Grieving God's Way: The Path to Lasting Hope and Healing

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The loss of a loved one is devastating, and the grief that follows is often crippling. While modern Western culture has adopted an aren't-you-over-it-yet? attitude toward death and the grief it brings, the grieving process can take years.

Weeks and months go by with no visible improvement. We might even wonder if God has forsaken us. Then one day it happens: We laugh. We feel connnected, restless, maybe even hopeful. We're no longer consumed by...

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Overview

The loss of a loved one is devastating, and the grief that follows is often crippling. While modern Western culture has adopted an aren't-you-over-it-yet? attitude toward death and the grief it brings, the grieving process can take years.

Weeks and months go by with no visible improvement. We might even wonder if God has forsaken us. Then one day it happens: We laugh. We feel connnected, restless, maybe even hopeful. We're no longer consumed by our loss, and our thoughts turn outward. These are the first signs of healing.

Though the tendency in our fast-paced society is to suppress our grief or ignore it all together, Grieving God's Way inspires a different course of action. In this 90-day devotional Margaret Brownley provides the framework for a methodical grieving process that follows God's plan.

Grieving God's way requires us to trust that He will lead us through the darkness, heal our pain, take away our weariness, and fill our hearts with hope, peace, and new purpose. From defining what grief is to validating its importance, Brownley gives us the components necessary to find God within our sorrow and grieve with Him.

Divided into four sections, Grieving God's Way offers insight into healing our grieving body, soul, heart, and spirit. Infused with scriptures and inspirational haiku by Diantha Ain, this book motivates us to shift our grieving from man's way to God's way. . . slow and often invisible but with truly amazing results.

So how long does it take to grieve? As long as it takes God to heal.

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  • ISBN-13: 9780849947223
  • Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
  • Publication date: 7/10/2012
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 332,481
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.30 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Meet the Author

Margaret Brownley is a New York Times best-selling author and has penned more than twenty-five historical and contemporary novels. A Lady Like Sarah was a Romance Writers of America RITA finalist. Twitter: @margaretbrownly Facebook: MargaretBrownleyAuthor

Diantha Ain is an award-winning writer, poet, actress, songwriter, artist, and educator. She has written haiku, seventeen syllable verse, for thirty years.

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GRIEVING GOD'S WAY

The Path to Lasting Hope and Healing
By Margaret Brownley

Thomas Nelson

Copyright © 2012 Margaret Brownley
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-8499-4722-3


Chapter One

Part 1 Healing the Grieving Body

Man's Way Numb Rather than Heal the Pain.

God's Way Heal Through Healthy Choices.

Listen closely to my words.... for they are life to those who find them and health to a man's whole body. —Proverbs 4:20, 22

Introducing to Part 1

Toning my muscles energizes my psyche, which comforts my soul.

When a loved one dies, the body reacts with shock. The circulation slows; we feel cold and disoriented. Breathing is shallow. After the numbness wears off, bones ache and muscles are sore. Food holds no interest, and though we may fall exhausted into bed each night, we often can't sleep—or sleep too much. This is how the body grieves.

God created this phase to allow us to adjust mentally, physically, and emotionally to our loss. It would be a great shock to the system to absorb the loss of a loved one all at one time.

Many people neglect to take care of themselves during the early months of grief. Worse, some try to deaden the pain with alcohol or drugs. Studies show that neglecting health during bereavement puts us at a higher risk for cancer, heart disease, and depression. Substance abuse prevents healing altogether.

Grieving God's way requires us to trust that God will lead us through the darkness, heal our pain, take away our weariness, and fill our hearts with hope, peace, and new purpose.

Healing Day 1

What Is This Thing Called Grief?

I can do everything through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13)

The nature of grief sends us into a cave of despair. We have no desire to see or do anything. This is God's way of protecting us until we are strong enough and courageous enough to face life again.

The tears shed in grief allow for crystal-clear vision, illuminating friends and family through wiser, more loving eyes.

