The Great Sex Secret: What Satisfied Women and Men Know that No One Talks About

The Great Sex Secret: What Satisfied Women and Men Know that No One Talks About

by Kim Marshall
     
 
Traditional sexual intercourse almost always produces an orgasm for men but rarely does for women. This is because the location of the clitoris prevents most women from getting sensitive, appropriate and sustained stimulation when they make love. Full satisfaction for both partners is neither easy nor obvious; it doesn't "come naturally."

Astonishingly, almost none

Overview

Traditional sexual intercourse almost always produces an orgasm for men but rarely does for women. This is because the location of the clitoris prevents most women from getting sensitive, appropriate and sustained stimulation when they make love. Full satisfaction for both partners is neither easy nor obvious; it doesn't "come naturally."

Astonishingly, almost none of the literature on sex is helpful on this issue. Almost without exception, the "experts" have been asking the wrong questions and are stuck in an old paradigm of how sexual intercourse is supposed to work. As a result, few couples find the advice they need:

--Three approaches that allow both partners to get full satisfaction during lovemaking, including simultaneous orgasms, which the conventional wisdom has declared to be virtually impossible

--A breakthrough for couples in achieving mutual satisfaction and long-term sexual happiness

--Revolutionary ideas that liberate couples from conventional wisdom that doesn't work and helps them communicate about what does

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781402208102
Publisher:
Sourcebooks
Publication date:
11/12/2006
Pages:
224
Product dimensions:
5.00(w) x 7.00(h) x 0.56(d)

Read an Excerpt

Disappointment in the Land of Eros: Is There a Design Flaw?

Every day we are bombarded with sex. It comes at us in movies and TV shows, billboards and the Internet, suggestively clad people on the street, and magazine covers in the supermarket check-out counter assaulting us with headlines like "Ten Ways to Drive Him Wild!" The message is not subtle: everyone out there is having great sex, and if you aren't, well, poor you.

Even if we could block out this onslaught of sexual messages, hormones are coursing through our bodies, and most people-especially adolescents and young adults-are biologically driven to have sexual thoughts with some regularity. John Finley, the late Harvard professor and housemaster, used to joke that the mission of the university was to reduce the amount of time students spend thinking about sex from 85 percent of each day to 55 percent.

Yet for all this ambient sexuality and pressure to join the wonderful sexual party, there are occasional reports from the front lines that things may not be as rosy as we are led to believe:

--In 1985, Ann Landers asked the female readers of her advice column how they felt about making love. She was flooded with more than one hundred thousand letters, with 72 percent of the writers saying they'd much rather be doing something other than having sex. One woman wrote that she found sex with her husband "disgusting and unhygienic," but still loved him and enjoyed their life together.

Meet the Author

Kim Marshall has worked in public education since graduating from college in 1969, and has published seven books and numerous articles. As a young teacher, he was trained as a sex educator and began developing and teaching a sex education curriculum, reaching more than seventeen hundred young adolescents over the years.

The Great Sex Secret developed on a parallel track. Marshall was struck by some significant gaps in sex literature and popular media and started work on a letter that he planned to give to his own children on their eighteenth birthdays.

To his surprise, this proved to be one of the most challenging projects he'd ever undertaken. Eight years of reading, research, and feedback slowly turned a twelve-page letter into something much bigger, and Marshall decided to share it with a wider audience.

A generous impulse gave rise to this book. Marshall hopes that its ideas will be helpful to many lovers, allowing them to get to the heart of the matter a little bit sooner. Life is short, the geography of love is a challenge, and sexual happiness really matters.

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