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Help Yourself

Help Yourself

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by Dave Pelzer

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As nearly four million readers have learned from his three previous books, Dave Pelzer doesn't believe in feeling sorry for himself. Abused mercilessly by his mother as a child, Dave has taken everything that happened to him and turned it into something positive so that he can help others. Now happily married and with a child of his own, he celebrates the twin pillars


As nearly four million readers have learned from his three previous books, Dave Pelzer doesn't believe in feeling sorry for himself. Abused mercilessly by his mother as a child, Dave has taken everything that happened to him and turned it into something positive so that he can help others. Now happily married and with a child of his own, he celebrates the twin pillars of strength that saw him through his darkest hours: resilience and gratitude. And he shows how anyone can tap into these virtues to live a better and more fulfilling life.

In Help Yourself, Dave Pelzer explains how to move beyond a painful history, harmful negative thoughts, and innumerable setbacks by urging readers to take control and be accountable for their lives. Filled with his own history, as well as the personal struggles of others who have learned how to turn adversity into triumph, Help Yourself is a rousing call to readers who want real answers to real problems. Never before in paperback, it will undoubtedly join Pelzer's previous paperbacks on bestseller lists for years to come.

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“A monumental series of books about courage and triumph. Pelzer demonstrates, as few have, that it is in the darkest skies that the stars are best seen.”—Richard Paul Evans, New York Times bestselling author of The Christmas Box
"Dave Pelzer is a living testament of resilience, personal responsibility, and the triumph of the human spirit."—John Bradshaw, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Homecoming and Family Secrets

"A living example that all of us have the capability to better ourselves no matter what the odds... Dave Pelzer inspires us all."—Jack Canfield, #1 New York Times bestselling coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Soul

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Penguin Publishing Group
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18 Years

Meet the Author

Dave Pelzer is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Child Called “It"The Lost Boy, A Man Named Dave, Help Yourself, and The Privilege of Youth. He travels more than 250 days a year throughout the nation speaking to large groups of youth and adults on the topics of resilience and overcoming obstacles. He has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Live, and The Montel Williams Show, among other national shows.

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Rancho Mirage, California
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Daly City, California
High School equivalency certificate

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Help Yourself: Finding Hope, Courage, and Happiness 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 22 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have just finished reading 'A child called It'. One of the best and heart-throbbing books I have read in a long time. I read it non-stop and cried all the way to the end and finished the book within four hours. What a miracle to this child who had come a long way. I can never picture that anyone can be so cruel to their own child. I loved the book so much, that I ended up getting them all. If those who haven't read Dave Pelzer's books. You should...
Guest More than 1 year ago
After reading in the local paper that David had spoken at our local high school, I decided to go pick up his books. I purchased all of them...there was no way I could get only one. When I came to read this title 'Help Yourself', I never knew what would happen next. I lived with a past that haunted me every day (no way in comparision to David's). I never could forgive. Until I read this book. And I realized, if he can do it, I can do it. And he was right, to hate someone doesn't hurt them...it hurts you. So when you forgive, you're doing it for you. This book changed my life. I recommend it to everyone. Even if you don't have a past that haunts you.
longjohn1 More than 1 year ago
aqmazing insight for a man who suffered so much as a child
Guest More than 1 year ago
David had alot of strenghth mentally and physically to let the world know how his child hood was he is a strong and wonderful man and a very lucky person to had overcome what he did. Not only physically and mentally did he get scarred but what he went through must of all killed him emotionally to have your on mother turn on you and treat you like his mother treated him . He is a great writer and encourager for youths all around. His books are my favorites I give him alot of credit for his writing. He is a strong individual.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Dave Pelzer is a hero living our midst...I haven't read all of his other books...but I definitely will!! I read HELP YOURSELF and it was such a shock to read what treatment he faced. Everyone needs to read his books...no matter what. It made me appreciate life and people like Dave Pelzer for sharing with us his experience in life!! I'm 13 but, wow this book has amazed me!!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I Loved it so much and I could fell his pain in the books A Child Called It!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is by far the greatest book ever written. I love Dave's book becuase he is one of the few authors who isnt afraid to express his emotions and thoughts in different scenerio's.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was the kind of person who does not like to read people's sad stories. But, Dave's series are truly exceptional. Not only I have stayed up until 3am every night, just to finish all his first 3 books. I am now looking forward to purchase his 'Help yourself' book. His books have changed me and I am now a more sensitive mother and wife to my family. Thanks, Dave for your remarkable influence on me!!! Thanks again!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have found his books to be both frightening and powerful. Even as a small child he would not give in. I've read his books more than once.. They can give anyone real insight on a horrible problem that effects children every day... some don't make it . I'm glad to have read Dave's books.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Dave Pelzer is one of my favorite authors and so far I have read all of his books in his series A Child Called "It". This Specific book, Help Yourself is for those who may be in a abusive relationship and need guidence. He goes step by step in how to get out of it. He talks about the dilemmas of unresolved issues , forgiving, and letting go, and many more important topics. I loved the first books in this, series so naturally i loved this one. I think every one should read his entire series, so they know what some unfortunate people go though.
Guest More than 1 year ago
all of Dave's books were amazing! i cryed in everyone whether i was happy or sad he always keeps you going there are never any boring parts
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read the trilogy of books by Dave and I almost got sick, but I kept on reading because I wanted to see how triumphant he was in the end. God will make a way where there seems to be no way!!!!!!!!!!!!!He's a living testimony.
Guest More than 1 year ago
i read the first book and after reading the frist one i had to drive three cities to find the other two i was so into the child called it that i have used them on what not to do or say to my own children i have made my children read these books so they could see what life could be like these books are the best books i have ever read
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is outstanding! I would give it more than five stars if I had been allowed. I checked it out from the library and after reading it, I know it is a book that I must own. I plan to refer to it often, underline, highlight and use as a reference. Pelzer is such an amazing positive example of how people can triumph over situations that others may see as insurmountable. He shares what he did to overcome his childhood and does so in a positive, growth-oriented way. He made my problems seem so small, yet never 'wallows' in pity--he talks about how to let go and move on. I would recommend this to anybody who is working on abuse issues.
Guest More than 1 year ago
reading Davids book made a great change in my life. i never read a complete book in my life. i promise, if you start reading this book, you won't wanna put it down.. he is a true hero. thank you david pelzer
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
So sad, very opened minded on a lot. Dave I bless u nd ur family. You were a very brave young boy/ man.. I shed tears. But I'm happy u over come that. God bless!..I wish I had one thing in my life nd that's meeting you nd give u a hug.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I think of myself getting beating vnot funny
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Guest More than 1 year ago
I'm posting this review for all of Dave Pelzers books in here......I haven't read these books yet but I have heard they are really good, I'm probably going to get them tommorow because today is Sunday. I cant wait, I will write more when I'm reading them until then, hats off to Dave Pelzer.....
Guest More than 1 year ago
I've read all of Davids books + own them, Because of them I'm studing to become a social worker councler and help children in need.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have read all of David's books and there is no way to describe David other than to say he is a true hero and inspiration to victims of abuse. There is much wisdom spoken in this book, but the two most outstanding sections deal with cleansing the soul and getting rid of the baggage of the past. As a doctor, I have spoken with many survivors of abuse. If you can learn to let go of the past, learn to forgive what you could not control, and find peace of mind and contentment within yourself, you are already well on the way to healing. I also highly recommend 'Open Your Mind, Open Your Life: A Book of Eastern Wisdom' by Taro Gold which contains hundreds of empowering quotations and inspiring affirmations.