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Gary Chapman first penned the best-selling The Five Love Languages more than ten years ago. The core message has hit home with over 3 million people as it focuses on humanity's deepest emotional need: the need to "feel" loved. This need is felt by married and singles alike. Dr. Chapman now tackles the unique circumstances that singles face, and integrates how the same five love languages apply in their relationships.
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Gary Chapman first penned the best-selling The Five Love Languages more than ten years ago. The core message has hit home with over 3 million people as it focuses on humanity's deepest emotional need: the need to "feel" loved. This need is felt by married and singles alike. Dr. Chapman now tackles the unique circumstances that singles face, and integrates how the same five love languages apply in their relationships.
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In his bestselling Five Love Languages books, Gary Chapman focuses on humanity's deepest emotional need: our need to feel loved. In this book, he tailors his message for single adults, including single parents of all ages.
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  • Publication date: 11/15/2005
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GARY CHAPMAN, PhD, is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages. With over 30 years of counseling experience, he has the uncanny ability to hold a mirror up to human behavior, showing readers not just where they go wrong, but also how to grow and move forward. Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University. For more information visit his website at www.5lovelanguages.com.

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The Five Love Languages for Singles


By Gary Chapman

NORTHFIELD PUBLISHING

Copyright © 2004 Gary Chapman
All right reserved.

ISBN: 1-881273-98-9


Chapter One

Single Adults: Significant and Growing

IF YOU'RE READING THIS BOOK, chances are you're either single or know someone who is. More than four of every ten American adults are single-88.5 million Americans. In fact, the United States has more single adults than any other nation in the world except China and India.

Of course, single adults are not a homogeneous lot. There are at least five categories of single adults, each very different from the others. The largest category of singles is those who have never been down the aisle, but the other four also command our attention. Here are the five groups:

1. Never married. Age eighteen and older, this group is 49 million strong. The median age of a first marriage has risen to twenty-five among women and twenty-seven among men. This means that, in the general population among people eighteen to twenty-four, almost nine out of ten (87 percent) have never been married.

2. Divorced. Today, at any one time, 10 percent of all adults are divorced. Over time, however, many more married adults suffer through a divorce. Within five years, 20 percent of all marriages end in divorce. Within ten years, one-third of all couples will be divorced, and within fifteen years, 43 percent will be divorced.

3. Separated but not divorced. These are individuals who are still legally married but no longer live under the same roof. In lifestyle they are more single than married. The separated status, however, is temporary. These individuals will either reconcile with their spouses or go on and formalize their separation by legal divorce. Research indicates that 97 percent of white women (and 75 percent of nonwhite women) who separate from their husbands end up divorced within five years of the separation.

4. Widowed. Widowhood is definitely gender biased. Four out of five adults who are single because of the death of a spouse are females. Nearly half of all women sixty-five and older are widowed, compared to only 14 percent of all men.

5. Single parents. One hundred years ago, fewer than one out of every hundred adults was a single parent of a child under eighteen. Today there are more than twelve million single parents with children under eighteen in their care-almost one out of every three families. Obviously, many single parents are also divorced. But a growing number of single parents have never been married. Among those who are single moms, 40 percent were never married to the father of their children. Thus a growing number of never-married singles are also single parents.

Diverse Yet United

It is obvious from this overview that single adults are very diverse. However, they are united by those factors that hold all of us together as humans. If you are a single adult, you're seeking to understand yourself and your place in the world. Every single wrestles with values, morals, relationships, and meaning. At the heart of this pursuit is the need as an unmarried person to give and receive emotional love.

Whatever the category, as a single adult you want to feel loved by the significant people in your life. You also want to believe that someone needs your love. Giving and receiving love is at the center of the single adult's sense of well being. If you feel loved and needed, you can survive the pressures of life. Without love, life can become exceedingly bleak.

The Man with the Metal Halo

Rob illustrates the power of love when one is almost overcome by the problems of life. I first met Rob on one of my trips to the Grand Canyon (which in my opinion is one of nature's most beautiful portraits). On the south rim of the canyon, somewhere near the Bright Angel Trail, I spotted Rob and two older adults. He was not hard to spot, because he was wearing a back brace with a metal halo that circled his head. I gave him a friendly nod and a smile, my way of saying hello.

Rob responded, "Hello, I hope you're having a good morning." His smile was inviting, so I entered into conversation. I discovered that he had suffered spinal injuries in a hiking accident. The older couple was his mom and dad.

The three had planned a family trip to the Grand Canyon two years earlier. The first year money was a problem, so they postponed their dream. Then Rob had his accident and they couldn't leave home. Now that Rob was doing somewhat better, they had come to see the canyon. When they originally' had planned the trip, they intended to hike to the foot of the canyon. Their dream had been altered but not destroyed. So they planned to spend the week enjoying the sights of the canyon.

