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What will it take to make your marriage sizzle?

Time after time, His Needs, Her Needs has topped the charts as the best marriage book available. More than any other, this book helps husbands and wives give each other what they need most in marriage.

The millions of couples who have read His Needs, Her Needs have learned to keep the romance alive, and they are recommending it to others. Join those who have seen spectacular changes in their ...

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His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

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Overview

What will it take to make your marriage sizzle?

Time after time, His Needs, Her Needs has topped the charts as the best marriage book available. More than any other, this book helps husbands and wives give each other what they need most in marriage.

The millions of couples who have read His Needs, Her Needs have learned to keep the romance alive, and they are recommending it to others. Join those who have seen spectacular changes in their marriages by following Dr. Harley's tried and proven counsel. You will discover that an outstanding marriage can be more than a dream--it can be your reality.

Millions have already discovered the power of this book. Isn't it time you did as well?

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780857210777
  • Publisher: Monarch Books
  • Publication date: 3/28/2011
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 258
  • Sales rank: 60,417
  • Product dimensions: 5.00 (w) x 7.70 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Meet the Author

Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, a marriage counselor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Love Busters; and Draw Close. Harley's most-loved book, His Needs, Her Needs, is also now available as a video curriculum for churches and small groups. His popular website, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem.

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  • Posted September 17, 2009

    I Also Recommend:

    Great Marriage Counseling Tool

    My husband and I had to read this book during our premarital counseling. Thanks to this book and a few others, people always comment on how great our marriage is. It's so important that we know what we need. So many times, we don't know what we need or we think we know what our spouse needs but we don't. This book clearly defines our needs. My husband and I read the book together and were able to talk about all the things we thought and felt. It is a must read for any engaged or married couple.

    8 out of 9 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 5, 2010

    Practical advice and insight that can help any marriage

    My husband recently admitted to having two-year long affair. After a two month seperation we have decided to reconcile. I just read the book and have passed it onto him. I wish we had read this book years ago and perhaps avoided this whole mess. However, it has already shed some light into what happened, how we can start to heal our marriage, and how we can prevent this from ever happening again. We are about a month into the reconcilliation process and still not sure if we can make it. But, this book provides hope and guidance that is practical and applicable from the very first chapter. A must read BEFORE you even get married, after you've been married a while, if your marriage is in trouble, or if you just want to improve what you have.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted October 26, 2009

    Excellent for relationships new and mature

    This book affers insight into what women and men find important in relationships and the needs they look to have met in those relationships. although I didn't match up 100% with the author's categories, nor did my wife, it provided us plenty of points for discussion. I highly recommend it.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted November 6, 2008

    Awesome! This book is a must for anyone considering marriage,before, after and during. Especially to ward off an affair, & or repairing a marriage.

    I had no idea of how to be a good sponse. And this book really opened my eyes and turned me completely around after I found out my partner had had an affair. Luckly for me, we were able to apply what I had learned and save our marriage. Our relationship has never been better. An awesome way to make a new chapter for any mid-life crisis.<BR/>L>W>D

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 8, 2009

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    An absolute must-have for every married couple! Start loving your spouse in the way they want to receive love and not how you would like to receive love.

    This book shows how much better loving your spouse can be when you know how they want to receive love. By teaching the reader what the 5 crucial needs are of both men and women, the author helps the reader understand how to love their spouse in a way that is meaningful to the one receiving the love. It is a book that both spouses can read and work on the techniques together. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to show their spouse on a daily basis that they are loved.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 17, 2000

    I also must have bought 20 copies

    It is our typical wedding gift (along with Love For A Lifetime). Although it is far more valuable to those who have been married a few years, we have been thanked more profusely for this wedding gift than we have for any other.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 29, 2002

    Thank you Dr. Harley for helping us save our marriage!