The darkness of grief allows us to follow even the dimmest light of faith to the source of all hope.

The stillness of grief is an invitation to sail into the inner self and explore the harbor of forgotten goals and still-cherished dreams.

The reality of grief helps us find new purpose and meaning in life, a new reason for being.

The permanence of grief is reassuring. Experiencing grief and seeing others grieve tell us that we will not be forgotten after death. This encourages us to live and relate to others in ways that will have an impact on lives long after we have left this world.

Loving faith in God leads us through the valley of the shadow of death.

Healing Ways: A Time to Grieve

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven ... (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

A time to be born and a time to die (Ecclesiastes 3:2). It never seems like the right time for a loved one to die. Losing someone we love reminds us how short life is and how much we take others for granted. From the darkest ashes of grief is born a new appreciation for family and friends.

A time to plant and a time to uproot (v. 2). Every day we are given countless opportunities to plant seeds of friendship, seeds of faith, seeds of wisdom. Grief is the time to pluck up what we've planted and call up friends and faith to get us through the tough times. Grief is a time to plant new seeds of change, new seeds of hope.

A time to kill and a time to heal (v. 3). Sometimes it's necessary to kill off the part of us that wants to cling to the past. A normally dependent woman must learn to do for herself after her husband's death rather than transfer her dependency onto her children. It might even be necessary to sever a relationship that prevents healing.

A time to tear down and a time to build (v. 3). In our grief we often question God and His wisdom. Such questions demand that we break down our belief systems and rebuild our faith on stronger, more permanent foundations.

A time to weep and a time to laugh (v. 4). It's interesting to note that the word weep precedes the word laugh in this verse. This tells us that grief is not forever. We will laugh again and even feel joy, but first and utmost we must weep.

Healing Day 2

Breathing Lessons

In his hand is the life of every creature and the breath of all mankind. (Job 12:10)

Take a deep breath.

If you are grieving a loved one, chances are you haven't taken a deep breath for quite some time. The physical and emotional stress of grief can do an enormous amount of harm to the mind and body. We become so caught up in our pain we literally forget to breathe.

In both Greek and Hebrew, the word for breath also means "spirit." In Genesis, God created Adam by breathing life into him (2:7). Jesus helped His disciples receive the spirit of God by breathing on them (John 20:22).

Studies have shown that deep, slow breathing can strengthen the heart, tone muscles, slow down the effects of aging, increase energy, improve digestion, and alleviate certain emotional problems. It can even help us lose weight by improving metabolism.

Shallow breathing, the kind that is prevalent during grief, fills only the upper parts of the body with air. The headaches, back pain, indigestion, and depression that plague us during the darkest days of grief might simply be our bodies crying out for oxygen.

Take a deep breath. Stand tall and concentrate on the center of energy just above your navel where each breath should begin and end. Stretch your diaphragm by filling your stomach with air, and you'll feel the tension fade away and a surge of new energy take its place.

In her delightful book A Natural History of the Senses, Diane Ackerman wrote, "At this moment you are breathing some of the same molecules once breathed by Leonardo da Vinci, William Shakespeare, Anne Bradstreet, or Colette. Inhale deeply. Think of The Tempest. Air works the bellows of our lungs, and it powers our cells."

Take another deep breath; absorb all of God's creation and breathe in a little bit of Shakespeare. Not only is it good for the body; it's good for the spirit.

When lungs are stricken by overpowering grief, each breath drowns in tears.

Healing Ways: Making Room for God

Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning. (Psalm 30:5)

Robert W. Kellemen wrote, "Crying empties us so there is more room in us for God."

Making room for God in a wired world can be a challenge. Smartphones, iPads, and iPods provide endless distractions, but they can also offer endless opportunities to build a closer relationship to God. You can now download an electronic Bible to carry with you at all times. GodTube.com sends out daily Christian videos, and MaxLucado.com is one of many websites that offer subscribers daily or weekly devotionals by text or e-mail.