Rob had wheeled his chair into position for a great view of the trail and canyon, and he and his parents were soaking in the fabulous view. I commended them for not giving up on their dream and wished them well.

My son and I continued our week together exploring the canyon. Toward the end of the week I ran into Rob in the lobby of the Bright Angel Lodge. Because of our earlier encounter, it seemed I was seeing an old friend. We ended up talking for two hours. Rob shared his story about the fall that resulted in his injuries and the determined efforts of the rescue workers who flew him out by helicopter. He told me about the pain and the emotional struggle of those early days when he wasn't sure he would ever be able to walk again. He had a number of brushes with depression, had lost a job opportunity which he was pursuing at the time of the accident, and spent many weeks in physical therapy.

When I asked what had enabled him to come through that experience and still have such a vibrant spirit, his answer was simple. "Love," he said. "That's the only way I could have made it. Mom and Dad were with me through the whole thing, and I had a girlfriend ... not a romantic relationship, but a close friend who came to see me every day in those early weeks. I don't think I would have made it without her. She brought me hope. She encouraged me in my therapy, and she prayed with me. I had never had a girl pray with me before. There was something about the way she talked to God that gave me hope. Her words were like rain on my parched emotions.

"We're still good friends. Her love and the love of my folks brought me through."

Then Rob added, "I hope someday I can help someone else the way they have helped me."

The Power of Love

Rob is a living example-both of the power of love and the single adult's deep need to love and to be loved. Love is the fundamental building block of all human relationships. It will greatly impact our values and morals. I am also convinced that love is the most important ingredient in the single's search for meaning.

That is why I feel compelled to write this book on the five love languages. What you will read in the following pages has the potential of enhancing every area of your life. Reading this book will require time, but I assure you that it will be time well invested. You have likely invested time to learn the language of computers. If so, you have reaped the benefits. Unfortunately, most single adults know more about computers than they do about love. The reason should be obvious. They have spent more time studying computers than they have studying love.

The Missing Ingredient

I agree with Professor Leo Buscaglia, who said,

Psychologists, psychiatrists, sociologists, anthropologists and educators have suggested in countless studies and numerous research papers that love is a "learned response, a learned emotion." ... Most of us continue to behave as though love is not learned but lies dormant in each human being and simply awaits some mystical age of awareness to emerge in full bloom. Many wait for this age forever. We seem to refuse to face the obvious fact that most of us spend our lives trying to find love, trying to live in it and dying without ever truly discovering it.

I have invested the past thirty years of my life in helping people discover how to emotionally connect with each other-how to give and receive love. I can say with confidence to all singles-whether never married, once married, or married several times-that if you will read and apply the information given in the following chapters, you will discover how to give and receive love effectively. You will discover the missing ingredient in some of your past relationships, and you will learn how to build wholesome, supportive relationships by learning to speak people's primary love language.

Much of the pain in broken relationships in contemporary society stems from the truth that many of us in Western culture have never been serious students of love. In the following pages you will meet scores of single adults from all categories and all ages who have discovered that love really does have the potential for changing the world.

Questions to Ponder

1. To what degree do you feel loved by the significant people in your life?

2. In a time of need, have you experienced the love of a friend like the one Rob described: "I don't think I would have made it without her"? If so, how did your friend show his or her love?

3. Have you been a friend to someone in need? How did you express your love?

4. How successful have you been in giving and receiving emotional love?

5. How interested are you in studying the nature of love and learning new ways to express love?

Chapter Two

The Key to Relationships

WE ARE RELATIONAL CREATURES. All humans live in community, and most people seek social interaction. In Western culture, isolation is seen as one of the most stringent of punishments. Even criminals do not aspire to solitary confinement.

It is safe to assume that everyone reading this book has relationships. The question is, what is the quality of those relationships?

Positive, affirming relationships bring great pleasure, but poor relationships bring deep pain. I would be so bold as to suggest that life's greatest happiness is found in good relationships, and life's deepest pain is found in bad relationships. If you feel loved by your mother, then the maternal relationship brings you a feeling of comfort and encouragement. On the other hand, if your relationship with your mother is fractured, you probably suffer feelings of abandonment. If you were abused by your mother, you likely feel hurt and anger, maybe even hatred.

The Role of Our Parents

Lack of love from parents often motivates their children to go searching for love in other relationships. This search is often misguided and leads to further disappointment. For a number of years my son, Derek, has worked with "street" people. A few years ago he said to me, "I've never met anyone on the street who had a good relationship with his or her father."

All your relationships spring from the relationship with your parents. The nature of that relationship will have a positive-or negative-influence on all other relationships.

