His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting America's PornPanic with Honest Talk About Sex
224His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting America's PornPanic with Honest Talk About Sex
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Overview
When you first logged onto the Internet in the 1990s, did you ever wonder, "What do you suppose would happen if the United States were flooded with free, high-quality pornography?" We now know the answer, says Dr. Marty Klein, as this is exactly what took place 15 years ago.
Written by an award-winning author and veteran sex therapist, this practical, innovative, and often passionate book addresses the explosion of pornography use, advises couples on defusing conflict about it, guides parents in helping their kids deal with it, advises people concerned about their use of it, and shows how honest talk about sex can resolve America's "porn panic."
So what did happen when Internet porn flooded America? The rates of sexual assault, divorce, and child molestation declined. And yet various religious groups, politicians, some feminists, anti-trafficking activists, and many marriage counselors talk unceasingly about the damage porn viewing is doing to our society. They have created a "PornPanic" that has demonized the recreation of some 60 million Americans.
Americans are always ready for new reasons to feel guilty and ashamed of their sexuality, and Internet porn is the newest reason. Wives and girlfriends worry that they can't compete with it; teens use it as a misguided substitute for sex education, often disturbed by intense adults-only imagery; and psychologically vulnerable people get caught up in hours of compulsive porn surfing every night, feeling isolated and inadequate as a result.
Fortunately for his many readers, however, using clear reasoning, clinical expertise, and political savvy, Klein shows that for most people, porn is not the real problem. With the experience gained from 34 years of doing therapy—that's 35,000 sessions—Klein asks a simple but profound question: when we talk about porn, what are we really talking about?
This book eases readers' minds as Klein addresses common concerns and debunks common myths while identifying what we should be concerned about. Most importantly, the author explains how we can heal America's obsession with porn by engaging in honest talk about sex—something he knows is neither simple nor easy. The text includes sample conversations to help adults talk to each other about pornography, and suggestions for parents on how to talk to their kids about porn—healthy discussions to help their kids develop "Porn Literacy." This book offers honest, thorough, expert information desperately needed by a nation of people driven to panic about pornography.
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9781440852213 |
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Publisher: | Bloomsbury Academic |
Publication date: | 09/06/2016 |
Pages: | 224 |
Sales rank: | 939,682 |
Product dimensions: | 6.14(w) x 9.21(h) x 0.47(d) |
About the Author
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments ix
FAQs 1
Introduction. "What would happen if America were flooded with free, high-quality pornography?" 5
Part I Context
Chapter 1 Porn Explodes into America's Homes-Where People Are Very, Very Unprepared 11
Chapter 2 Moral Panics, Sex Panics, and PornPanic 17
Chapter 3 Updating the Panic-The Public Health/Danger Model 25
Part II Brief Interludes
Interlude A The Nature of Sexual Fantasy 37
Interlude B Deep in the Valley: Going to a Porn Shoot 43
Interlude C The Myth of Porn's Perfect Bodies 47
Interlude D Rule 34: What It Says About Your Sexuality 51
Interlude E No, Mabel, You Don't Have to Compete with Porn Actresses 53
Interlude F Guys: More Curiosity and More Empathy Needed 57
Interlude G Is There Such a Thing as Gay (or Straight) Porn? 61
Interlude H How to Watch a Lot of Porn and Have Good Partner Sex, Too 63
Interlude I Does Porn Demean Women? 65
Interlude J 45 Helpful Things You Can Learn from Porn 69
Part III About You and Yours
Chapter 4 Your Kids and Porn 75
Chapter 5 Sexting: Who Does It? How Docs It Affect Kids? 87
Chapter 6 Couples' Conflicts About Porn-Innovative Approaches 99
Case A Rachel & Jackson: Porn as Infidelity (or, You Thought It = You Did It) 115
Case B John & Bora: The Man Who Tried to Communicate Through Porn 123
Case C Jevon: The Man Who Tried to Organize the Internet 127
Chapter 7 How Does Porn Affect Consumers? 133
Chapter 8 If You're Concerned About Your Involvement with Porn 147
Chapter 9 Why There's No Such Thing as Porn Addiction-and Why It Matters 159
Chapter 10 Increasing Torn Literacy and Sexual Intelligence for Therapists, Doctors, and Clergy 175
Epilogue. A Complicated Consumer Product 185
Notes 189
Index 201