Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief

Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief

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by Martha W. Hickman

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For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are strength and thoughtful words to inspire and comfort.


For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are strength and thoughtful words to inspire and comfort.

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January 1

I put down these memorandums of my affections
In honor of tenderness,
in honor of all of those who have been
Conscripted into the brotherhood
Of loss . . .

-- Edward Hirsch

When we are drawn into the brotherhood or sisterhood of loss, tenderness seems to be our natural state. We are so vulnerable. Everything brushes against the raw wound of our grief, reminding us of what we have lost, triggering memories -- a tilt of the head, a laugh, a way of walking, a touch, a particular conversation. These images are like beads strung together on the necklace of loss. Tenderly, we turn them again and again. We cannot bear them. We cannot let them go.

Then, gradually, bit by bit, the binding thread of grief somehow transmutes, reconstitutes itself as a thread of treasured memories -- a tilt of the head, a laugh, a way of walking, a touch, a particular conversation as gifts from the life we shared with the one we have lost, gifts that can never be taken away.Healing After Loss. Copyright © by Martha Hickman. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold.

Meet the Author

MARTHA WHITMORE HICKMAN is the author of more than twenty books for adults and children. Among her adult titles are The Growing Season, Fullness of Time, and I Will Not Leave You Desolate. Books for young children include And God Created Squash, When Andy's Father Went to Prison, and Eeps Creeps, It's My Room.

A native of Massachusetts and a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Mount Holyoke, she has lived in the south for many years. To her writing she brings the additional perspective of being a wife, mother, grandmother, and sometime editor and teacher. She presently lives with her husband in Nashville, Tennessee.

