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Free Yourself From an Abusive Relationship: A Guide to Taking Back Your Life

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This book is a comprehensive guide to recognizing and dealing with domestic abuse and violence. It outlines the different types and stages of abuse, and provides information on how to change such relationships or escape from them.

"...offers practical guidelines for identifying, resolving, and escaping abusive situations...clearly describes six different types of domestic abuse and includes practical checklists of actions to take."

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Free Yourself From an Abusive Relationship: A Guide to Taking Back Your Life

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Overview

This book is a comprehensive guide to recognizing and dealing with domestic abuse and violence. It outlines the different types and stages of abuse, and provides information on how to change such relationships or escape from them.

"...offers practical guidelines for identifying, resolving, and escaping abusive situations...clearly describes six different types of domestic abuse and includes practical checklists of actions to take."

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780897932578
  • Publisher: Turner Publishing Company
  • Publication date: 1/28/2000
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 768,167
  • Product dimensions: 5.51 (w) x 8.55 (h) x 0.74 (d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments x
Preface xi
Introduction 1
Step 1 Recognizing Abusive Behavior
Chapter 1 Identifying Abuse 8
Patterns of Domination and Control 9
The Domestic Violence Cycle 9
Types of Abuse 11
Chapter 2 Emotional Abuse 13
Patterns of Emotional Abuse 14
Emotional Abuse Inventory 31
Chapter 3 Physical Abuse 33
Patterns of Physical Abuse 33
Physical Abuse Inventory 35
Chapter 4 Sexual Abuse 37
Patterns of Sexual Abuse 37
Rape 38
Incest and Other Sexual Abuse of Children 39
Sexual Abuse Inventory 41
Chapter 5 Social Abuse 42
Patterns of Social Abuse 43
Social Abuse Inventory 43
Chapter 6 Financial Abuse 45
Patterns of Financial Abuse 45
Financial Abuse Inventory 46
Chapter 7 Religious and Spiritual Abuse 48
Patterns of Spiritual Abuse 48
The Misuse of Religious Doctrine 48
Religious and Spiritual Abuse Inventory 50
Step 2 Learning About Abusers and Victims
Chapter 8 Recognizing Abusers 52
Characteristics and Attitudes of Abusers 53
Female Abusers 57
Abuser Inventory 58
Chapter 9 Recognizing Danger Signals 60
Indicators of Potentially Dangerous Behavior 61
Potential Danger Inventory 63
Chapter 10 Victims of Abuse 65
Myths About Victims of Abuse 65
Why Victims Stay in or Return to Abusive Relationships 67
Victim Dependencies 77
Mutual Dependency 82
Examining Your Reasons for Staying in or Returning to an Abusive Relationship 83
Chapter 11 Specific Victim Circumstances and Concerns 87
Abusers with Money, Influence, and Power 87
Cultural Concerns 90
Male Abuse Victims 93
Victims in Rural Areas 94
Same-Sex Partners 97
Victims with Disabilities 99
Abuse During Pregnancy 100
Chapter 12 Abuse at Different Ages 102
Abuse of Children 102
Adolescents, Teenagers, and Dating Violence 110
Abuse of Seniors 114
Step 3 Preparing for Emergencies
Chapter 13 Violent Crisis and Emergency Situations 118
Emergency Plans and Safety Plans 118
If You Leave Home During a Crisis 122
Remaining at Home 124
Taking Care of Children in a Crisis 127
Avoiding Child Abduction 128
Hostage Taking 129
Stalking 130
Chapter 14 The Legal Process 133
Civil and Criminal Courts and Protective Orders 134
Protective Orders 135
Criminal Court Procedures 142
Victim-Related Court Concerns 143
Mediation 144
Court Advocates 145
Attorneys 147
Federal Laws and Civil Lawsuits 148
Step 4 Getting Help After a Crisis
Chapter 15 Getting Help Immediately After a Crisis 152
Medical Attention and Evidence 152
Support from Family and Friends 155
Community Resources and Shelters 157
Chapter 16 Getting Help for the Longer Term 160
From Victim to Survivor 160
Keeping Safe After a Crisis 161
Money Matters 163
Immigration Help 164
Work Issues 164
Transportation Issues 167
Step 5 Making the Decision to Stay or Leave
Chapter 17 Evaluating Your Relationship 170
The Examination Process 170
Restricting Abuser Communication 174
Abuser Assessment 175
Effects on Children 176
Assessing the Impact on You 177
Examination Do's and Don'ts 178
Evaluation Questions for Victims of Abuse 180
Chapter 18 Planning for Change 182
Forming Realistic Expectations 182
Building Alternatives to Abuse 183
Making Goals and Plans 185
Rebuilding Your Sense of Self 186
Establishing Nonabusive Boundaries 187
Chapter 19 Taking Action 191
Taking Action 192
The Decision to Stay or to Leave 198
Step 6 Learning to Heal and Rebuild
Chapter 20 Healing and Rebuilding 206
Grief and Abuse 206
After Grief 211
Healing Strategies 213
Long-Term Rebuilding and Restoration Strategies 218
Chapter 21 Counseling After Abuse 221
Why Seek Counseling? 221
Choosing a Counselor 223
Programs for Abusers 225
Couples Counseling 228
Depression 231
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) 233
Step 7 Remaining Abuse-Free
Chapter 22 Precautions for Your Protection 236
General Safety Precautions 236
New Dates and Acquaintances 239
New Relationships 240
Precautions for Seniors 240
Rape Safeguards 242
Safeguards to Avoid Child Abduction 243
Chapter 23 Maintaining Your Life Free from Abuse 246
Establish and Maintain Financial Security 247
Know Your Legal Rights 249
Maintain Healthy Personal Behaviors 252
Maintain Individual Interests and Relationships 256
Teach Your Children Nonabusive Behavior 266
Welcoming a Life Without Abuse 269
Appendix 1 A Heritage of Violence 270
Appendix 2 Collaborating in Your Community 274
Appendix 3 A Victim's Bill of Rights 276
Resources 277
Notes 280
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