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Now in bite-size mantras, the abridged empathetic wit and wisdom of the number one New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That Into You will recharge and inspire your dating outlook one wake-up call at a time.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that —despite good intentions— you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be, He's just not that into you.
He's Just Not That Into You —based on a popular episode of Sex and the City— educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. This book knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better.
Winner of the 2005 Quill Book Awards - Health/Self Improvement Category
Chapter One: he's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
Because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out
Many women have said to me, "Greg, men run the world." Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we could be incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're "too shy" or we "just got out of something." Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you. If you don't think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half.
Now you begin the life-changing experience of reading our book. We have put the stories we have heard and questions we've been asked in a simple question-and-answer format. If you're lucky, you'll read the following questions and know what they are: Excuses that women have made for their unsatisfying situations. If you're not so lucky, we've also included handy titles to clue you in.
The "Maybe He Doesn't Want to Ruin the Friendship" Excuse
Dear Greg,I'm so disappointed. I have this friend that I've known platonically for about ten years. He lives in a different city and recently he was in town for work, so we met for dinner. All of a sudden it felt like we were on a date. He was completely flirting with me. He even said to me, as he was checking me out, "So, what, you're working the whole 'model thing' now?" (That's flirting, right?) We both agreed that we should get together again soon. Well, Greg, I'm disappointed because it's been two weeks and he hasn't called me. Can I call him? He might be nervous about turning the friendship into romance. Can't I give him a nudge now? Isn't that what friends are for?
Jodi
Dear Friendly Girl,Two weeks is two weeks, except when it's ten years and two weeks. That's how long ago he decided whether or not he could date a model or a girl who looks like one. Can you be a pal and give him a nudge? Nudge away, friendster -- but watch how fast that nudge doesn't get a return phone call. And if your dinner/date did feel different to him, it's been two weeks and he's had time to think about it and decide he's just not that into you. Here's the truth: Guys don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a "fuck buddy" situation or a meaningful romance. Go find someone that lives in your zip code who will be rocked to the core by your deep conversation and model looks.
I hate to tell you, but that whole "I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise. Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we're really excited about someone, we can't stop ourselves -- we want more. If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to want to take it further. And please, don't tell me he's just "scared." The only thing he's scared of -- and I say this with a lot of love -- is how not attracted to you he is.
The "Maybe He's Intimidated by Me" Excuse
Dear Greg,I have a crush on my gardener. He's been potting the plants on my patio. It was hot, I saw him without his shirt on, he was hot, and now I'm hot for him. I brought out some beers and we talked. I think he wants to ask me out but is afraid, because he is my hired man. In this situation, can't I ask him out?
Cherie
Dear My Secret Garden,He's capable of asking you out. Haven't you ever seen a porno? Hope he gets there before the pizza guy. But seriously, if he didn't pick up the vibe after the beer garden, it has nothing to do with you being his big boss lady. Time to stop and smell the bad news: He's just not that into you.
Let me say it again, sexual harassment rules and workplace memos notwithstanding, a guy will ask out a woman of higher status if he's into her. He might need a little more encouragement than normal, I'll give you that. You might have to lead Johnny the Office Boy or Phillipe the Exterminator to water, but you better not help him ask you out. Once again, ladies, a wink and a smile will do it.
By the way, why are you dating the exterminator?
Just kidding, he's a good guy.
The "Maybe He Wants to Take It Slow" Excuse
Dear Greg,There's this guy who calls me all the time. He's recently divorced, and in AA. We got back in touch recently, had lots of phone calls, and then hung out twice in one week and it was real cool. No flirting or making out or anything, but fun. Since then, he calls me all the time but doesn't ever suggest we see each other in person again. It's like he got scared or something. I would understand if because of the divorce/alcoholic/starting-a-whole-new-life stuff he wanted to take things slow. But he still calls me all the time to have long heart-to-heart talks. What the hell should I do with this guy?
