Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming

by Richard Bandler
Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming

by Richard Bandler

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Overview

Richard Bandler is known worldwide as the cofounder of neurolinguistic programming (NLP). Here, in what will be considered a classic, is Bandler at his best—the most accessible and engaging work yet, detailing his proven methods that have freed tens of thousands of people worldwide of their destructive habits, phobias,and fears.

When conventional therapy and drugs fail, Richard Bandler delivers, often with miraculous results. Richard Bandler cocreated the field of NLP with John Grinder in the early 1970s. Since then, Bandler's work revolutionized the field of personal change; his models and methods have been widely adopted and used successfully in colleges and universities, therapists'offices, professional sports teams, and businesses across the globe.

While many people have written books on NLP, much of what has been written is based on Bandler's ideas. Get The Life You Want shares 'the how' from Bandler himself, with remarkable insights into some of his greatest and most advanced work to date, including compelling true examples from client sessions. With more than thirty exercises that promise rapid relief from any problem or habit, plus a glossary of terms and a detailed index, this is a culmination of a lifetime of work written in a simple, engaging style that both clinicians and laypeople will find effective.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780757324994
Publisher: Health Communications, Incorporated
Publication date: 06/06/2023
Pages: 264
Sales rank: 521,855
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Richard Bandler's books have sold more than half a million copies worldwide. Tens of thousands of people, many of them therapists, have studied Bandler's blend of hypnosis, linguistics, and positive thinking at colleges and NLP training centers in the United States, Europe, and Australia. He is the author of Using Your Brain—for a Change, Time for Change, Magic in Action, and The Structure of Magic. He coauthored Frogs into Princes, Persuasion Engineering, The Structure of Magic Volume II, and Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson Volume I.

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RUNNING YOUR OWN BRAIN: Changing Your
NeuroChemistry

One of the main focuses in my work has been discovering ways to help people achieve what I call 'personal freedom'. Personal freedom means having the freedom to be able to control your thoughts and to manifest the kinds of feelings you want in your life.

We are often imprisoned by the chains of our thoughts and we allow ourselves to think ourselves into problems. However, since most problems are created by our imagination and are thus imaginary, all we need are imaginary solutions. So, here are some effective ways of controlling your thinking for a change.

Think of a time when you felt really good. Now, step inside that time and see through your eyes, hear through your ears, and feel the really good feeling all the way through your body. Make the images bigger, brighter, more colorful, and you'll probably find yourself feeling even better. Make the sounds louder and crisper, and if there are no sounds, add sounds. Start to intensify the good feeling.

Next, find out where in your body the feeling starts and where it goes. Discover the direction it spins inside your body, and spin it faster and faster and, again, notice your feelings intensify. There lies the control you have over your brain to create powerful feelings inside of you.

You can then attach these feelings to other thoughts. If you keep spinning this feeling inside your body and you think about your future while it's spinning, you will start to associate the feeling with your future. By doing this, you will start to feel better about your future.

How to Feel Wonderful Exercise

1 - Think of a time you felt wonderful.
2 - Close your eyes and imagine that time in vivid detail. See the image clearly, hear the sounds loudly, remember the feelings as they were then.
3 - Imagine yourself stepping into that experience and imagine being in that memory as if it's happening now. See what you'd see, hear what you'd hear, feel how good you'd feel. Make the colors stronger and brighter if that helps. Notice how you were breathing back then, and breathe that way now.
4 - Pay attention to the wonderful feeling in your body and get a sense of where the feeling starts, where it goes, and the direction it moves in. Imagine taking control over the feeling and spinning it faster and faster and stronger and stronger through your body as the feelings increase.
5 - Think of a time in the future where you could use these good feelings. Spin these feelings throughout your body as you think about the future and the things you are doing over the next few weeks. Don't be too surprised if you find yourself feeling really good for absolutely no reason.

Similarly too, if you find yourself in a negative or unresourceful state, you can change your mood by changing the qualities of the feeling.

For example, think about somebody who annoys you, intimidates you, or irritates you. Make an image of him and see him look at you in whatever way he looks at you when he is annoying you. Hear him say whatever it is he says and notice the bad feeling that happens in your body.

Next, take this image and make it black and white. Move it far off into the distance. Make it much smaller, one-eighth its size. Place a clown's nose on his face. Hear him say whatever it is he says, but hear him say it in Mickey Mouse's, Donald Duck's, or Sylvester the Cat's voice. This changes the feeling you have toward him and allows you to deal with him with more confidence and effectiveness.

