For Women Only in the Workplace: What You Need to Know About How Men Think at Work

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Do You Know the Unwritten Rules of the Workplace?
 
As a veteran of Wall Street and Capitol Hill, Shaunti Feldhahn knows that even the most experienced Christian businesswoman can inadvertently sabotage her career simply because she doesn’t know how her male supervisors, colleagues, and employees think.
 
For Women Only in the Workplace gives you startling insights ...

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Overview

Do You Know the Unwritten Rules of the Workplace?
 
As a veteran of Wall Street and Capitol Hill, Shaunti Feldhahn knows that even the most experienced Christian businesswoman can inadvertently sabotage her career simply because she doesn’t know how her male supervisors, colleagues, and employees think.
 
For Women Only in the Workplace gives you startling insights into the expectations and perceptions of men at work. Whether you work in a corporate setting, a small business, or a ministry, you’ll find Shaunti’s research invaluable as you discover:
 
· What you need to know about a man’s hidden insecurity
· What “it’s not personal, it’s just business” actually means to men
· How men view emotion in the workplace—and what they consider to be emotion
· How what you wear can significantly hinder your effectiveness at work
· The secrets to being strong and competent—without being viewed as difficult 
 
Based on eight years of intense research, extensive interviews, and national surveys of more than 3,000 men—from CEOs to assistants, from factory workers to lawyers—For Women Only in the Workplace gives you the keys you need to be who you are and be respected and successful wherever you work with men.

Includes a group discussion guide.

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Praise for For Women Only in the Workplace

The Male Factor is full of practical recommendations for women who want to maximize their impact in a workplace full of male counterparts, and is a must-read for women in leadership. If you’ve ever interacted with a male colleague, boss, or employee, and wondered, “Why did he respond that way?” this book will provide the answers.”
—Yvette Maher, vice president of Focus on the Family

“Shaunti Feldhahn has done it again! Revealing, insightful, but most of all unapologetically realistic, she shares in her latest offering, For Women Only in the Workplace, what women need to know in order to navigate through the workplace victoriously. The unwritten rules can no longer be ignored because Shaunti has spelled them out with crystal clarity. A must-read.”
— Michelle McKinney Hammond, author of What Women Don’t Know and Men Don’t Tell You

For Women Only in the Workplace is filled with practical researchbased insights on how men view women in the workplace—insights you can use immediately to reach your professional goals faster and thrive in the workplace. If you find yourself confused by how your male boss or co-workers think or act, Shaunti Feldhahn peels back the layers to help you understand what’s really going on. Candid and revealing, For Women Only in the Workplace is a wise read for professional women.”
— Valorie Burton, author of What’s Really Holding You Back? and How Did I Get So Busy?

Praise for The Male Factor

(The general-market edition of For Women Only in the Workplace)

The Male Factor is the singularly best business book for women I’ve read in years. This well-researched yet  thoroughly readable book is rich with rare insights into how men really see women in the workplace—and how with a few simple adjustments you can even the playing field.”
— Lois P. Frankel, PhD, author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office and See Jane Lead

“Many times in my career I’ve been the only female in a meeting or holding a seat on the executive team, and I felt I needed a translator—either to understand my male colleagues or to make sure they understood me! The Male Factor provides that translation. We no longer have to guess at what makes men tick in the workplace. Shaunti Feldhahn asked them, and amazingly, they told her!”
—Stacie Hagan, chief people officer at Earthlink Inc.

“Smart, effective communication is what makes for successful leadership and productive workplaces. The Male Factor sheds light on how subtle and not-so-subtle gender communication differences can thwart a woman’s rise in the workplace. Even minor shifts in communication approach can help women navigate and break through that invisible barrier. There is something here for every woman, no matter where you are in your career.”
—Linda Sawyer, CEO of Deutsch Inc.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781601423788
  • Publisher: The Doubleday Religious Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 7/19/2011
  • Pages: 288
  • Sales rank: 796,756
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Meet the Author

Shaunti Feldhahn is the author of For Women Only, For Men Only, and numerous other books, with sales totaling two million copies in various languages. A popular public speaker, groundbreaking researcher, and media commentator, Feldhahn earned her master’s degree in public policy at Harvard University, has worked on Wall Street, and now lives with her husband and their two children in Atlanta, Georgia. Visit her website at www.shaunti.com.
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Introduction

Men 101

Are you saying women don’t already know that?”

The businessman sitting next to me in first class looked at me in disbelief. I was flying home from speaking at a women’s conference, and we were only a few minutes into the usual “what do you do?” airplane conversation. Then I shared something that apparently stunned him. I had explained that I was a financial analyst by training, had worked on Wall Street, and was now, unexpectedly, an author, researcher, and speaker on relationships.

“I spent several years interviewing and surveying a few thousand men,” I explained. “My last book, For Women Only, identifies ways men think and feel that women tend not to know.” He folded his arms across his chest and chuckled. “Okay,” he said, “hit me with one.”

