From Impasse To Intimacy / Edition 1

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An experienced couples counselor identifies the unconscious factors that influence the way we feel and behave in intimate relationships—the invisible needs that create and sustain our dysfunctional patterns of relating. Whereas the conventional focus on changing our marital scripts bypasses excavation of their roots in our deepest childhood fears—of abandonment, intrusion, shame—David Shaddock weaves contemporary thinking about the individual into the family systems approach to therapy. Effortlessly, and with gentle authority, he introduces concepts that professional and popular readers alike can adopt to begin to decode symbolic issues and, in turn, generate the understanding that builds empathy between partners.

Disc. unconscious factors that influence the way we feel & behave in intimate relationships; incl. case studies.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780765701633
  • Publisher: Aronson, Jason Inc.
  • Publication date: 7/28/1998
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 242
  • Sales rank: 878,031
  • Product dimensions: 6.32 (w) x 9.38 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Table of Contents

A Journey to Living Unison 1
I Origins of the Invisible Marriage
1 Why Love Is Blind 11
2 Growing Up Wounded: Childhood Pain and the Origin of the Invisible Marriage 27
3 Patterns of Protection 49
II Visible Problems, Invisible Roots
4 Anger and Escalation 71
5 Pursuit and Avoidance 89
6 Emotional Distance 109
7 Sex and Intimacy 125
8 Money, Housework, and In-Laws 143
III Changing the Script
9 Couples in Crisis: When the Script Breaks Down 163
10 Changing the Script 183
11 Creating the Ties That Heal 205
Bibliography 227
Suggested Readings 231
Index 233
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