Need to make more room for God? Go ahead and have a good cry—but be sure to keep your smartphone handy.

Healing Day 3

With Open Hands

Your hands shaped me and made me. (Job 10:8)

Have you looked at your hands lately? What do they say about you and your state of mind? What do they reveal about your soul?

Hands mirror emotions. No secret is safe. One glance at our hands, and even strangers know if we're nervous or angry, outgoing or shy.

We hold our hands open in friendship and clap them together in excitement or joy. We open our hands when bearing gifts and close them when discouraged, disheartened, or even lonely.

A young mother receives her newborn child with open hands; a new bride spreads her fingers to show off her new ring. A baseball player hits a home run and is greeted by teammates with a high five. We say good-bye by waving, palm outward, as if trying to stay connected to a departing friend or family member for as long as possible.

We wring our hands in despair and confusion. When we grieve, we ball our hands on our laps or clutch them to our chest. Mourners at a funeral hold their hands very differently than guests at a wedding. In sign language, the word for grief is shown by two closed hands palm to palm, twisting next to the heart.

In Henri Nouwen's inspiring book on prayer, With Open Hands, we are urged to release our tightly clenched fists and open our hearts to God.

Hold your hands open as if you are bearing gifts. Lift your open hands in prayer, and reach outward to hug a friend, pet an animal, or encourage a child. Lay an open palm on a photo of your loved one, and let all the love you feel for that person pour through your fingertips. Instead of striking out in anger, reach out in compassion, love, and understanding.

When we close our hands, we close our hearts. You can't open one without opening the other.

The laying of hands miraculously eases the pain of grieving.

Healing Ways: Prayer

Hear my prayer, O God; listen to the words of my mouth. (Psalm 54:2)

Prayer is essential to physical and emotional health. It lowers blood pressure and helps relieve stress. In grief we don't always know what to ask of God, but prayer forces us to put our thoughts in order and our feelings into words. Prayer comforts, heals, and turns inner pain into hope. Prayer is a constant reminder that someone else is in charge.

Healing Day 4

Teddy Bears and Other Warm Fuzzies

The Spirit helps us in our weakness. (Romans 8:26)

Whenever Nancy feels lonely, she buries her nose in her late husband's flannel shirt, and his scent brings back happy memories. Lisa finds her warm fuzzies in her church's grief group. She says, "After our meeting everyone hugs. I carry the warm feelings around for days."

Warm fuzzies make us feel good—sometimes too good. It's only natural to seek out people who support our views and make us feel loved and secure. But what if we're doing something that's not good for us? What we need at such times is honesty, not warm fuzzies.

Grief absorbs attention, narrows the scope, and distorts and disguises feelings to such a degree we can easily lose perspective. Sometimes it takes a friend to recognize morbid grief, clinical depression, or chemical dependency. Sometimes it takes a friend to point us in the right direction.

Separating the unrealistic expectations of family and friends from genuine concern can be a challenge. Most of us are irritated when someone makes some thoughtless remark such as, "Aren't you over it yet?" Most of the time our irritation is justified: grieving God's way takes longer than most people realize. But concerns voiced by family and friends involving alcohol, drug use, or depression cannot and must not be dismissed.

Warm fuzzies are comforting and can help us through difficult times, but serious problems require more than hugs or comforting words. If a family member voices concern, listen.

God talks to us in many ways, sometimes even through our friends. If two or more people mention the same problem, ask for God's guidance in seeking professional help.

Teddy bears give me the same warm, fuzzy feeling thoughts of you convey.

Healing Ways: Moving Forward

Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. He who goes out weeping, carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy, carrying sheaves with him. (Psalm 126:5–6)

Well-meaning friends tell us, "Get over it"—as if a broken heart can be healed at will. God knows it's not that simple. He doesn't tell us to "Get over it," but He does tell us to move forward even as we weep.

