Get Your Loved One Sober

Get Your Loved One Sober

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by Robert J Meyers, Brenda L. Wolfe

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Historically there have been few options available for individuals seeking help for treatment-resistant loved ones suffering from substance abuse.

Co-author Dr. Robert Meyers spent ten years developing a treatment program that helps Concerned Significant Others (CSOs) both improve the quality of their lives and to learn how to make treatment an attractive option


Historically there have been few options available for individuals seeking help for treatment-resistant loved ones suffering from substance abuse.

Co-author Dr. Robert Meyers spent ten years developing a treatment program that helps Concerned Significant Others (CSOs) both improve the quality of their lives and to learn how to make treatment an attractive option for their partners who are substance abusers. Get Your Loved One Sober describes this multi-faceted program that uses supportive, non-confrontational methods to engage substance abusers into treatment. Called Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT), the program uses scientifically validated behavioral principles to reduce the loved one's substance use and to encourage him or her to seek treatment. Equally important, CRAFT also helps loved ones reduce personal stress and introduce meaningful, new sources of satisfaction into their life.

Key Features:

  1. CRAFT is more effective than other types of interventions.
  2. This breakthrough new system is sweeping the recovery field. This is its first introduction to the general public.
  3. Contains simple exercises readers can practice at their own pace, with no costly or heart-breaking interventions.
  4. Proven successful for numerous addictions, not just alcoholism.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
"With a map, directions, and the family in the driver's seat, Get Your Loved One Sober is an important book for any family affected by alcohol abuse."
—Claudia Black, PhD, author of It Will Never Happen to Me

"For decades it was believed that there was nothing one could do to help substance-abusing loved ones until they hit bottom or that heavy-handed confrontational tactics were necessary. Bob Meyers has developed a remarkably effective and gentle method for working through family members and concerned significant others to help their 'unmotivated' loved ones get into treatment. It is no longer necessary to feel helpless and hopeless. This book offers clear and practical advice based on solid scientific research."
—William R. Miller, PhD, distinguished professor of psychology and psychiatry and author of Motivational Interviewing

"Get Your Loved One Sober is an outstanding resource for persons dealing with loved ones who refuse to get help for their substance abuse problem. Years of research show that the approach described in this book works. I highly recommend it."
—Timothy O'Farrell, PhD, chief of the Families and Addiction Program, Harvard Medical School, Department of Psychiatry

'If you feel like your life is out of control because of someone else's substance abuse, this book will put you in the driver's seat with research-based strategies that can make life infinitely better—for you and your loved one. Get Your Loved One Sober fills a void for everyday people as well as professionals who feel helpless and hopeless concerning substance abusers in their lives. Clearly written and engaging, this book can move you from feeling like a passive victim to becoming an empowered, active player in helping a loved one overcome a drinking problem."
—Anne M. Fletcher, MS, RD, LD, author of Sober for Good: New Solutions for Drinking Problems—Advice from Those Who Have Succeeded and recipient of the Research Society on Alcoholism Journalism Award

"Lucid and clear, this book will help those who love an addicted person find the practical steps they need to take to facilitate change. I recommend it highly."
—Thomas Bien, PhD, coauthor of Mindful Recovery and Finding the Center Within

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Can This Book Help You?

If you live with or love someone who drinks or drugs too much, this book can help you. This book offers you a program that has been proven to help people whose lives are affected by a problem drinker, a drug user, or someone who does both. If you feel stuck in a hopeless, substance-ruled life, this book can help you. If you have ever called, or wanted to call, a crisis line, clinic, or hospital and said, "Help, my husband is drinking himself to death" or "Help, my kid stays out all night getting high, and I'm scared to death," this book can help. You will also find help here if alcohol or drugs are destroying your marriage or scaring your children. Whether you are the wife, husband, lover, parent, son, daughter, or friend of an alcoholic or drug user, this book offers you the tools both to help you help your loved one find the path to sobriety and to improve your own life.

Throughout the book you will notice that we primarily illustrate our points with alcohol abusers. The program, however, has been proven to be effective with loved ones who abuse a wide variety of substances ranging from alcohol and marijuana to heroin and crack. Thus, you can effectively apply the program to your loved one regardless of the substance of abuse.

If you have "tried everything" and nothing has worked, but you are not ready to give up, then you are in the right place. The scientifically validated program on which this book is based has been designed specifically for people who feel they have "tried it all." They have scolded, nagged, begged, bribed, detached, and tried a few tricks not fit to print. Just like you, they love their drinkers enough to keep trying and trying. What they have not done (and what we will teach you to do) is use that love to change the way they and their drinkers interact so that they spend less time feeling miserable and their loved ones discover the pleasure in being sober. From where we sit, that's an awfully good deal. We are confident that you will also find it to be so.

Of course, we cannot guarantee that every single problem will be solved. What we can promise is that we will teach you skills to regain control of your life and to offer your drinker the best help available. In some cases, applying these skills does not result in complete abstinence and happily-ever-after—but in most cases, it does result in a better life for you and in sobriety for your drinker. The happily-ever-after is up to you and your loved one to create.

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I love this book! When you have a loved one that has an addiction it's hard to know what to do. This book helps you to help them make the right choices. Because its ultimately up to them to stay sober. But this helps give you the coping skills needed to help them to realize its much better to live a sober life, not for you , but for themselves. We have tried everything to help keep my daughter sober after she became addicted to the pain medication the Doctors put her on. Her husband tried everything and nothing worked. But now not only has she been staying sober, but she has come to grips with the lies and stealing that come with addiction. It is still a daily struggle for her and we all had to learn to adjust to help her to keep sober. But the most important part is that she now tells us when her triggers That caused her to fail before. Now when they hit we can help her support her to stay sober. We now have a happy daughter, wife, sister and mother again.
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