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Note to Small-Group Leaders 11
Chapter 1 Born to Perform 13
Chapter 2 Find Freedom from Shame 27
Chapter 3 Build a Rock-Solid Core 47
Chapter 4 Give Yourself Permission to Rest 71
Chapter 5 Find Your Purpose and Passion 93
Chapter 6 Put Away the Measuring Stick 111
Chapter 7 Let Go of Being Perfect 129
Chapter 8 Discover Your True Belovedness 145
Chapter 9 Walk Away from the Bait 165
Chapter 10 Surrender in the Hidden Place 181
Chapter 11 Say Thank You 201
Chapter 12 Live in the Spirit 219
About the Author 235
Posted July 21, 2011
I am and always will be a big "fan" of bible study books. A superb bible study book especially if is written by a woman and meant for women brings a certain delight for me. It makes bible reading more enjoyable and bridges the "gap" of how things in ancient time before and after Jesus Christ and how it can be relevant in modern times.
In this particular bible study, I have learned from Ms. Becky Harling what grace really means. How must of us strive the be the "Super woman or Wonder woman" who strive for the approval of others or simply obsessed on how to pleased them all.
In the process we end up being emotionally and physical exhausted as we try to "perform" in front of the audience which compose mainly of our friends, family, relatives and even God.
Ms. Harling thoroughly explores how we can have authentic grace or how our significance doesn't come from what we do or from what others expect from our performance.
I truly loved this 12 week bible study and I highly recommend it for individual or group study as this gives you fresh insights as what grace is all about.
Posted July 12, 2011
I read a lot of books- both fiction and non-fiction, Christian and secular. I usually enjoy the books that I read, then put them away and forget what I've read. But occasionally a book will come along that affects me deeply and really speaks to a need in my life. Freedom from Performing has been one of those books.
Before I got married and had kids, I was very involved with worship ministries at my church. I also had a successful career. So my life was full of lots of external validation and pats on the back. While I love my life now and wouldn't trade it for anything, life as a stay-at-home mom isn't exactly brimming over with validation and thanks for a job well done. And I've been struggling with that, to be honest. Freedom from Performing really speaks to that part of a woman's heart- the part of us that gets our worth from what other people think of us and what they say. It's a book full of wonderful reminders that, above all else, we are daughters of God and He loves us dearly.
I really like the format of Freedom from Performing. Each chapter addresses an important aspect of building our identity in Christ, with lots of examples, stories, Bible verses and prayer. Then at the end of each chapter, there's a short 7-day Bible study on that topic. I'm a busy mom and don't have a lot of spare time for long, involved Bible studies, but this one gets right to the point and does so with scriptures and questions that really made me keep thinking for the rest of the day.
I often pass on books that I receive for review, but this one is going nowhere. It's going to stay right next to my Bible so that I can re-read it and keep hearing these important messages. If you're a Christian woman who is struggling with issues of self-worth and identity, I would highly recommend that you read this fabulous book.
Disclosure: I received this book to review for myself, as part of the NavPress book review program. I was not compensated in any other way and all opinions posted here are mine and mine alone.
Posted July 7, 2011
Freedom from Performing
Grace in an applause-driven world
By Becky Harling
Published by NavPress
Source: Review copy
So many times as women we feel the need to perform, to accomplish certain tasks, or act a certain way to get kudos from those around us. We seek our significance in what others around us think about us and their applause.
Becky Harling writes "Our significance doesn't come from what we do or from others and their accolades for our performance. We have intrinsic worth simply because we are made in God's image. It is our true self that God loves, forgives, longs to surround with grace. Our value is a gift given because of God's grace."
Each chapter of the book takes a reason we may feel the need to perform such as shame, a shaky identity or being an overachiever. She then couples that reason with a parable that addresses the same topic. She shows the parable as it applies to the specific form of performing, and blankets it with the grace that God offers in that parable. She includes a message from scripture, a prayer and a passage to remember each chapter about grace.
The book lends itself great to a weekly bible study as it has study questions at the end of each chapter for 6 days. You can easily use these in your own personal study as well by just answering the questions in the time you have.
