Girltalk: All the Stuff Your Sister Never Told You

Girltalk: All the Stuff Your Sister Never Told You

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by Carol Weston
     
 

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From bra shopping to babysitting, from making close friends to making great grades, Girltalk has all the answers

Upbeat and up-to-date, honest and hip, Girltalk is an "indispensable guide" (Working Mother) for girls ages eleven to eighteen. This Fourth Edition is the ultimate preteen and teen source for advice on:

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From bra shopping to babysitting, from making close friends to making great grades, Girltalk has all the answers

Upbeat and up-to-date, honest and hip, Girltalk is an "indispensable guide" (Working Mother) for girls ages eleven to eighteen. This Fourth Edition is the ultimate preteen and teen source for advice on:

  • Body: looking and feeling your best
  • Friendship: you don't like everybody — why should everybody like you?
  • Love: falling in, falling out
  • Sex: what you should know before saying yes
  • Family: making the best of your nest
  • Education: getting through school, getting into college
  • Money: making it, saving it, spending it
  • Smoking, Drinking, and Drugs: advice without lectures
  • Quizzes: getting to know yourself

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780060585754
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
07/20/2004
Pages:
448
Sales rank:
425,801
Product dimensions:
5.31(w) x 8.00(h) x 1.00(d)
Age Range:
12 - 18 Years

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Girltalk Fourth Edition
All the Stuff Your Sister Never Told You

Chapter One

Looking and Feeling Your Best

Too fat, too flat, too tall, too small -- are you 100 percent happy with your appearance? Hardly anyone is. It's especially hard now. Your body may be growing in all directions, blemishes may freckle your face, hair may be sprouting here and there, your period may be a mystery. What is going on inside you anyway? Are you stuck with your features and figure?

Looks make a difference in first impressions. But so do friendliness, intelligence, thoughtfulness, and a sense of humor. And with a little effort, anybody can look attractive.

Since you and your body are together for the long haul, you need to learn to take care of it. This chapter is about how to be your most healthy and radiant.

Do Guys Worry About Their Bodies?

Before we launch into a discourse about breasts and periods, you might be wondering if guys ever worry about their bodies. Answer: They do.

Sure, a few wink in the mirror each morning and think they're God's Gift to Manhood—and Womankind. But most wrestle with puberty-related anxiety.

Guys wonder whether they're tall enough, whether their pecs and biceps bulge enough, whether their chest, facial, and pubic hair will ever grow. They wish their voices would get deeper and stop croaking. They're tired of having braces and pimples and feeling clumsy and gangly and hungry all the time. They wish they were more handsome and that their hands wouldn't sweat when they ask you to slow dance.

Guys worry extra in gym showers, locker rooms, and bathrooms because they figure someone might be checking out their private parts. And someone probably is! Guys don't just worry about size; some even worry that their organ is crooked!

Here's another male concern: wet dreams. Guys your age sometimes wake up to find they've ejaculated during the night, and they wonder if that's normal. Yes. It's also normal for guys to get erections at odd times—in the morning, in math class, or even when taking a foul shot in basketball.

Many guys feel uneasy about their sexuality. Are they oversexed if they masturbate a lot, undersexed if they don't? If they have an orgasm quickly when they masturbate, does that mean they'll be premature ejaculators in years to come? If they haven't started dating, or if they've played sex games with other guys or admire their male coach, does that mean they're gay? If they have an X-rated fantasy involving a married woman teacher, does that mean they're twisted? No, no, no, and no. Guys grow at different sexual speeds and need not be worried by early imaginings or experiences.

In one important way, girls have an advantage over guys in the Worry Department. Most guys don't discuss their growing pains, whereas, luckily for us, most girls do. It's not uncommon for a girl to complain, "I wish my breasts were bigger." But find me a guy who would say, "I wish my penis were bigger." It's a shame guys aren't more open and honest together. They have as many questions, troubles, and fears as girls, but fewer outlets. Guys tease and taunt each other, yet tend to fret alone. They don't even have many magazines or books to consult. But you do. So keep reading!

Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Breasts

Back to us girls.

If you're like me, you sometimes get fed up with your figure. Why can't your breasts be medium instead of mountains or molehills?

It's frustrating that your body's timetable answers to hormones and heredity, rather than to your own wishful thinking. If you haven't started developing yet, you may be feeling shortchanged. If you've been developing for years, you may worry you'll wind up with watermelons. Either way, you might envy the average girls who strut around the locker room parading their bra-and-panty sets.

I envied them. I was in a mad rush to grow up. I couldn't wait to get my breasts on and my braces off, to start getting periods and stop getting pimples. At 14, I was a restless late-blooming flatso. I dressed behind curtains and cringed at breast jokes.

