Gentle Birth Choices [NOOK Book]


Birth as every woman would like it to be

• Recommended by Lamaze International as one of the top ten books for pregnant women and their families

• Includes a 45-minute DVD of six live gentle births

• More than 32,000 copies sold of ...
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Birth as every woman would like it to be

• Recommended by Lamaze International as one of the top ten books for pregnant women and their families

• Includes a 45-minute DVD of six live gentle births

• More than 32,000 copies sold of the original edition

New parents are faced with a myriad of choices about pregnancy, labor, and birth. In Gentle Birth Choices Barbara Harper, renowned childbirth advocate, nurse, former midwife, and mother of three, helps to clarify these choices and shows how to plan a meaningful, family-centered birth experience. She dispels medical myths and reimagines birth without fear, pain, or violence. Harper explains the numerous gentle birth choices available, including giving birth in an independent birth center, at home, or in a hospital birthing room; finding a primary caregiver who shares your philosophy of birth; and deciding how to best use current technologies. She also provides practical advice for couples wishing to explore the option of using a doula or water during labor and birth to avoid the unwanted effects of drugs and epidurals.

The Gentle Birth Choices DVD blends interviews with midwives and physicians and six actual births that illustrate the options of water birth, home birth, and vaginal birth after a prior Cesarean section. The DVD clearly reveals the strength of women during childbirth and the healthy and happy outcome of women exercising gentle birth choices. It is a powerful instructional tool, not only for expectant parents, but also for midwives, hospitals, birth centers, and doctors.
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Editorial Reviews

Gentle Birth Choices provides a new model of maternity care that reduces the need for high-tech crisis intervention and focuses instead on preparation and health.”
“A must-have for expectant mothers and their loved ones. . . . Gentle Birth Choices is an intelligent and sympathetic guide to birthing options that explores nontraditional ways that put women and their babies first.”
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781594778636
  • Publisher: Inner Traditions/Bear & Company
  • Publication date: 8/9/2005
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 320
  • File size: 3 MB

Meet the Author

Barbara Harper's passion for natural birth led to the founding in 1988 of Global Maternal/Child Health Association, a nonprofit organization dedicated to education and research about natural childbirth. She lectures worldwide on maternity care reform and water birth and is the author of Gentle Birth Choices. She lives outside of Portland, Oregon.

Suzanne lives near Durango in SW Colorado and works with the help of volunteer interns from across North America.

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Chapter 1

Gentle Beginnings

Human birth is the most miraculous, transformational, and mysterious event of our lives. It is also an experience that is shared by every single member of the human race. The birth experience indelibly imprints itself in the lives of both the mother who is giving birth and the baby who is being born.

A gentle birth begins by focusing on the mother’s experience and by bringing together a woman’s emotional dimensions and her physical and spiritual needs. A gentle birth respects the mother’s pivotal role, acknowledging that she knows how to birth her child in her own time and in her own way, trusting her instincts and intuition. In turn, when a mother gives birth gently, she and everyone present acknowledge that the baby is a conscious participant in his or her own birth. The experience empowers the birthing woman, welcomes the newborn child into a peaceful and loving environment, and bonds the family. The goal of a gentle birth is to reclaim the wonder and joy that are inherent in the beginning of a new life.

Gentle births occur throughout the world: in homes, where births have traditionally been natural and without intervention; in birthing centers, which are becoming more popular as women demand greater freedom in giving birth; and in some hospitals that are responding to the needs and desires of today’s families. Women worldwide are seeking more natural, family-centered ways to birth their children and experience this passage into motherhood as life affirming, without the suffering and trauma that have been traditionally associated with labor and delivery.

Ingredients for a Gentle Birth

Before describing the important elements of gentle birth, I want to point out that these are merely suggestions. Gentle birth is not a method or a set of rules that must be followed. Rather, it is an approach to birth that incorporates a woman’s own values and beliefs. Every birth is a powerful experience--sometimes painful, always transformational. Each birth is as unique as the woman giving birth and the baby being born. There is no illustrated owner’s manual.

Many women’s early social conditioning that makes them believe they are unable to give birth normally must be replaced with a newfound understanding of the philosophy of and the ideas behind gentle birth. When women realize that their bodies know how to give birth and that their babies know how to be born, they gain confidence. Only then is gentle birth a possibility.

A gentle birth takes place when a woman is supported by the people she chooses to be with during this most intimate time. She needs to be loved and nurtured by those around her so she can feel comfortable and secure enough to follow her natural instincts. A birthing woman must be trusted so she in turn can trust herself, her body, her partner, her baby, and this process of giving birth. Her intuition must be respected. During a natural gentle birth, a woman feels and senses the power of the birth and uses this energy to transform every part of her own being. A gentle birth is not rushed. The baby emerges at its own pace and in its own time, received into the hands of those who love and recognize it for the divine gift that it is.

