were black, Channing, looking somewhat perplexed, said, "No, his skin was as white as mine." Like many people in America, Channing paired whiteness with race. In a circuitous few moments, King tried to pin Channing down about her racial history, but she deftly parried his inquiries. She said that she was part of the face of the new America. She admitted to being "proud" of her background and credited it with making her a successful singer and dancer. Demonstrating part of a dance routine, she said that "no white woman could have performed that arabesque" that she danced in the Broadway show Hello, Dolly! Carol included no pictures of her parents, grandmother, or son in her book.

For theater purists and historians, Channing opened a window they did not know existed: She, not Pearl Bailey, had actually been the first black Dolly in the 1960s production.

The Larry King segment suggested that if Channing had shared the story of her heritage early in her career it would have curtailed her future opportunities and she would not have become Carol Channing, the blond icon of Hello, Dolly!, Thoroughly Modern Millie, and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. With its preference for "traditional casting," the American theater would not have accommodated Carol Channing, no matter how white her skin or skilled her dance steps.

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My older sister Mauryne, the same age and coloring as Carol Channing, tried to make it in show business but was relegated to black plays and the black movies called "race films" because she refused to pass. In the few films where she was the female star, my sister looked like a pale white woman, surrounded by brown-skinned men. She played with the famous vaudevillian Flournoy Miller and with Mantan Moreland, who had a long run as the black chauffeur in the Charlie Chan series. Mauryne's forthrightness about her race penalized her and stunted her career.

The Channing revelation and the reaction to it are markers of how American society has changed, being willing to recognize that people other than those designated as black may be "part" this and "part" that. For some, at least, the "one drop of black blood" rule that for hundreds of years dictated on which side of the color line one could stand no longer applies.

I was and still am intrigued by the Channing story and its social implications. I discussed it with many of my white contemporaries. It was if they did not have the vocabulary to articulate their feelings or opinions about this racial shift of a famous person. Mentally, I footnoted the fact that few if any of them had had any kind of personal experience with passing. It was something they all had read about to varying degrees, or remembered from various expositions of the mulatto Julie's role in Show Boat.

One friend, a female, middle-aged producer of plays on Broadway and in regional theater, sort of shrugged her shoulders. "Well, no, Channing would not have gotten the parts she did if it had been known that she was black. Despite the way she looked. You know, the theater then was all about 'traditional casting,' and if you said 'black,' the minds of the directors, producers, and casting people would lock in on some stereotype. Carol would become ten shades darker in their minds." I pressed her. "Well, what can I say? Now, if it had been Elizabeth Taylor..."

On the other hand, "bemused" is how I felt about the casting of the not-quite-swarthy Anthony Hopkins, a white man, to play a black man who was passing for white in the film version of Philip Roth's novel The Human Stain. Hollywood producers found it a compelling enough story to make, but not compelling enough to use a light-skinned black actor in the leading role. It goes without saying that Hollywood was after the buck, and surely Anthony Hopkins, one of the silver screen's most accomplished and best-known luminaries, was a big draw. But still, wouldn't it have been wondrous to put a real, live potential passer in that role? One could argue on the other side, of course, that the producers were making the point that a white actor could indeed pass for a black man. It would seem that, in some circles at least, we have come a long way.

When I was growing up in Connecticut, one of my father's most sophisticated and exquisitely cultured friends was a light-skinned black man who resembled Anthony Hopkins. Having come to Bridgeport with his family from some Southern town, he worked as a high school teacher, although he was qualified to do other things. He was the only one in the family with pass-for-white skin. His wife was brown with curly hair, as were all his handsome children, save one. Each of his sons came to a bad end, two dying of unnatural causes and one in and out of mental institutions. The remaining child, a daughter, became a minister. I surmise now that life for that variegated colored family in the white Connecticut of the '40s must have been complicated.

Then there's the Thomas Jefferson drama, still unfolding. People often ask me how I feel about the reactions of the Jefferson family to the news of their kin of color. First, their story was old news to me. Many black Americans with roots in Washington, D.C., Virginia, or Maryland had grown up with the story, had accepted it as fact, and truly thought little about it. Both my parents told me about it when I was a little girl in the '30s, saying they also knew several other black descendents of various "first families of Virginia." In a certain black set in Washington, people were proud of their connections to the Virginia gentry or to Confederate Civil War heroes. The news was a shock only to white folk.

It is just a matter of time before the entire Jefferson clan will accept the inevitability of their extended family. Annette Gordon-Reed laid out the case of Jefferson's paternity of Sally Hemings's children definitively in her brilliant book Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings: An American Controversy. For me, red-haired black people with Jefferson DNA make the argument moot. When I was on my book tour, a descendent of Sally Hemings came out to hear me speak. He later introduced himself to me, and I trembled as I looked into the piercing eyes of Thomas Jefferson that sat above his hooked nose.

Every week, it seems a new revelation colors our white icons. Virginie Amélie Gautreau, the haughty subject of John Singer Sargent's Madame X, painted in 1884 in a strapless black velvet dress, was described as a Creole in Deborah Davis's book Strapless, The portrait, known for its depiction of a red-haired woman with marblelike pale skin, caused a scandal at the time, supposedly, the art historians say, because wearing an off-the-shoulder strap was not a respectable way to appear. And unlike other images of the time, the bareness of the shoulders was without ornamentation or softness. Deborah Davis speculates that Madame Gautreau lost her place in society because of the representation in the painting, which her husband refused to buy. More interesting to me were the accounts of how some believe Madame Gautreau made her skin so white: with a trowel. It was noted that when she bathed in the ocean, the color was not diminished. One wonders if the knowledge of her Creole roots caused people to have uncommon interest in the color of her skin. I have always loved that painting for its beauty and grace. I'm sure I will never look at it again in the same way.

Copyright © 2004 by Shirlee Taylor Haizlip

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Table of Contents

Part I When the Rainbow Is Not Enough

Prologue

1 A Twice-Told Tale
2 The Gift
3 The Etiology of Passing
4 Visible and Invisible
5 Passport to Privilege
6 A Place Beyond Loss
7 Creating a New Vocabulary
8 In the Best of Families
9 A Whiter Shade of White
10 The Indian Who Wasn't
11 Tracking Will
12 Life Review
13 Eyes Other than Our Own
14 Unexpected Encounters of Kith and Kin

Part II Relativity

15 In Their Own Voices

Part III The Color of Letters

16 Open Hearts, Open Minds
17 The Last Word

Epilogue

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  • Posted August 9, 2011

    I highly Recommend this book!

    The continuing saga of Ms. Haizlip search within her family tree. This book is a wonderful accompaniment to the "Sweeter the Juice". A very nice wrap up to Ms. Haizlip family journey in explaining many questions in her family dynamics. I highly recommend it.

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