Jen
Dear Pillow Talk,Sadly, not wanting to see you in person is massive as far as dating obstacles go. And as far as the recently divorced/newly sober/starting-a-new-life parts, blah blah blah, I'm getting sleepy, it's hot, I'm going down for a nap. When I wake up from that nap I'll probably thrill to the news that your friend is taking control of his life. You, however, will still not be going on a date, because despite all your excuses for him, he's still not asking you out. Now, if you're a person who enjoys a slightly satisfying phone relationship, talk on! But at this point it seems like he's just not that into you. Be his friend if you're at all interested on that level, but move your romantic inclinations onto a more suitable future husband.
If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won't keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away.
The "But He Gave Me His Number" Excuse
Dear Greg,I met a really cute guy at a bar this week. He gave me his number and told me to give him a call sometime. I thought that was kind of cool, that he gave me control of the situation like that. I can call him, right?
Lauren
Dear Control Freak,Did he give you control, or did he just get you to do the heavy lifting? What he just did was a magic trick: It seems like he gave you control, but really he now gets to decide if he wants to go out with you -- or even return your call. Why don't you take Copperfield's number, roll it in a newspaper, pour milk in it, and make it disappear.
"Give me a call." "E-mail me." "Tell Joey we should all hang out sometime." Don't let him trick you into asking him out. When men want you, they do the work. I know it sounds old school, but when men like women, they ask them out.
The "Maybe He Forgot to Remember Me" Excuse
Dear Greg,Okay, Greg. Listen to this one: I was at a conference for work and met a guy from another branch of my company. We hit it off immediately. He was just about to ask for my number, I swear, when the Big Blackout of 2003 happened. In the mayhem, I didn't get to give him my number. I think the Big Blackout of 2003 is a good enough excuse to call him, don't you think? It's only common courtesy for me to check up on him, right? If I don't call, he's probably going to be all sad thinking that I'm just not that into him.
Judy
Dear Judy Blackout,The city blacked out. He didn't. You said you work for different branches of the same company. Certainly he wouldn't have to break a sweat to scroll through the company staff roster or interoffice e-mail listing to find you. And should he not be as resourceful as you are...I imagine that he has a mother, sister, or female friend that could show him how, if he was really interested.
P.S.: Shame on you for using an eastern seaboard disaster as an excuse to call a guy up.
Have faith. You made an impression. Leave it at that. If he likes you, he'll still remember you after the tsunami, flood, or Red Sox loss. If he doesn't, he's not worth your time. Know why? You are great. (Now, don't get cocky.)
The "Maybe I Don't Want to Play Games" Excuse
Dear Greg,This is dumb. I know you're not supposed to call guys, but I call guys all the time because I don't care! I don't want to play games. I do whatever I want! I've called guys tons of times. You're such a square, Greg. Why do you think we can't call guys and ask them out?
Nikki
Dear Nikki,Because we don't like it. Okay, some guys might like it, but they're just lazy. And who wants to go out with Lazy Guy? It's that simple. I didn't make the rules and I might not even agree with them. Please don't be mad at me, Nikki. I'm not advocating that women go back to the Stone Age. I just think you might want to be realistic in how capable you are of changing the primordial impulses that drive all of human nature.
Or maybe you're the chosen one.
Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do. Especially when the chase is a long one. We know there was a sexual revolution. (We loved it.) We know women are capable of running governments, heading multinational corporations, and raising loving children -- sometimes all at the same time. That, however, doesn't make men different.
IT'S SO SIMPLE
Imagine right now that I'm leaping up and down and shaking my fist at the sky. I'm on my knees pleading with you. I'm saying this in a loud voice: "Please, if you can trust one thing I say in this book, let it be this: When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you'd like us to be." I know it's an infuriating concept -- that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It's insulting. It's frustrating. It's unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he's just not that into you. (And we want you to believe you're one of the nine, ladies!) I can't say it loud enough: You, the superfox reading this book, are worth asking out.
HERE'S WHY THIS ONE IS HARD, by Liz
Well, it's obvious. Are you telling us that we have to just sit around and wait? I don't know about you, but I find that infuriating. I was brought up to believe that hard work and good planning are the keys to making your dreams come true. I spent my life making things happen for myself. I worked hard for my career, and was quite aggressive about it. I called people, made appointments, asked for favors. I took action. But now Greg is telling us that in this situation, we are supposed to do absolutely nothing. The guys get to pick. We're just supposed to put on our little dresses and do our hair and bat our eyes and hope they choose us. Why don't you just tie my corset too tight so I can faint in front of some man who'll scoop me out of the way just before the horse-drawn carriage runs over me? That'll get his attention.
