Heaven Without Her: A Desperate Daughter's Search for the Heart of Her Mother's Faith [NOOK Book]

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A fascinating personal account of a libertarian feminist agnostic who discovered a dynamic faith.


Kitty Foth-Regner was a secular feminist who had bought hook, line, and sinker the ideals and objectives of Betty Friedan's N.O.W. Kitty's mother-a woman of faith-became sick and clearly was destined to die rather quickly. And the author began to wonder about whether she would be in heaven with her mother someday. This led her on a personal ...

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Overview

A fascinating personal account of a libertarian feminist agnostic who discovered a dynamic faith.


Kitty Foth-Regner was a secular feminist who had bought hook, line, and sinker the ideals and objectives of Betty Friedan's N.O.W. Kitty's mother-a woman of faith-became sick and clearly was destined to die rather quickly. And the author began to wonder about whether she would be in heaven with her mother someday. This led her on a personal journey of faith. Heaven Without Her is Foth-Regner's personal memoir of how she found, to her amazement, that all the evidence points to Christianity.

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As a feminist and a successful freelance copywriter, Foth-Regner had a full and enviable life. Until, that is, her mother's fatal illness stormed into her otherwise manageable existence, leaving Foth-Regner shaken and distracted. In this engaging spiritual memoir, she tells her story of coming to faith in Christ by first examining all the plausible reasons for not doing so. Each chapter of Foth-Regner's spiritual journey is filled with examinations of the Christian faith from a variety of vantage points as she dissects historical facts, other religions' claims, scientific discoveries, the assertion that the Bible is inerrant , and much more. Readers will appreciate Foth-Regner's razor-sharp wit and the clever mind that she displays throughout her narrative. Most importantly, she offers readers her brutally open heart, full of wrenching pain, as she prepares to watch her beloved mother exit Earth to heaven. Many will resonate with Foth-Regner's doubts and unanswered questions and similarly find themselves rejoicing on multiple levels as she discovers inner peace with God's promise of the eternal. Foth-Regner includes an extensive section for further reading at the close of her memoir, which in itself is an invaluable resource for new seekers and veterans of the Christian faith. (Apr.)

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781418536534
  • Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
  • Publication date: 4/1/2008
  • Sold by: THOMAS NELSON
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 288
  • Sales rank: 860,188
  • File size: 913 KB

Meet the Author

Kitty Foth-Regner
Kitty Foth-Regner was a freelance copywriter with big-name clients, an enviable portfolio, an unusual knack for translating complex technical topics into simple terms, and a business built entirely on referrals; she didn't need to sell her services. A summa cum laude journalism graduate, she had talent, brains, lots of friends, a great boyfriend, a cool house west of Milwaukee, Wisconsin, all the pets she could handle, and a really good cleaning woman. She had just one published novel - a medical thriller she conceived while interviewing a researcher at George Washington University for a Philadelphia developer of monoclonal antibodies - but plenty of other ideas in the hopper, just waiting for her undivided attention. She was, in short, a feminist in full and happy control of her life. And then her beloved mother developed a fatal illness, reducing all those achievements to dust and sending her off on a frantic quest to see if her mother's Christian faith might by any chance be true.
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Heaven Without Her
A Desperate Daughter's Search for the Heart of Her Mother's Faith
By Kitty Foth-Regner
Thomas Nelson
Copyright © 2008 Kitty Foth-Regner
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-7852-2744-1



Chapter One
Through a glass, darkly: Face-to-face with forever

4:30 p.m., May 30, 2000, Milwaukee, Wisconsin

The last time I talked to my mother, she was lying in a morphine-induced coma in her room at the nursing home where she'd lived for the last eight years. We were not alone; my husband, Dave, was there, along with my oldest sister Carrie and her husband, David, an Episcopal deacon. Random nurses and aides floated in and out of a scene so dreamlike that it still doesn't seem quite real to me.