    My husband had moved in with another woman; I was living alone and our children were being shuffled back and forth. Thank God we came across this book. In one Saturday afternoon we realized that we still loved eachother very deeply, but that we had become incompatible and our love had become stale due to the failure on both our parts to meet the other's needs. Fortunately, this book showed us that the other woman could only meet the one or two needs I was not presently meeting for my husband and that I could easily meet them once he started meeting mine. The book also teaches that the other woman would never be able to meet the three or four needs I was already meeting. My husband left the other woman; I moved back home and our children have a family once again.....From the husband's perspective: I was able to realize why I succumbed so easily to the other woman. Before reading the book, I thought I was in love with her. Man was I wrong! I realized that it was not real love that I felt. Thanks to this book I was able to fulfill the needs of my real love, my wife, and begin rebuilding our life together. Meeting my wife's needs is not as difficult as I thought. The response that I got from her was remarkable and inspiring. Guys, you need this book!

    2 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 15, 2013

    Love It!!

    This book is well written! It is an easy read and has great advice! I will be recommending it to all my friends and family.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted December 1, 2012

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    I read this book because a friend of mine was reading it as a pa

    I read this book because a friend of mine was reading it as a part of her pre-marital counseling. It was hard to read stories of affairs in each anecdote and made me take the idea of marriage as a fairy-tale off the fantasy pedestal and it demonstrates the true work required of a marriage. I can't imagine using this book after the affair has happened because I think I would be too angry. However, it provided an impetus to truly affair-proof your marriage before the wedding happens. It also makes me realize that pre-marial counseling should be much more than a few hours. It needs to take place early - almost as soon as you are engaged - and that it should probably be completed before a wedding date is set. Because you might change your mind after the counseling. And it should be a resource available for times when you hit a road block in your relationship. I enjoyed it, even though much of it was hard to hear, and I think it is a good resource fort managing a marriage

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted February 17, 2012

    Dated has some good points

    The book is dated, meaning you can tell it was written many years ago. I also felt this was a book more geared towards younger couples. It does have a few good pointers but both parties are going to need to be willing to read and do the work you, your partner and/or your counselor fell will help your relationship. Some of the suggestions I think needs to be put in a sealed vault and not come out again.

    1 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 11, 2011

    More than a couples book!

    If you apply the suggestions in this book to your daily life with modifications needed to interact with everyone you come in contact with your life can be transformed.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted April 10, 2010

    Learning it takes 2

    I have read a lot of books in the past... many for my own education. I have been having some struggles in my current relationship and I had heard of this book. I wish I would have had this book years ago. Not only is this a good book for those wanting to resolve situations or fix a broken relationship but this is also a great book for anyone to read to help you understand your partner. The book does a great job covering all of the topics, examples, and strategies moving forward. There are questions for you, your partner, and questions to answer together. This book even provides great references for furthering your focus on this matter. A highly recommended read for anyone currently engaged in a relationship or even looking to try again

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted January 23, 2009

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    What A Great Tool For Relationships

    My now-husband and I read this when we were dating. It was recommended to us by friends and thank goodness! It has been a useful tool for us throughout our short dating time line and our marriage (currently 3 yrs). We referenced this book a lot and it was a great conversation starter and provider for us. It made us think about and discuss things (topics, expectations, our rankings of emotional needs) we might not have come up with on our own. His Needs, Her Needs was an eye opener for both of us and the talks we had because of this book were priceless.<BR/>This is a book that is safe to give as a gift. It's not necessarily a fix-all but it gets you talking and thinking about yourself and gives both you and your partner the chance to voice needs and ranking of those needs as well.<BR/>It is an easy read and won't take you any time to finish. Take a chance, I dare you.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 27, 2006

    Excellent for newlyweds

    This book is excellent! I do not only recommend it for newlyweds but for anyone in a relationship who truly wants to understand their partner and make them happy. It is also important that your significant other is willing to read it as well in order to understand you. It is great and inexpensive advice from a doctor who has learned to, through years of marital counceling, understand the way men and women think and want they need from their spouse in order to keep things hot! It is a quick read so please pick this one up!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 14, 2006

    Saved us from sure divorce

    This program (The Love Busters, His needs her needs, 5 Steps to Romantic love) is rock solid. It saved my wife and i from continuing the pattern of divorce, fighting and bitterness. We are the 2 most in love and happy people you would ever meet. We have shared this with more couples than you could count. Don't delay. Check out the marriage builders web site for the home study course if you need more direction. For the cost of one (yep only 1) counseling session, you can have Dr. Harley in your home helping through the steps necessary to have the best marriage ever!! (Really, I don't work for them - I just belieive in them!)

