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He's Just Not Your Type (And That's A Good Thing): How to Find Love Where You Least Expect It

He's Just Not Your Type (And That's A Good Thing): How to Find Love Where You Least Expect It

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by Andrea Syrtash

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A relationship expert and dating columnist shares her counterintuitive approach to lasting love: encouraging women to date their "non-types" After years of dating, many women fall into a relationship rut. As serial daters, they are attracted to the same type of man time and again. Clearly, something's not working. But the problem is not that he's just not that into


A relationship expert and dating columnist shares her counterintuitive approach to lasting love: encouraging women to date their "non-types" After years of dating, many women fall into a relationship rut. As serial daters, they are attracted to the same type of man time and again. Clearly, something's not working. But the problem is not that he's just not that into them--the reality is, he's just not their type. Relationship expert and life coach Andrea Syrtash hears the disbelief in her clients' voices when they admit that their "Mr. Right" relationship has again gone wrong. In He's Just Not Your Type, Syrtash challenges readers to date outside their comfort zones and poses hard-hitting questions: What if the kind of man they think will make them happy never will? What would happen if they dated someone they'd never considered dating? In each chapter, Syrtash shares stories of women who have found lasting happiness with their non-types (NTs) and provides exercises designed to help readers assess their big-picture goals and core values. In doing so, she shows women how to make better choices in dating so they are more likely to find true love.

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"In terms of love and relationships, Andrea Syrtash has "been there" and "done that" and has mastered the dating game; in part by throwing away the rules and proving it's not a game at all, but rather a journey that needs to be undertaken with exuberance, honesty and an appetite for the unexpected. Her voice is fresh, funny and relatable and the advice in He's Just Not Your Type is spot-on. I've already given my copy to my single cousin!"

—Ian Kerner, bestselling author of She Comes First and Be Honest, You're Not That Into Him Either


“Andrea Syrtash offers some of the most practical approaches to dating that I've ever seen. She takes the guess work out of it and teaches you how to lead with your heart. When I read her advice, "Date the person not the potential" it made me smile. Get her book today....and you'll be smiling too!”

—Lisa Nichols, bestselling author of No Matter What and featured teacher in The Secret

"As someone who married her nontype, I can confidently say that Andrea nailed the process of how to mindfully date men who recognize and encourage you to be the best version of yourself - and never (okay, rarely) look back on the chumps who came before."

–Kristina Grish, author of The Joy of Text and Boy Vey!

“Written from a place of deep caring and experience, Syrtash points out that what we think we want, and what’s really good for us are often two different things. If this wise book doesn’t jolt you out of your old, broken dating patterns, nothing else will.”

—Evan Marc Katz, dating coach and author of Why You’re Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad


"Confused by your "bad luck"in dating? Then you're lucky to have found this book! Syrtash explains in a fun and entertaining way how you developed your dating patterns - then inspires you to think differently - snagging you different (and happier!) dating results!"

—Karen Salmansohn, author Prince Harming Syndrome

“Finally, real love lessons for single women without any “rules”! Kudos to Andrea for teaching us right from wrong and how not to settle for Mr. Maybe.” 

—Sherri Langburt, Founder, SingleEdition.com

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Andrea Syrtash is a contributor to Oprah.com, a dating columnist for Yahoo and the host of 'On Dating', produced by NBC Digital Studios. Her dating and relationship advice has been featured on the Today show, Huffington Post, USA Today, VH1 and on NPR, among others. She lives with her (non-type) husband in New York City.

