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He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Decoding Guys

He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Decoding Guys

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by Lisa Winning, Carrie Henderson McDermott

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The creators of HeTexted.com—the wildly popular blog for decoding “obtuse male texting”—give you a frank, funny, and refreshingly helpful guide to dating in the digital age.

You’re a busy, intelligent, modern woman. You stay on top of work email. You “like” all the baby photos your sister posts on Facebook. You found


The creators of HeTexted.com—the wildly popular blog for decoding “obtuse male texting”—give you a frank, funny, and refreshingly helpful guide to dating in the digital age.

You’re a busy, intelligent, modern woman. You stay on top of work email. You “like” all the baby photos your sister posts on Facebook. You found your dream job through LinkedIn. But when your crush texts you “What’s up?” every few days, yet never asks you out, what the heck does that mean?

These days, dating is more confusing than ever. Friending? Following? Liking? Poking? Linking? LOLing? WTF? In an era when FaceTime is no longer the same as face-to-face, it’s no wonder you can’t tell if he’s into you or just really into his iPhone.

This hilarious and essential guide from the founders of HeTexted.com—with totally straightforward guy sight from the HeTexted Bros—will help you autocorrect your digital dating life, from decoding your Facebook friendships, to reading the intentions behind guys’ perplexing texts, to deciding when—if ever—you should text him first. It’s He’s Just Not That Into You for the digital age and What to Expect When You’re Expecting…a second date—all in one invaluable package!

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Library Journal
Drawing on real questions and responses from their wildly popular blog HeTexted (hetexted.com), coauthors Winning and Henderson McDermott, with the assistance of a few good men, provide answers to the familiar "what did he mean by that?" The authors provide context and subtext to every sample "conversation" and show if "he's into you" or not. What makes for compelling reading are the comments that show how to distinguish good chemistry from bad, how to judge the length and timing of a text, and what to do about sexting. VERDICT A valuable book for anyone who is currently dating, and a fun, voyeuristic treat for those who aren't.
Publishers Weekly
Winning and McDermott, creators of HeTexted.com—where women evaluate “obtuse male texting”—assist readers in navigating romance in the information age with the help of three “Brobassadors” who provide a male perspective. Among the array of topics covered are how to reveal subtext in a Facebook friend request, surprising phrases you should never text a guy, and musings on the disparity between a texted vs. a verbal “I love you.” “The Ultimate Facebook Wall Decoder” provides interpretations for men and women on everything from their user handle to their photos and the qualities we look for on another’s page. One man counters the erroneous thinking behind the “two biggest excuses girls make for bad male behavior” and exposes the truth about what he does with nude pics. The authors also draw from HeTexted users, such as the woman whose ex-boyfriend invited her over at 3 a.m. “just to talk” as well as many user-submitted screenshots. McDermott lampoons emojis, noting how “you can irony a thing to death until it’s reborn to earnestness.” The authors’ and the Brobassadors’ adherence to normative gender roles and double standards is bothersome, but unfortunately that’s still the way of the world. (Apr.)

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Meet the Author

Lisa Winning hails from Australia and attended the London School of Economics before landing in New York City to figure out this whole advice game. Having spent years watching her girlfriends scream “he texted!” the morning after a long night out, she realized they needed a bigger outlet. Lisa figured there should be a way girls could get answers on the questions they care about most. So, she created HeTexted.
Carrie Henderson McDermott is the co-founder and editorial director of HeTexted. Previously, Carrie worked at Glamour magazine, where she wrote about all things beauty. So, when she’s not busy telling you how to respond to the 3am text (read: don’t!), she can point you in the direction of a mean blow-out. Or explain why most guys hate red lipstick on a first date. Carrie spent a bunch of single years in New York City before she met a guy at a bar. On a Tuesday. At karaoke night. Then, he texted. Now, she calls him her husband. 

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KrittersRamblings More than 1 year ago
Check out the full review at Kritters Ramblings  Are you currently in the dating pool or have recently re-entered?  This book is a must read!   As an "old" married lady, I am not currently in the dating pool and have been out of it for awhile, so this book completely intrigued me.  I am not too old that texting was happening when I was dating and facebook was around - not like it is now, but social media and things have changed a bit since I left the dating world.  More or less, I read this book just intrigued by the things that women and men face with the ability to google one's potential date and find out basically their whole life story from a few clicks.  I love that this book was set up almost from the start of a relationship to the possible end and how one should act through each stage with men giving their thoughts also.  
Sherri_Hunter More than 1 year ago
Single women from every generation have always wondered if the man that occupies her thoughts is “The One.” Does she ever cross his mind as often as he crosses hers? In today’s modern world where the majority of communication is done electronically with a slew of various gadgets and devices, dating has become a tricky ledge that women find themselves treading upon very carefully, trying to decipher what Mr. Wonderful’s most recent text, email, Facebook comment, etc., really means. With He Texted, the authors bring the reader some direct analysis and somewhat expert advice and varying points of view from three men, known as The Bros covering a wide range of scenarios to help the single gal determine if he’s a keeper or if she should move on. While reading this book, I couldn’t stop thinking that if the women who submitted the texts for analysis spent as much time verbally communicating with the man she is interested in as she does trying to first decipher and comprehend his texts, emails, etc., she would probably find herself in a meaningful relationship in no time. But then what do I know? I’m certainly no expert on relationships or matters of the heart, but I can’t help but think that in order to determine if you are compatible, it’s best to get to know each other speaking out loud to one another. As a society, are we really too busy to do that or are we just lazy and just want to see positive results with little to no effort on our part?  I found this book very easy to read and enjoyed that the authors had real men offering real advice about the various topics ranging from “he friended” to “he booty-texted” to “he loves you” and all of the pitfalls and drama in between. You could also get the same advice, feedback and interaction if you just visit the He Texted website. I also enjoyed that even with the various points of view from both the guys and the gals, there was no gender bashing. The guys were not afraid to label another guy a tool or the girl as naïve or gullible, but when they did, they did so with tact and professionalism. Nobody went off on a tangent, jumping on the soapbox to vilify one gender over the other. I felt like the advice and feedback provided was given with sincerity and honesty. The book also provides a good amount of humor, especially with the “text examples” provided in the book.  Overall, although common sense and logic should prevail and people should be interacting with their voices instead of their thumbs on a keypad, the digital age we live in is proof that it isn’t happening. More people are finding their mates online year after year and this book provides a good road map for Ms. Single Gal to use to help her understand the signs so she is successful on her journey to Happily Ever After.  Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of He Texted from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. 
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