Really, in this day and age, the hardest thing to do for many women, particularly me, is nothing. We like to scheme, make phone calls, have a plan. And I'm talking about more than just making sure our hair doesn't frizz. Most women who date, I would guess, don't have men throwing themselves at them every night of the week. Sometimes there's a long stretch during which nobody's asking us out. So when we see a guy that we feel might be a romantic possibility, it's even harder for us to take a backseat. That opportunity might not come back again for a long time.
But guess what: My way? Has sucked. Hasn't worked at all. I've never had a successful relationship with a guy that I've pursued. I'm sure there are many stories out there to the contrary. But for me, those guys end up getting back together with their ex-girlfriend, needing to take some time for themselves, or going out of town for business. Usually it doesn't even get that far. They usually just don't ever return my phone call. And let me tell you, that didn't make me feel very in control of anything.
Since I've been implementing Greg's handy-dandy "he's just not that into you" philosophy, I've been feeling surprisingly more powerful. Because if the men are asking you out, if the men have to get your attention, then you, in fact, are the one in control. There's no scheming and plotting. And there is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic.
THIS IS WHAT IT SHOULD LOOK LIKE, by Greg
One night I was drinking in a bar and flirting with the bartender. I asked for her number. She said, "I don't give out my phone number because guys rarely call me when they say they're going to. My name is Lindsey Adams, and if you want to call me, find my phone number." Which I did -- the very next day. Do you know how many Lindsey Adams there are in the phone book of a major city? Let's just say I talked to about eight or nine before I found mine.
An actor we work with met a girl while he was making a public appearance on an aircraft carrier. He lost track of her in about ten minutes. And yet, because he was so smitten, he somehow managed to track her down in the army, and they are now married.
GREG, I GET IT! By Leslie, age 29Greg! I get it. I went to this party and I met this guy. We started talking immediately by ourselves, off in a corner. He asked if I was single and seemed pleased when I said I was. Whenever we split up to talk to other people, or to get drinks or whatever, he always kept his eye on me. It was really cool. I was all excited and fluttery with that "Oh my God, I think I just met someone!" feeling. He didn't ask for my number, but we know lots of people in common, so I thought he was just playing it cool. He never called me! And you know what? Normally I would call our mutual friends and start fishing and trying to figure out what happened and maybe try to find another way to see him again. But instead, I'm just going to move on! Who cares what his deal is. He's not asking me out, so why should I start obsessing over him? I'm just going to go out tonight and try to meet someone else.
IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE GREG
We did an incredibly unscientific poll where we polled twenty of our male friends (ranging from ages twenty-six to forty-five), who are in serious long-term relationships. Not one of their relationships started with the woman asking them out first. One guy even said that if she had, "It would have spoiled all the fun."
What You Should Have Learned in This Chapter
• An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship."
• Don't get tricked into asking him out. If he likes you, he'll do the asking.
• If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
• Just because you like to lead doesn't mean he wants to dance. Some traditions are born of nature and last through time for a reason.
• "Hey, let's meet at so-and-so's party/any bar/friend's house" is not a date. Even if you live in New York.
• Men don't forget how much they like you. So put down the phone.
• You are good enough to be asked out.
Hey, what's a self-help tome without a workbook? Our chapters will all be so brave and wise that we want to make sure you retain as much of the brilliance as you can. So for all of you who feel the need to get out of your problems and into your crayon box, have at it.
Love,
Greg and Liz
Remember in grade school how they told you not to write in your textbooks? Screw that! Grab a pen and list five reasons why you think you have every right or good reason to call him.
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Put the book aside and wait an hour. Or at least ten minutes. Then ask yourself: Do I seem pathetic? Do I sound like someone who doesn't trust my own innate hotness? Yes,you do! Now put your dialing finger away, get out of the house, and go find some fun.
P.S.: You just did a workbook exercise about a guy who hasn't even extended to you the energy of a phone call. Why would you want to chase that down?
