His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right

His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right

by Christopher Burge, Pamela Toussaint
     
 

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Frustrated by All the Advice for Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Some worldly “experts” may sound sexy but don’t offer the spiritual tools you need to address the real-life pains, temptations, and fears associated with the dating experience. Quickie solutions won’t cut it, and neither will a wait-and-see approach. You want God’s

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Frustrated by All the Advice for Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Some worldly “experts” may sound sexy but don’t offer the spiritual tools you need to address the real-life pains, temptations, and fears associated with the dating experience. Quickie solutions won’t cut it, and neither will a wait-and-see approach. You want God’s views–His rules for becoming and attracting a lifelong mate. This book offers the answers you’ve been seeking.

·Rule 1: Make Sure Your Map Isn’t Upside Down (Get a clue about what real relationships are about, for your own sake!)
·Rule 5: Clean House (If your internal house is dirty, how can you invite folks to come live with you?)
·Rule 6: Put the Kingdom Above the Booty (God’s not getting relationship rules from Sex and the City, so why are you?)
·Rule 11: Stop Looking Back (Crying about what could’ve been keeps you from what can be.)
·Rule 15: Handle the Heat (Learn how to tame the fire, or get out of the kitchen.)
·Plus eleven more rules for avoiding relationship disasters.

Using wit, straight talk, and real-life illustrations, His Rules explores relationship guidelines singles can follow as they seek out lifelong love. These no-nonsense relationship rules will equip you to get closer to God, challenge you to clean up your act in preparation for a mate, and give you the savvy you need to distinguish a godly mate from an imposter.

Because when you commit to following God’s guidance, your relationship will not only work–it will last.


From the Hardcover edition.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780307551665
Publisher:
The Crown Publishing Group
Publication date:
12/24/2008
Sold by:
Random House
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
256
Sales rank:
883,907
File size:
2 MB

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From Rule 6: Put the Kingdom Above the Booty, page 83:

Like Samson, many of us ignore the truth about someone we find attractive. We dig in our heels, fold our arms, and boldly declare that bad is good when it comes to our relationship choices. Despite advice to the contrary, we still insist, “She/he pleases me well.” If you find yourself thinking any of the following about people you are going out with, you need a dose of God’s truth, or you are headed for a fall:
· I just know I can fix him/her. We cannot even fix ourselves, that’s why we needed a Savior! So how can we fix other folks, especially when they may resist being fixed? God would not give you an unsaved or unhealthy marriage partner to sap all of your energy and render you useless in the kingdom.
If your love interest needs work, it’s likely to be work he or she should be doing with the Holy Spirit–alone. Your presence will only hinder the process. Don’t date anyone until God fixes the major issues in that person first!
· I’ve invested too much time and energy to quit now. We see the Doppler radar screen flashing: severe tornado warning: vacate premises immediately, but we decide to sit tight and see if it will pass. What happens if it doesn’t? You may survive–though just barely–to find that your roof is blown off and it will take years to rebuild.
· I’m scared of what he/she might do if I leave him/her. You should be more scared of what might happen to your self-esteem, self-respect, and peace of mind if you stay. Your choices are the only ones God holds you responsible for–only you can choose what’s best for yourself.seeDeut30:19 Lamentations 1:9 warns, She did not consider her destiny; therefore her collapse was awesome. Do what you should do (break up nicely), and trust God to do what He does best (comfort and restore both of you–separately).
· Well, it’s better than being alone. You think a bad relationship is worse than no relationship? Wrong. The danger of spending time with the wrong person is that it can cause soul ties to form: They start out as threads, become wires, and before long there’s a cable tied around your neck, choking you. You are never alone if you have a relationship with Jesus Christ. And you have so much to work on to get yourself ready for the special-sauce mate He has for you, you don’t have time to give in to loneliness!
· But I luuuv him/her! Ah, yes. Love can do many things, but it cannot conquer another person’s weak character or usurp someone’s will and force him or her to change. True love allows the loved one to experience the consequences of his or her decisions. As my (Chris’s) pastor, Dr. A. R. Bernard, often says, “Suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”

From the Hardcover edition.

Meet the Author

Christopher L. Burge leads Chris Burge Ministries, Inc. and has facilitated a dynamic young adult Bible study in New York City for the past 12 years. After stellar academic and athletic performances at Brown University, Chris went on to enjoy a successful career on Wall Street before he heard the call to ministry. He is a graduate of Rhema Bible Training Center, where he received three years of biblical and pastoral instruction. Chris administers “tough love and straight talk” to singles young and old, imbuing biblical principles with twenty-first-century pizzazz, which has become his trademark.

Pamela A. Toussaint is the acclaimed coauthor of such books as Mama’s Little Baby, Boys into Men, and I Call You Friend. A popular speaker, she began her career as a magazine editor and has published articles in various Christian and secular magazines. She has also made numerous television appearances and was featured in a one-hour ABC/Lifetime television special. Pamela is a graduate of New York City’s Fordham University, where she earned a B.A. in communications.


From the Hardcover edition.

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