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He's Just No Good for You: A Guide to Getting Out of a Destructive Relationship

He's Just No Good for You: A Guide to Getting Out of a Destructive Relationship

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by Beth Wilson, Mo Hannah (With), Demaria Rita (Foreword by)

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Woman-to-woman advice on identifying—and dumping—bad news guys No one is immune when it comes to destructive relationships. Even smart women can be gaslighted by men who appear supportive in public but are belittling in private, after which, worse yet, they assert that you’re upset for no reason, that you’re simply imagining the verbal abuse


Woman-to-woman advice on identifying—and dumping—bad news guys No one is immune when it comes to destructive relationships. Even smart women can be gaslighted by men who appear supportive in public but are belittling in private, after which, worse yet, they assert that you’re upset for no reason, that you’re simply imagining the verbal abuse and incremental death of your spirit. In He’s Just No Good for You, best-selling author Beth Wilson, with psychologist Dr. Maureen Hannah, zeroes in on the heart of the matter—women’s well-being and self-worth—and sets forth a clear vision of just what a healthy relationship looks like. She also instructs women of all ages on installing “early detection” warning systems in their brains. As for those women already enmeshed in a destructive relationship, this book, with its reassuring, empowering style, can assist in identifying the problem, deciding whether to leave or to stay, and then acting on that decision. Most books about bad relationships focus on compatibility or domestic violence. He’s Just No Good for You is for all women who have found themselves wondering if the “great” guy others see at their side is in fact not so great—or worse. Wilson explores the anatomy of a destructive relationship and provides clear profiles of bad news individuals. And she shows women how they can move beyond the grasp of a harmful relationship by taking a candid look at their priorities, their circumstances, and themselves. Drawing on the wisdom and insight Wilson has long utilized in her thriving private practice, and building on her previous best-selling books, along with Dr. Hannah’s professional expertise, He’s Just No Good for You offers women a new path. Women want more out of relationships—and this book shows them that they can have it.

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“Finally, here is a guide for freeing women who are ensnared unnecessarily in relationships that are emotionally abusive. A must read.” —John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work“Women of all ages need to read this book! Beth brings a fresh approach to the topic and a compassionate voice, focusing on women’s empowerment and learning to trust ourselves, especially in relationships.” —Lisa Frederiksen, author of If You Loved Me, You’d Stop! “Beth Wilson’s words fire with arrowlike precision to help women penetrate the layers of programming keeping them trapped in unhealthy relationships. This book is a true friend to women because it tells the truth.” —Elizabeth Diane & Andrew Marshall authors of Listening With Heart 360: Wisdom Women Have Forgotten “He’s Just No Good For You is a comprehensive, well-written book for women who will recognize themselves, their relationships, and their partners’ destructive patterns. The author knows her material, and offers hope and spiritual sustenance without judgment while nudging us to make better choices.”—Karen Fiester, Ph.D. Stanford University, Clinical Psychologist, 30+ years private practice focusing on women and relationships. “Written with compassion and humor, He's Just No Good for You is a must-read for every woman who gets involved with the wrong kind of men. It's also a fun, and insightful, read for everyone else.”— Riane Eisler, author of The Chalice and The Blade and The Real Wealth of Nations “Beth brings to light the subtleties of how many of us have found ourselves to be in damaging relationships, not by knocking us over the head with bricks of “how could you NOT know” or laying blame that we brought this on ourselves, but gently lifting the fog that we’ve been living in by shedding light on all the little glimpses of a dark reality that we too easily have rejected as our imagination. The pain of acknowledging this reality is soften by Beth’s understanding and wisdom. She holds the belief and hope that we can learn from our experiences, trust ourselves to make better choices and journey towards a better life… and she gives us the tools to do so!” —Audrey L. White, MPH, Stanford University Research Coordinator, Health Educator, Nia Technique Instructor ”He’s Just No Good For You is a unique approach to destructive relationships, providing much needed wisdom and insight for women who just aren’t certain what, exactly, is wrong when it comes to their intimate relationship. Beth extends a trusted hand to help these women find their way back to themselves; to find their way home.” —Judith London, Ph.D., author of Connecting the Dots: Hope for Advanced Alzheimer’s Patients, Clinical Psychologist specializing in Addictions Recovery and Alzheimer’s Disease “A groundbreaking book, He’s Just No Good for You reassesses the basis for female relationships. By unpacking the characteristics of problematic individuals, Beth Wilson creates a roadmap that allows women to free themselves of destructive influences.” —Sylvia Ann Hewlett, Ph.D., Economist, Author, and Founding President of the Center for Work-Life Policy "Beth Wilson uses her keen mind and alchemical skills to create concise formulas that help women distance themselves from toxic relationships that devalue and suppress them." —Dr. Ramona P. Rubio, author of The Alchemical Woman: A Handbook for Everyday Soulwork."Beth Wilson has done a great service to womankind by bringing awareness to the damage done by controlling relationships and identifying the “red flags” which erode self image. Women don’t have to feel like they’re crazy or less then competent any longer. This book is a roadmap out of a toxic situation and onto a life of well-being, autonomy and joy!” — Barbara Scala, Transformation & Divorce Coach and co-author of Sanity Savers: Tips for Women to Live a Balanced Life “Beth Wilson has spent a lifetime empowering women, and her newest book, He’s Just No Good For You, is a provocative triumph; daring to go where few authors do in exploring dysfunctions in relationships. Almost every woman reading this book can directly relate to her incisive profiles, or knows someone who does. Beth carefully weaves through a painful subject of abusive behaviors in men with raw honesty, sprinkled with humor, and clearly filled with a passion to help women find the inner strength to rise above their circumstances.” —Kari Henley, Founder, GatherCentral "As a psychotherapist, I was often shocked and saddened with the many forms of battering women accepted in their daily lives. We women seem satisfied and even grateful with what I came to call 'the absence of awful' in our relationships. In You're Just No Good For Me, Beth Wilson has done us all a service in describing patterns, symptoms and syndromes and pointing ways to reclaim, restore and recreate ourselves. A must read." —Anne Wilson Schaef, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of When Society Becomes An Addict, Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much, Women's Reality, and Escape From Intimacy.

