For Kids-Putting God on Your Guest List (2nd Edition): How to Claim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Bar or Bat Mitzvah

by Jeffrey K. Salkin

Overview

The kids’ companion to the award-winning Putting God on the Guest List, 3rd Ed.: How to Reclaim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Child’s Bar or Bat Mitzvah

Used as an inspiring part of bar/bat mitzvah preparation for parents in hundreds of congregations around the world.

Jewish youngsters and their parents need to turn inward at bar and bat mitzvah time and ask themselves these hard questions: “Why are we doing this? What does it all mean?”

At last, a guide especially for kids, to help them spiritually prepare for their bar/bat mitzvah. Explains the core spiritual values of Judaism to young people in a language they can understand. Questions at the end of each chapter engage kids and let them offer their own thoughts. A special section helps parents and kids find places to perform acts of tzedakah to honor the event—newly revised and updated.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781580236867
Publisher:	Turner Publishing Company
Publication date:	10/17/2012
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	144
File size:	2 MB
Age Range:	11 - 13 Years

About the Author

Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin is recognized as one of the most thoughtful Jewish writers and teachers of his generation. He has helped people of all ages find spiritual meaning in both the great and small moments in life.

A noted author whose work has appeared in many publications, including the Wall Street Journal, Reader's Digest, and the Congressional Record, Rabbi Salkin is editor of The Modern Men's Torah Commentary: New Insights from Jewish Men on the 54 Weekly Torah Portions; and author of Being God's Partner: How to Find the Hidden Link Between Spirituality and Your Work, with an introduction by Norman Lear; the bestseller Putting God on the Guest List: How to Reclaim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Child's Bar or Bat Mitzvah; For Kids—Putting God on Your Guest List: How to Claim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Bar or Bat Mitzvah; and Righteous Gentiles in the Hebrew Bible: Ancient Role Models for Sacred Relationships (all Jewish Lights), among other books. 


Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin is available to speak on the following topics:
• Is God on Your Guest List?
• Where Are the Men?
• While You Were Out, God Called
• The Secret War Against Israel (or, Why John Lennon Was Wrong)
• Outside the Red Tent

Table of Contents

PREFACE TO THE SECOND EDITION ACKNOWLEDGMENTS 1 • Beyond "Today I Am a Man/a Woman" THE REAL HISTORY OF BAR AND BAT MITZVAH 2 • “Speak to the Children of Israel” THE SECRET MEANING OF BAR AND BAT MITZVAH 3 • Why Are These People Crying? WADING IN THE RIVER OF TEARS 4 • Hearing God's Voice THE MEANING OF TORAH 5 • Putting the Mitzvah Back in Bar and Bat Mitzvah 6 • Rites and Wrongs of Passage PUTTING THE PARTY IN PERSPECTIVE 7 • To a Skeptical Jewish Kid 8 • A Road Map to the Shabbat Morning Worship Service FINDING YOUR PLACE IN THE WORDS 9 • After the Thank-You Notes LIFE AFTER BAR AND BAT MITZVAH GLOSSARY A LIST OF PLACES FOR YOUR TZEDAKAH SUGGESTIONS FOR FURTHER READING

Editorial Reviews

Rabbi Jeffrey Salkin, a Long Island native, has spent nearly three decade as a pulpit rabbi in four states, most recently at the historic The Temple in Atlanta. Now he serves as executive director of Kol Echad, a "transdenominational" adult learning center in Atlanta. His latest book, “Righteous Gentiles in the Hebrew Bible” (Jewish Lights), follows the bestselling “Putting God on the Guest List: How to Reclaim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Child's Bar or Bat Mitzvah” and “For Kids – Putting God on Your Guest List: How to Claim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Bar or Bat Mitzvah.”

Q: You made your reputation as a voice for hands-on, applied Judaism, for returning authenticity and spirituality to ritual observance. Why this interest in biblical scholarship?

A: I’ve always been interested in biblical characters, especially as the Midrash re-imagines them. I’ve always loved how Elie Wiesel tells biblical tales. So in many ways the new book is a return to my first Jewish love. In fact, writing this book had a profound effect on me; I fell in love with each biblical character.

Q: You’ve spent several years in the Bible Belt South, where they take Scripture seriously. Did that affect your choice of a book topic?

A: We do live in a biblically saturated culture. When I speak about the State of Israel, I always mention Cyrus, the ancient king of Persia who let the Jews return to Israel and became the first “gentile Zionist.” He was Harry Truman’s inspiration. He’s in the book.

Q: Some people resent the term “Righteous Gentile,” considering it patronizing to non-Jews. How do you define the term?

A: I can understand that resentment. But for the Jews, the world has always been a “tough neighborhood.” So, the term “Righteous Gentile” served as a badge of honor. The ancient rabbis defined “Righteous Gentiles” as non-Jews who observed certain basic moral laws. In contemporary terms, “Righteous Gentiles” were those who saved Jewish lives during the Shoah, like Oskar Schindler. But it also means any non-Jew who has saved Jewish lives or has contributed to Jewish life.

Q: Who were the Righteous Gentiles who influenced you when you were growing up on Long Island?

A: Frankly, I wish that there had been more of them. I encountered anti-Semitism when I was growing up. I’m happy to say that some of the anti-Semitic bullies of my youth have, in fact, grown up to be quite sympathetic to both Jews and Judaism.

Q: Post-Holocaust, many Jews continue to view the gentile world with fear, if not outright distrust. Is your book an answer to that?

