Forgive for Good

Forgive for Good

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by Frederic Luskin
     
 

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Based on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland’s civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method

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Based on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland’s civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780062028747
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
08/17/2010
Sold by:
HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
240
Sales rank:
47,305
File size:
1 MB

Meet the Author

Fred Luskin, Ph.D. is the author of Forgive for Good and one of the world's leading researchers and teachers on the subject of forgiveness. He is the director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, a series of research projects that investigate forgiveness methods. He holds an appointment at the Stanford Center on Conflict and Negotiation as a senior fellow and is an associate professor at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. He lives in Palo Alto, California.

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Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness 3.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 19 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I did not find the book to be very useful or to be written with much compassion. The techniques presented in the book seem to be 're-labeled, old' processes and as such I did not feel they offered much new insight or help. The forgiveness process also seem to be lacking in any real substance. The author recommends using processes and techniques that I feel promote denial and avoidance of the issues causing the anger and distress. While I do agree forgiveness is very much desirable and obsessing on the negative is harmful, denying and avoiding the causes of the distress will not, in my opinion, lead to any long-term or meaningful improvements or reductions of distress. Focusing one's attention on other issues rarely make the pain and anger go away. These feelings very often come out in other ways - anxiety, depression, TMS, etc. In my opionion, as both a reader and as a Ph.D. in psychology, the book misses the point. To get beyond a difficult situation, one must face it, express the associated feelings, and process the difficult emotions. Then, forgiveness may start to emerge. Just re-directing one's attention away from the distressing situation will not, in my opinion, provide any meangingful, lasting resolution of the related emotions.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was carrying around a lot of pain around some family issues when I found this book. I can already feel the changes it inspires. Based on research he's done at Stanford, Dr. Luskin's techniques are presented in ways that are so clear to understand and follow. His explanations of what forgiveness is and isn't are extremely helpful and freed up some of my 'holding on' immediately. The section on unenforceable rules was an eye opener. His research findings on the mind/body connection between anger/hurt and health are fascinating and enlightening. Dr. Luskin's techniques are not only helping me heal my specific hurts, but they are helping me live and react to life with more calm and honesty. It's not easy to change, but if you want to and are ready to try a new perspective on life, this book is the best gift you can give yourself. It may change the way you live your life. It's changing mine.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book has helped me and many people I know! It is excellent if you are truly serious about letting go of unforgiveness, rewriting the 'victim' stories of your life into 'victor' stories, and moving ahead. Completely outstanding--make sure you buy it. I have read and reviewed many books on this subject, and this one is by far the most useful and practical.
Ann89 More than 1 year ago
I loved this book. It helped me get over being a victim, sunk down in despair, and made me think of what I really am, after suffering years of abuse from a parent, a hero! It has risen me up and also it taught me to have postive thoughts instead of negative ones, in order to stay on the road to my goals! Yes, this book helped me tremendously and I'm grateful to Dr. Luskin for that. Thank you for taking the time to write it.
Chris Furgis More than 1 year ago
This book is wonderful- it offers a good new perspective on how to forgive.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Skeptical of the title, I browsed through this book and right off the readings had such insight to the root of everyday problems in dealing with people. In addition to this it has helped me with work, and I feel better equipped to guide my children when they have difficulties understanding their friends behavior.
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WomansOpinion More than 1 year ago
I've read many forgiveness themed books but found Luskin's had many useful metaphors for understanding how a hurt, wound, loss becomes a grievance without end. Unlike what one of your reviewers said, I found Luskin very sympathetic to the pain that comes from personal traumas. In fact, the first step of forgiving is articulating just how you feel injured and does not press a victim to push through this healing part of grief any faster than a person is ready to go. But once you've become a bore to yourself and your friends reliving the injury, or you find yourself continually sick thinking about it unendingly, you long to be released from it and move on. It's at this point that this book really steps up to the plate and delivers. Luskin gives the most concrete steps for 'letting go' I've ever read. I've certainly benefited by reading this book. I do wish there was an index in the book for quickly finding techniques and key ideas I'd like to revisit without dog-earing the book to remember where the parts are I want to re-read.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Far too simplistic This author treats forgiveness as though it were a simplistic process whereby one follows a set of prescribed steps and voila, one feels better. Throughout the book, he adopts a patronizing tone, blaming those who have a difficulty moving forward as though they and not his approach may be at fault.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book talks down to the reader assuming that if we just follow the all knowing expert, then all will be well. He fails to take into consideration the myriad of problems surrounding an vent such as 9/11 (e.g., the recent discovery of human remains, the ongoing war in Iraq) that for many impede the healing process.