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A practical guide to help workers and managers deal with the self-sabotage that stands in the way of career advancement and satisfaction.
Self-defeating behavior is the most common reason that people put their jobs, careers, and reputations in jeopardy. Whether it's as simple as a breach of etiquette or a fear of learning new things, expecting too much from employers or failure to delegate, these behaviors lead to frustration, confusion, guilt, defensiveness, and self-doubt that will seriously hurt or even derail a career, no matter how intelligent or qualified a person might be.
Get Out of Your Own Way at Work covers forty of the most common self-defeating behaviors, explains why we sabotage ourselves, and offers proven steps to transform behavior from self-defeating to life-enhancing.
Illustrated with anecdotes and "useable insights" drawn from Dr. Goulston's more than twenty years in clinical and organization settings, Get Out of Your Own Way at Work shows anyone how to stop being their own worst enemy.
| Introduction : potential is a terrible thing to waste | 1 | |
| 1 | Procrastinating | 13 |
| 2 | Getting defensive | 19 |
| 3 | Staying too long in a job you should leave | 23 |
| 4 | Taking the bait | 29 |
| 5 | Not delegating | 35 |
| 6 | Talking over or at others | 41 |
| 7 | Being competent but out of touch | 47 |
| 8 | Not listening | 53 |
| 9 | Lacking self-discipline | 59 |
| 10 | Wasting time | 65 |
| 11 | Thinking you're indispensable | 71 |
| 12 | People pleasing | 75 |
| 13 | Feeling guilty | 81 |
| 14 | Not being able to take no for an answer | 87 |
| 15 | Not forgiving | 93 |
| 16 | Panicking | 99 |
| 17 | Quitting too soon | 105 |
| 18 | Using jargon | 109 |
| 19 | Worrying about what others think | 115 |
| 20 | Fear of learning new things | 121 |
| 21 | Being too blunt | 127 |
| 22 | Being closed off to input | 133 |
| 23 | Being unprepared | 139 |
| 24 | Being afraid to fire people | 145 |
| 25 | Expecting your boss to appreciate you | 149 |
| 26 | Fear of giving or receiving performance reviews | 155 |
| 27 | Confusing dumping with venting | 161 |
| 28 | Fear of confrontation | 165 |
| 29 | Making excuses | 173 |
| 30 | Focusing on your weaknesses | 179 |
| 31 | Being impulsive | 183 |
| 32 | Becoming frustrated | 187 |
| 33 | Being thin-skinned | 191 |
| 34 | Not learning from your mistakes | 197 |
| 35 | Not getting buy-in | 201 |
| 36 | Being devious | 207 |
| 37 | Typecasting | 213 |
| 38 | Setting your expectations too low | 219 |
| 39 | Assuming others understand you | 225 |
| 40 | Fear of failing | 231 |
| Epilogue : succeeding in life as well as at work | 235 | |
| App. 1 | Where self-defeating behavior starts | 240 |
| App. 2 | How self-defeating behavior develops | 241 |
| App. 3 | Twelve steps to getting out of your own way at work | 242 |
| App. 4 | The self-other inventory | 244 |
Anonymous
Posted December 18, 2005
As a career Marine Corps officer I have a special appreciation for tight writing and meaningful charts. If I had seen Dr. Ghoulston's charts, 'Where Self-Defeating Behavior Starts' and 'How Self-Defeating Behavior Develops' and read the brief explanations of them it would have profoundly changed the way I dealt with young Marines AND raised my children: both for the better! If we define strategy as the 'art of getting where you want to go' then Dr. Ghoulston provides a brilliant strategy for getting where we all want to go-- a more fulfilled life.
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Posted October 30, 2005
Peter Drucker has said that 'Half of the leaders that I have met don't need to learn what to DO - they need to learn what to STOP! 'Get Out of Your Own Way at Work' gives us some great guidelines on what to stop and, more importantly, great suggestions on how to improve!
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Overview
A practical guide to help workers and managers deal with the self-sabotage that stands in the way of career advancement and satisfaction.
Self-defeating behavior is the most common reason that people put their jobs, careers, and reputations in jeopardy. Whether it's as simple as a breach of etiquette or a fear of learning new things, expecting too much from employers or failure to delegate, these behaviors lead to frustration, confusion, guilt, defensiveness, and self-doubt that...