Friends for Life: Enriching the Bond between Mothers and Their Adult Daughters
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Friends for Life: Enriching the Bond between Mothers and Their Adult Daughters

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by Susan Jonas, Marilyn Nissenson
     
 

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The mother–daughter relationship is one of the most rewarding––and baffling––relationship a woman may ever have. Books abound on the parenting of children, but little has been published on mothers' connections with their grown daughters. That complex maternal relationship is explored here, in Friends for Life, a much–needed

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The mother–daughter relationship is one of the most rewarding––and baffling––relationship a woman may ever have. Books abound on the parenting of children, but little has been published on mothers' connections with their grown daughters. That complex maternal relationship is explored here, in Friends for Life, a much–needed resource written by mothers for mothers.

Drawing on the guidance of psychology professionals, New York moms Susan Jonas and Marilyn Nissenson interviewed over one hundred other women, asking them about their role as mothers, about their communication with their daughters, about their own needs, and about issues of independence and support. The result is a wonderfully rich, intensely personal, and nonjudgmental study of mother–daughter relations, one that reveals ways for mothers to build lifelong friendships with their daughters.

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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Jonas and Nissenson, both writers and editors with grown daughters, have co-authored several other books (Going, Going, Gone: Vanishing Americana, et al.). They consulted with a clinical psychologist on interview methodology for this engrossing study of the relationship between mothers and daughters who were aged 21-35. Because the authors excluded from consideration those with more serious problemsthe desperately poor, the alcohol- or drug-addicted, the anorexic, those with a physically abusive partnerthey acknowledge that their sample "is not statistically valid for scholarly purposes." Yet the 100 interviews they conducted included mothers from a variety of backgrounds, professional and working class. Besides presenting the successes and failures of mothers who have tried various ways of communicating with their daughters about relationship and career choices, Jonas and Nissenson offer informed advice on how to change mom's unproductive nagging into a supportive conversation between two adults. The authors also offer useful strategies for overcoming misplaced guilt and accepting daughters' choices that may not fulfill a mother's dreams for her offspring. Author tour. (May)
Library Journal
Jonas and Nissenson, who have collaborated before (e.g., Going, Going, Gone: Vanishing America, Chronicle, 1994. pap.), have put together a coherent and engrossing work. Their experiences with their own daughters propelled them to examine the relationships between other mothers and their grown daughters. Accordingly, they interviewed 113 women across the country. Although the authors admit that their sample isn't statistically valid, they did try to interview mothers of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds. They then fit their material into such chapters as "When Your Daughter Lives at Home" and "Your Expectations and Her Life." The authors skillfully link bits of the interviews to make their chapters flow smoothly, without relying on morphing together two or more interviewees to create one "good" story. As a result, the women's stories ring true. Appropriate for all public libraries; academic libraries should also consider for the rich oral history.Pamela A. Matthews, Univ. of Maryland Lib., Baltimore

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780061138195
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
03/13/2007
Edition description:
Reprint
Pages:
384
Product dimensions:
5.31(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.86(d)

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Mothers and daughters share genes, they share the biological rhythms of a woman's body, they have a history of shared life experiences. Just as a mother nurtures and cares for those she loves, she assumes that her daughter will nurture and care for her loved ones in turn. Because of such strong biological and social ties, a mother feels she truly knows her daughter. And, for all of these reasons, she is deeply pained when the relationship reveals that in some important way she does not know her.

Excerpted from Friends for Life by Susan Jonas and Marilyn Nissenson. Copyright © 1997.

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