I do remember David delivering what he called the last rites, a swarm of prayers that sounded very dire to me. He has one of those deep-as-a-grave voices, a voice that resonated as he gestured over her body and spoke of "God's servant Ethel" and how she was "lying in great weakness" and how much she needed His mercy.

I wanted to say, "Um, excuse me? She's dying, right? She needs a cure, not mercy. Try calling a doctor instead of your imaginary friend." "Comfort her with the promise of life everlasting," he boomed in a pitch that was a perfect match for his shirt, an ominous black garment with a peek-a-boo square of white at the throat.

I thought briefly of all the promises I'd broken. No comfort there.

"That it may please You mercifully to pardon all her sins," he added.

I glared at him: how dare he accuse my mother of sin? No one noticed my anger; all heads were bowed but mine. I quickly dropped my eyes again, fearful that I might have broken some spell he was casting, half-expecting him to launch into something along the lines of "double, double, toil and trouble ..."

Instead, he rambled on about God's mercy and love.

Empty words, all. If his God really existed, which I sincerely doubted, He apparently had no problem ripping my heart out. What good was a God who would do a thing like that?

When he had finished, we sat there silently for a long while. I remember wishing they'd all leave so I could be alone with my mom. But it was such a personal request that I didn't have the nerve to ask them to get out. And they didn't seem to be doing a very good job of reading my mind. I finally settled for kneeling next to the head of her bed and whispering in her ear.

"You can let go now, Mom," I said, crossing my fingers. I said it only because someone had told me it's the kind thing to say to a dying parent.

"I'll be okay," I added. I didn't mean that either, even though she was eighty-seven, and I was forty-seven and, from what some very smart people have told me before and since, I had no business viewing her impending death as anything more than a sad but inevitable incident in my life.

She didn't respond. I knelt there, looking at her supremely peaceful countenance, listening to her steady breathing. I fumbled for something else to say.

Finally it came to me: "I'll see you there, Mom."

It was a promise, one that I intended to keep. Of course, I had no idea what this could possibly mean. But as Dave and I left the room moments later-I couldn't handle the death watch, and clearly she wasn't going to know whether I was there or not-I decided it might be a good time to find out. After all, everyone else seemed to have a pretty good idea of what the afterlife had in store for her, telling her slumbering form that she was about to embark on a great adventure. And telling her this with great gusto and cheer, like travel agents who have just sold a client a really expensive vacation package: "Ho, boy, don't we all wish we were going with you!"

I kissed her good-bye-a quick peck on one soft check, as if this were an everyday "see ya later" parting-and headed for the door, pausing only to grab my purse. Dave followed me out.

"She sure would've liked this little gathering," I said bitterly as we walked briskly down the hall to the nearest exit. Normally crawling with aides, nurses, and housekeepers, the place was eerily vacant. "Surrounded by people she loves, with everyone for once focused on her."

"And it's not even Christmas," Dave said.

Then he wisely shut up. Maybe he was sad, knowing he'd probably never have another teasing conversation with my mom. Or maybe he recognized that I was just a sympathetic word or two away from a total meltdown and feared what might follow in its wake.

With good reason, as it turned out.

* * *

There was one thing I was pretty sure of, even then: in her final alert hours, my mother had undoubtedly been overjoyed to be heading home at long last.

Her faith had been formed early, thanks to a mother and grandmother with rock-solid Christian convictions. Their generations had apparently been unfazed by the scientific revolution Charles Darwin launched in 1859 by publishing Origin of the Species by Means of Natural Selection, or the Preservation of Favored Races in the Struggle for Life. Christianity was truth, as far as they were concerned, and it permeated everything they did, said, and even thought. They held, in short, what is today called a "biblical worldview."

For instance, women of this era didn't believe that marriage was all about being happy, although I daresay that most were happy enough with their husbands. If yours was nasty to you, you were to respond with love because the Bible told you to do so. End of discussion.

Nor did they believe financial gain was to be had at any cost. If a shopkeeper gave you too much change, and you didn't notice it until you got home, then you marched right back to return the excess. Thou shalt not steal, after all, even if your gains were the result of someone else's honest mistake.

