God Loves Broken People: And Those Who Pretend They're Not

God Loves Broken People: And Those Who Pretend They're Not

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by Sheila Walsh
     
 

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In twelve stirring, insightful, and deeply revealing chapters, Sheila Walsh shows how personal brokenness can open doors of intimacy with Jesus Christ that might never open in any other way.See more details below

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In twelve stirring, insightful, and deeply revealing chapters, Sheila Walsh shows how personal brokenness can open doors of intimacy with Jesus Christ that might never open in any other way.

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ISBN-13:
9781400203314
Publisher:
Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
Publication date:
03/12/2012
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THOMAS NELSON
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
224
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172,894
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1 MB

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GOD LOVES BROKEN PEOPLE

(AND THOSE WHO PRETEND THEY'RE NOT)
By SHEILA WALSH

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2012 Sheila Walsh
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4002-0245-4


Chapter One

I'm Not Waving; I'm Drowning

When Deep Water Meets Even Deeper Love

She had struggled from childhood with overpowering feelings of melancholy.

As an adult, it was no better.

British poet Stevie Smith traced much of her struggle to a difficult childhood and to the devastation that swept over her after her father abandoned the family. Her most famous poem lent its title to a collection she published in 1957. She called it simply "Not Waving but Drowning."

Her brief, twelve-line poem pictures a dying man thrashing about in the surf, gesturing wildly, yet unable to attract the help of people passing by on the shore. The passersby see him, but they suppose he's merely waving. And so they walk on, maybe even waving back ... leaving him to drown. The poem ends with these desolate lines:

I was much too far out all my life And not waving but drowning.

Have you ever felt anything like that?

I have. Sometimes I still do.

Despite the fierce love of Jesus and the measureless grace of God, sometimes I thrust my hands up in the air, my arms flailing wildly, and people nod and smile and return what they see as a wave.

But I'm not waving. I'm drowning. Even for those of us who have walked with Christ for years, wounds from the past can still rush in like an unexpected storm.

In just the past couple of weeks, for example, the waters started to rise as I returned from a weekend speaking engagement. As is my custom, I texted my husband, "Landed!" when the wheels of the plane touched down on the tarmac. I've come to expect his return message, "Yay!" This time he added that he was picking up our son from a sleepover at his best friend's house.

At a little after 10:00 p.m. I retrieved my bag and headed out to my car. We live about thirty minutes from the airport, so I felt sure Barry and Christian would beat me home. As I turned into our driveway, however, the house was dark.

What a desolate feeling, seeing a dark house where I expected welcome lights flooding from the windows!

Oh well, I told myself. It's probably taking longer than expected to retrieve Christian's stuff from places only teenage boys would think to leave them. I shrugged off the small wave of fear and busied myself with unpacking.

By 11:00 p.m., however, I still hadn't heard anything.

I called Barry's cell, but he didn't pick up.

I texted him: "Where are you guys?" Nothing. No reply.

When by almost midnight I still hadn't heard anything, I felt the water rising over my head and the suffocating fingers of panic close in around my throat.

It's an all-too-familiar emotion. It's the hated voice way down in the cellar of my soul, whispering, They're gone! You've always known it would happen one day. You lose what you love, Sheila. Always have, always will.

I felt myself going under for the third time when a few moments later I finally heard Barry's car pull into the garage. It could have been—should have been—a moment of warmth and joy, a happy and relieved family reunion complete with a group hug.

But it wasn't.

Paralyzed by fear, instead of reaching out to my husband, I turned away, hiding in my own private cell. Instead of receiving a warm greeting from a wife deeply grateful he'd arrived home safely, my husband bore the silence of questions I didn't know how to ask. When I did find a voice, I threw my questions randomly into the air, meaning them as flares—but they stung like arrows.

I have often found anger more comfortable than fear. Anger gives me the illusion of control, while fear leaves me naked and exposed.

When the waves finally subsided, I found myself in a puddle of shame.

Why did I react like that?

Have I learned nothing over the years?

How could I lose my footing so quickly?

Barry had stayed with friends longer than expected to talk with them about a distressing storm of their own. He had also thought I might appreciate a little time to myself after a tiring weekend. Now, wasn't that ironic? I had just returned from telling ten thousand women that Christ offers peace in the fiercest storm—and now my own words battered me.