Heartache is love that has nowhere to go. By carrying our gifts into the world and sharing our skills and talents with others, we allow God to use that love in wondrous ways.

Healing Day 5

Stand Up and Heal

He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he enables me to stand on the heights. (2 Samuel 22:34)

Whenever I'm about to give a speech, my husband reminds me of the three S words: stand, speak, and sit, preferably in quick order.

When we stand before an audience, we signal authority and power. Our words carry more weight.

Experts know that standing improves thinking skills. The very act itself allows the lungs to work better and blood to flow more efficiently to the brain.

Standing also has a spiritual significance. In almost every biblical text describing the healing powers of Jesus, the person healed either stood or was told to stand:

• "He placed his hands on her, and right away she stood up straight and praised God" (Luke 13:13 CEV).

• "All of a sudden a man with swollen legs stood up in front of him" (Luke 14:2 CEV).

• "Then Jesus told the man, 'You may get up and go. Your faith has made you well'" (Luke 17:19 CEV).

• "The boy looked dead, and almost everyone said he was. But Jesus took hold of his hand and helped him stand up" (Mark 9:26–27 CEV).

Everything of any real importance requires a person to stand, from getting married to being sworn in as president. Standing signals readiness. In the Bible, believers often stood to show faith. Crowds stand in the bleachers to cheer on a team. We stand in church to sing our praises to God. We stand to show respect for man and country.

We stand in joy; we stand in respect and awe. We stand divided or together. We stand in love and faith, conviction and passion.

And as the Bible repeatedly tells us, we must also stand to heal—if only in spirit.

Possibilities supersede life's tragedies when we grieve God's way.

Healing Ways: Find a Reason to Smile

I know that there is nothing better for men than to be happy and do good while they live. (Ecclesiastes 3:12)

Author and radio host Dennis Prager wrote, "There is little correlation between the circumstances of people's lives and how happy they are." Prager believes that happiness is a moral obligation and that we owe it to everyone we know to be happy. But how can we be happy when our hearts are breaking?

If you can't smile, then fake one by holding a pencil between your teeth. Studies show that this releases the same feelings as a genuine smile. Kick those endorphins into high gear by taking a brisk walk. Fill your life with meaning and purpose: sign up for a Bible study class, volunteer time to your favorite charity, put your trust in the Lord, and be kind to everyone you meet! You may even find a reason to smile for real.

Healing Day 6

Is Anyone Listening?

Pay attention ... and listen to me; be silent, and I will speak. (Job 33:31)

It's been said that God gave us two ears and one mouth because He wants us to listen twice as much as we talk. We might all be healthier if we followed that advice.

In her book Walking on Water, Madeleine L'Engle wrote that listening also helps in creativity: "Shakespeare knew how to listen to his work, and so he often wrote better than he could write; Bach composed more deeply, more truly than he knew; Rembrandt's brush put more of the human spirit on canvas than Rembrandt could comprehend."

Those of us grieving a loved one don't do a lot of listening. We hardly hear the world around us. Instead we stare at blank walls or empty space. Rather than focusing on others we think only of our loss. Instead of listening to God we let our sobs drown out His words.

Those of us in grief could learn a lesson from the masters.

When I watch goldfish swimming around serenely, my soul swims with them.

Healing Ways: Learning to Listen

Be still, and know that I am God. (Psalm 46:10)

Listen. God speaks to us in many ways. He speaks to us through prayers and dreams. Sometimes He even sends a message through others or talks to us through the written word. Be still and listen.

Listen to your body. What are the aches and pains telling you about your health or state of mind? Are they telling you that you're eating or sleeping too much or too little? Not getting enough exercise or sunlight? Depending too much on alcohol or drugs? Neglecting the basics of good nutrition?

Listen to your environment. When was the last time you heard laughter or music? Listen to your friends and family. If you listen hard enough you'll know that they are grieving losses, too—and one of those losses could be the failure to engage your attention.

