Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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by Sue Johnson, Sandra Burr
     
 

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The Most Successful Approach to creating loving relationships, endorsed by the American Psychological Association as scientifically proven, is now, for the first time, available in a book.

Whereas other forms of couple therapy have been shown in studies to be only about 35 percent effective in healing relationships, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, developed

Overview

The Most Successful Approach to creating loving relationships, endorsed by the American Psychological Association as scientifically proven, is now, for the first time, available in a book.

Whereas other forms of couple therapy have been shown in studies to be only about 35 percent effective in healing relationships, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, has achieved an astounding 75 percent success rate. Fully 86 percent of couples report feeling happier in their relationships. And results are long-lasting. Hold Me Tight will pave the way toward a deeply fulfilling and enduring bond.

Editorial Reviews

Library Journal

Clinical psychologist Johnson here lays out her patented couples-therapy program, explaining the science behind the feelings that are frightening and overwhelming to couples seeking love, support, and companionship. This title is natural as an audiobook: the sterling narration by Sandra Burr-whose reading of Mary Roach's Bonk, also from Brilliance, received a starred review (LJ8/08)-takes the text a step further. All libraries having self-help or therapy collections must add this recording. [Audio clip available through library.brillianceaudio. com.-Ed.]
—Susan G. Baird

Boston Globe
"There's something appealing about this book's honest, no-holds-barred approach. By creating complete emotional safety and by willing to be fearless about it, it seems to me, not only can real love be kept alive, it can flourish"
John Gottman, Ph.D. - bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and coauthor of And Baby Makes T
"At last, a road map through Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with its creator. Dr. Johnson's superb science, humor, and clinical wisdom are finally accessible to all of us. I couldn't pick a smarter, warmer, and more real guide for this journey."
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. - author of Getting the Love You Want and Receiving Love
"A much needed message to all couples and therapists and I recommend it to all."
William J. Doherty, Ph.D. - author of Take Back Your Marriage
Sue Johnson [is] the most original contributor to couples therapy to come along in the last 30 years. This book will touch your heart, stimulate your mind, and give you practical strategies for improving your marriage. It will be an instant classic.
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. - author of Parenting from the Inside Out
Wonderful!...Hold Me Tight blends the best in research findings with practical suggestions from a caring and compassionate clinician. This fabulous book will be of great benefit...to couples trying to find their way to better communication and deeper, more fulfilling ways of being with each other. Bravo!
Barry McCarthy, Ph.D. - author of Getting It Right the First Time
A truly revolutionary, breakthrough book... the most important, valuable book for couples published in the 21st century.
From the Publisher
"A much needed message to all couples and therapists and I recommend it to all."—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want and Receiving Love"

At last, a road map through Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with its creator. Dr. Johnson's superb science, humor, and clinical wisdom are finally accessible to all of us. I couldn't pick a smarter, warmer, and more real guide for this journey."—John Gottman, Ph.D., bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and coauthor of And Baby Makes Three"

There's something appealing about this book's honest, no-holds-barred approach. By creating complete emotional safety and by willing to be fearless about it, it seems to me, not only can real love be kept alive, it can flourish"—Boston Globe

Sue Johnson [is] the most original contributor to couples therapy to come along in the last 30 years. This book will touch your heart, stimulate your mind, and give you practical strategies for improving your marriage. It will be an instant classic.—William J. Doherty, Ph.D., author of Take Back Your Marriage

Wonderful!...Hold Me Tight blends the best in research findings with practical suggestions from a caring and compassionate clinician. This fabulous book will be of great benefit...to couples trying to find their way to better communication and deeper, more fulfilling ways of being with each other. Bravo!—Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., author of Parenting from the Inside Out

A truly revolutionary, breakthrough book... the most important, valuable book for couples published in the 21st century.—Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., author of Getting It Right the First Time

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781455870233
Publisher:
Brilliance Audio
Publication date:
04/01/2012
Edition description:
Unabridged
Product dimensions:
5.30(w) x 7.50(h) x 0.60(d)

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Meet the Author

Dr. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, and a recognized leader in the new science of relationships. The author of four books and numerous articles, she has trained thousands of therapists in North America and around the world. She lives in Ottawa, Canada. For more information on Dr. Sue Johnson and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, visit www.eft.ca.