I'm not waving; I'm drowning.

Unlearning Old Lessons

Over the years I've learned that while Jesus' love remains constant, our experience of that love does not. That's a big problem for many of us because we grew up thinking that once we learned whatever lessons God wanted to teach us, we could sail through life triumphantly on a golden cloud, regardless of the serious challenges or difficulties that knocked on (or knocked down) our doors. Maybe you have pleaded with God, as I have, "Lord, I've learned this lesson. I really have! So can't we move on? Please?"

"Moving on," however, isn't always an option. Life is what it is, our challenges are what they are, and the big changes we long for so intently may take place within us, rather than around us in our circumstances. It's taken me a while to "get" that lesson.

Truth be told, I'm still learning.

On the other hand, please don't imagine that my life swings wildly from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows. Actually, some of the situations in which I find myself can even seem quite funny—at least, after a little time has passed.

A few years ago I received an invitation to take part in a crusade in London, England. Pastor Paul Yonggi Cho from Seoul, South Korea, would do the main speaking while I would do the singing. Since I love any opportunity to return to my homeland, I felt excited that the event would take place in the magnificent new twenty-thousand-seat O2 arena. I flew in the day before, and as we drove to the hotel, I asked the local event planner when I could do a sound check. He said he would take me over to the venue the following afternoon.

When the knock came at my door at 3:00 p.m., I quickly grabbed my things, ready to leave for the arena. But it wasn't the event planner at my door; it was a small greeting committee. They said they had just come from Dr. Cho's room and would like to come in and chat for a few moments. I invited them in, and after an awkward silence, one man cleared his throat and declared there had been a "slight change of plan."

In retrospect, it would have been like one of the sailors on Jonah's storm–tossed ship telling the prophet, "There is a little fish just over the side of the boat who would love to say hello."

They told me that rather than promote the event themselves, they had hoped God would do the promoting. But apparently He hadn't. The gentleman explained that because of the change in circumstances, there would be a change of venue. Instead of meeting at the O2 Arena, we would hold forth at Peckham High School. (That's like going from the Cowboys Stadium in Dallas, Texas, to your local 7–Eleven.)

"That's absolutely fine with me," I replied.

But I spoke too soon.

"Well," he continued, "we were hoping you wouldn't mind going over to the arena and standing outside with a sign saying the event's been moved—just in case anyone shows up. Just wave it as high as you can!"

Am I hearing this correctly?

I politely declined that opportunity and settled instead for singing through a bullhorn in the school gym!

Horrifying at the time, but quite funny today.

What's It Doing in God's Word?

Let's admit right now that a lively wave of the hand often doesn't mean "Hello!"

Sometimes it can mean "Help!"

I think this is especially true when life fails to turn out like we thought it would. Perhaps we began our Christian lives with great dreams, soaring hopes, and fervent anticipation. But somewhere down the line, our dreams decayed, our hopes got hammered, and our anticipation all but vanished into the abyss. Crushed expectations can leave us feeling desperate, despairing, and desolate.

Have you ever read Psalm 88?

It isn't likely you will see the words of this psalm on a wall plaque or in a framed cross–stitch in the family room. This "psalm of lament" could give even psalms of lament a bad name. While most such songs start out with some kind of desperate plea—"How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?"—they normally end in praise or at least with a little hope: "I will sing to the Lord, for he has been good to me" (Psalm 13:1, 6).

Not so in Psalm 88.

Yes, it definitely opens with a plea for help—"Day and night I cry out before you. May my prayer come before you; turn your ear to my cry." But you will look in vain at the end of the song for praise, for hope, or even for a teensy bit of light. The writer describes God's "wrath" sweeping over him and the Lord's "terrors" destroying him, surrounding him, completely engulfing him. And then comes verse 18:

You have taken my companions and loved ones from me; the darkness is my closest friend.

And that's it. End of psalm. Period.

When was the last time you saw anyone use that verse to conclude a worship service? I never have, and I'm pretty sure you haven't either.

So why did God include Psalm 88 in His Word? Why is it even there? Do we have so little hardship and pain in this life that we have to read about it in the Scriptures?