Listen to the world around you And you'll live better than you know how to live. Listen to those you care about And you'll love deeper than you know how to love.

Healing Day 7

Walking Through Grief

By his light I walked through darkness! (Job 29:3)

Want to know what to give someone who is depressed, has low self-esteem, or lacks confidence and motivation? Walking shoes.

Researchers at Harvard Medical School found that a regular walking program increases self-esteem, confidence, and motivation. Walking also lifts the spirits, restores a sense of control, and helps build inner strength.

If you are feeling depressed, lonely, or tired, take a walk.

(Continues...)



Excerpted from GRIEVING GOD'S WAY by Margaret Brownley Copyright © 2012 by Margaret Brownley. Excerpted by permission of Thomas Nelson. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Table of Contents

Part 1 Healing the Grieving Body 1

Healing Day 1 What Is This Thing Called Grief? 4

Healing Day 2 Breathing Lessons 6

Healing Day 3 With Open Hands 8

Healing Day 4 Teddy Bears and Other Warm Fuzzies 10

Healing Day 5 Stand Up and Heal 12

Healing Day 6 Is Anyone Listening? 14

Healing Day 7 Walking Through Grief 16

Healing Day 8 Healing Through Play 18

Healing Day 9 The Healing Sun 20

Healing Day 10 The Sweet Gift of Memory 22

Healing Day 11 Grief Is Not an Illness 24

Healing Day 12 Stop and Go 26

Healing Day 13 Charge Now, Pay Later 28

Healing Day 14 Tea and Sympathy 30

Healing Day 15 Surviving Through Humor 32

Healing Day 16 Healing Through Gratitude 34

Healing Day 17 Sleep: A Necessary Holiday 36

Healing Day 18 Healing Through the Senses 38

Healing Day 19 How Birds Learn to Fly 40

Part 2 Healing the Grieving Soul 43

Healing Day 20 Chipping Away 46

Healing Day 21 Avoiding the Pain 48

Healing Day 22 Seismic Tremors 50

Healing Day 23 A Place Called Journal 52

Healing Day 24 Expressing Feelings Through Art 54

Healing Day 25 Visions 56

Healing Day 26 First Things First 58

Healing Day 27 Healing Through Creativity 60

Healing Day 28 Learning from Children 62

Healing Day 29 The Healing Power of Music 64

Healing Day 30 Finding Music in the Silence 66

Healing Day 31 The Color of Grief 68

Healing Day 32 Fresh Grief 70

Healing Day 33 The Reluctant Traveler 72

Healing Day 34 When I Say Your Name… 74

Healing Day 35 Gifts from the Sea 76

Healing Day 36 Footprints in the Sand 78

Healing Day 37 The Gift of Storytelling 80

Healing Day 38 The Healing Power of Nature 82

Healing Day 39 The Healing Garden 84

Healing Day 40 Can't Stop Crying 86

Healing Day 41 Promise of a Rainbow 88

Healing Day 42 Autumn Leaves 90

Healing Day 43 Discovery Through Grief 92

Healing Day 44 Am I Losing My Mind? 94

Part 3 Healing the Grieving Heart 97

Healing Day 45 Getting the Words Right 100

Healing Day 46 Helping a Family Heal 102

Healing Day 47 Healing the Family, Healing the Heart 104

Healing Day 48 Family Photos 106

Healing Day 49 The Family that Prays Together… 108

Healing Day 50 The Private Side of Grief 110

Healing Day 51 What Grief Weighs 112

Healing Day 52 The Lasting Gift of Time 114

Healing Day 53 All in God's Time 116

Healing Day 54 The Searching Heart 118

Healing Day 55 The Dark Side of the Moon 120

Healing Day 56 Baa, Baa, Black Sheep… 122

Healing Day 57 The Gift of Grief-Related Depression 124

Healing Day 58 Shape of Grief 126

Healing Day 59 Letter to a Friend 128

Healing Day 60 Filling the Void 130

Healing Day 61 Grieving from the Heart 132

Healing Day 62 If Only… 134

Healing Day 63 Friends Who Grieve Together… 136

Healing Day 64 The Healing Marriage 138

Healing Day 65 A River Runs Through It 140

Part 4 Healing the Grieving Spirit 143

Healing Day 66 The Healing Power of Prayer 146

Healing Day 67 Praying to a Silent God 148

Healing Day 68 Finding New Meaning in God's Word 150

