Grace in Dying: A Message of Hope, Comfort and Spiritual Transformation

Grace in Dying: A Message of Hope, Comfort and Spiritual Transformation

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A moving illumination of the final transition of our lives.

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A moving illumination of the final transition of our lives.

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Living, Dying, and Transformation

The shortest, the swiftest, and the surest way to plumb Truth is through a mortal leap into the Unknown.
Henri Bergson

I am an ordinary person working with ordinary people dying ordinary deaths. The people I work with are neither saints nor sages. Although occasionally devout, they are not spiritual adepts. These are the people who have been in line with us at the supermarket or in the next lane at the traffic light; they are our parents, our friends, our spouses, our children, ourselves. The deaths I observed do not include the sudden, violent ones of attack or accident or the unexpected ones of a heart gone suddenly awry. They are the routinely prognosed deaths of terminal illness, the final fading away of a body riddled with cancer or stilled by a failing essential physiological system: ordinary people dying ordinary deaths.

What I have observed in these deaths, however, and what I have experienced is most certainly not ordinary; it is profound, transcendent, and extraordinary. By and large, people die in solemnity, peace, and transformed consciousness, radiating energy that can only be described as spiritual. Death, as no other moment we encounter in life, announces itself in resplendent silence. Death is so absolute that anyone's encounter with it is transforming. It provokes the strongest of feelings: terror, sadness, rage, utter fascination, and an interior acknowledgment, an intuitive recognition, of liberation.

William James, the American giant of Psychology and philosophy, once observed:

The whole drift of my education goes to persuade me that the world of our present consciousness is only one out of many worlds of consciousness that exist, and that those other worlds must contain experiences which have a meaning for our life also; and that although in the main these experiences and those of the world keep discrete, yet the two become continuous at certain points, and higher energies filter in.

It is my observation, after having been with hundreds of people who are dying, that death is most definitely one of those points where "higher energies filter in," where, as Mircea Eliade describes it, there is "a rupture of planes."

Wisdom traditions have acknowledged this for millennia. In the West, a series of treatises in the Middle Ages referred to as the Ars Moriendi, the "Art of Dying," set forth a cartography, a map, of the psychospiritual transformations of the dying process in Christian religious terms. At that time in that culture, there was confidence in the prevailing worldview that death, like life, is a pilgrimage. Dying persons, at the edge between life and death, were seen as beings glimpsing the mystery in a way that is rarely possible for those of us in the midst of life; they were seen as beings moving more rapidly in their pilgrimage into spiritual dimensions.

In the East, Padmasambhava gave a precise map and explanation of the dying process in the Bardo Thodol, The Tibetan Book of the Dead, in the eighth century. The essence of its teaching is that, in the dissolution of dying, we move beyond the personal sense of self and the delusions of ordinary mind. In the gap created by that movement, the nature of Reality is revealed, experienced, and entered into. Buddhist psychology sees dying as the moment when the fundamental nature of mind, the essence of who we are, sometimes called the Ground Luminosity or Clear Light or Immutable Radiance, naturally reveals itself in its vast glory'

These viewpoints contain great wisdom. Our culture -- America, at the turn of the third millenniurn -- has lost much of that wisdom and we are only now in the process of regaining it. A profound shift is occurring in human consciousness regarding the perception of death and dying. This shift was ushered in by the work of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and others who first turned to dying as a legitimate, heretofore unexamined, area of research. The shift gained further impetus from the hospice movement, the AIDs epidemic, and the advancement of medical techniques that increase the probability of near-death experiences. The limited, yet significant, resurgence of spiritual practice in the West as well as a general and evolutionary maturing of human consciousness have also contributed to the emergence of the study of death and dying as a field of research and interest. Unequivocally, death is coming to be seen as our final stage of growth.

It is to this study of death and dying that the ensuing observations and thoughts are offered, in the hopes that with careful examination, some understanding of the transformational possibilities of the human psyche, and the privilege of some inspiration, we might begin to articulate our own wisdom about this dying experience through which we all must pass. It behooves us as contemporary Westerners, who often react to images and concepts from other cultures and other times either by recoiling from them or by sensationalizing them, to mature our own wisdom tradition. It is time for us to observe and to describe the psychospiritual transformations normal and inherent in the dying process in precise terms that we can embrace as our own.

