Growing a Spiritually Strong Family

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Where is Your Family Headed?

Does God have plans for your family beyond accumulating stuff in a large house in a nice suburb? How can moms and dads establish a home where God’s presence blesses each relationship and biblical principles shape the future? Brief chapters written by popular radio personalities Dennis and Barbara Rainey—such as “Pray with Your Mate,” “Train Your Disciples,” “Sink Your Roots,” and “Give Your Children You”—set out a clear, workable master plan for a ...

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Overview

Where is Your Family Headed?

Does God have plans for your family beyond accumulating stuff in a large house in a nice suburb? How can moms and dads establish a home where God’s presence blesses each relationship and biblical principles shape the future? Brief chapters written by popular radio personalities Dennis and Barbara Rainey—such as “Pray with Your Mate,” “Train Your Disciples,” “Sink Your Roots,” and “Give Your Children You”—set out a clear, workable master plan for a dynamic, God-pleasing family. This and future titles in the series will deliver down-to-earth advice, encouraging stories, timely insights, and life-changing truths for leaving a godly family legacy.

Lead your family to a dynamic faith!

Want a thriving faith at home—but not sure how to make it happen? We all seek flourishing spiritual growth for our families, but struggle to keep the weeds and thorns of this world from overwhelming us.

Join Dennis and Barbara Rainey as they reveal ten secrets to nourishing your family’s spiritual garden. Learn down-to-earth strategies for glorifying God and planting seeds that reap an incredible harvest for eternity. You can enjoy a growing spiritual vitality—the abundant faith that God desires for every father, mother, daughter, and son!

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Publishers Weekly
Many families struggle to establish strong spiritual foundations when their children are young. In Growing a Spiritually Strong Family, Dennis and Barbara Rainey try to help busy families pray together, read the Bible and teach Christian values. The content is hackneyed and, at 96 pages, the book is too short to do more than skim the surface, but parents who are seeking quick advice in a gift book format could do worse. ( Feb.) Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781576737781
  • Publisher: The Doubleday Religious Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 2/8/2002
  • Series: Family First Series
  • Pages: 96
  • Product dimensions: 4.75 (w) x 6.53 (h) x 0.46 (d)

Meet the Author

Dennis Rainey

Dennis and Barbara Rainey are co-founders of FamilyLife, a division of Campus Crusade for Christ, and authors of the bestselling books Moments Together for Couples and Staying Close. Dennis cohosts the daily radio program FamilyLife Today, heard by 4 million people each week. The Raineys have six children and two grandchildren and live in Little Rock, Arkansas.

Barbara Rainey

Dennis and Barbara Rainey are co-founders of FamilyLife, a division of Campus Crusade for Christ, and authors of the bestselling books Moments Together for Couples and Staying Close. Dennis cohosts the daily radio program FamilyLife Today, heard by 4 million people each week. The Raineys have six children and two grandchildren and live in Little Rock, Arkansas.

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Growing A Spiritually Strong Family


By Dennis & Barbara Rainey with Bruce Nygren

Multnomah Publishers

Copyright © 2002 Dennis and Barbara Rainey
All right reserved.

ISBN: 1576737780


Chapter One

Sink Your Roots

It arrived without warning. I (Dennis) was at work when I happened to look out the window; the beautiful blue sky I'd admired minutes earlier was now filled with ominous black clouds. Soon rain pelted the ground, followed by a fierce wind that twisted trees at an impossible angle. Then the tornado siren shrieked. We scrambled away from our desks and searched for cover; many of us huddled under a concrete stairwell in the basement. The radio confirmed our greatest fear-the tornado was headed our way.

As 120-mph winds shattered windows and shook the walls, several of us prayed. I thought of my family and prayed for their safety (I discovered later that the tornado missed our home by less than three blocks). After five harrowing minutes, the wind subsided and the sun returned. We'd survived! Thankfully, no one was hurt.

I stepped outside to view the damage. The tornado had touched down just fifty feet away, tearing out several massive pine trees before hopping over our office building and uprooting more monster pines. I was surprised to see that the root clumps of the uprooted trees were not that large. Then I noticed, not far away, a majestic, ancient oak that looked almost untouched. It was missing just a fewbroken limbs.

Later I learned that the pine trees in our region have a shallow root system, which is why several of those green, towering beauties became firewood. But the root system of an oak tree plunges deep into the soil, enabling it to withstand even a tornado's fury.

The roots make the difference.

What kind of spiritual root system does a healthy Christian family require? If we want to develop unshakable leadership for a family-the kind of strength that will resist life's tornadoes-we need spiritual roots like the oak tree. The best way we know to ensure such deep roots is to first make sure the parents are becoming "oaks of righteousness" (Isaiah 61:3). Parents need to grow in their faith and become sturdy disciples of Christ. Jesus said:

"Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing." (John 15:4-5)

Followers of Christ have understood for centuries the critical importance of certain spiritual activities that mark the life of a growing disciple. We will list three basics, though certainly there are more. If you will make a priority of just these, you will develop a deep root system that will bear up against the storms of life and make you and your spouse steady spiritual leaders of your family.

A Personal Daily Experience with Jesus Christ

To grow and become all that God created you to be, you must submit to Jesus Christ as lord, master, and maker of your life. The spiritual journey of following Him is not a list of do's and don'ts, but rather a moment-by-moment encounter with Jesus. Growth occurs in our lives as we submit to Him, walk with Him by faith, and obey Him.