Text copyright © 2004 by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
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table of contents
Introduction by Liz
Introduction by Greg
You Are All Dating the Same Guy
1 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out
2 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Calling You
3 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Dating You
4 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Having Sex with You
5 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Having Sex with Someone Else
6 He's Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When He's Drunk
7 He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want to Marry You
8 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Breaking Up with You
9 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Disappeared on You
10 He's Just Not That Into You If He's Married (and Other Insane Variations of Being Unavailable)
11 He's Just Not That Into You If He's a Selfish Jerk, a Bully, or a Really Big Freak
12 Don't Listen to These Stories
13 Now What Do You Do?
14 Q&A with Greg
15 Closing Remarks from Greg
16 Closing Remarks from Liz
Anonymous
Posted June 3, 2005
A friend of mine raved about this book, so in spite of the put-down sounding title (which I think also generalizes men, and women), I picked up a copy. And yes, was disappointed. The book focuses on excuses women make to convince themselves that men are 'into them' when they're 'not.' First, I thought the points were obvious - for example, a man who doesn't call when he says he would. According to the book, if he doesn't, he's not into you. Second, there could be a multitude of reasons why that aren't related to how into you he is or isn't. But that being said, the reasons may not matter. For the more appropriate question in my view is 'How do you want to be treated in a relationship?' To instead ask whether or not 'he's into you' is to assume that he's finding you lacking in some way. Yes, the book says you're great, pretty, etc. but if the authors really believe that, then why all the repetition of the only reason a guy isn't acting like Prince Charming is that you don't interest him enough (with the token positive comment added on after all the negativity)? Perhaps the guy is unavailable for other reasons - past relationship bruises, his present level of emotional maturity and readiness to love, etc. To assume it's all about the woman, and whether he thinks she merits his attention is simplistic, and disempowering for women and men. Also, I don't think many women would want to be involved with or marry a man who treated her well only because he was 'into her' and had treated other women poorly because he wasn't into them. Not me anyway - only a man who treats all women and men well is worth it, in my book. This book doesn't match my personal experience either - of a couple of men who'd told me they'd been too nervous to ask me out for a very long time, of the male friends who'd told me they'd been so broken by their previous relationships that they feared getting into another one (and I witnessed their hesitation for years - and yes - the women they married did a lot of the work in the beginning), of the men I know who have told me that they often 'reject before being rejected' etc. So what's of value here? The hint that deciding what kind of relationship you want and seeking someone who treats you well (though hopefully because of who he is as a person, not his evaluation of you). But there are plenty of books out there written by people who possess and offer much deeper knowledge of relationships than the writers of this book, and who offer it in a way that is affirming, rather than negative. One title that goes to the heart of relationships in a positive and clear way is 'The New Couple,' by Maurice Taylor and Seana McGee. A book written for men by a psychologist (also a man) but that I think many women would find very helpful is 'When Good Men Behave Badly' by David Wexler (yes, another cliche title - and possibly one that's off- putting to men[!] - but the content of the book is solid, deep and respectful of people. I've found it countless times more helpful than this one). On a more general level, Don Miguel Ruiz's books - 'The Four Agreements,' 'The Mastery of Love' and 'The Voice of Knowledge' are helpful reminders of all the 'stories' that are told in our culture (like those in this book) - and how they distort reality and how damaging they can be to our healthy and happy functioning. In questions of relationship, I think it's good to turn towards people who have knowledge (psychologists for example) and write with maturity in this area. The content of this particular book stays on the surface of the things, and I think is presented in a unnecessarily negative manner that puts women down. Not something I'd recommend to anyone, and I'm concerned about all the hype over this one - for I think it can steer women in an unhealthy direction, where we ask the wrong ques
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Posted May 24, 2007
I was a frustrated dater when I picked up this book, and i ended up not finding what i was looking for in it, but that was just because my issues with men wasn't covered at all in this book. Whether you end up hating or loving the book, it does offer a nice excuse for women to continue to be picky. The main purpose, of women's over-analysis of men and also the way women make excuses for guys, truly points out that men are not as complex as women make them out to be. Even though it was hard to read or accept I found the book refreshing. The willingness to accept Greg's idea varies from person to person
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Posted November 15, 2006
This book was recommended to me by a coworker who wanted me to read it so badly she even lent me her copy. I loved it and I didn't want to give it back! Now I'm purchasing my own copy and have been raving about it to many of my friends, single or not. And yes we know a lot of it is common sense, but some of us need to hear it anyway. One of my favorite things about reading this book were the '100% of men polled... were not too busy to pick up the phone...' because i could just picture the men answering honestly when they werent concerned about the girl they just werent that into hearing them. Another favorite irony about this book was how he (the one i've been in a long term on and off relationship with) would always call to tell me he missed me or couldnt wait to see me, whenever i picked up the book to remind me of how perfect things should be and used to be and how not perfect and inconsistant they are now. This book is an excellent guide to those in and in between 'relationships'!!!!