In this discussion, I describe the experience of dying by exploring the transformations that many of us who work with the dying are beginning to see. These transformations appear to be inherent in the dying process itself.

It has been said that death is a mirror in which all of life is reflected. 'When we look into this "mirror" of death and dying, we get a clearer image of ourselves, a clearer image of the inherent possibilities of human consciousness. Increasing our insight into what is generally considered to be the unfathomable nature of death and dying--particularly knowledge that reveals dying's transformative and transcendent power--helps us to understand our fear of death and to decrease that fear.

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ISBN-13:
9780062515650
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
03/28/2000
Edition description:
Reprint
Pages:
352
Sales rank:
53,281
Product dimensions:
5.31(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.79(d)

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Living, Dying, and Transformation


The shortest, the swiftest, and the surest way to plumb Truth is through a mortal leap into the Unknown.

— Henri Bergson

I am an ordinary person working with ordinary people dying ordinary deaths. The people I work with are neither saints nor sages. Although occasionally devout, they are not spiritual adepts. These are the people who have been in line with us at the supermarket or in the next lane at the traffic light; they are our parents, our friends, our spouses, our children, ourselves. The deaths I observed do not include the sudden, violent ones of attack or accident or the unexpected ones of a heart gone suddenly awry. They are the routinely prognosed deaths of terminal illness, the final fading away of a body riddled with cancer or stilled by a failing essential physiological system: ordinary people dying ordinary deaths.

What I have observed in these deaths, however, and what I have experienced is most certainly not ordinary; it is profound, transcendent, and extraordinary. By and large, people die in solemnity, peace, and transformed consciousness, radiating energy that can only be described as spiritual. Death, as no other moment we encounter in life, announces itself in resplendent silence. Death is so absolute that anyone's encounter with it is transforming. It provokes the strongest of feelings: terror, sadness, rage, utter fascination, and an interior acknowledgment, an intuitive recognition, of liberation.

William James, the American giant of Psychology and philosophy, once observed:

The whole drift of my education goes to persuade me that the world of our present consciousness is only one out of many worlds of consciousness that exist, and that those other worlds must contain experiences which have a meaning for our life also; and that although in the main these experiences and those of the world keep discrete, yet the two become continuous at certain points, and higher energies filter in.
It is my observation, after having been with hundreds of people who are dying, that death is most definitely one of those points where "higher energies filter in," where, as Mircea Eliade describes it, there is "a rupture of planes."

Wisdom traditions have acknowledged this for millennia. In the West, a series of treatises in the Middle Ages referred to as the Ars Moriendi, the "Art of Dying," set forth a cartography, a map, of the psychospiritual transformations of the dying process in Christian religious terms. At that time in that culture, there was confidence in the prevailing worldview that death, like life, is a pilgrimage. Dying persons, at the edge between life and death, were seen as beings glimpsing the mystery in a way that is rarely possible for those of us in the midst of life; they were seen as beings moving more rapidly in their pilgrimage into spiritual dimensions.

In the East, Padmasambhava gave a precise map and explanation of the dying process in the Bardo Thodol, The Tibetan Book of the Dead, in the eighth century. The essence of its teaching is that, in the dissolution of dying, we move beyond the personal sense of self and the delusions of ordinary mind. In the gap created by that movement, the nature of Reality is revealed, experienced, and entered into. Buddhist psychology sees dying as the moment when the fundamental nature of mind, the essence of who we are, sometimes called the Ground Luminosity or Clear Light or Immutable Radiance, naturally reveals itself in its vast glory.

These viewpoints contain great wisdom. Our culture—America, at the turn of the third millenniurn—has lost much of that wisdom and we are only now in the process of regaining it. A profound shift is occurring in human consciousness regarding the perception of death and dying. This shift was ushered in by the work of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and others who first turned to dying as a legitimate, heretofore unexamined, area of research. The shift gained further impetus from the hospice movement, the AIDs epidemic, and the advancement of medical techniques that increase the probability of near-death experiences. The limited, yet significant, resurgence of spiritual practice in the West as well as a general and evolutionary maturing of human consciousness have also contributed to the emergence of the study of death and dying as a field of research and interest. Unequivocally, death is coming to be seen as our final stage of growth.