Healing Day 69 Our Faith Is Tested 152

Healing Day 70 Finding Your Way Back to God 154

Healing Day 71 Why Did God Let This Happen? 156

Healing Day 72 Back to Basics 158

Healing Day 73 The Whos and Whats 160

Healing Day 74 Grief in Disguise 162

Healing Day 75 Learning to Hope Again 164

Healing Day 76 God the Beacon 166

Healing Day 77 Giving Grief a Rest 168

Healing Day 78 Attitude Adjustment 170

Healing Day 79 Spiritual Growth Through Loss 172

Healing Day 80 Sins of Omission 174

Healing Day 81 Where Is God? 176

Healing Day 82 The Gift of Anger 178

Healing Day 83 Forgiveness 180

Healing Day 84 Blessings 182

Healing Day 85 Count Your Blessings 184

Healing Day 86 The Gift of Guilt 186

Healing Day 87 Out of Pain Comes the Gift of a Deeper Faith 188

Healing Day 88 When Part of You Is Missing 190

Healing Day 89 The Only "Perfect" Gift 192

Healing Day 90 From Grief to Thanksgiving 194

Author's Note 197

Acknowledgments 199

Resources for Healing 201

Notes 203

About the Author 207

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  • Posted November 30, 2012

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    I chose to review this book because I am studying to be a counse

    I chose to review this book because I am studying to be a counselor and I knew that the issues of grieving and loss will come up eventually in my practice. I am a Christian so I wanted to look at something from this perspective. Grieving God's Way is a 90-Day Devotional. Each day begins with a description, talking about the stage of grief that the person may be going through. It shares a Bible verse and talks about the meanings behind it as it relates to grief. It gives tips to get through it: deep breaths, prayer, exercising, etc. It is divided into three sections: Healing the Grieving Body, Healing the Grieving Soul, and Healing the Grieving Heart. Although it does not necessarily take one through the classic stages of grief that I have learned about in my counseling courses, it is a nice resource for a spiritual person to use when they are grieving the loss of a loved one. I would encourage anyone that is having issues with grief to seek counseling or even just reach out to others who have gone through the same thing. Yes, a book like this can be helpful, but it should not be the only resource someone turns to in a difficult time such as this.

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  • Posted September 17, 2012

    God wants us to grieve in a hopeful way. This is best done by co

    God wants us to grieve in a hopeful way. This is best done by connecting us to things that go beyond the moment. Smile at a baby; play with a puppy. Plant a tree or plan a special trip or family gathering… Spend time with hopeful people, people with goals and dreams, people whose faith you admire.

    This 90-day devotional book is designed to help guide the reader through the grieving process, taking it day by day and constantly pointing him or her towards God’s Word for comfort and reassurance, while at the same time providing practical encouragement and advice for daily life.

    The author breaks each day into manageable bites. She not only acknowledges and sympathizes with the pain of the loss of a loved one, but one day at a time helps the reader process the emotions and struggles that he or she is dealing with each day. It’s divided into four sections which gradually works the reader through the struggles of the body, soul (or mind), heart (or relationships with others), and spirit (or relationships with God), which ends up flowing nicely, working outward from the bereaved. I really liked how the author gave practical things to do, such as starting a journal, going for a walk, listen to music, etc. Nearly every day contains something a person could do in order to help process their grief.