So thoroughly did this worldview permeate their lives that my grandmother's only surviving cookbook-handwritten in a spiral notebook-included generous helpings of advice from the Old and New Testaments. There between recipes for Ruth Niles' Butterscotch Brownies and Mrs. Martini's Potato Salad would be a solution for discouragement:

Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding. He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Dealing with sorrow? Between her instructions for Ann's Noodle Dish and Happy Day Cake, this grandmother I'd never known had given a place of honor to the ultimate comfort food:

Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.

My grandmother's generation-and my mother's-apparently had no need for shrinks or anti-depressants or self-improvement books. They had another source of help in times of trouble.

I'd never been much interested in these things. But that was about to change forever.

(Continues...)



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Table of Contents

Through a glass, darkly: Face-to-face with forever     1
When I was a child: A healthy fear of hell     6
Willfully ignorant: Turning on and tuning out     11
In the beginning: How I came to be so lost     20
Professing to be wise: A life worth the living     28
The whole creation groans: But let's pretend everything's okay     38
Where you go, I will go: Just leave me the directions     43
Be not afraid, only believe: At first, it's a lot to swallow     50
Let not your heart be troubled: Searching for a mother's peace     61
A reason for the hope that is in you: Looking to the Minister of Defense     67
A new creation: Turbulent times for an atheist sympathizer     75
Behold, now is the day: Okay, you've got my attention     82
What is truth? Your guess is as good as mine     86
They are without excuse: Could their imaginary friend be real?     96
The heavens declare: How could I have missed all this?     114
No other gods: Would the real One please stand up?     126
Let no one deceive you: There's Christianity, and there's everything else     133
Beware lest anyone cheat you: Separating scientific fact from science fiction     150
The future before it happens: There's only one explanation     163
The spirit of wisdom: What matters is what's true     176
The truth will set you free: One woman's liberation     185
In my Father's house: The ultimate wake-up call     203
Absent from the body: The only itinerary we need     205
You must be born again: Getting positioned for eternity     210
To die is gain: Women living on the edge     223
Joy for mourning: It's going to be awesome!     238
In the twinkling of an eye: Let the butterflies begin     247
Epilogue: Enter by the narrow gate: It's the only way to fly     252
Notes     254
Bibliography     259
About the author     270
Acknowledgments     271
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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 29, 2008

    Very thought provoking

    I really enjoyed Kitty's book. She shows readers how they can really learn a lot about truth and facts when they just pay attention to it, take the time and READ about it. So often people take the information they hear, watch and read as fact, when, unfortunately, they are simply bits and pieces that have been twisted and spun to justify what they want. Just because someone is loud, or a good speaker, or good looking does not mean they know what they are talking about. Kitty proves that there is only one truth.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 31, 2008

    A reviewer

    I think the author does a masterful job at letting the reader into her world. The book's an entertaining as well as enlightening read. As a baby boomer, I was brought up with many of the same ideas and later somewhat the same kind of questions and emptiness. The book is a helpful guide for those who are struggling with their Christian faith and those who are searching for answers.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 1, 2008

    A must-read for the discriminating seeker!

    I believe this memoir mirrors the experience of so many women who are left spiritually empty-handed at the end of the day. And it will resonate especially with anyone who, in grieving, has wondered about the realities of heaven. The author grants us an intimate and poignant view of her own loss and spiritual struggle. Then, with the tenacity of a best-selling crime-solver, she sorts through and compiles evidence for faith in Christ that ultimately cannot be dismissed. This book is a must read for the discriminating seeker.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 27, 2008

    excellent tool for persuading the agnostic in your life

    This book touched my heart.As a mother with an agnostic feminist scientist daughter, I could totally relate. This book gave me hope. My heart also aches when I too think about 'Heaven Without Her' what a transformation in the life of Mrs. Foth-Regener, and the references she gives for researching the validity of Jesus being the Truth the way and the light is an excellent list. I would recommend this book for all the seekers out there, but also for all the people who have loved ones that have not accepted Christ.

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