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Posted October 12, 2006
Around January I saw this book at the store, going through a painful breakup, I had to buy it. After reading a few of the chapters I was completely disappointed. From the negative chapter titles to the even more negative summaries, this book is not a good read. It claims if a guy doesn't call you immediately after you call him, he's not into you. If he doesn't fall to the ground and kiss your feet after you meet him, he's not into you. It goes on in this way through the whole book. As women, we should have standards, but.. thinking of marrying a guy right after you meet him? that's a little much, don't you agree? If you want to read a book that MIGHT make you laugh and if you don't mind repetition, then by all means purchase this and enjoy!
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Posted September 28, 2006
This is the only book I ever,in my life, threw away without its being damaged somehow. The 'author' purports to be trying to empower women by saying they deserve better than what certain men give them. I don't dispute that women deserve better, but frankly this book just gives rotten, inconsiderate men an out!! If, after reading this book, a woman tosses out a guy who isn't 'that into her' by the book's standards, all she has done is let him off the hook for his crummy behavior. I'm surprised more women haven't commented on this. The book claims men would do anything rather than say something to a woman that he knows she doesn't want to hear. Well, maybe as women, we should start making them do the hard thing and talking to us, not letting them off the hook easily by saying, 'Oh, he just isn't into me.' Maybe he isn't, but make him say it!! We say it to them, right? So don't bother with this book unless what you really want is an excuse to let somebody get off easy, again!!
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Posted September 27, 2004
I think this can really clue women in, but it's a little too absolute about the simplicity of men. If I followed the advice in this book, I wouldn't be with my husband. We were friends for three years before getting together, even though I had wanted more from the start. He seemed unsure for a long time about the possibility of romance between us, and told me the classic 'I'm not ready to commit.' I did lay off, but still pined away for him. If I followed the advice in this book I would have had to let go far too early. Maybe my man is not as simple as the men in this book. He truly needed time. We eventually discovered a great love in each other, and when this happened, he was more commited to me, at first, than I to him. Enjoy the book, but don't let this book oversimplify men.
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Posted January 23, 2007
You need to read this book if your in a relationship or not and you really need to read this book if your not sure of your relationship. This is not just for dating girls and we as women need to stop making excuses for our circumstances and listen to someone who has been on the other end - A MAN. I wish I would have read this when it first came out, I would have been saved a lot of unnecessary heartache!
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Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.Full disclosure: I didn't buy this book. While housesitting for a friend I found it in her collection and read it. Save yourself a headache and don't. I'm sure some have found the "lessons" in this book to be helpful and I know that Mr. Behrendt has made quite a bit of money from this series, but you should know that similar information can be ascertained for free by having male friends.
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Posted March 12, 2010
Every girl should own this book and it should be taught in every school. I'm serious this book is sure to help many girls out there to decode guy's actions and words. Not to mention it is so true. After reading this book I asked some of my guy friends about this and they all agree with the book. They all say that if they like the girl nothing will stop them from being with them or getting in contact. It makes it easier for a single girl to spot a guy that is interested or if it's time to move on. This book also comes in handy with friends that are confused or that have questions.