A: Absolutely. The book tries to refute the quaint notion that all of Jewish history is “they hated us, they tried to kill us, we won, let’s eat.” The Jewish story is so much deeper, and sweeter, than that.

The Jewish Week - Steve Lipman

Where do you go when you've been a congregational rabbi for 27 years, written five best-selling books and are looking for something else? If you are Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin, you found, direct and serve as rabbi for a new organization, Kol Echad: Making Judaism Matter, a trans-denominational, adult learning community in Atlanta.

This adult-education institute, located in an office complex, is "an amalgamation, like a kollel for non-Orthodox Jews," Rabbi Salkin said in a phone interview. He will be in Overland Park this weekend, serving as scholar in residence at The Temple, Congregation B'nai Jehudah Nov. 16-18.

His organization is experimenting with different kinds of outreach, aiming to be “a liberal alternative to Chabad.” The programs seek to “teach Judaism in an intellectual, lively and playful way,” said the rabbi. For example, one of the courses is “What Madonna Doesn't Know About Kabbalah.”

Rabbi Salkin grew up in Long Island, N.Y., and is a 1981 graduate of the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion. He is best known for his books on spirituality, all published by Jewish Lights Publishers. Among his works are: “Bar/Bat Mitzvah Memory Book: An Album for Treasuring the Spiritual Celebration;” “Being God's Partner: How to Find the Hidden Link Between Spirituality and Your Work;” “For Kids: Putting God on Your Guest List;” and “Putting God on the Guest List: How to Reclaim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Child's Bar or Bat Mitzvah.”

The latter work, first published in 1992, is one of the top-selling books on American Judaism today. Thus, it is no coincidence that his scholar-in-residency falls during Jewish Book Month, which began Nov. 4.

Rabbi Salkin's most recent book was undertaken as a prelude to Israel's 60th birthday celebration in May 2008. “A Dream of Zion: American Jews Reflect on Why Israel Matters To Them” presents a multitude of Jewish voices, whose comments are categorized into five headings: identity and heritage, refuge, faith and covenant, tikkun olam and American historical perspective. Because there is no approved way of thinking about Israel, Rabbi Salkin said he looked for a multitude of mainstream opinions. Yet the variety of contributors is amazing — Lillian Hellman, Harpo Marx, Debbie Friedman, Albert Einstein, Solomon Schechter, Danny Maseng, Emma Lazarus, Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis, Rabbi Stephen S. Wise and 105 more.

“I edited this book because I was profoundly aware of the emotional distancing taking place between American Jews and Israel,” Rabbi Salkin said. “The inconvenient truth is that Jews travel less, give less and care less (about Israel).” (p) Rabbi Salkin would like to see this book read by anyone who is curious about Israel, especially non-Jews, many of whom have a “blind spot” when it comes to Israel.

A recent study undertaken by Steven M. Cohen and Avi Kelman reported that less than 50 percent of the Jews surveyed believe if the state of Israel were destroyed it would be a profound loss for them. “I wanted to create a book so everyone would understand why (so many) Jews care about Israel.”

Rabbi Salkin says he would like to “hit control/alt/delete, reboot the Jewish spiritual computer, reformat the hard drive and reinspire American Jews.”

Scholar's schedule

Rabbi Salkin will speak at 6 p.m. services, Friday, Nov. 16, at Temple B'nai Jehudah on “Israel: Yours, Mine and Whose?”

Saturday morning, he will teach at the 10:30 a.m. service and then attend a Shabbaton for Bar/Bat Mitzvah youth and their families. Saturday evening, at 7:30, he will speak at a program sponsored by the Brotherhood on “Why are Jewish Men Like That? A Search for Jewish Masculinity.”

Sunday, he will speak at the Cuppa Joe, drop-in adult study session from 10:05 to 10:55 a.m.

Kansas City Jewish Chronicle - Sybil Kaplan

"A great resource for kids with every kind of Jewish background, even if you are a kid with two parents who are rabbis—like me!"
—Joshua Zecher Ross, Age 13, Bar Mitzvah Parshat Noah 5759

"Reminds our young people that becoming b'nai mitzvah is less about the quality of their performance than about the quality of their lives. It is an important contribution in helping our youth make coming of age a sacred passage."
—Rabbi Sandy Eisenberg Sasso (Reconstructionist), author of In God's Name, God’s Paintbrush and other books

“A sensitive work that will help a young Jew be more aware of God’s Presence on the day of bar/bat mitzvah and remain aware of that Presence in the everyday experiences of life that follow.”
—Rabbi William H. Lebeau (Conservative), vice chancellor, dean of the rabbinical school, the Jewish Theological Seminary

“We’ve used Putting God on the Guest List in our b’nai mitzvah program for many years. I’ve always wished for a companion book that could talk to the kids themselves. This is the book I’ve been waiting for!”
—Rabbi Laura Geller (Reform),Temple Emanuel, Beverly Hills, CA

“Hey kids—between learning your portion and writing your speech, read this book. Then you will have a bar or bat mitzvah to remember!”
—Dr. Ron Wolfson, author of God’s To-Do List: 103 Ways to Be an Angel and Do God’s Work on Earth; Fingerhut Professor of Education, Universityof Judaism, Los Angeles

“This wonderful book has the capacity to inspire and transform tens of thousands of bar and bat mitzvahs, and they in turn will inspire and transform future Jewish life in America.”
—Rabbi Joseph Telushkin, author of Words That Hurt, Words That Heal

“Does it for kids! Provides lots of powerful answers to their real questions.”
—Joel Lurie Grishaver, author of Shema Is for Real, and editor of Hanukkah: The Family Guide to Spiritual Celebration

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