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 26, 2004

    Don't believe anything negative in these reviews!

    As a cynic and a PhD psychologist, I was skeptical about its content, but reading it was enjoyable and thought-provoking. Essentially, the jist is that men and women both have needs--we try as we might to meet those needs, but without the right information, we're not meeting our PARTNER's needs, and this book gives guidance in that direction. If you believe that the world revolves around you or that you lazy enough to delude yourself that everything you do is PERFECT (i.e., my partner should just accept me as I am--why should I have to change or even try?), then you won't be interested in this book, and you'll likely protest when asked to read it (after all, why should YOU have to do ANYTHING?). If you really want to work at making your partner happy, and are humble enough to make efforts, you will GREATLY benefit from this book! No talk of plastic surgery to please your husband (I read some review that said that--that's not in there), and nothing negative--just try to figure out what your partner's innate needs are and seek to fulfill them better than you currently are!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 29, 2004

    CHEAPER THAN THERAPY AND WELL WORTH THE READ!

    How could anyone say this is anything but the best couples self-help book out there?!? I was given this book by a friend who gave it to him, who gave it to her; long line of owners. Once you read this book you will see why its worth passing on! I know the title of this book states building an affair proof marriage, but its for everyone. I am not married and got great tips on relationships in general. He book is very easy to read, the author puts everything in Layman's terms. I like the analogy that the author uses, 'LOVE BANK' Every person you meet adds credits to your love bank. If your married (or in a relationship) the other person adds credits. Obviously in the beginning, that person will acquire a pretty high balance. But once the newness wears off, its a constant withdraw and deposit. He buys you flowers for no reason, add 4 points, he yells at you for leaving your shoes in the middle on the room, withdraw 2 points. So forth and so on. Pretty soon, there are more withdraws than deposits. Then one day you meet the sexy new guy in the office at work. Guess whos making deposits? Yep, the sexy new guy! He listens when your husband won't. He tells you your beautiful when your husband hasn't said that in years. The new guy makes you feel the same way your husband made you feel years ago. And guess what happens; the onset of an affair. The sexy new guy is making huge deposits and lately your husband is only making withdraws. The author obviously explains a little better than I just did, but you get the point. The whole time I was reading this book (which only took 2 days, I couldn't put it down) I kept thinking, wow, he's so right! Some people might think that he's a little gender biased. But things are the way they are and he's upfront about that. Women want a caring, funny, stable man. A man wants a beautiful, non-needy, sex-pot. The author gives you a list of 10 traits that you put in order of importance. He does this to prove that a women's list and a man's list will be totally different in order of importance. No wonder we aren't getting what we need. Chances are whatwe give and what the other wants are different. And of course, that's going to withdraw points out of that love bank. I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants insight into building a better relationship. If your in a marriage or not, this is a great book!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 21, 2004

    A MUST READ FOR ANY COUPLE!!!

    Although I am not married I was given this book by my boyfriend. He has read it and suggested that I do. Okay, whatever. I hate these self help books. They are normally so dry and boring I get through the first few chapters and just can't read anymore. THIS BOOK IS DIFFERENT!! I couldn't put it down. I read it in one day. I had scratch paper handy and a highlighter. Although we are happy, I didn't realize some of the things that I do and don't do would make a huge difference in the relationship! At first I thought, you want me to do what, we don't need that?!? He is a great author who breaks it down in 'Layman's Terms' for all to read and understand!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 4, 2004

    Solves the problems.

    My marriage almost succomed to an emotional affair because of the lack of communication in our marriage. This wonderful book told the story of my life and helped us blossom into how we were when we met. A MUST read!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 5, 2003

    Now I have the Answers

    As a woman, this book answers questions I had as to why I have certain feelings. It was a relief to find out that these feelings are a normal part of womanhood. Also, the concept of building love points helps me to be a better wife. Our marriage has been GREATLY enhanced utilizing what we have learned.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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