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Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 70 reviews.
LoveToReadItAll More than 1 year ago
If you are reading this review it is most likely that you or someone you love has suffered a tragic loss. You must be hoping to find something to help you find a way to help you deal with what has happened and to find your way toward a life without your loved-one. I can't say enough about this wonderful little book. Our daughter and her husband lost their infant daughter 3 years ago. The death of this beautiful little baby crushed us all. One day, I wandered through the bookstore, blindly searching for a book on grief. I could find none that I thought I was capable of getting through. I turned to walk away when my glance fell upon Ms. Whitmore Hickman's book. Maybe I could manage one page a day. I began reading that day, and each following day. I was amazed at what I discovered on all of those pages. Each was such a comfort and so close to what I was feeling. It was just what I needed, and just what I was capable of handling. I began to look forward to the next page, and ultimately the next day. I suppose that I would have moved forward at some point, but this little book helped to make the transition a bit easier, a bit more graceful. I found the book so comforting that I gave a copy to my daughter. She, in turn, gave a copy to a friend. Since that time, I have given copies to friends who have suffered a great loss. I want to say that I am sorry that you have lost someone you love, and I hope that your can find the comfort in these pages that I found.
Renney More than 1 year ago
As a therapist, I highly recommend this book to anyone in mourning or who is grieving. It relates so very well to all readers that they feel certain the author understands what they are going through. I always used it in therapy for home reading. I now give it to any one that I personally am involved with who is mourning a loss. It speaks much louder than flowers.
RRZ More than 1 year ago
This book was given to me when my husband died at age 42 - I read it daily for several years. Each page is designated for a particular day of the year. The contents seemed to be just what I needed on any particular day. I have since given this book to anyone I know who is grieving.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you are purchasing this for yourself, I am so sorry for your loss - I know something of the dark, sad and surreal world that appears without the one you loved. I hope this book can be of some comfort to you as it was for me. Of course this is only one tiny shaft of light in the darkness, but I am grateful for each one. If you are getting it for a friend or family member, bless you and your efforts to be there. This book has incredibly insight, hope, understanding and some new ideas delivered in small doses (the tiny shafts of light in the darkness). Since concentration levels are so affected during grieving, the one page entries are easy to read or skip, if you need a one that will more fit your moment. With grief, at least for me, it seems like my mood and outlook can change so much within a couple days - this book fills many needs. Although my husband hasn't read it like I have, I will now and again give him a page to read that is particularly insightful for us at that moment and it can, however briefly, help him as well. I often find myself highlighting passages in it. I really do like it and I think that every funeral home, hospice, and hospital should carry this to help those who are going home for the first time to a new life without their loved one.    
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If, like me, you have been in a perpetual semi-fog due to the death of a loved one and feel like you can't snap out of it, I would recommmend this book to you. My mother died from ovarian cancer a few months back and so my family is in the midst of the first-year anniversaries, birthdays, etc. "The first" of everything without her. I find that this book keeps me centered and gives me something to look forward to every day, like a regular routine. I know I must dedicate 2 minutes or so to relaxing and comprehending what each day's reading is saying. There are a lot of relevant and inspirational passages and sometimes it's like the author is able to read my mind....which makes me realize that other people feel the same way I do and I'm not the first to ever have these feelings and thoughts, as I try to make my way through the days.
LEK More than 1 year ago
I gave this to my mom shortly after my father died. It's a wonderful book. The author has great insight into the subject, and the way in which the book was done -- brief, thoughtful daily meditations -- is really what you need when you've just lost someone you loved immensely and you need the thoughts and insight of someone who's been there but you aren't feeling up to sitting and reading a long book. I have read the book myself, and the quotes and ideas have stuck with me.
forjim More than 1 year ago
This book was given to me by a friend after we lost our son in a media helicopter collision over the city of Phoenix. As members of For the Love of Christi, a grief support group in Austin, Tx, my husband and I have found that those who attend, especially the women, are attracted to books which may affirm our faith and give us hope that we can get through the years ahead. This book, written by a grieving mother, is my favorite of all. There is a quotation, poem or line of scripture for every day of the year followed by the author's explanation of the chosen writing and ending with a resolution to help you get through that day. I donated copies to the Christi Center and others have done so as well. When anyone that I know loses a child, I buy a book for them. I recommend it above all others for those who are grieving.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is exactly what a grieving person craves - comfort in a concise form . . . . because it's often hard to concentrate while going through the grieving process. Every day the passage spoke to my heart either about what I was feeling or had felt. Since my husband passed away (2 yrs ago), I've purchased this book for friends you had lost their son, mother, husband. Even gave a copy of a close friend having a difficult time after a divorce - it can also be a grieving process. Every one of them has told me or written me how much they've appreciated this book. I highly recommend this book
Guest More than 1 year ago
I received the book from a friend for obvious reasons. Normally I would not venture to do so for myself. But I found this text very helpful and I am grateful for good, thoughtful friends. For those who have suffered loss I would recommend this book to you.
JAEC More than 1 year ago
this book has helped my mom in her slow healing process. My father passed away 2 months ago, and after 54 yrs together the process is slow, but mom has read and reread this book atleast 3 times.. each time getting something different from it. Thank you!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is my second review.I have recommended this book to many people over the last 10 months.I still read it daily and it continues to help me move forward with my life and gives me hope.I started reading it from the beginning again last week and was surprised at how much better I was coping than when I first read it.That raw almost unbearable grief has softened and I feel stronger than I wiser than I was 10 months ago.There really is something to the saying...What doesnt kill you makes you stronger.I will miss the mother I cared for and who died in my arms everyday for the rest of my life.I wont be crushed by grief though.This book taught me so so much and I am certain Gods hand guided the authors when she wrote this book.Thank you for this wonderful book that was there in the middle of the night when I couldnt sleep,in the mornings when I couldn't face another day.I plan on donating some of these books to our local Hospice that helped me so much.If you buy this book know that it will be the best thing you could have done to help yourself.Please "Pay It Forward" and give one to another person who needs help too.Thank you Martha for sharing your grief and wisdom and kindness and for helping so many people.
Daisyblue More than 1 year ago
Have given this to many people and all have found it helpful in many ways. It is well written, caring and loving with just enough spiritual guidance for anyone who reads it. The author has woven kindness, understanding, and a sense of compassion into the writings.
maddiesmom220 More than 1 year ago
This is a fantastic book for those who are grieving. We use this in our grief support meetings and many people have found it helpful.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Nothing more and nothing less. Just amazing!
Guest More than 1 year ago
A few years ago, a co-worker asked me if there was something for her to read after the death of her 2 daughters. I came across this book and gave it to her. She found it very helpful. Since then, I have shared this with a number of others who always have the same reaction. My latest purchase is for another co-worker who just lost an adult daughter. I gave her this book about 2 years ago when she lost a son. She wants copies for her two remaining children. She has shared passages from her book, but wants them to have their own.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have purchased this book many times for friends experiencing loss. It was an invaluable companion for me when my husband died suddenly. I am grateful to the friend who gave it to me.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a great little book. I was disappointed to find that it is almost identical to the writing in the daily journal she wrote with the same name. I am using the journal for the second time after my Dad passed. It gives you a short thought provoking passage and asks you a question. Some days it speaks to me more than others but I look forward to writing in it each day. It is interesting to read what I wrote a couple of years ago when my Mom passed. Each loss is different.
PJwatcher More than 1 year ago
This book is so helpful during this time of grieving and loss for me. I've been reading it for almost 6 months. It was given to me by a friend and I'm so thrilled with it that I bought copies for my children. Sometimes I even re-read the passages.
Galireads51 More than 1 year ago
This book somehow brings comfort when most needed. At first, after your loss, it is hard to look at anything and imagine that anything could help. It takes time but when you do pick it up, each day is a healing process and this little book helps just in that way, day by day.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
One of the very best books for those who have suffered a loss. Short, daily meditations, and encouragements.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was given to me when I was widowed; it started my mornings for at least a year, and I still refer to it when I feel the need. I keep 2-3 copies on hand to give to others who have suffered loss, and have given away at least a dozen copies over the past five years. The recipients find it as uplifting as I did and still do.
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I don't know how I would have gotten through the first two months after my mothers death if I hadnt searched for help and found this book.After she died and Hospice left and friends and family went back to their own lives,there was only me left in a big empty house I had shared with her for 18 years.There were times I just randomly opened it to any page.No matter what I read it seemed to help me get through the worse parts of my day.The most important thing I got from this book were the simple words...The Worst Is Over. Give yourself the gift of this book.You will come away with a sense of peace and acceptance amd you will not be alone with your grief.
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