    That being said, some of the language is rather emotionally-focused and could be considered a bit “touchy-feely,” which may not appeal to some readers. Each day also includes a haiku that some may appreciate, but I thought ended up skipping over; I guess I’m not really one for poetry, and I doubt I would find comfort in it in the midst of grief, either.

    Thanks to the publisher for providing me with a review copy of this book!

    Overall: Daily reminders of God’s love and advice for coping with a loss, which would be a useful addition to a church library.

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  • Posted September 5, 2012

    A Much Need Book When Grieving Over The Loss Of A Loved One

    MY REVIEW

    A book like this written by someone who know's what they are writing about is always a good book. Maybe not an easy book to read, such as this, but a book we will all need at one time or another. I wanted to read and review this book because I of the loved one I have lost in my life, my grandparents, my in-laws as well as my precious mom and dad.

    This 90 day devotional starts out Day One at the beginning with "What Is This Thing Called Grief." We think we know what grief is until we loose a love one, then we are hurting so much we really don't know how to grief. Margaret Brownley teaches us how to deal with our emotions, the hurt, the pain, the anger, the agony, the guilt, the sadness, the crying and all of these feelings, in a way that I've never really thought about. Well I guess I have, but Margaret has a way of writing that makes it easy to understand. She also deals with the other side, the laughter, humor, forgiveness, memories, gratutide, adjustments, blessings, and all that comes with these feelings.

    You can go to this little book for just about anything you feel about loosing someone you love dearly. I really don't think I've grieved any of my loved ones properly, and I appreciate Margaret Brownley so much for writing thie devotional to help me! This is a book I plan on keeping where I can get my hands on it at all times. And if you are grieving, I strongly encourage you to get a copy of "Grieving God's Way" for your help and healing. This would be a wonderful book to keep an extra copy of on hand to give as gifts to those hurting over losing someone.

    Again, I appreciate Ms. Brownley taking the time to write this book, and showing each of us how God brought her through her grief.

    I rec'd this book from Thomas Nelson through their blogging program, Booksneeze. The opinions in this review are mine only

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    Posted February 9, 2014

    Elders den

    A decent size cave for the elders. It can hold 12-14 cats. The ground is sandy.

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  • Posted July 24, 2012

    “Grieving God’s Way” by Margaret Brownley is a

    “Grieving God’s Way” by Margaret Brownley is a 90 day devotional dedicated to those who have experienced a loss of any kind. It is composed of bible verses, haikus, and concepts for the individual to reflect upon. It is a gentle book written to help get through the pain of loss.

    As an individual who has experienced loss I found this book to be very helpful. The subtitle to “Grieving God’s Way” is “The Path to Lasting Hope and Healing”, I believe this is an appropriate statement. As the Facilitator of a grief support group I will be incorporating this book into my discussions.

    Death of a love one can be very difficult how to get through those days of remembering can be difficult, everyone has their own opinion. My faith is what helped me get through the initial pain of personal loss and it is my faith that allows me to get through those times of remembering. This book, which I plan to read and read and read again, is a reminder of how understanding God is to my loss.

    Although “Grieving God’s Way” is a 90 day devotional there is nothing stopping an individual from reading at his or her own pace. Read one day a week, allowing the words to be a healing ointment to your soul.



    I received an complimentary copy of this book in exchange for a honest review.

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  • Posted July 9, 2012

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    Grieving God's Way: The Path to Lasting Hope and Healing


    by Margaret Brownley is a 90 day devotional book dedicated for those who are grieving a loss. There are so many devotional books on the market, but this book is targeted to comfort those who are greiving the death of a loved one. With a well rounded approach Brownley covers the spiritual, physical and emotional aspects of grief. In fact, this book is a step by step guide to help a grieving person who may not have the mental stamina to read a lengthy book on theology or a wordy self help book. In the short, simple to read devotions, she touches on many issues that the grieving may face, from a biblical and practical perspective. What makes her words even more powerful is that she speaks from experience- writing this book after the loss of her own son. The Haiku exerpts By Diantha Ain are included in each day's reading. The short Haiku- styled quotes suppliment the passages written by Brownley.