Why are you a sailor's delight? Because you have a sunken chest! What do members of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee wear instead of bras? Band-Aids! Pretend you're a boy for a minute. Ahh . . . doesn't that take a load off your chest? Poor Rebecca, girls said, was so flat she could wear her bra inside out. And people teased Sophie that she'd knock down passersby if she turned without warning.

At first hardly anybody was happy. My friend Ali was as distressed about being busty as I was about being flat. She sported baggy shirts to hide her dramatic décolletage.

It was Ali who told me of the Best Breast Test. "To find out if you need a bra, place a pencil underneath one of your boobs and see if it stays up," she explained. I ducked into the bathroom . . . and my pencil clattered to the floor. Ali handed me two of her outgrown bras anyway—"booby" prizes, since she'd graduated to larger sizes. I still couldn't imagine putting them on, however. A stringbean classmate had worn a bra to a party the previous weekend and a boy had jeered, "Would you wear shoes if you didn't have feet?"

Status was at stake when we discussed bra sizes. The ideal seemed to be As in school and Bs in bust. I earned no grade: just an incomplete. Later when the subject switched to boys, books, baby-sitting...

Girltalk Fourth Edition
All the Stuff Your Sister Never Told You
. Copyright © by Carol Weston. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold.

Meet the Author

Carol Weston is a writer and speaker. She is the author of For Girls Only, Private and Personal, and Girltalk (Fourth Edition) as well as four Melanie Martin novels for younger readers. She's also the "Dear Carol" advice columnist of Girls' Life. Parenting says "Carol Weston gets girls" and Newsweek calls her a "Teen Dear Abby." Of For Girls Only, USA Today wrote, "There are so many dumb advice books that it's a pleasure to find one that really works." Carol has been a guest on Today, Oprah, The View, and other shows and has spoken at many schools both as an author of novels for elementary school kids as well as an advice giver for middle and high school kids. A Phi Beta Kappa Yale graduate with an M.A. in Spanish, she can give a talk at your school in English or Spanish. She now lives in Manhattan with her husband, daughters, and feisty cat Mike.

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Girltalk: All the Stuff Your Sister Never Told You 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 23 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is the FOURTH edition of a book that has been a classic since 1985! Carol Weston is the Dear Carol advice columnist for Girls' Life and she totally gets girls. Plus she tells you stuff your sister and friends don't know and your parents would be too embarassed to talk about! Inspiring and funny and answers all your questions on friends, guys, school, periods, peer pressure, everything. Great for girls 12 to 17
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Very good and perfect for 11-18 year olds!
Guest More than 1 year ago
My grandma gave me this book and asked me to read it. Some things that were eye catching I read first -- body, friendship, love, sex and family. Then I read the other chapters. This book is the most awesome book I have ever read. I can never find a book that keeps me interested, but once I picked up this one I could not put it down. (Not even to talk on the phone or eat). This book is truly the one and only teen guide to life. Thank you. Also, putting in the Dear Carols helped cover some stuff that was left out in the chapter.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I think this really helped me under stand my self! Amazingly helpful!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If u want advice ~sunshine~
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I love this book! I've only read the sample and its amazing. Note: in the sample 3 times it reviews the first 2 chapters. Im buying the book soon. Carol is awesome at writing books! If u love this u should definatly read the Dear Carol collum in "Girls Life"
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Im also ten and i know what everything in this book is and also what it means i think it would be ok. Especialy if you already know what everything is and what everything mean i just purchased this book two minutes ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is giving me great advice on boys and college (even though im only in sixth grade) and everything else I could possibly want to know! Great use of a dollar! :D
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The sample kinda just repeated itself, I still reslly like it just the whole repeating thing makes it iffy.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Good. It helps you tp O understand growing up.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It doesnt matter if yuor in 6 th grade u should know this stuff for jr. high
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
You might be a little young for this book. Some of the stuff in here is a little too old. Overall really great book;)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great book for teens. You will not regret purchasing it
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Guest More than 1 year ago
omg! I've read part of this before, but when I read the chapter list,WOW!!! THIS COVERS EVERYTHING!!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I recieved this book when I was a pre teen. Through out the years I have read it over and over. I know the whole book from front to back. My younger sister is turning 11 and is very curios about all the issues that are covered in this book so I decided to give her my copy. I think this book is a must for any teenage girl. It covers all the issues you can't even talk to your bestfriends about. I don't know how I would have grown up without this book by my side.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is a great book about becoming a women. It talks about boys,friendships, relation ships and sex.i hope you enjoy this book!
Guest More than 1 year ago
It's a great book for girls.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I just bought this book an when I go to my librart its there but it telling me I half to pay to get it. What in the world!!!!!!!! Grrr
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was good, but i wouldnt recomend it 2 a
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Okay I'm 10 is this book okay for me?? I know what most of it means and is but should I read it?? Thanks. I need info soon though!! Thanks. Anna Blake