Healing Homosexualityby Joseph Nicolosi, Lucy Freeman
In 1973, when all the arguments were presented to the American Psychiatric Association both for and against the idea of homosexuality as pathology, it was the personal disclosures of gay men that had the most influence. Listening to their stories of frustration in treatment–and their newfound happiness through acceptance of a gay identity–the American… See more details below
In 1973, when all the arguments were presented to the American Psychiatric Association both for and against the idea of homosexuality as pathology, it was the personal disclosures of gay men that had the most influence. Listening to their stories of frustration in treatment–and their newfound happiness through acceptance of a gay identity–the American Psychiatric Association voted to omit homosexuality as a diagnostic category. Now, twenty years later, Dr. Joseph Nicolosi presents the opposite kind of personal testimony. This testimony is from homosexual men who have tried to accept a gay identity but were dissatisfied, and then benefitted from psychotherapy to help free them of homosexuality. While each client has his unique story, Nicolosi has chosen eight men as representative of the personalities he has encountered in the twelve years during which he has treated over 200 homosexual clients. These men are engaged in a "two-front war"–an internal assault against their own unwanted desires, and an external battle against a popular culture that does not understand or value their struggle. In their own words, we hear these men's struggles to develop healthy, non-erotic male friendships. We hear of their fear and anger toward the men in their lives, and their strained relationships with the fathers they never understood. Nicolosi contends that every man possesses aspects of these clients: The frailty of Albert, the integrity of Charlie, the rage of Dan, the narcissism of Steve, and the ambivalence of Roger, to list some of them. Some readers of this book may be surprised by the directive style of Dr. Nicolosi's therapeutic intervention. In part, this is due to the editorial synthesis of the transcript. More importantly, however, reparative therapy does require a more involved therapist–a benevolent provocateur who departs from the tradition of uninvolved, opaque analyst to become a salient male presence. The therapist must balance active challenge with warm encouragement to follow the father-son model. T
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Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D., is founder and Clinical Director of the Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic, and co-founder of the National Association for the Research and Therapy of Homosexuality. Dr. Nicolosi received his training at the New School for Social Research and the California School of Professional Psychology. He is a member of the American Psychological Association and the California Psychological Association. Dr. Nicolosi is the author of Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality and numerous professional articles. He is a frequent lecturer and is in private practice in Encino, California.
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This book is not only articulate, but extremely well-researched. This book offers hope to those individuals desiring a way out of homosexuality, and help to professionals desiring to give their clients the assistance they need on such a journey. For all who ever sought freedom, this book lends hope and encouragement that people can and do change. A must reading for every clinician.
The two leaders of Exodus Ministries, who both claimed to be the proof that reparative therapy works (after all they had married and fathered kids with their wives) actualy disproved NARTH's claims by running off together. And Exodus itself closed in 2015. Sexualpreference cannot be changed; at best you can choose to be celibate if your faith demands it.
I read this book about five years into my life as an ex-gay man. I found it to be very useful and deeply moving. The fundamental power of this book is that it's a collection of case studies. These are what the journey has looked like for other men, both their successes and failures. I found some concrete tools that have been very useful in my goal to live a life without conflict between my sexuality and faith, and I don't know if I'd have dared try them if it hadn't been something that had come from other people's lives. I think that I've also avoided some pitfalls because of the examples illuminated here. The compassionate and insightful narrative style is challenging but positive, always advocating healthier, more productive long-term solutions to the sexual activity I used as a short-term palliative. I re-read my copy of this book once or twice a year and always learn something from it. I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone who's wondering what the path from active homosexual to Judeo-Christian morality might look like. I think it shows what I've found, and what these examples illustrate, that it's a path of deeper meaning and richer rewards than the things we leave behind!
The author trades on the unhappiness of those who found 'the gay lifestyle' not to their liking. This book's religious beliefs framed as psuedo-science will only convince the already converted and perhaps, the extremely gullible. Caveat emptor.