    The only issue with the book that it is a broad book - the references to the specific loss do not target a specific loss such as the loss of a child or the loss of a spouse. In contrast, the book attempts to address the broad needs of grief from death in general. At times, specific examples are used- such as cleaning the closet of a loved one, or the effects of complicated grief and unresolved issues. I feel certain categories of loss are so specific and the grief process for the loss of a child in contrast to the loss of a spouse is significant that they merit their own books. This does not detract from the usefulness of the book- but, a mother left with empty arms who suffered the loss of an infant may not be faced with the same practical issues or grieving issues that may be felt by a widow. This book is a good springboard for the start of the healing process.

    As a blogger for booksneeze, I recieved this book from Thomas Nelson publishers for the purpose of writing this review.

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  • Posted July 3, 2012

    A wonderful, kind, inspiring book, obviously forged in the fires

    A wonderful, kind, inspiring book, obviously forged in the fires of experience. A book that can comfort and encourage anyone who has experienced profound loss. HIGHLY recommended. Having been widowed as a young mother and on the receiving end of "comfort" from "the well-meaning, but clueless," i came to this book with my guard up, but it quickly went down as I savored each entry. I'll be buying several copies to keep on hand to share with those who have experienced loss, and I'll be adding this to the top of my list of recommended reading when I teach on "how to help a grieving friend." The subtitle "The Path to Lasting Hope and Healing" says it well. Brownley guides her reader along the path that every hurting hearts must walk do find lasting hope and healing

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  • Posted June 22, 2012

    This book is a healing manual for anyone who has lost a loved on

    This book is a healing manual for anyone who has lost a loved one or who is facing it. I received this free book from Thomas Nelson. A positive review was not required and the opinions expressed are my own.

    Ms. Brownley offers hope and healing to grieving men and women through her sensitive approach and warm writing style. She has divided the book up into four sections: Healing the Grieving Body, Healing the Grieving Soul, Healing the Grieving Heart, and Healing the Grieving Spirit. It doesn't matter what stage of grief you're in this 90 day devotional is the book for you. It's as though she takes you gently by the hand and leads you through the painful process.

    I lost my husband six years ago and didn't truly realize until I read this book that I am still experiencing grief. It was very helpful. I only wish I'd had this available years ago.

    I especially found comfort in the Bible verses. God's love is amazing and He hates to see his children in pain. He truly cares for each of us. And I believe Ms. Brownley was led by God to write this book.

    I liked how each devotional was short because a grieving mind has trouble focusing. Her advice is clear and easy to read. But most of all she tells you we are not alone, that God walks beside us even when we feel He's forgotten or turned His back on us. That was such a comfort.

    I recommend this to anyone who is hurting and lost and who needs to find hope again. It's the best book I've seen that deals with such a difficult subject.

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  • Posted June 21, 2012

    A great book on grief!

    I recently read Grieving God’s Way: The Path to Lasting Hope and Healing by Margaret Brownley. Here is what the back cover says: “Grieving God’s Way is a 90 day reader designed to bring hope and healing to those who have experienced loss. Divided into four categories—body, soul, heart and spirit—each day’s entry offers insight into the grieving process that increases understanding of God’s purposeful plan for healing.” I thoroughly enjoyed this book! My family experienced a tragic loss in 2011, which followed the loss of many family members over a seventeen year span. The way Mrs. Brownley writes on dealing with grief and getting through all of the stages of grief really spoke to me. She’s tender and sensitive, yet tough when necessary. She encourages readers not to neglect themselves, to take care of their bodies and minds. I highly recommend this book as a gift to anyone who has experienced loss. I received this free book from Thomas Nelson. A positive review was not required and the opinions expressed are my own.

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