Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

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All of us want to raise good kids. And we want to be good parents. But what exactly do we mean by “good?” And is “being good” really the point?

Mother-daughter team Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson contend that every way we try to make our kids “good” is simply an extension of Old Testament Law—a set of standards that is not only unable to save our children, but also powerless to change them.

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Give Them Grace (Foreword by Tullian Tchividjian): Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

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Overview

All of us want to raise good kids. And we want to be good parents. But what exactly do we mean by “good?” And is “being good” really the point?

Mother-daughter team Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson contend that every way we try to make our kids “good” is simply an extension of Old Testament Law—a set of standards that is not only unable to save our children, but also powerless to change them.

No, rules are not the answer. What they need is GRACE.

We must tell our kids of the grace-giving God who freely adopts rebels and transforms them into loving sons and daughters. If this is not the message your children hear, if you are just telling them to “be good,” then the gospel needs to transform your parenting too.

Give Them Grace is a revolutionary perspective on parenting that shows us how to receive the gospel afresh and give grace in abundance, helping our children know the dazzling love of Jesus and respond with heartfelt obedience.

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“So many Christian parents fall into the trap of asking the law to do in the hearts of their children what only grace can accomplish. Armed with threats, manipulation, and guilt, they attempt to create change that only the cross of Jesus Christ makes possible. It is so encouraging to read a parenting book that points parents to the grace of the cross and shows them how to be instruments of that grace in the lives of their children.”
Paul David Tripp, President, Paul Tripp Ministries; author, What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage

“In our human attempts to raise good and godly kids, we often forget that God extended his best grace to us. We are not full of grace on our own; we desperately need his grace. Elyse Fitzpatrick and her daughter, Jessica, provide a great tool to guide parents down the road of gracious parenting. I commend it to you.”
James MacDonald, Pastor, Harvest Bible Chapel, Rolling Meadows, Illinois; author, Vertical Church

“Elyse Fitzpatrick continues her never-ending quest to churn out grace-filled, Christ-centered, gospel-saturated books. And now she’s done it again with her daughter, Jessica, coauthoring this excellent parenting book! If you are a parent, get online and order your copy of Give Them Grace today!”
Deepak Reju, Pastor of Biblical Counseling and Families, Capitol Hill Baptist Church

“The authors—mother and daughter—remind us that parenting is not only hard but also impossible. Yes, we need to nurture, teach, discipline, train, pray, and model, but we must not depend on our parenting skills to change the hearts of our children. Instead, they counsel parents to ‘rely on the faithfulness of Jesus, our great high priest, to change their hearts.’ Grace for both parents and children flows through the pages of this book; I only wish I had read it at the beginning of my parenting instead of the end.”
Rose Marie Miller, missionary; author, From Fear to Freedom

“This is not just a book on parenting; this is deep training in the gospel. Elyse Fitzpatrick shows parents how to model themselves after the heavenly Father, who changed his children not by wrath and the law but by grace. A lot of books talk about gospel-centeredness in theory; this book shows you how to apply it to one of life’s most important relationships.”
J. D. Greear, Lead Pastor, The Summit Church, Durham, North Carolina; author, Stop Asking Jesus into Your Heart: How to Know for Sure You Are Saved

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781433520099
  • Publisher: Crossway Books
  • Publication date: 5/4/2011
  • Pages: 216
  • Sales rank: 85,362
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Elyse M. Fitzpatrick (MA, Trinity Theological Seminary) is a counselor, a retreat and conference speaker, and the head of Counsel from the Cross Ministries. Fitzpatrick has authored over 21 books, including Because He Loves Me, Give Them Grace, Comforts from Romans, and Found in Him.

Jessica Thompson is the author of Exploring Grace Together: 40 Devotionals for the Family and the coauthor (with Elyse Fitzpatrick) of Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus. She is a wife, a mother of three, and a member of an Acts 29 church.

Tullian Tchividjian (MDiv, Reformed Theological Seminary) is pastor of Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, a contributing editor to Leadership Journal, and a visiting professor of theology at Reformed Theological Seminary. He is the author of numerous books including the popular title Jesus + Nothing = Everything.