Changing Bad Feelings Exercise

1 - Think about somebody who annoys you, intimidates you, or irritates you. Make an image of him and see him look at you in whatever way he looks at you when he is annoying you. Hear him say whatever it is he says and notice the bad feeling that happens in your body.
2 - Take this image and make it black and white. Move it far off into the distance. Make it much smaller, one-eighth its size. Place a clown's nose on his face.
3 - Hear him say whatever it is he says, but hear him say it in Mickey Mouse's, Donald Duck's, or Sylvester the Cat's voice.
4 - Notice how you feel differently. Then distract yourelf for a few moments and think of him again. You will still be feeling differently about him.
When you practice using your brain in this way, you will find yourself feeling really good a lot more often. Achieving personal freedom is all about developing new mental habits and skills and getting used to mentally running your brain the way you choose to run it.

The next element I want to cover is the process of dealing with beliefs.


©2008. Richard Bandler. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Get the Life You Want. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc., 3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442

Table of Contents


Foreword   Paul McKenna, Ph.D.     xi
A Note from Owen Fitzpatrick, Editor     xiii
Preface     xix
Introduction     xxi
Getting to Know Your Own Brain-Taking Your Mental Inventory
The Power of Your Unconscious: The Freeway to Change     3
The Qualities of Your Thoughts: Understanding Submodalities     7
Running Your Own Brain: Changing Your Neurochemistry     13
Building New Beliefs: The Structure of Certainty     19
Timelines: Learning How You Mentally Code Time     31
Getting Over It
Getting Over Bad Suggestions     37
Getting Over Fears and Phobias     47
Getting Over Bad Memories     63
Getting Over Grief     73
Getting Over Bad Relationships     79
Getting Over Bad Decisions     87
Getting Through It
Getting Through Habits and Compulsions     103
Getting Through Physical Recovery     119
Getting Through Resignation     125
Getting Through Big Events     131
Getting Through Tests (Exams and Interviews)     135
Getting Through Obligations     141
Getting To It
Getting To Fun     153
Getting To Love     157
Getting To MeetPeople     165
Getting To Important Duties (Taxes and Study)     173
Getting To Exercise     183
Getting To Be More Organized     189
Getting To Make More Money     193
Getting To Make Big Decisions     199
Conclusion     207
Glossary     211
Recommended Reading     215
The Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Richard Bandler Licensing Agreement     219
Index     221

What People are Saying About This

Robert Holden

'I know your life is about to change for the better. Why? Because you want it to, and because you have this book in your hands. With Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change and your willingness, you really can shift your life—starting from now."

—Robert Holden, Ph.D., author of Shift Happens! and Happiness NOW

Michael Neill

'For years, anyone wanting to learn directly from Richard Bandler had two choices: pay hundreds or even thousands of dollars to attend a live training or settle for material in books that, while excellent, were ten to thirty years behind the cutting edge. With this new book, Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change, the cutting edge has finally arrived—and it's sharper than ever!'

-- Michael Neill, author, You Can Have What You Want

From the Publisher

'Richard Bandler has made an extraordinary contribution to people's lives across the planet. His highly powerful personal change techniques have enabled millions around the world to feel better about themselves and improve their lives. He gets results that nobody else can. Read Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change: It will change your life.'

— Paul McKenna, Ph.D., coauthor of I Can Make You Thin and host of TLC's I Can Make You Thin

'I know your life is about to change for the better. Why? Because you want it to, and because you have this book in your hands. With Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change and your willingness, you really can shift your life—starting from now."

— Robert Holden, Ph.D., author of Shift Happens! and Happiness NOW

'For years, anyone wanting to learn directly from Richard Bandler had two choices: pay hundreds or even thousands of dollars to attend a live training or settle for material in books that, while excellent, were ten to thirty years behind the cutting edge. With this new book, Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change, the cutting edge has finally arrived—and it's sharper than ever!'

— Michael Neill, author, You Can Have What You Want

Paul McKenna

'Richard Bandler has made an extraordinary contribution to people's lives across the planet. His highly powerful personal change techniques have enabled millions around the world to feel better about themselves and improve their lives. He gets results that nobody else can. Read Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change: It will change your life.'

-- Paul McKenna, Ph.D., coauthor of I Can Make You Thin and host of TLC's I Can Make You Thin

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