So I shared one of my findings about men: They need respect so much, and find inadequacy so painful, that they would give up feeling loved if they could just feel respected. When I confirmed that even the most astute women may not know that particular truth about men, his amusement turned to disbelief. “That explains something!” he said finally. “You see, I’m a corporate trainer and consultant. Fortune 100 corporations bring me in to help with leadership and strategy at the highest levels of the organization. And all too often I see skilled and talented women sabotage their careers because they treat the men they work with in a way that no man would treat another man.” He looked at me with awakening interest. “But from what you’re telling me, these women probably don’t even realize that is what they are doing.”

I already had out my notebook and pen. “Can you give me an example?”

“I’ll give you an example of something that just happened a few hours ago.” For the next few minutes, he told me his story (which I’ll relay in a later chapter) and concluded, “I was so puzzled why this female executive would shoot herself in the foot like that! But perhaps she simply didn’t understand how her actions would be perceived by her colleagues—colleagues who were mostly men.”

WE DON’ T KNOW WHAT WE DON’ T KNOW

After eight years of researching how men think, I’m still surprised at how much we women don’t know about men—and how much this knowledge gap is affecting us at work and at home. As Scottish psychiatrist R. D. Lang memorably put it, “The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And, because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change until we notice how our failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.”

That’s why I wrote this book. I want to show you those unwritten, unspoken, but very real male expectations and perceptions (including misperceptions!) that affect us every day at work, but that we would never otherwise know. As the opening conversation reveals, even as smart, experienced women, we can find ourselves being tripped up by obstacles we don’t know are there. Or perhaps we simply aren’t as influential as we could be, or aren’t experiencing the rewarding, positive relationships that all of us want in the workplace. Based on my nationwide surveys and interviews with thousands of men, I can tell you that those dynamics are far more common that most women realize.

Whether you put in long hours at a Fortune 500 corporation or are a part-time volunteer in a ministry environment, the eyeopening insights you’re about to encounter have the potential to transform your approach to relationships on the job. Proverbs 24 says it is correct knowledge that fills the key places in our lives with “rare and beautiful treasures”—and I think you’ll find a correct understanding of men significantly improving not only your workplace effectiveness and influence, but also your personal fulfillment.

HOW I GOT HERE

I first realized the need for this new understanding in 2001 when I was writing my novel The Lights of Tenth Street; trying to figure out what my main male character would be thinking so I could put thoughts in his head. Talking to male colleagues or friends, I would describe a given workplace or home-life scene in the book, and ask, “What would you be thinking if this was you in this situation?” I was often stunned at the vital importance of what the men shared—and that after years of marriage and years of work in the male-dominated finance industry, I was hearing most of it for the first time.

I began a multiyear project to investigate and write about the vital surprises that we most need to know. The first book in the series, For Women Only, focused on the personal-relationship side of things—and hit a nerve, selling one million copies in twenty different languages. Other research-based books for men, teens, and parents followed. But during that time, I continued to investigate the workplace application of the inner lives of men, eventually interviewing and surveying more than three thousand men to get their candid impressions. I would strike up a conversation with the anonymous man next to me on the airplane or subway, or schedule interviews with high-level executives in whatever city I had a speaking engagement that week, guaranteeing anonymity in writing to ensure I heard their candid, unfiltered perceptions.

To quantify the results, over the years I also commissioned three nationally representative surveys of men of all ages, races, stages of life, and backgrounds—including one major survey specifically for the workplace—teaming up with the nationally respected companies Decision Analyst and Analytic Focus to ensure I got reliable data. (Chuck Cowan, the founder and president of Analytic Focus, and the former chief of survey design at the U.S. Census Bureau, has been my primary survey-design consultant for all my books. He explains the workplace survey’s methodology in appendix 1.) The complexity and depth of this long-term research process involved not only me but an entire team of staff researchers, specialists, and outside advisors.

The end result is this book, released in two editions that are similar in core content but different in title and audience. The primary, general-market edition is a large hardcover version titled The Male Factor. When I speak at companies like Coca-Cola or Earthlink, that is the version I bring. (Take a look at The Male Factor, or my main business-market website, www.TheMaleFactorBook.com.) But this edition, titled For Women Only in the Workplace, speaks primarily to readers looking for a Christian perspective, whether working in a secular or faith-based environment. Bonus features in this edition include Discussion Questions for readers’ groups and an extra chapter, “Putting It in Perspective,” which provides practical insight from experienced Christian women who have navigated these issues for years. To achieve the unique perspective of this edition, and make space for the extra material, I edited, trimmed and rearranged some of The Male Factor content, judiciously edited some of the men’s quotes for space, and moved one of the chapters
(about big-picture observations from my research) to my website for this book, www.ForWomenOnlyWorkplace.com.