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Table of Contents

Foreword Tullian Tchividjian 11

Introduction: Are You a Christian Parent? 15

Part 1 Foundations of Grace

Chapter 1 From Sinai to Calvary 27

Chapter 2 How to Raise Good Kids 39

Chapter 3 This Is the Work of God 51

Chapter 4 Jesus Loves All His Little Prodigals and Pharisees 65

Part 2 Evidences of Grace

Chapter 5 Grace That Trains 81

Chapter 6 Wisdom Greater Than Solomon's 97

Chapter 7 The One Good Story 111

Chapter 8 Go and Tell Your Father 129

Chapter 9 Weak Parents and Their Strong Savior 143

Chapter 10 Resting in Grace 157

Remembering God's Grace One More Time 169

Appendix 1 The One Good Story 171

Appendix 2 Common Problems and the Gospel 175

Appendix 3 The Best News Ever 193

Notes 199

General Index 207

Scripture Index 211

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 31, 2012

    Eye opening

    I loved this book. It was an easy read, but had a lot of information. It was a lot of practical things that I didn't even realize I wasn't doing, but should be. The gospel should be present in my parenting and before reading this book, unfortunately, it wasn't...just the law. Definitely recommend for any Christian parent or soon to be parent...wish I had read it before now (my daughter is currently 3).

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted February 19, 2012

    Parenting Book from Reformed Evangelical Perspective

    Give Them Grace is a beautiful book that is co-written by mother-daughter team, Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson. "We've encouraged you to dazzle (your children) with the message of Christ's love and welcome, and then when you think that surely they must be tiring of it, go back and drench them with it again." This book is written from a Reformed Evangelical approach and neither of these mothers pretend that they are perfect or that their lives/families are perfect. This is certainly not a "parenting tips and techniques" book but rather a book that is all about Jesus and pouring Jesus into your child's everyday lives. I have to admit, that this was not a book I could just "breeze through". It is one of those books whose material is so rich that you almost have to take breaks to digest it all and ponder what you are learning from its writings. They show us that even though we are imperfect parents, God's grace covers us and our children. It also shows us how to improve our relationship with our children and show them God's grace through our own lives. This book also covers the 5 types of parenting that God has called us to: Nurturing, Correcting, Managing, Training and Promises. Give Them Grace is available through Crossway Books for just $11.99 and is a great book for anyone who is a parenting or considering becoming a parent.

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  • Posted September 13, 2011

    "It's nothing short of revolutionary"

    "the irony of gospel-based sanctification is that those who end up obeying more are those who increasingly realize that their standing with God is NOT based on their obedience but on CHRIST"

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 16, 2011

    Grace filled parenting

    Grace - the one thing most of us struggle with. After all what does this word actually entail? How do we show grace? Have we really accepted fully the grace God has bestowed on us - or do we understand the depth of that grace in its fullness? This is a radical approach on parenting as it presents the idea to parent with the gospel of grace of legalistic rules. A home dominated by the telling of "the Story" instead of the implementing of rules and regulations. The over-arching view is that as parents each of us is imperfect however we can live and parent with extreme grace. I am a big believer in "teachable moments". In fact our home has scripture posted on the walls (thanks to the new vinyl cling lettering that looks hand-painted), we have scriptural art work on the walls and shelves - all constant reminders of whom we serve. In fact above the archway in the living room our family theme verse (Joshua 24:15) is posted. My children even memorize a verse for every letter of the alphabet along with other theme verses for their schoolwork. I also love to use moments of life to teach a life lesson based on scripture. However, I found some of the sample conversation in this book to lesson the effect of the gospel and Christ and to even diminish the power of certain scriptures. For instance I do not apologize when have to discipline my children with spankings by saying "I am sorry to cause you pain...." This quote goes on to diminish the suffering and power of the cross. A more applicable scriptural reference to use is that like God punishes His children out of love so too must we as parents, for if we love our children we will not spare the rod but will chasten them when they are disobedient. All in all the book is an excellent parenting book in that it is not a list of rules for christian parents to take not of and apply. The danger though is that the sample conversations will become a list of conversation and instead of prayerfully asking that God reveal "teachable moments" the parent might try overly hard to apply scripture everywhere and by default becoming a pharisee of sorts. Parenting must be done in grace - for this there is no argument. But it must also be approached prayerfully. It must never diminish the gospel or power of the Word of God. And we must all be careful not to use scripture to beat up our children - for in this they will become bitter and revel against the very thing you are trying to teach them to embrace. My advice: parent with grace by living grace. All the scripted conversations in the world - all the scripture memory that can be done in a life time is null and void if it is not demonstrated in your daily walk. After all what makes God's grace so appealing to us? It is the fact that Jesus Christ demonstrated grace daily - not by repeating the scripture of the day, but by living and walking it. This is worth the read and may inspire you to live with grace. I received this review copy from Crossway in exchange for an honest review of the book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 27, 2013

    That Grace May Abound

    This book while excellent for parents is a great encouragement for us to be gracious in all relationships. The parenting focus is really for parents of little ones but be willing to apply it to all your kids.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 12, 2013

    Glimmer

    Y can't we just all use the same book? Much less confusing

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