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He's Just Not Your Type: How to Find Love Where You Least Expect It 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 6 reviews.
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llanadonna More than 1 year ago
Andrea Syrtash and I met at a digital media party a few years ago. When she told me that she worked as a dating coach, my first instinct was to smuggle her away for several hours to pick her brain. Since that day, Andrea has helped me during my many heightened relationship moments in my life. She's always that calm voice helping me snap out of my fears. I've always said that one day she'll be the Rachael Ray of dating. She's already well on her way with this book, "He's Just Not Your Type and That's a Good Thing." Andrea--who is gorgeous and smart, spent most of her adult life dating the typical man you'd bring home to your Jewish mother. Somehow though, Andrea became coined "the runaway bride" because she couldn't bring herself to commit to these "perfect" men. One day, Andrea's future husband--a drummer and teacher--strolled into her life. He wasn't someone Andrea ever thought she'd end up with. But she followed her heart and went for it. They fell in love, got married, and she is thrilled with her colorful life and relationship. Coincidentally, I too started dating differently about a year or so ago. I stopped idealizing and wanting the guys every girl wanted. I became more conscious, open, and looked for diamonds in the ruff. I mean, we all know I'm not perfect. So why should my dates be? Andrea's whole book is about dating the NON type. Not settling for less, but settling for what's important: the person over looks; how he treats you versus what he does for a living; how it feels to be together versus what you think your kids might look like one day. You know, the obvious stuff that sometimes escapes you when you're sitting across from each other on a date. "He's Just Not Your Type and That's a Good Thing" is a great read for those who feel stuck in a dating rut. Don't close the door on a suitable mate just because he doesn't match the story you've been rehearsing in your head. Change the way you date, and the dates around you will change. I love Andrea as a friend, but I would completely recommend this book even if I didn't know her. Her advice has worked for me! Ilana
AngieSF More than 1 year ago
Loved this book. Honestly, it's one of the best dating books I have ever read. One reason I loved it is because the author didn't ask me to change my hair (or do anything totally stupid) to meet a guy. She offered helpful dating advice and I didn't feel talked down to. More importantly, though, she helped me get clear on what I'm really looking for. I keep thinking about certain sections and re-reading them. I've called a few friends who need to read this! It's very uplifting and insightful. It's also an easy and entertaining read. I loved reading the love stories of women who fell in love with the NTs. Two huge thumbs up!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
My friend who works in media got a preview copy and I devoured this book. I imagine it's going to do really well - it should.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I don't nevessarly agree with this book or the Author. I have not read the book but listened to the author on the Today Show. There were two people being interviewed about the book one a lady and a man the lady I think was the author and the man maybe a co author. Anyways, I disagree with the points the lady was making. What I agree with is the author saying how women want the "fairy tale" man and that he must be tall, dark, career oriented and make good money. I think those are such lofty goals that it set's so many women up for dissapointment especially the tall and dark. I think a great analogy is like a job is like when college kids have this mind set that a lot of professors say that oh once you graduate you can go get your job and they make it sound as though you can pratically just walk into a job, just grab the job and start making great salaries. It's not that easy and yeah it would be awesome if it were. But once college students graduate then you get the real shock of companies are not going to just give you a job and I am real guilty of this as well when you first graduate you feel as though you should just be able to get a job and get going and so on. But anyways, back to my point I think it's real similar to women having these lofty goals in dating a man that they think he must just must be super tall 6' and over the dark part I don't hear that much that he must be dark (I don't think that's a huge deal to woman), and also that he must have a job and make decent money. I completely agree with the having a job and decent money but I think one big catch that women have this way big expectation that he's going to make all this big sorts of money and life is going to be all hunky dorey and just "easy". I think women are learning especially with a bad economy now that it's not like that and it takes work and your not going to just be instantly make a huge load of money and life is going to be all hunky dorey all the time. It takes work and also what women are realizing is that everyone is sustable to being laidoff both men and women and it's a hard hard world and is not just all hunky dorey. The being career minded, educated start owning a house etc I completely agree with. What I don't agree with is the height issue being, dark and the expectation that you will immediately be with a man that instantly make boocoo money, dosen't work that hard yet has his career going and dosen't have a worry in his life. That is just pure fantasay and I think women these days are finally realizing with the economy that it is just fantsay and dosen't just simply work that way. Women are finding that the economy is very hard for everyone and one can't just simply fall into a career and start making huge loads of money and poof you got the sweet life instantly. Doesn't work that way period.