Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis

Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis

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by Eric Berne
     
 

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We think we’re relating to other people–but actually we’re all playing games.

Forty years ago, Games People Play revolutionized our understanding of what really goes on during our most basic social interactions. More than five million copies later, Dr. Eric Berne’s classic is as astonishing–and

Overview

We think we’re relating to other people–but actually we’re all playing games.

Forty years ago, Games People Play revolutionized our understanding of what really goes on during our most basic social interactions. More than five million copies later, Dr. Eric Berne’s classic is as astonishing–and revealing–as it was on the day it was first published. This anniversary edition features a new introduction by Dr. James R. Allen, president of the International Transactional Analysis Association, and Kurt Vonnegut’s brilliant Life magazine review from 1965.
We play games all the time–sexual games, marital games, power games with our bosses, and competitive games with our friends. Detailing status contests like “Martini” (I know a better way), to lethal couples combat like “If It Weren’t For You” and “Uproar,” to flirtation favorites like “The Stocking Game” and “Let’s You and Him Fight,” Dr. Berne exposes the secret ploys and unconscious maneuvers that rule our intimate lives.
Explosive when it first appeared, Games People Play is now widely recognized as the most original and influential popular psychology book of our time. It’s as powerful and eye-opening as ever.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
“An important book . . . a brilliant, amusing, and clear catalogue of the psychological theatricals that human beings play over and over again.”
–KURT VONNEGUT, Life magazine

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780345410030
Publisher:
Random House Publishing Group
Publication date:
08/28/1996
Edition description:
Reissue
Pages:
216
Sales rank:
72,597
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.50(d)

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Games People Play 4.3 out of 5 based on 1 ratings. 9 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Many times in my life, I was placed in social situations that left me feeling so depleted afterwards and I could not exactly grasp why this was happening. When I read this book, I started to understand how many people play these games that end up making me feel used and hopeless. After a year or so, I also began realizing that I play some of these games myself. I realized that although they work as temporary coping devices, they become obstacles to my personal development in the long run. This is when I really decided to change my life. I began living with a new awareness of the behaviors of not only others but my own as well! It has worked wonders and if I could explain this process, I would like to share it with everyone! But since I am not so good at explaining these things, I will suggest a book that explains this very well. It is called 'The Ever-Transcending Spirit' by Toru Sato and it explains all of these things in such a great way! Read this book by Berne! Read the book by Sato! It will be the best gift you give to yourself!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I do not usually give a title 5 stars unless I feel it is an important read. This book is beneficial to the reader in that it reveals the psychological mechanisims behind interpersonal relationships. It explains why people argue so much and why arguing has a hidden bennefit. He explains how and why each of us need constant human contact, whether it be negative or positve. In the end he reveals some of his thoughts on how to overcome these games with simple awareness. If you read this book, it will profoundly affect your perception on human relations forever.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Wow! What an interesting book! This book shows us that there is much more going on in any human interaction than the exchange of information. It show us the hidden meaning and purpose behind all types of interactions and how we all participate in those hidden 'games' without being aware of it. For better or for worse, this book will totally change how you see the world. A newer book called 'The Ever-transcending Spirit' by Toru Sato provides a excellent account of why we play these games and how it relates to our development as human beings. Sato puts all of this in a larger context and enables us to see the light as well. Excellent book! All I can say is, both books are pure gold.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is full of insights about what is really going on in relationships. It truly opened my eyes about the people around me and person I am. If you are interested in understanding relationships, this is a must read! If you want to take your understanding a few steps further, read Dr. Toru Sato's Rhythm, Relationships, and Transcendence. This expand's on Dr. Berne's ideas and relates it not only to relationships but also to consciousness, human development and evolution. It is a already a bestseller among relationship experts.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
  This book is so wonderful! It opened my eyes to so many things that people do subconsciously in social situations to get what they want or to get the reaction they want, and how powerful they really are. Many times I have been in so many of the situations described in this book, and I always felt like I was being played. Now I know that that is true, but now I also know how to recognize and combat those games so that I do not get sucked in. I also realized while reading this book that I play some of these games myself. I found that even though they may work, that they are unhealthy and wrong. Reading this book not only opened my eyes, but also gave me ideas on how to not use the games that come so easily and naturally to us to get what I want. I think that that is my favorite part of this book, the part that helps you decide what to do now that you know about the games. These games cover every genera possible in our lives from power games, to marital games. I think that everyone should read this book because it really helps you understand other people and yourself, and it helps you live more peacefully. This is a brilliant book written by a brilliant and insightful person. 
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