The Girls from Ames: A Story of Women and a Forty-Year Friendship

A Touching Moment!

This book truly exceeded my expectations. I was not sure what I was going to get out of reading this book. Jeffrey produced such a wonderful insight into these womens lives. This book made me laugh, cry, contemplate things I am doing in my life and appreciate the things that I already have in my life. I am also looking forward to things that are in the future for me and the Ames girls gave me hope. Thank you for a wonderful experience.

3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

Close to my heart

I saw this book reviewed in a magazine and new I needed to pick it up..so I did at 5 pm and read it straight through until I was done. I could relate on so many levels, I am 47 and grew up in Grand Ledge, Michigan-small town farm town. I also have close friends from my youth, one living near me in California where I have live for 20 plus years. I know those people in that book, the ups, downs marriage-kids-divorce and death. I reccomend it to woman of any age but of course those close to middle age because it is so easy to relate. It made me want to send an e-mail,pick up the phone and call my friends. It also was great to share the stories with my daughter who is 18,at College and dealing with the same issues women deal with,other women and the men in their lives. I can't wait to pass it on to someone I love. I wish the women well and thank them for sharing their memories good and bad.

3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

Awesome look at relationships between women

I've had the great blessing of getting away for a few days every year for the past 18 years with 7 of the best girl friends anyone can ask for. We just had our annual reunion a month ago at one of the girls beautiful new home on Green Turtle Cay. One of the other girls bought each one of us this book because it made her think of us. We started trying to figure out which one of us was which woman in the book (who are approximately our age by the way, but we didn't become friends until college). I'm still reading it, others have finished and commented and we all are enjoying. Thanks Stacey!

1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

good bookgroup discussion

this was a good book to provoke discussion at book group, mostly about our experiences and how they mirrored those of the girls from ames. with so many girls, it was hard to keep track of who was who, but i just kept reading. i was disappointed that there was no real resolution on what happened to sheila and found that sally forgiving the intervention a little unbelievable, but it's a true story.

1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

Courtesy of Mother Daughter Book Club.com

The Girls from Ames follows the 40-year friendship of 11 women from Ames, Iowa. Though they are now living in places all over the country, these women have continued to nurture the friendship they built in their school days. They have been available to support each other during the high points of their lives as well as when they faced personal crises.

While I was not always interested in the details of these women's lives-after all how many of us can say that what we liked in high school would be fascinating for others to read about-I was struck by the value their friendship has brought them in so many ways.

The topics of friendship, family, personal response to tragedy and having a place to call home are prominent throughout The Girls from Ames. Stories are told about the girls and women as individuals, and to illustrate the role they each play as a member of the group.

When I started reading the story, I worked hard to keep track of each woman and her circumstances, but I soon came to feel that each person's importance is more as a representation of the kind of person she is than as an individual in this specific group. Often, things they said or did reminded me of people I know in my own life.

In the end I felt The Girls from Ames by Jeffrey Zaslow provides a way for us to reflect on and talk about the value of long-time friendship in our lives. I believe it should prompt discussions within a mother-daughter book clubs with girls aged 16 and up about their own relationships.

1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

Absolutely loved it.

I read about this book in a magazine. It was in their "summer reading" section, so I went and picked it up. I thought it was wonderful. (and it's non-fiction!) You get connected to the girls and their life stories. The pictures the author includes are great- you get to see what the girls really look like back then and today. I just think this is an important book for a girlfriend and her friends to read. The story of friendship that lasts throughout the years, sticking through it no matter what. It has some sad parts, but totally worth the tears to read it. I plan on buying copies for my closest girlfriends too. Great book. Definitely recommend it.

1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

Sounded good but NO!!! What could have been a great novel about a group of women was a terribly written documentary that went beyond boring. It would have been good had one of the women written their story and left Jeffrey Zaslow to his own work.

I could not get through the first half and returned the book to the store.

1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

An engrossing read, a true friendship account.

I was surprised by the format, a chapter about each of the friends, not what I expected. But an engrossing read. Once I got into it, I found it hard to put down. The author does a good job of remaining objective as an observer, engaging my curiousi. Marilyn was my favorite charcter. I found myself wishing these girls had been my friends, yet it caused me to recall childhood friendships with great pleasure. For these women to have all remained close thru their whole lives is a wonderful thing. I am interested to see how our book club reviews it.

Fascinating till the last page

Fantastic book about those special relationships women share-a must read if you ever had a BBF and still treasure them today!

Awesome book

This is a great book about lasting friendship between women. I have actually met a Karla and Karen. Jennifer Benson now Jennifer Litchman is actually my boss!

read. march 2011

read march 2011

Recommend you buy the print version

Loved the book, but definitely disliked the ebook version. Wish I'd had the print version. Could barely decipher all the photos included and had a lot of trouble toggling back to pages to see photos when necessary to check who was who during the story.

Kritters Ramblings

Do you keep in contact with those friends from childhood? Do you have girls that you call with all of the good and bad news before anyone else? Are there friendships worth fighting distance, time constraints and obstacles? YES!

