The Gift of Anger: Seven Steps to Uncover the Meaning of Anger and Gain Awareness, True Strength, and Peace by Marcia Cannon, Paperback | Barnes & Noble
The Gift of Anger: Seven Steps to Uncover the Meaning of Anger and Gain Awareness, True Strength, and Peace

The Gift of Anger: Seven Steps to Uncover the Meaning of Anger and Gain Awareness, True Strength, and Peace

by Marcia Cannon
     
 

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Anger is a natural response to feelings of hurt, betrayal, and embarrassment, and a reliable outlet when we feel just plain stressed out. Yet many of us see anger as a negative, potentially dangerous emotion that should be suppressed.

But the truth is, anger is a gift—a natural, internal signal that unfailingly identifies an opportunity for healing and

Overview

Anger is a natural response to feelings of hurt, betrayal, and embarrassment, and a reliable outlet when we feel just plain stressed out. Yet many of us see anger as a negative, potentially dangerous emotion that should be suppressed.

But the truth is, anger is a gift—a natural, internal signal that unfailingly identifies an opportunity for healing and growth. The Gift of Anger shows you how to recognize this signal, discover the deeper meaning behind your anger, and change the relationships and situations in your life that frustrate you. In seven simple and effective steps, this book guides you past any level of anger, from mild irritation to rage, and toward a balanced approach to using anger for greater understanding and well-being.

By learning to see anger as a gift, you'll be able to:

  • Regain emotional balance after becoming angry
  • Identify and name the unmet needs at the root of your anger
  • Create an action plan for ensuring your needs are met
  • Understand and forgive others and have compassion for yourself

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Using anger-resolution techniques learned from other therapists and refined for her own clients, psychotherapist Cannon offers a seven-step blueprint for utilizing the positive potential of anger while dissolving its negative impulse. Cannon's process includes recognizing physical symptoms and mental patterns of anger and using a safe method, such as breathing deeply, to discharge one's initial rush of emotion; describing feelings about the anger-provoking experience by writing a self-discovery letter; and writing an affirmation statement that one's feelings and actions during the anger-provoking experience were correct. The other steps are identifying one's unmet need; deciding how to fill this need and taking manageable steps to do so, congratulating oneself after each step; exploring the other person's frame of reference during the angering incident; and freeing oneself by offering forgiveness to the person who angered one. If you're angry with yourself, Cannon offers a twist on the original with a nine-step gift-of-anger process, but this feels confusing and tacked on. The writing is pedestrian throughout, and although Cannon's process provides many helpful tools for self-knowledge and the harnessing of one's emotional turmoil, her anger-resolution techniques are best suited to accompany professional therapy or anger management sessions. (Apr.)
From the Publisher
The Gift of Anger is a concise and easily followed guide to understanding and managing anger. By weaving together simple and graspable case examples and insightful broad principles, Marcia Cannon shows us a way to enhance our emotional competence in an important domain.”
—Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., director of Stanford Forgiveness Project and author of Forgive for Good

“Cannon’s book is an invaluable tool for thoroughly and soulfully mining the experience of anger for all of its gifts of insight, depth, and growth.”
—Kathy Carlson, Ph.D., MFT, psychotherapist, writer, and documentary filmmaker

“No anger is needed to benefit from reading this exceptional book. This is a manual written by a gifted therapist who looks at the positive effects anger can have on one’s life.”
—Linda L. Haase, ABT, RM, is an Asian Bodywork therapist and Reiki master in Johns Creek, GA

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781572249660
Publisher:
New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:
03/01/2011
Pages:
192
Sales rank:
1,109,726
Product dimensions:
5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.50(d)

Meet the Author

Marcia Cannon, Ph.D., MFT, is a marriage and family therapist who has taught people how to use their anger positively for more than fifteen years. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and conducts talks and workshops on the gift of anger process for organizations and groups nationwide. For a current schedule of talks and workshops, or to have Cannon speak at your event, please e-mail marcia@giftofanger.com or visit www.giftofanger.com.

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