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Hold Me Tight 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 48 reviews.
Scout_Typper More than 1 year ago
This book teaches you what things to look for when your spouce is mad at you. They are not really mad at you they are affraid of loosing you. I know it's hard to hug a cactus, but sometimes that's what you have to do to show them you aren't going anywhere. Don't retract and give the space but stand up and talk to them and hold them tight.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read the book and passed it on to my husband who was reluctant at first but did push through it. We plan to go back to it and work through the recommended exercises, but I don't know when. We're in our 60's and married more than 40 years. We're recovering from a recent infidelity. You would think after all these years we would be connected; however we've learned new techniques on how to avoid conflict and renew passion.
victoria_marie More than 1 year ago
The concepts in this book are very simple yet can completely change how you understand your and your partners' reactions to situations and to your relationship in general. I haven't finished the book yet but I can't hardly put it down... I am very excited to digest these concepts - I can already see them making a huge difference in how I respond to my partner and how happy we are.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
this book was referred to my husband and i. i was skeptical that a book would help me. but it did and has. this book opened both my husband and i's eyes to how we communicated. we have been telling everyone about this book. our marriage was great before we read this book but now....it's secure,safe, loveling, and full of joy. PLEASE READ THIS BOOK!!!!!!
writing_out_loud More than 1 year ago
Ms. Johnsons' interpetation of the intricacies of human relationships is simply designed, carefully thought out and written in a language that not only changes prior perceptions but invents a new and healthy twist to perceptions in relationships.
MindyFL More than 1 year ago
The author is considered by many in the counseling field to be the among the best couples therapists. This book gives the lay person (and professional alike) a solid foundation on her approach, where things go wrong and how to resolve conflicts. Well worth it!
Guest More than 1 year ago
EFT is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Dr. Sue Johnson developed this therapeutic approach. The concept is very logical. We all have emotions. We all feel. That is okay. We must learn about our feelings and use them well. EFT helps people fight less and to be happier with their relationships. It was interesting that Johnson mentioned that being in a more transient society has made our reliance on our spouse even more important. I had never thought about that. I am without family nearby, so I do have only one person to count on¿my husband. We all ¿need a little shelter¿. I realize that it is an old Cinderella song, but it does ring true. Johnson explains that science has shown that we not only are social creatures, we are also creatures of couplehood. Sex is mentioned, also. Couples need sex. Sex styles are explained. Aligning of sex styles is mentioned, too. Most interesting, was the chapter on trauma. Johnson mentions the psychological trauma of soldiers returning home after a war. She explains the needs of the soldier and his/her spouse. Add some strength to your relationship read and study Hold Me Tight. Military spouses will definitely benefit from this, especially those with spouses suffering from PTSD.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great ideas with specific questions and instructions.
Dr-Payam_Ghassemlou More than 1 year ago
In clear language, Dr. Sue Johnson describes Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and gives hope to couples who want to improve their relationship. Hold Me Tight is a must read for psychotherapists who provide couple counseling. I certainly benefited from reading it. (Payam Ghassemlou MFT, Ph.D.)
JiminDenver More than 1 year ago
Sue Johnson makes accessible and practical the science of attachment and offers an explanation for adult love. Hold Me Tight is written in a clear and compelling style. It is an excellent book for couples and smart therapists will be recommending it to their clients.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I bought this last weekend at my local B&N, after my wife fired our marriage counselor who did not seem to have any real focus or plan. The counselor recommended a different therapist who uses EFT, and I wanted to see what it was all about. I bought this book because Dr. Sue Johnson is one of the pioneers of EFT, and this book lays out the reasons for her approach, as well as the steps that an EFT counselor would take to restore marital harmony. I have to say that I thought the book was very interesting and helpful, as EFT is based upon the belief that everyone needs deep emotional attachments, and that the way to fix a rocky marriage is to get the couples' emotions back in synch with each other, rather than obsessively revisiting the past or laying out groundrules for coexisting in the present. I also like the fact that it is unashamedly pro-marriage but not in preachy way.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I think this book is very helpful for those who have spouses open enough to try it. I just wish they also gave ways to approach your spouse with these conversations. Just like some parents have to hide their vegetables to get their kids to eat it. I have to sneak in relationship talk to my husband or he just doesn't listen much less talk.
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Kim_Blackham More than 1 year ago
Hold Me Tight is different than other self help books in that it is not just "good advice" or a gimmicky approach to understanding men and women. Rather, it is a book designed to help you understand yourself and your partner on a much deeper level. Using vignettes from other real couples, she describes the negative patterns of interaction we all can get stuck in.  I highly recommend for all couples.  
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the book is easy reading and enlightening.
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