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Posted January 1, 2009
Let me first say, i don't care if you're 18 or 50. You must read this book, although this book is intended for the single gal i encourage you to read this book if your attached or married.This book gives girls the no nonsense approach to not only understanding men in the most simplest way possible but it also gives women the no excuses truth.Greg Behrendt & Liz tuccillo write this book in simple individual stories, in a question & answer form from women who write in so your not reading some lame " go girl rah rah!" kind of book.Let me also say i was laughing hysterically from the very first page, wait till you meet Nikki! haha.
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Posted August 2, 2008
I'm your typical teenage girl, so I had an extremely hard time breaking up with my first boyfriend of about 6 months. 'He's Just Not That into You' was recommended to me by a friend, and it COMPLETELY changed my opinion about boys! It was a serious eye opener, and EVERY girl should have a copy of this book! It's just AMAZING!!!! Thanks a lot Greg...I owe you one! Kaitlyn
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Posted September 18, 2006
This book is just what the doctor ordered... However, initially I wasn't sure if I should laugh or cry at the obvious truths mentioned in the book. I've been making excuses for my guy's ill behavior. It's not acceptable anymore! Who's laughing now()?
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Posted June 1, 2006
I read this book as I was going through a break-up. I really learned a lot even though it seems common sense (we all know it, but have we internalized it?). I was pretty bummed that I hadn't had something like this years ago. I think one of the best points to walk away with is that the guy who wants to be with you will make that very clear. No point in settling or falling for someone if that isn't the case. This just takes away all of the wondering and 'what-if'ing. That creates a lot of free time to be doing something much more fun or productive!!
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Posted June 6, 2006
Not EVERY woman already knows these things in this book. I think that most some men play on the fact that women want to be loved and accepted and when they don't want them, those men play games and play on women's emotions, being that that is the kind of creatures we women are (emotional). It is a good book for women to cut those type (and others) of men off and to spot them when then encounter them.
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Posted May 2, 2006
Even know many of the chapters pertain to me, I wish I had a copy of this book when I was a teenager just starting out dating maybe I would have saved myself years of **He's Just not that into me** and would have known when to forget that person an move on. Ladies this should be our second BIBLE save youself hours and years of heart ache. It is the truth but it is easier to read about someone else making the mistakes over and over and OVER AGAIN.... Lets stop the madness now...TAKE CHARGE OF OUR LIVES AND RELATIONSHIPS.........REMEMBER WE ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL GIRLS,WOMEN AND LADIE.That is what Greg would say...Read,remember and drive on you deserve a man who will treat you the way you should be treated...not the way they have come to treat us ...... I have taken alot from this book. Good Luck We need need all the luck we can get with what is out there.
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Posted April 24, 2006
I had heard alot about this book by the time I finally picked up my sister's copy to read. While it makes some good points, it makes them over and over again, until you cannot bear to read another chapter. I think that most women already know what this book has to teach them.
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Posted March 10, 2006
I have been dating a guy for four years and I used every excuse in the book to explain his bad behavior. A friend of mine suggested I read this book and chapter 8 did for me. You could have put his name on it! The reality of what the truth was hit me like a punch in the stomach. I now finally have found the strength to put an end to this nightmare relationship. Thank you!
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Posted January 24, 2006
This is definitely fun and has hit a nerve with so many women. I only wish it wasn't so repetitive. Cute - but it all ends up feeling a bit redundant. And hey, don't guys feel the same way when a woman just isn't that into him? I think so.
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Posted October 31, 2005
I think this is a must have for women who have been through hell and back in relationships. It was such an eye-opening book and I am glad I read it...although the truth is sometimes hard to accept.
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Posted November 6, 2005
I just got out of a five year relationship and its been over a year but I still have been clinging on to it. After I read this book ( all in one night, I could not put it down) I laughed during most of it but cried during the rest because it had been stuff I was doing waiting for that one phone call a month) I woke up the next morning and realized I do deserve better than that. The very next weekend I got rid of all my EX boyfriends cards photos and memories. After all they ARE my past I only want to look to my future.. PLEASE RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO YOUR FRIENDS I HAVE...
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Overview
Now in bite-size mantras, the abridged empathetic wit and wisdom of the number one New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That Into You will recharge and inspire your dating outlook one wake-up call at a time.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that —despite good ...