Some of the most important ingredients for a natural gentle birth are described on the following pages. Each woman has individual needs and preferences, so again, use these elements only as guidelines.

The education that best prepares a woman for a gentle birth is one that empowers her through information and a belief in her ability to give birth naturally. The original childbirth educators were mothers who labored in front of their children and included them in the folk medicine of the day. Pregnant women asked their mothers about a pain or an ache, and the mothers responded by saying, “Oh, I had that with all three of you.” For the daughter to experience her mother giving birth is worth a whole course in childbirth education. In sharing her mother’s labor and giving birth, she learns about the essence of this miracle firsthand.

Today childbirth educators have taken over the job of mothers whose memories of birth were obliterated with drugs, unconsciousness, and the medical treatments of the day. There are many styles of education and preparation for birth. One of the most important components for all methods of childbirth preparation is a healthy attitude. Women pay attention to their bodies throughout their pregnancy by eating healthful foods, avoiding stress, sticking to a physical exercise program, being cautious about exposing themselves to harmful chemicals or toxins, and maintaining a positive emotional outlook. While preparing for a gentle birth, it’s important to keep an open mind as to how the birth will actually proceed. Flexibility is essential, because in some cases medical intervention may be necessary.

I recommend that a woman look into her attitudes, ideas, and beliefs about birth. This may include exploring her feelings about her sexuality, her relationship with the baby’s father, and her relationships with her parents. A woman who is comfortable with her sexuality will feel less inhibited sexually during the birth. A woman who has examined her own birth will not be likely to repeat the pattern of that birth in the one she is preparing for. A woman who has a good sense of herself will not be easily swayed away from what she knows to be right for herself. A woman who is at peace with her partner and her family members will find comfort in and draw strength from those bonds and will want to include those people in the birthing experience.

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Table of Contents

Foreword by Robbie Davis-Floyd



Chapter 1
Gentle Beginnings

Wonderfully Made
Ingredients for a Gentle Birth

Chapter 2
The Medicalization of Childbirth 
Our Legacy of Birth
From Midwife to Physician
The Promise of Science
Pain Relief: The Era of “Twilight Sleep”
Hospital Births for Everyone
Unmasking Prenatal Testing
Medical Legal Dilemmas
The Results of Medical Intervention

Chapter 3
Dispelling the Medical Myths

Myth: The Hospital is the Safest Place to Have a Baby
Myth: Maternity Care Should Be Managed Only by a Physician
Myth: The Electronic Fetal Monitor Will Save Babies
Myth: All Babies Should be Born On or Before Their Due Date
Myth: Drugs for Pain Relief Won’t Hurt the Baby
Myth: Once a Cesarean, Always a Cesarean
Myth: An Episiotomy Heals Better Than a Tear
Myth: Birth Needs to be Sterile
Myth: The Older You Are the More Difficult Your Birth Will Be
Myth: It’s Better Not to Eat or Drink during Labor
Myth: Family and Friends Interfere during Birth
Myth: The Baby Needs to be Observed in a Newborn Nursery
Myth: Baby Boys Need to Be Circumcised

Chapter 4
A Gentle Revolution

Birth without Fear
Birth without Pain
Birth without Violence
Birth Reborn
Birth without Rules
Birth with Consciousness
Women Take Back Their Births

Chapter 5
Midwifery In America: A Growing Tradition

The Midwives Model of Maternity Care
The Evolution of Midwifery
Midwifery Revolution
The Politics of Midwifery
A Midwife for Every Mother

Chapter 6

Why Waterbirth?
Waterbirth History
Beyond the Leboyer Bath
Labor Pools in France
Making Waves in the United States
The United Kingdom Takes the Plunge
Waterbirth around the World
Questions Everyone Asks About Waterbirth
Just For Providers
The Future of Waterbirth

Chapter 7
The Mind-Body Connection

Womb Ecology 
Mind-Body Response
Listening to Your Body
Listening to the Baby
Mind-Body Preparations for a Gentle Birth
The Sexuality of Childbirth
Holistic Prenatal Preparation
Mind, Body, Spirit in Unity

Chapter 8
Creating Gentle Birth Choices

Planning Your Birth
What Women Want
Consumers Create Choices
Health Care For All Women and Children by 2015

Appendix A: Questions to Ask a Doctor

Appendix B: Questions to Ask a Midwife

Appendix C: Sample Birth Plan

Appendix D: Sample Letter to Hospital

Appendix E: Resources



About the Photographs and the Photographers

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 4, 2013

    Gentle Birth Choices

    Great to read about having babies

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 4, 2010

    Great Book!

    I found this book to very informative and helpful. The author reviews a mother's options from a planned ceserean, to homebirth and everything in between. Its a great starting place for someone who might think there is only one way to have a baby, (eventually its coming out, one way or another) or for someone looking for options but really unsure of what options they do have. And its great to start the process of mentally preparing to give birth whichever way one chooses to give birth. The video is great. Prepare yourself. Birth is very intense in so many ways.

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