The Girls From Ames was a great book about 11 women who through many different ways came be a very close knit group of girls who have shared absolutely ALL the ups and downs that life can throw at anyone. Divorces, miscarriages and loves lost all bring them together even though they live in very different parts of the US. They have also been able to celebrate many good times from healthy children, job promotions and the men who make their lives complete.

I absolutely loved this book. I cried. I laughed. I wanted to call all the girls that are currently in my life and those who have been in and out to thank them for their listening ears and the moments we have had. Whether you have kept in touch with childhood friends or not, this book is definitely one to go to pick up and fast.

Left Me Laughing, Crying and a Little Bit Jealous

The Girls from Ames: A Story of Women & a Forty~Year Friendship is an intimate look at the friendships of eleven women over a forty~year period. Interspersed with studies that highlight the importance of the development and maintenance of close relationships in the health and well~being of women, The Girls from Ames is part sociology study, part biography and part cultural reference book. The women came of age just at the tail end of the Baby Boom, so they are the immediate benefactors of the women's rights movement and other social changes that marked the 60s, 70s and 80s. It was fun to read about the different hairstyles and clothes the women wore and the music they listened to as their stories unfolded, these cultural references provided a musical and visual backdrop against which their stories could be shared by women from different walks of life.

During a weekend reunion, the women shared the details of their relationships (some good, some bad) with author, Jeffrey Zaslow. They also invited him to look at scrapbooks, read emails, interview friends, quasi~enemies and family to find out what has kept the girls so closely knit when other relationships have unraveled. At points, it seemed that the ladies' relationships were ebbing but the women proved that they did not need constant contact to remain close, especially when email came about and they were able to simply hit "Reply All."

The women have supported each other through elementary school, high school and beyond. They've offered shoulders to cry on when they've been given devastating news and they've given tough love when it was warranted. But more than anything else, they've been there for each other. Even when they didn't agree with the choices that the other was making, they let their feeling be known and then they offered support... That the women were able to love each other unconditionally, even when the other's choices conflicted with their religious or moral beliefs was one of the things that stood out most to me ~ unconditional, unfailing, all~encompassing love.

In many ways, you can tell the author is a journalist; each vignette is punctuated by studies that point out the importance of life~long friendships to women and their health. At first, I found the analysis to be intrusive and more than a bit annoying, however, by the end of the book, I was impressed with how much these women supported the data presented. The overriding conclusion of all of the data presented in the book and supported by the women's lives indicates that women who have strong friendships live happier and healthier lives ~ and when diagnosed with an illness, their chances of survival are increased significantly.

Part of the charm of this story is that each woman offers something to the reader with which they can identify, but more than that is the emotional tug~of~war of the story. At points, I found myself laughing and other times I found myself crying. In the end, I found myself a whole lot jealous. These women have the type of friendship that goes beyond the casual acquaintances that many of us share. They are soul sisters in every sense of the word. I believe the greatest lesson to be learned from this book is to treasure the people around you and never take anyone for granted.


Disclosure: I received this book free from Penguin Group in exchange for a review. I am not required to write a positive review, just an honest one.

This was an article not a book

For all women who have a close circle of friends, Mr. Zaslow reinforces what we already know. He reminds us that we support each other most of the time and that our friendships are nurturing. His book left me flat though, providing little insight or true character development. I was frankly bored most of the time.

Not for the lady who does not like getting together with old friends

In my book club, we had one lady 80+ who has kept in touch with her friends. No one else in the group was in touch with old friends like her. As a result I think older ladies may appreciate it more than younger.

Friendships

This was a great book. I have a group of 10 college friends and so far it's a 10 year friendship. I was able to relate stories from this book to my friendships and it taught me a lot about how friendships continue, go through highs and lows and need to be given a priority.

For any woman with close friends...

This book touched my heart. A girlfriend sent it to me, and I passed it on to others. Through this one story of female friendship, Jeffrey Zaslow tells the story of the beauty of all femail frienships. You will laugh, you will cry - you will relate. Enjoy!

Easy to read but got nothing out of it.

Read this for a book club and can think of many other ways I could have more productively spent my time. Glad the Girls from Ames have each other but didn't find much of value in the book other than "life can be hard; it is good to have friends." Not exactly an earthshattering concept. Lacked depth. If you are looking for an easy read and enjoy reading about others' quite normal lives, go for it.

What does it take to have friendships last a lifetime?

The girls are wonderful honest about themselves and each other in this reflective book. The girls share very personal moments in their lives and how it impacted them and their friends. They acknowledge when they feel they have let one another down and how that helped them to grow and become a better person as a result.

To date, the girls get together each year (although they are constantly in touch). If you have a friend or friendships that have lasted a considerable period of time, what has made your friendship(s) endure?

The author was extremely sensitive to each of the girls and, despite being given access to their journals, notes, and conversations, made sure that what was written was not embellished or taken out of context. So, when you sit down to read this wonderful book, you will feel that you are there with the author viewing forty years of friendships.