The themes of God's grace and the Holy Spirit being the leader are interspersed throughout the book as we learn that we are not meant to perform, but to live in a spirit of thankfulness and surrender.
I received this book free from NavPress Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
Posted June 27, 2011
I am absolutely fascinated by this book and its message. Any book titled 'Freedom from Performing' and subtitled 'grace in an applause driven world' and has an attractively presented cover will get attention. What makes this book stand out is its writing, its articulately presented principles and practice, its very honest discussions and its lively and reflective pace.
Designed as a three month women's study of the Bible, it focuses on the affirmation, accolades, applause and recognition that many women feel they need to define their success. Central is an idea that women are performing a variety of roles in daily life and this performance-driven life creates unrealistic expectations. Changing a focus to the real worth of a created soul made in God's image changes the emphasis to what we are, not who we are expected to be.
This is a satisfying book to read and work through because it is bright, breezy and challenging without being overpowering. The phrasing of the writing is superb, the natural writing style reflects the author and at times feels almost conversational and the practical study exercises are as reflective as you would want them to be. For some this will be a life-changing book and will be well used. This is gifted communication and a real author discovery for me.
Posted June 20, 2011
Becky Harling showed me how to be an image bearer instead of protecting an image in her book Freedom from Performing. In order to illuminate the truths of God's grace, she shares her own stories about peeling away the layers involved in living for the applause of many, and instead, internalizing grace to accept only the applause of the One who already loves, regardless of performance. Freedom from shame, living our passion and purpose, release from perfectionism, and putting away the measuring stick - these are just a few of the themes that Becky Harling develops to show how an understanding of grace impacts our lives in practical ways. In each chapter, she shares what God has shown her using a parable as the foundation. At the end of each chapter, she summarizes truth as a message spoken to the reader from God, provides a prayer for conversation with Him, and includes a Bible study with reflective questions for the week. This book seems to be very specific toward a particular personality type. If you are a high-achiever, multi-tasker, people-pleasing, or Type A personality, then this book may be a great fit for you. If you are relaxed, easy-going, and never have a sense of urgency, perhaps you will find this book harder to relate to. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and plan to keep it in an easily-accessible location on my book shelf so that I can periodically read the 'message from God' and the prayers at the end of each chapter until they are ingrained as truth in me. I received a complimentary copy of this book from NavPress Publishers as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted June 20, 2011
Freedom From Performing by Becky Harling is a women's Bible study designed to encourage women in a daily walk with God. Becky Harling was a performer as a child, teen, young adult, pastor's wife and mother. If we are honest, we all are seeking applause, rave reviews, and approval from others. Using Jesus' parables, the author invites the reader to embrace authentic grace and seek the applause of One, our Father, God.
This is a 12 week study for personal use or small groups. Following each chapter is a Daily Dose of Grace where the reader is encouraged to memorize and meditate on verses and answer a few questions throughout the week prior to the next meeting or chapter study. There are many hurting women in the body of Christ and this book could be the stepping stone for them to open and share with those who have experienced similar pain. The chapter topics include:
?how to find freedom from the shame of our past
?how to build a core of grace
?setting boundaries and granting yourself permission to rest
?how to find your unique calling
?ending the envy
?letting go of perfection
?discovering God's belovedness and grace
?how to walk away from Satan's bait
?surrendering the hidden places
?living a life of gratitude and in the Spirit
This author writes from experience. Although she has thirty years of presenting God's Word to women nationally and internationally , her life story is filled with heartache. In this book she opens up about her life as a survivor of breast cancer and sexual abuse, and shares the testimonies of others as well. I encourage you to use this book as a tool in your personal Bible study or church women's group Bible study.
Posted May 31, 2011
This book is a Godsend. The book helps you yo better understand the grace of God without being preachy. It is good for a new or experienced Christian. I especially like the daily study at the end of each chapter. A must read for women stuck in looking to live a grace filled life.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted June 14, 2011
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Posted July 26, 2011
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