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Table of Contents

Introduction: Men 101 1

Chapter 1 "It's Not Personal; It's Business" Welcome to Two Different Worlds 17

Chapter 2 "She's Crying—What Do I Do?" How Men View Emotions at Work 49

Chapter 3 "If I Let Down My Guard, the World Will Stop Spinning" The Hidden Fear That Drives Men at Work 77

Chapter 4 "I Can't Handle It" The Little Things That Drive Men Crazy 97

Chapter 5 "Suck It Up" Getting It Done No Matter What 119

Chapter 6 "I'm Not as Confident as I Look" Men's Inner Insecurity and Need for Respect 147

Chapter 7 "That Low-Cut Blouse Undercuts Her Career" Sending the Right Signals and Avoiding the Visual Trap 177

Chapter 8 "The Most Important Thing" Men's Top Advice for Women in the Workplace 205

Chapter 9 Putting It in Perspective Counsel from Experienced Christian Women 219

Acknowledgments 231

Appendix: Emotions and the Male Brain 235

Discussion Questions 241

Notes 255

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  • Posted March 19, 2013

    For Women Only in the Workplace : What You Need to Know About Ho

    For Women Only in the Workplace : What You Need to Know About How Men Think at Work

    Shaunti Feldhah

    Book Description: Do You Know the Unwritten Rules of the Workplace?
    As a veteran of Wall Street and Capitol Hill, Shaunti Feldhahn knows that even the most experienced Christian businesswoman can inadvertently sabotage her career simply because she doesn’t know how her male supervisors, colleagues, and employees think. For Women Only in the Workplace gives you startling insights into the expectations and perceptions of men at work. Whether you work in a corporate setting, a small business, or a ministry, you’ll find Shaunti’s research invaluable as you discover:
    • What you need to know about a man’s hidden insecurity
    • What “it’s not personal, it’s just business” actually means to men
    • How men view emotion in the workplace—and what they consider to be emotion
    • How what you wear can significantly hinder your effectiveness at work
    • The secrets to being strong and competent—without being viewed as difficult
    Based on eight years of intense research, extensive interviews, and national surveys of more than 3,000 men—from CEOs to assistants, from factory workers to lawyers—For Women Only in the Workplace gives you the keys you need to be who you are and be respected and successful wherever you work with men. Includes a group discussion guide.

    Book Review: I found this book insightful. I did not agree with everything in this book, however I did think that there were many things worth learning and understanding. The best way to use this book is to glean information and work with everyone as professional as possible. While there is a treasure trove of research I also think there are just men (and woman) who are just difficult based on the fact that we live in a fallen world. The best that we can hope for is that as a Christian I can use this information to build up people around me.
    I would like to thank Above the Trees and Multnomah Books for allowing me to read and review this book in return for a free copy and I was never asked to write a favorable review by anyone.

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  • Anonymous

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    A Must For All Female Exec's!

    Very helpful! This is a must-read for all female executives working in a male dominated work world.

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  • Posted September 23, 2011

    Insightful for any Woman that Works with Men

    I began reporting to a new male supervisor the same day the mailman delivered the book For Women Only in the Workplace: What You Need to Know about How Men Think at Work, by Shaunti Feldhahn. My previous supervisor, a female, had a passion for Jesus and had become a close friend, so I felt devastated by her departure. The dynamics of my work environment were about to change drastically, and I was eager to get my hands on any tool to help me become mentally prepared.

    Through stories and examples to back up her ideas, Shaunti Feldhahn explains how men and women operate and communicate differently at work. She discusses mistakes that women make in the workplace, why respect is so important to men and unintentional ways women undermine it, how men's ability to compartmentalize affects their methods, and many other interesting topics.

    While at times I felt like Shaunti Feldhahn was stereotyping and categorizing people in boxes by gender without consideration of personality types or other factors, there was valuable information to carry into my life - not just for the purpose of career success, either. She presents the information in a way that we can honor God not only in the workplace but in every aspect of our lives. Integrating some of the insights into everyday life is a way to love our neighbors and look out for the interests of others.

    Even though I don't agree with all the ideas in this book, I found it intriguing. If you haven't read many books on the differences between men and women and you spend time with men at work, I'd recommend this book.

    Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of this book from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group in exchange for this review. The opinions I have expressed herein are my own.

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  • Posted August 29, 2011

    Women only

    Shaunti Feldhahn is the Best- Selling author of "For Women Only." The book is all about how men think in the work place. The book is very insightful about the expectations and perceptions of men at work. Whether you work in a small business, large business, ministry or any work place, you will find this book to valuable. This book helps distinguish for a female what is business, not personal, which is sometimes for women to understand. Feldhahn has spent over eight years researching and surveying to understand men and the way they deal with their work.

    Two chapters I really appreciate in the book are "How Men View Emotions at work and The Hidden Fear that Drives Men at Work." These two chapters are very insightful and provide a lot of details on these two subjects. As a woman, I view things completely different and this book made me very aware of how women say and do things that shoot themselves in the foot. It also made me realize how women play a huge role in the workplace.
    This book even includes discussion questions in the back of the book and would be great for a bible study.

    This book was interesting, but not something that I was very interested in. I guess if I was having problems with a male co-worker, I might seek out this book, but this isn't typically a book I would read. It is an easy read and well written, but not my cup of tea!
    Thanks Waterbrook Multnomah for this free book to review!

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