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Best-selling author, speaker and Life Coach, Beth Wilson has built a reputation on sound advice. Her innovative style has won her international acclaim. She understands the importance of relationships in women’s lives—and the ways in which these vital bonds can make them susceptible to bad news individuals.To help women disengage from problem people and create greater future success, she has written He's Just No Good For You: A Guide to Getting Out of a Destructive Relationship; a woman-to-woman guide to identify and move beyond relationships that kill the spirit, lower self-esteem and derail a woman’s self-confidence. By implementing the wisdom, direction and insight utilized in her thriving practice, Beth offers women a new path. Author of the bestselling book, Meditations for New Mothers (Workman Publishing Co., 1992), Beth extended a lifeline to mothers around the globe. Meditations for New Mothers was featured on the front page of The Wall Street Journal due to record-breaking volume sales in its first five months of publication. Currently, it has sold over 650,000 copies and been translated into twelve different languages, distributed worldwide. Her second book, Meditations for Mothers of Toddlers (Workman Publishing Co, 1995) has sold over 300,000 copies at home and abroad. Beth’s third book, Restoring Balance to a Mother’s Busy Life (NTC/Contemporary Publishing Group, 1996) has been described as “ahead of its time” and it introduced mothers to the idea that they could “sacrifice for their children without sacrificing themselves.” To date, it has sold over 100,000 copies and its popularity continues to grow as the issue of balance becomes a more pressing concern for today’s mothers as they juggle the demands of work and family. Not surprisingly, balance is the topic Beth is asked to speak about the most—whether on t.v. and radio appearances or to live audiences. Her fourth book, Creating Balance in Your Child’s Life (NTC/Contemporary Publishing Group, 1999) was released in November of 1999 and continues to be popular with the media as well as parents concerned about stress and its affect on their children. Beth has traveled extensively to promote her books, including two national tours. Her latest book, MeditationsDuring Pregnancy (Workman Publishing Co., 2001) was released in August of 2001.Beth has developed a successful private practice based on her dynamic approach to accelerated personal growth and creative life change. Her sessions are described as being “electric with discovery, intent with focus and outrageously numinous.” Her client list includes politicians, celebrities, scholars, attorneys, royals, Olympians, professional athletes, government officials, authors, NFL photographers, models, physicians, teachers, parents and professionals. Beth has also created an extensive international network of physicians, R.N.s, alternative healthcare providers, and therapists that utilize her skills for individualized wellness programs. Having received her degree in International Relations from Oberlin College, Beth worked for a prominent member of Congress as a Legislative Assistant drafting legislation, writing speeches and floor statements as well as pursuing the Representative’s legislative initiatives particularly in the House Armed Services Committee. Her experience on “The Hill” strengthened her ability to articulate, conceptualize and achieve personal and professional goals. Beth applies her diverse knowledge and expertise to her work with clients, groups and organizations in North America, Australia, Europe and Russia.Her Internet radio show, Quantum Leaps, offers a new path for empowerment and went to Number One on VoiceAmerica’s “Women’s Channel” in ten weeks It continues to be a leading show on the flagship channel. Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D., is Professor of Psychology at Siena College in Loudonville, New York, and an Advanced Clinician in Imago Relationship Therapy. She has published extensively within the fields of clinical psychology and intimate relationships. Dr. Hannah is co-author or co-editor of six books: Preventive Approaches in Couples Therapy, Healing in the Relational Paradigm: The Imago Relationship Therapy Casebook; Imago Relationship Therapy: Perspectives on Theory; the EQ (Social Emotional Intelligence) Program; with Rita DeMaria, Building intimate relationships: Bridging treatment, education, and enrichment through the PAIRS Program; and the upcoming (2009) Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody: Legal Strategies and Policy Issues. She is an Academic Faculty member of Imago Relationships International. Designated in 2008 as one of the "30 Leaders in 30 Years" by the New York State Coalition against Domestic Violence, she is Chair of the annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference, held each January in Albany, New York. She practices couples therapy near Albany, New York. Rita DeMaria, PhD is a senior staff member at Council for Relationships in Philadelphia, PA. She specializes in working with couples at the brink of divorce. She is an accomplished speaker, author, presenter and therapist and has appeared on major media venues including the Today Show.

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He's Just No Good for You: A Guide to Getting Out of a Destructive Relationship 3.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
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tweedie35 More than 1 year ago
If you've been emotionally and verbally abused this is the book for you. If you've grown up in a home where emotional and verbal abuse was commonplace, read this book. It was recommended by a co-worker and I have to tell her thank you. It has been eye-opening.