It is to this study of death and dying that the ensuing observations and thoughts are offered, in the hopes that with careful examination, some understanding of the transformational possibilities of the human psyche, and the privilege of some inspiration, we might begin to articulate our own wisdom about this dying experience through which we all must pass. It behooves us as contemporary Westerners, who often react to images and concepts from other cultures and other times either by recoiling from them or by sensationalizing them, to mature our own wisdom tradition. It is time for us to observe and to describe the psychospiritual transformations normal and inherent in the dying process in precise terms that we can embrace as our own.

In this discussion, I describe the experience of dying by exploring the transformations that many of us who work with the dying are beginning to see. These transformations appear to be inherent in the dying process itself.

It has been said that death is a mirror in which all of life is reflected. 'When we look into this "mirror" of death and dying, we get a clearer image of ourselves, a clearer image of the inherent possibilities of human consciousness. Increasing our insight into what is generally considered to be the unfathomable nature of death and dying—particularly knowledge that reveals dying's transformative and transcendent power—helps us to understand our fear of death and to decrease that fear.

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What People are saying about this

Sukie Miller
A profound and rich contribution with new and needed information.
Christiane Northrup
As a physician who has spent many years present with women at the moment of birth, I have often found myself moved to tears by the sacredness of this moment, when we emerge into physical life. As I read through the pages of The Grace in Dying, I found myself moved by the realization that the process of dying is the same in many ways as the process of giving birth, and that the same sacred energy that is so palpable in the delivery room will also be there for each of us at the moment of our death. There is great comfort in this remarkable book. -- Author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom
Michael Washburn
Kathleen Singh has written a stunningly powerful book. Her account of what happens to us as we are dying elucidates not only the spiritual character of the death process but also the underlying unity of life and death. Singh helps us understand what it means to die.
Dr. Bernie S. Siegel
Death is a wise but harsh teacher. It is easier to learn the lessons by educating yourself. Read and learn.
Kenneth Ring
The new Kübler-Ross has arrived, and her name is Kathleen Singh. In a stunning debut, she has written, quite simply, the most important book on the nature of dying since On Death and Dying. The Grace in Dying gives us new eyes with which to view death, and no one who reads Singh's work can come away from it without sharing her radiant vision. The book is a flat-out masterpiece. -- Author of Healing Toward Omega
Seymour Boorstein
Must reading! A very powerful and gentle antidote to the fear of dying both in ourselves and our loved ones.
Ken Wilber
A profound and moving--and much needed--book.
Steven A. Schroeder
Kathleen Dowling Singh opens our eyes to the spiritual aspects of dying, as Sherwin Nuland and Elisabeth Kübler-Ross did for the physical and psychological. Her message...can offer reassurance throughout life.
Larry Dossey
This splendid book is caressed by wisdom and compassion. It brings immense hope and meaning to life's final chapter.
Earl A. Grollman
Kathleen Dowling Singh writes powerfully with penetrating understanding and compelling insights that unlock the hearts of those who climb through the tortuous tragedy of dying to recovering, growth, and grace. (Rabbi Earl A. Grollman)

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Meet the Author

 Kathleen Dowling Singh, Ph.D., has extensive training and experience in both transpersonal psychology and many spiritual traditions. She works with dying patients in a large hospice in southwest Florida and regularly addresses audiences on death, dying, and the hospice movement.

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Rathmullan More than 1 year ago
This a beautiful book and everyone would do well to access its wisdom. I do believe that at different levels of our development God shields us from a concern of death and yet it is something we all will face. Katherine Dowling Singh boils down her voluminous experience with death and dying into a beautiful spiritual essence that I believe will resonate with many. KDS's book has provided me with great comfort and hope in dealing with the sweetest transformation of our spirits at the end of our biological lives.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Kathleen Singh weaves ancient wisdom, prominent spiritual teachers, her knowledge of transpersonal psychology, and personal experience with the dying to create an outstanding book on spiritual transformation through service to the dying. She reminds us that we are all awareness and in process of reclaiming this as we enter into the path of dying into life.