The following is not a checklist, but rather proven spiritual disciplines that help us grow as followers of Him. How you go about implementing them is your call, but applying these basics over time will transform a "baby Christian" into a mature follower of Christ.

Prayer. Good communication is the key in any thriving relationship. This is certainly true with God, too. Scripture urges us to "pray without ceasing" (1 Thessalonians 5:17), to pray about everything (Philippians 4:6-7), and in prayer to give thanks in everything (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

Bible Study. Scripture is our owner's manual for the Christian life. Make the Bible your constant go-to source for decision making, for the truth about God's character, His ways, and His promises, and for tips on how better to follow Him.

Worship. We are commanded to worship God, individually and collectively. If we are failing to faithfully worship God, not just on Sunday but in our everyday moments, we probably are worshiping something else.

Giving/Service. We are stewards of many personal, material, and financial resources. God has told us that it is better to give than to receive. We need to reap the joy of giving graciously like our Father in heaven gives to us. A type of giving is to serve others in the name of Christ, particularly those who are destitute or lonely.

Fellowship. Don't miss out on a huge benefit of being a Christian-connection to the body of Christ. When you and your family assemble together (Hebrews 10:25) in a strong local church-a place where the Scriptures are taught as God's inspired Word-the wisdom and encouragement of fellow believers will help you effectively lead and grow your family spiritually.

Witness. We have the job of acting on Jesus' behalf to reconcile the lost to God. This includes befriending neighbors and others who are not believers and planting and reaping the seeds of the Gospel.

True Friends

Spiritual growth usually occurs in the context of relationships. We all need people close to us-not just to enjoy friendship and fellowship, but also to reap the benefits of mutual accountability. Both the husband and wife need at least one close, same-sex Christian friend (this is especially true for a single parent). And at least one other couple needs to know how the two of you are doing in your marriage.

We have a pair of friends, a couple, upon whom we frequently lean for counsel, advice, and balance. We discuss everything from discipling children to finances, home maintenance, managing pressure, and even thorny theological issues. We have experienced the "sheltering tree" of their friendship.

A small group of peers can often provide these accountability relationships. Ideally you will be part of a group of friends who are all seeking to grow individually and together as followers of Christ. (See page 96 for information about HomeBuilders, the world's fastest-growing small group study.)

Authentic Living

Real life begins at home. The toughest place to be a daily, consistent follower of Christ is around the house. When you are at home, surrounded by a mate who knows you well and several little disciples who are intently observing your every word and move, it's hard to keep up a front for long. And you shouldn't. If you have a vital relationship with Jesus Christ, just live it out as honestly and consistently as you can. God will take care of the rest.

There are many ways to show your family that you are serious about following in the footsteps of Jesus Christ, but two in particular really count: Admitting your mistakes and asking for forgiveness when you mess up in a relationship-especially with one of your children.

As humbling as it is, quite often you can get a "two for one" and demonstrate both of these qualities at the same time! It's best to initiate this approach when your children are small. (Then it may not feel so humiliating when they're older!)

I (Barbara) remember a time when our daughter, Ashley, was about four months old. I was attempting to change her diaper, and she was being extra squirmy. I didn't explode and yell at her, but I was impatient. My conscience was tweaked. I thought, I should apologize to her. But does this make sense? She's only a few months old! She won't remember or understand. Yet I knew it was the chance to begin a pattern of apologizing when I made a mistake with my child. I told Ashley I was sorry and asked her to forgive me. That apology was good for her and me!

When this happens with an older child, I believe the key is to tell your daughter or son what Scripture says God expects from us when we wrong another person. If we brush things aside, in effect we are sending the message, "I did this and that's okay. But you can't get away with it." That's when children get very confused. But when a parent can admit a mistake to a child, ask for forgiveness, and take the whole situation to God, then there is hope you both will learn from your mistake. Spiritual growth can't occur in a heart that is too stubborn to admit its mistakes.

When our son, Samuel, was fifteen, I (Dennis) was supposed to pick him up after a tennis practice. I had told him I might be a few minutes late in order to wrap up tasks at the office. But an urgent phone call came in, and I ended up arriving fifty minutes late. Samuel was nowhere in sight. After many more minutes I finally caught up with him.

When Samuel climbed in the car, I looked him in the eye and said, "Son, I am really sorry. I let you down. I want you to be able to count on me as your dad. Will you forgive me?"

"Sure Dad, no problem," he said.

Does that sound simple? It is-sort of. Admitting your faults to your teenage son takes some courage and swallowing of pride. But if we want every member of the family to be spiritually strong, we have to respond to our Lord and walk the way He walked-not just talk about it.

How is your root system? Does it barely reach below the surface, or does it stretch deep into the soil? Invest the necessary time and energy to be "like a tree planted by the water, that extends its roots by a stream and will not fear when the heat comes; but its leaves will be green, and it will not be anxious in a year of drought nor cease to yield fruit" (Jeremiah 17:8).

Isn't that what we all seek? We want a family of fruitful "trees" that flourish no matter what-a grove filled with "oaks of righteousness."



Excerpted from Growing A Spiritually Strong Family by Dennis & Barbara Rainey with Bruce Nygren Copyright © 2002 by Dennis and Barbara Rainey
Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

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