Many single adults have felt unloved by one or both parents. To compensate for the emptiness, they have poured themselves into positive pursuits and have accomplished admirable goals in many areas, but they have been extremely unsuccessful in building positive relationships with other adults. Most have never stopped to ask, "What do I need to learn about love in order to build successful, positive relationships?" Understanding the five love languages will answer that question.

Another reality about relationships is that they are never static. All of us experience changes in relationships, but few of us stop to analyze why a relationship gets better or worse. Most divorced singles did not enter marriage with a goal of divorcing. In fact, most of them were extremely happy when they married. They would have characterized their marital relationship as positive, loving, and affirming. Obviously something happened to the relationship. By the time they divorce they are saying such things as, "My spouse is unloving, uncaring, self-centered, and sometimes downright mean." Ironically, the spouse often makes similar statements about them. Obviously the marriage went sour, but why?

The Stages of a Romantic Relationship

With thousands of marriages ending in divorce every year, isn't it time to stop and ask why? Why do good marriages go bad? Why do people become single again? After thirty years as a marriage counselor, I am convinced that the answer lies in the misunderstanding that most people have about the nature of love.

Western society is largely addicted to romantic love. If you doubt that, listen to our songs, watch our movies, and check the sales statistics on romance novels. On the other hand, we're very ignorant of the facts about love. We have bought into the concept that love is something that happens to you. It is magical, obsessive, and extremely exhilarating. If you have it, you have it; and if you don't, you don't, and there is nothing you can do about it. While this description of love is fairly accurate, it describes only the first stage of a romantic relationship. It certainly does not describe the second and more important stage of romantic love. Let's look at these two stages of a relationship.

The Obsessive Stage of Love

Most people are not aware of the research that has been done on the "in love" obsessive stage of love. Some of the most extensive research was done by Prof. Dorothy Tennov, of the University of Connecticut at Bridgeport. In her classic book, Love and Limerence, Tennov concluded that the average lifespan of this stage of love is two years. During this obsessive stage of love, we live under the illusion that the person with whom we are in love is perfect ... at least, perfect for us. Our friends can see his or her flaws, but we cannot. Your mother may say, "Honey, have you considered that he hasn't had a steady job in five years?" Your response may be, "Mom, give him a break. He's waiting for the right opportunity." Your fellow employee may say, "Have you considered that she's been married five times before?", to which you respond, "She married losers. The woman deserves to be happy. I'm going to make her happy."

During this initial stage of love, we have other irrational thoughts, such as, "I'll never be happy unless we are together forever. Nothing else in life really matters." Such thinking often leads a student to drop out of college and marry his or her lover, or to start living together even though they are not married. In this stage of love, differences are minimized or denied. We just know that we are happy, that we have never been happier, and we intend to keep this the rest of our lives.

This stage of love does not require a lot of effort. I was in the Philadelphia International Airport one afternoon when a young lady I'll call Suzy walked up to me and introduced herself.

Continues...


Excerpted from The Five Love Languages for Singles by Gary Chapman Copyright © 2004 by Gary Chapman. Excerpted by permission.
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Table of Contents

Contents

Acknowledgments / 5
Introduction / 7

1. Single Adults: Significant and Growing / 11

2. The Key to Relationships / 19

3. Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation / 31

4. Love Language #2: Gifts / 55

5. Love Language #3: Acts of Service / 73

6. Love Language #4: Quality Time / 89

7. Love Language #5: Physical Touch / 103

8. Discovering Your Primary Love Language / 123

9. Making the Family Connection / 137

10. Love Languages and Dating Relationships / 157

11. Should Love Lead to Marriage? / 173

12. Roommates, Classmates, and Coworkers / 193

13. Love Languages and the Single Parent / 211

14. Loving Your Way to Success / 225

The Love Languages Profile / 237

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 19, 2006

    Great Book!!!

    This book helped me understand myself and others. I recommend that people should read this book to help better understand what it is that people are looking for in a relationship and what will help make it stronger and last longer. I have been more careful, thanks to this book, on being able to see the signs and not getting myself wrapped into something that is not meant for me. It even helped me with the healing of my broken heart. I have recommended this book to alot of my friends - I have even gave them as gifts...

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 16, 2009

    Every single should get a copy of this book!

    I have really enjoyed reading this book. I had heard previously about the original five love languages. When searching online for it, I came across this one and I am really happy that I did. Not only does it give you better perspective of your own personal "love language" it really helps you understand those around you. As you're reading you are thinking about those that are the closest to you and trying to identify their "love language." It not only deals with dating relationships but also that of parent-child and co-workers. So the next time you think that someone is standoff-ish or rude, maybe it's just their love language is different than yours. This was WELL worth the money!!

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    Excellent!

    This book showed me a lot of things. Most importantely, it showed me to keep my eyes and mind open. It's about the five languages of love and really speaks to the reader. I found a lot of good things inside its covers.

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