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Getting Your Share: A Woman's Guide to Successful Divorce Strategies


A woman's guide to successful divorce strategies.

A complete step-by-step guide to steer women through the legal, financial, tactical and emotional minefields of divorce.

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A woman's guide to successful divorce strategies.

A complete step-by-step guide to steer women through the legal, financial, tactical and emotional minefields of divorce.

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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Faced with statistics--that under today's no-fault divorce laws the living standards of newly divorced women decline by 73% while those of men rise by 42%--women contemplating divorce might well heed the advice contained in this comprehensive, precise guide. Starting with selection of a skillful and congenial lawyer, Brenner, who heads the matrimonial department of a New York City law firm, and Stein, former editor-in-chief of McCall's and Redbook , explain each phase of divorce preparation. They also detail the court procedures that can achieve fair division of property, and go over other provisions for ensuring a family's long-term financial welfare and emotional health, including issues of custody, visitation, occupancy of home, etc. With no two divorces the same, they note, strategy depends on a wife's age and that of their children, her earning potential and on her securing accurate, negotiable information regarding her husband's assets, priorities and motives. Chapters on the emotionally wrenching issues of child custody and support are particularly perceptive, as are passages dealing with post-divorce trauma and transition. (Aug.)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780595162802
  • Publisher: iUniverse, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 1/28/2001
  • Pages: 196
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.45 (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction: The New Rules of the Game 1
How the laws are hurting women
What you can do to protect yourself and your children
How to get the most out of this book
1 The Right Lawyer for You 7
How to find, question, and pick an attorney
Eight kinds of lawyers to avoid
Should you choose a man or woman?
The "toughness" factor
How divorce lawyers feel about women as clients
What your divorce will cost
How to make sure you don't overpay
Your rights as a client
2 Your Husband Is No Longer Your Partner 23
Overcoming the "Trust Me" Syndrome
How to protect yourself: what to do about joint accounts, credit cards, safe-deposit boxes
The dangers of moving out or locking him out
Should you sleep in the same bedroom?
How to deal with threats and pressure
3 The Opening Legal Moves 32
How your lawyer will start a divorce action
What happens if your husband resists?
Steps your lawyer can take to get you temporary support, shield you from abuse, keep your husband from hiding the family money
How to protect yourself if you are having an affair
Can you hold on to a husband who wants to leave?
Will your lawyer pressure you to go through with a divorce?
4 Old-Fashioned Detective Work and Space-Age Accounting 44
What wives don't know about the family money
The records your lawyer needs and how to get them
The "discovery" process to uncover hidden assets and income
What if everything is in his name?
The surprising property you are entitled to--if you can find it
The importance of pinning down the value of what you own
How to get your share of his pension
5 The "Passages" of Divorce 57
Why your friends' divorces are no guide to your own
The special needs of and strategies for: The young woman with a brief marriage
The young mother of pre-school children
The working woman with school-age children
The full-time housewife with children still at home
The woman with grown children who has worked throughout her marriage
The older homemaker who has not held a paying job during her marriage
6 "Isn't He Going to Pay for What He Did?" 70
What "no-fault laws" really mean
Does it matter who ends the marriage and why?
How to stop being bullied
The best way to punish an unfaithful husband
Dealing with his wounded pride when you have found someone else
How to win a judge's sympathy
7 Negotiating to Get What You Deserve 80
The unexpected problems that come up in a "reasonable" agreement
How your lawyer can use leverage to get you what you want
Ways women undermine their bargaining position
Your role in the negotiations
Taking advantage of a husband's blind spots
When and how to settle
A sure way to test your doubts about a proposed agreement
8 How to Protect Your Children Psychologically 99
The problem of "custody blackmail"
How parents use their children as weapons
What you can do to prevent a court contest
The difference between legal custody and where children live
How judges decide when both parents want custody
What you must do at a trial
Will the children have to testify?
Five questions to answer before you agree to joint custody
Your husband's and your in-laws' visitation rights
9 How to Protect Your Children Financially 112
The new state guidelines for child support and what they do
How to calculate your child-care costs
Ways to guarantee that he will pay
The expenses to anticipate and how to provide for them in an agreement
The best way to prevent future arguments over support and visitation
10 Going to Trial 123
If your lawyer recommends against a trial, should you get a new lawyer?
What it takes to change a judge's mind
A step-by-step guide to preparing for a trial
How to be your own best witness
The art of coping with cross-examination
When your lawyer can denounce your husband
The judge's decision
Your lawyer's last-minute chance to gain advantages for you
11 It's Over--Isn't It? 145
The emotional aftermath of divorce
A checklist of legal and financial steps to starting your single life
What to do about managing your money
Where to get help with the psychological scars of divorce
How to handle the post-divorce legal problems that come up
The rewards of making peace with your former husband
12 What Every Happily Married Woman Must Know About Divorce 155
The lessons of divorce
How the no-fault laws have changed the marriage contract
What wives can do to protect themselves without hurting their husbands
The question of pre-nuptial and post-nuptial contracts
Changing the laws to give women better protection
Appendix A The Legal Steps in Divorce 167
Appendix B State-by-State Laws 173
Acknowledgments 176
Index 177
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