I told you in this book's introduction that I wouldn't offer you a nice, tidy system of belief that heals all wounds, brings out the sunshine, or inspires the angels to thunder the Hallelujah Chorus. The truth is, I think Psalm 88 has a place in our Bibles because it's true. It reflects how we feel sometimes—yes, even those who have a passionate love for Christ.

Do you feel as though God's wrath has withered you, whether for some good reason or for no reason at all? So did the psalmist.

Do you feel as though His terrors are destroying you, surrounding you, completely engulfing you? So did the psalmist.

Do you feel as though all your loved ones and companions have been snatched from you? So did the psalmist.

Does the darkness feel like your closest friend? It certainly did for the psalmist.

In chapter 6, we'll discuss some ways to deal with dark feelings such as this, but for now I just want you to recognize that God knows such feelings exist, and He chose to honor them by including a record of them in His Holy Word.

Why? Because those are words that may come from our own hearts someday, if they haven't already. What's more, "He knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust" (Psalm 103:14 ESV). Don't make the common mistake of trying to deny your feelings or pretending they don't matter or feeling guilty and condemned because you have them. While I don't counsel you to wallow in them, neither do I suggest that you hide from them or run away from them.

Listen to one of my favorite quotes from Shakespeare's profoundly tragic tale King Lear:

The weight of this sad time we must obey; Speak what we feel, not what we ought to say.

Remember this: God sees your arms flailing, and He knows very well that you're not waving; you are going under for the third time. As the ultimate Lifeguard, He's seen a lot of thrashing arms in the wild surf of life:

* Moses—"If this is how you are going to treat me, put me to death right now ... and do not let me face my own ruin" (Numbers 11:15).

* Job—"Why then did you bring me out of the womb? I wish I had died before any eye saw me" (Job 10:18).

* David—"What gain is there in my destruction, in my going down into the pit?" (Psalm 30:9).

* Jonah—"Now, O Lord, take away my life, for it is better for me to die than to live" (Jonah 4:3).

* Eelijah—"I have had enough, Lord.... Take my life; I am no better than my ancestors" (1 Kings 19:4).

* The disciples—"Teacher, don't you care if we drown?" (Mark 4:38).

* Paul—"We despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death" (2 Corinthians 1:8-9).

* Jesus"—My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" (Matthew 27:46).

Drowning, indeed.

Broken Pieces

Early in the morning I love to take a mug of good, strong coffee out onto the patio and watch the sun rise. Our home backs onto a lake, and the beautiful scenery changes with the seasons. For all the loveliness and color of that scene, however, my gaze always returns to a certain stone ... a mosaic stone at the edge of our lawn. With its garishly bright colors and uneven shapes, you might think it looks a little out of place. But I consider it a priceless treasure.

I remember the morning that my son, Christian, then seven years old, gave the stone to me. I remember it well for two reasons. First, this beautiful homemade gift came from the heart of my little boy, and, second, he almost collapsed my lungs when he thrust it upon me!

As my birthday approached, Christian told his dad he wanted to make something special for me. After considering a number of ideas, they finally settled on a project Christian had seen advertised in a magazine—a mosaic stepping–stone kit. The magazine showed a picture of a beautiful finished piece, and I think Christian imagined that's what he was ordering. So when the kit arrived and he opened it up, he felt very disappointed.

"Look, Dad, it's just a box of broken things. I can't give that to Mom!"

Barry explained that Christian would use the pieces to create his own pattern to make a one–of–a–kind gift. Once he caught a glimpse of the plan, Christian really liked that idea. For the next few days, the boys banned me from the guest bedroom, where they'd spread out the materials over a large towel until they could complete the masterpiece. Barry told our young son that he should pick and choose which pieces to use, but Christian felt determined to work in every single piece from the box. His creation wound up in poured concrete, so the finished product weighed a ton.

On the morning of my birthday, Christian came staggering into our bedroom, carrying his gift in a box. He asked me to close my eyes and hold out my hands. I closed my eyes and prepared to hold out my hands, but when his gift got too heavy for him, he unloaded it onto my chest. It almost flattened me! We took the stone outside that very morning and placed it right at the edge of the lawn by the patio, and even today that's the first thing you see when you set foot outside.

I love that stepping-stone.

(Continues...)



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