A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery

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Carnes offers us exercises, inventories, and guided reflections for those of us facing the daily challenges of attaining or maintaining an addiction-free lifestyle.

This revised edition of A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps is a treasure chest, a rich and powerful resource for anyone working a twelve-step program. Carnes is a gifted teacher and leader in ...

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Revised Edition.

Carnes offers us exercises, inventories, and guided reflections for those of us facing the daily challenges of attaining or maintaining an addiction-free lifestyle.

This revised edition of A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps is a treasure chest, a rich and powerful resource for anyone working a twelve-step program. Carnes is a gifted teacher and leader in the addiction recovery field.
Wendy Maltz, M.S.W., Sexual Healing Journey

This unique, non-threatening workbook emphasizes common themes at the heart of all Twelve Step fellowships...an especially clear explanation of what "working the program" means.
Claudia Black, Ph.D., It Will Happen to Me

The revised A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps gets my highest recommendation. It is a wonderful guide to the journey to restoration and healing.
Marilyn Murray, M.A., Prisoner of Another War

To get through difficult times, we need good friends, wise mentors and compassionate recovery programs. Pat Carnes and his twelve-step guide have been all of these to me, personally, and more. A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps Revised Edition is a principle guide to following the path of the many stages we encounter daily.
Brenda Schaeffer, Licensed Psychologist, Loving Me Loving You and Is It Love or Is It Addiction

A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps has already helped thousands and promises to help many more.
Mark R. Laaser, Ph.D., The Secret Sin: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781592858439
  • Publisher: Hazelden Publishing
  • Publication date: 6/5/2012
  • Edition number: 3
  • Pages: 340
  • Sales rank: 85,583
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 1.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Patrick J. Carnes, PhD, is the founder of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) and Gentle Path Press. His extensive background in the field of addiction therapy led Dr. Carnes to develop multiple cutting-edge recovery programs aimed at treating addictive disorders. He serves as executive director of the Gentle Path Program, a residential treatment program for sexual addiction in Hattiesburg, Miss.

With more than 30 years in the sexual addiction treatment field, Dr. Carnes continues to spread his extensive knowledge as a speaker, presenter and interview subject. His assessment tools and related materials deliver an unprecedented approach to addiction recovery for practitioners of addiction treatment and sexual addicts.

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Table of Contents

Introduction to the Updated and Expanded Edition 1

Introduction to the First Edition 5

The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous 6

The Neuroscience of Recovery 7

Working the Program 15

Step One 27

Affirmations 30

Consequences Inventory 32

Family Tree and Addiction 37

Addiction History 42

Abuse Checklist 51

Step One for Addicts 62

Step One for Coaddicts 81

First Step Lessons 103

Reflections on the First Step 109

The Recovering Brain 111

Celebrating Your Progress 112

Steps Two and Three 113

Spiritual Care Inventory 115

Loss-of-Reality Inventory 127

Paths to Spirituality 134

Spirituality Affirmations 156

One-Year-to-Live Fantasy 159

Letter to Your Higher Power 168

Reflections on the Second and Third Steps 169

Steps Four and Five 173

Fourth Step Inventories 177

Avoiding Personal Responsibility 177

Taking Personal Responsibility 180

Misuse of Anger 183

Positive Expression of Anger 187

Paralyzed by Fear 190

Respect for Fear 193

Falling into Self-sabotage 196

Taking Healthy Risks 200

Shameful Events 203

Pride in Your Achievements 206

Losses and Painful Events 210

Learning from Sadness 213

Beliefs about Your Unworthiness 216

Self-hatred 220

Self-affirmations 223

Reflections on the Fourth Step 225

Sharing Step Five: Suggestions for the Turning Point 226

Fifth Step Reconciliation Rite 229

Reflections on the Fifth Step 231

Steps Six and Seven 233

Affirmations 235

Step Six: Removing Character Defects 238

Seventh Step Meditation 240

Personal Craziness Index 243

Part 1 Preparation 243

Part 2 Recording Your PCI 249

Part 3 Interpretation of the PCI 251

Part 4 PCI Meditation 252

When Crises Occur-Acknowledge the Chaos 254

Reflections on the Sixth and Seventh Steps 256

Steps Eight and Nine 259

Record of Those Harmed and Amends Made 263

The Healer Within 268

Meditation 273

Affirmations 279

Reflections on the Eighth and Ninth Steps 281

Step Ten 285

Partial, Convenient, and Inconvenient Recovery 286

Balanced Equations: A Ten-Day Exercise for Steps Ten and Eleven 289

Creating a Life of Congruence 290

Day 1 Happiness = Satisfaction/Desires 292

Day 2 Growth = Change/Stability 294

Day 3 Serenity = Boundaries/Options 296

Day 4 Peace of Mind = Known to Others/Known to Self 298

Day 5 Reality = Light Side/Dark Side 300

Day 6 Achievement = Vision/Plan 302

Day 7 Intimacy = Fidelity to Self/Fidelity to Others 304

Day 8 Productivity = Being/Doing 306

Day 9 Health = Awareness/Practice 308

Day 10 Spirituality = Mortality/Meaning 310

Daily Tenth Step Inventory 312

Affirmations 313

Reflections on the Tenth Step 315

Step Eleven 317

Spiritual Quest Planning Sheet 320

Spiritual Quest Debriefing 321

Reflections on the Eleventh Step 323

Step Twelve 325

Twelfth Step Guide Affirmations 327

Sobriety Worksheets 329

Gifts of the Spirit 334

Beginning Again 335

Reflections on the Twelfth Step 338

Epilogue: Getting This Far 341

Appendices 343

A The Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous 343

B A Guide for Group Use 345

C The Wisdom of the Big Books 351

D Suggested Readings 355

E Twelve Step Support Group Information 359

F Recovery Resources from Dr. Patrick Carnes and Associates 367

Notes 369

About the Author 371

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