He Had It Coming: How to Outsmart Your Husband and Win Your Divorce


It's all about getting even. We all know that women earn less than men, and unfortunately this also applies to the spoils of divorce. Veteran trial attorney and former divorce lawyer Stacy Schneider, Esq., knows what it takes to get women their fair share, and now, using examples from her own practice and her own divorce, she is making the strategies that worked for her available to you!

In a single handbook, He Had It Coming answers your questions, calms your nerves, and walks ...

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It's all about getting even. We all know that women earn less than men, and unfortunately this also applies to the spoils of divorce. Veteran trial attorney and former divorce lawyer Stacy Schneider, Esq., knows what it takes to get women their fair share, and now, using examples from her own practice and her own divorce, she is making the strategies that worked for her available to you!

In a single handbook, He Had It Coming answers your questions, calms your nerves, and walks you through the process with confidence and control. Centered around her one-of-a-kind Pre-Divorce Plan, Schneider guides you through a divorce lawsuit, revealing insider information, divorce success secrets, and tactics, including:

•the answer to the number one question asked by wives on the verge of divorce
•crucial planning measures to implement before the papers are filed
•a hidden asset search plan to help make sure you don't walk away with less than you deserve
•tried-and-true stealth negotiation techniques to get you what you want
•how you can possibly save thousands of dollars by handling aspects of divorce yourself
•the way to hit a cheating spouse in his wallet.

Packed with checklists, strategic tips, sample practice dialogues, and firsthand pointers, He Had It Coming is the ultimate companion guide for any woman changing her "I do" to an "I don't."

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"A great read." — Donald Trump

"Very often, power is unevenly distributed in a court of law. Stacy Schneider offers techniques to fight back." — Nancy Grace

"[Schneider] delivers her formula with clarity and attention to detail, supplying readers with checklists, strategy tips and sample letters to walk them through practical concerns." —The New York Times

"Stacy Schneider has created more than just an excellent legal blueprint for women experiencing divorce. He Had It Coming is also an invaluable source of tips on nearly every aspect of the process." — Kathleen A. Miller, author of Fair Share Divorce for Women, Second Edition: The Definitive Guide to Creating a Winning Solution

"A great overview to start the divorce process." — Gayle Rosenwald Smith, author of What Every Woman Should Know About Divorce and Custody and Divorce and Money: Everything You Need to Know

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781416949350
  • Publisher: Gallery Books
  • Publication date: 1/1/2008
  • Edition description: Original
  • Pages: 224
  • Sales rank: 699,784
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 0.70 (h) x 8.20 (d)

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Half of all married women in America will inevitably ask:

"What do I do now that my marriage is over?"

Because I was a divorce attorney at the time my own marriage was ending, I knew exactly what to do. I had an arsenal of insider's information to set myself up before the divorce papers were even filed and to ensure my future success on the divorce battlefield. I knew the importance of establishing my own bank account, secretly photocopying our financial records, and staying in the family home while the divorce was under way, no matter how uncomfortable I felt there.

I knew that divorce brings out the worst in people, and that I should keep my "relationship" as amicable as possible, so I could convince my husband to give me what I wanted. I knew to begin working on resolving our issues and dividing our property early in the process, before the divorce became adversarial. I knew it was crucial for me to treat my husband respectfully — or at least appear to — to gain his cooperation and allow for the divorce to move quickly.

Finally, I knew that I could get through my divorce with less agony and frustration if my husband and I communicated without the assistance of lawyers. There have been some divorce situations where I have seen attorney interference do more harm than good, actually causing communicating couples to permanently shut down contact. That is because once lawyers enter the picture, the entire tone of a divorce changes. I have consoled many clients and friends after their so-called "dependable" husbands hired an attorney and reneged on their initial promises to provide for their spouses after the divorce "at the advice of counsel." As an ex-wife and a former divorce lawyer, I want women to know that they can take control of their divorces — sometimes eliminating the lawyers from all or part of the process — and plan stable financial futures for themselves and their children.

What I Learned from My Own Divorce

Almost a decade ago, I walked out of my uncomfortable five-year marriage and straight into divorce court. As an attorney, I already knew the rules of the game and the tricks of the trade. I applied those rules in my own divorce but treated my husband with dignity and respect, without antagonizing him the way a lawyer typically would. After convincing him that we could handle our divorce on our own, without lawyers, I got the exact settlement I wanted with little bickering.

Everyone we knew was shocked at how well my spouse and I got along during the divorce, considering we barely got along during the marriage. When our no-fault divorce was granted by the judge without delay, arguments, or roadblocks, I walked out of divorce court arm in arm with my ex-husband, and we hugged each other good-bye. I have never witnessed a similar sight in all my years of practice. It was at that point that I realized I had a winning formula for a successful divorce outcome that could revolutionize the way women approach the process.

While my experience as an attorney assisted with the paperwork and procedure, the main reason for my divorce success was our ability to eliminate half the battle, most of the nastiness, and all of the expense by handling the process ourselves. By negotiating face-to-face without involving lawyers, my husband saved money that went straight to me as part of my divorce settlement. We were able to work together peacefully to resolve all our issues. And although a do-it-yourself divorce is not for everyone, it will always serve you well to understand the process and take control of as many aspects of your divorce as possible.

Copyright © 2008 by Stacy Schneider, Esq.

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Table of Contents

Contents Introduction Chapter 1: "I Don't": When to Re-evaluate Your Lifelong Promise to Your Spouse Chapter 2: The Pre-Divorce Plan: The Secret Steps Every Wife Should Take Before the Divorce Papers Are Filed Chapter 3: Show Me the Money! Where to Find the Dollars, Tangibles, and Assets of Your Marriage Chapter 4: Eight Insider Tips on What to Do Once Your Divorce Begins Chapter 5: Whose Fault Is It, Anyway? Fault Divorce, No-Fault Divorce, and Legal Separation Chapter 6: How to Shape Up for the Divorce Battle Chapter 7: From Wedding Ring to Boxing Ring: What to Expect in a Divorce Lawsuit Chapter 8: How to Navigate Divorce Court: Taking Your Case Through Hearings and Trial Chapter 9: Don't Cry Out Loud: How to Prevent Emotions from Weakening Your Bargaining Power Chapter 10: Getting "Affair" Settlement: Capitalizing on Your Husband's Infidelity Chapter 11: Crouching Tiger, Hidden Assets: How to Find Missing Money, Assets, and Property Chapter 12: The Quickie: A Do-It-Yourself Divorce Chapter 13: What's Mine Is Mine, What's Yours Is Mine: How Property Gets Divided in a Divorce Chapter 14: To Have and to Hold On to: Which Assets Are Yours to Keep After a Divorce Chapter 15: Divide and Conquer: A Beginner's Guide to Do-It-Yourself Property Division Chapter 16: The Support Report: How Much Alimony and Child Support Will Be Coming Your Way Chapter 17: Cashing Out: How to Negotiate Like a Pro Chapter 18: Seven Things to Do Before You Sign Your Divorce Papers Chapter 19: Case Closed: What to Expect When the Marriage Is Officially Over Afterword Glossary Acknowledgments

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  • Posted October 26, 2009

    Great info...I wish I had it a long while ago!

    Easy to read...nice that she can also relate. Gives info for differing states...I know now...wish I had the book right when the ex-orcist filed!

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