Holding on Loosely: Finding Life in the Beautiful Tension

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What if your life could be different? Free and whole? What if you could be present to people, to yourself, and to God despite the circumstances around you?

What if you could let go of control without losing yourself? What if you could be free of resignation because you knew you had something unique to offer?

Author Pablo Giacopelli shares his life-changing journey to living with a secure identity and a quiet mind, regardless of opinions and ...

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What if your life could be different? Free and whole? What if you could be present to people, to yourself, and to God despite the circumstances around you?

What if you could let go of control without losing yourself? What if you could be free of resignation because you knew you had something unique to offer?

Author Pablo Giacopelli shares his life-changing journey to living with a secure identity and a quiet mind, regardless of opinions and situations. Holding On Loosely will challenge your perceptions about the power of control and the desire of God in a way that will awaken new life in a soul weary from constant performance.

This book has the potential of sweeping you away into a journey of walking with the confident certainty that you are never alone and God is always within you. Find life. Find love. Find the Person within that has always been looking for you, and the God that perfectly made that person.

Holding On Loosely: Finding Life in the Beautiful Tension.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780983992400
  • Publisher: Heart and Life Publishers
  • Publication date: 12/1/2011
  • Pages: 208
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 1.00 (d)

Table of Contents

Foreword 15

Preface 19

Chapter 1 Religion 25

Chapter 2 Loosening the Grip 39

Chapter 3 The Zone 55

Chapter 4 Learning to Hold On Loosely 71

Chapter 5 Making It Real 81

Chapter 6 Being Present 95

Chapter 7 Friends for the Journey 107

Chapter 8 Ripple Effect 121

Chapter 9 Reality Check 137

Chapter 10 The Final Stretch 155

Chapter 11 Coming Home 171

Epilogue 193

Acknowledgments 197

About the Author 203

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  • Posted March 1, 2012

    Grabbing Hold of Holding On Loosely

    Holding On Loosely: Finding Life in the Beautiful Tension.

    By Pablo Giacopelli


    What happened? What an important request. In a day of formulas, systems, trainings and other regimented offerings, sooner or later we wonder, How does this look in real life? Pablo Giacopelli wrote a book that answers that question, for in order to best answer, How does this look?, one needs to share the story of personal discovery, what happened.

    Holding on Loosely was one of those books that pulls you into a story and offers you truths in the midst of narrative. From the very first chapter, I was intrigued and engaged and I found myself turning pages and losing track of time. It was an easy read but that doesn’t mean it simple. Rather it was just the opposite, quite profound. I look back at my copy and dozens of pages received dog eared corners. There were many pages where my heart was either awakened or affirmed to the good things Pablo had discovered and was offering from His God journey.

    I would highly recommend this book and believe it has the ability to do to any open heart what it did mine encourage one to live well by seeing and relating to God in intimacy rather than in service. Holding on Loosely reminds us that you can serve someone and not be in love with them but it is impossible to be in love with someone and not serve them.

    Pablo is a wonderful story teller and makes you feel your ease dropping into the conversations between, his father, Stacy, Terry and his own heart. It’s a wonderful story of forgiveness, the fallacy of control, the intimacy of God and the power of connecting with the hearts of others. For those souls that long for a deeper intimacy with God, this is a must read. For those wanting to do more, give more, sin less and advance in the pursuit of religion you may want to pass this book by.

    Thank you Pablo for sharing your heart, writing how God came for you and how He pulled you from the ditches of religion and put you on the path of intimacy. I hope to walk with you on that path someday and we can share some stories of the old and new discoveries of being in love with God. Well done!

    Michael Thompson
    Director Zoweh Ministries
    Author, Search and Rescue

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  • Posted February 12, 2012

    A Five Star Book!!!!

    There are many Christian books out there that are theologically and denominationally air tight. Holding On Loosely is not one of them. If fact, at first read, one could almost question if in fact it is a ‘Christian’ book at all, as the name of Jesus is seldom mentioned, preferring rather a menagerie of more generic terms such as higher power, master, teacher or just plain God. Giacopelli does qualify this as he explains that his understanding of the God of the Bible is that this all powerful and merciful being is much more qualified and vested in revealing who he is than any mortal could ever be. I certainly respect that, even believe it to be true, but for those of us brought up with very fundamentalist training, it is still a hard pill to swallow.

    So why did I give this paperback a 5 star rating, you’re wondering? Because Holding On Loosely is a life changing book. From the very first chapter it is evident that there is something mystical, ever supernatural, about this story. Pablo Giacopelli, a professional woman’s tennis coach, invites the reader into the story of his life, his struggles with trying to maintain control, and his pain as to the fruit (read that failure) of his efforts. You are given an opportunity to watch a man struggle with the question that so many of us ask: Why is it that my faith and my religion have had such a minimal effect on my actions?

    His answers are profound. Giacopelli discovers a God who is much more interested in fathering him and loving him than controlling him; and that discover changes the authors life as well as the lives of those around him. In doing so, it also profoundly touched something missing in my life: the ability to lesson my own grip as I try to control those around me. Giacopelli masterfully leads the reader through the unwrapping of this capacity to ‘Hold On Loosely’: not forcing the outcomes while also not giving up. The ability transforms his tennis student from a very good player to a great player. It changes how he relates to his own children, and most importantly, it opens up a dialogue with God that produces real, lasting, life changing fruit.

    I repeatedly found myself challenged and exposed as I related to his journey, but there was also incredible hope. Hope that there really is a relationship that Jesus longs to have with me, one of walking beside me, revealing his creation to me, and guiding my life for his glory.

    Like I said in the beginning, this is not a ‘religious’ book, but it is so Godly. Unlike much I have read, Holding On Loosely left me wanting more of God and excited about the journey there. If you have likewise found yourself walking more in a performance mindset in your faith than in a love affair, Holding On Loosely is exactly what you need to read.

    To the King,


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  • Posted February 4, 2012

    Excellent Book on Active Surrender

    Holding On Loosely: Finding Life in the Beautiful Tension By Pablo Giacopelli Reviewed by Stephanie Kriegbaum Richter Holding on Loosely is a beautifully descriptive tale, unveiling the journey of one man, and his two friends, whose paths converge on the road to discovering the mysterious art of “Active Surrender." Pablo Giacopelli, a professional tennis coach, his protege, Stacey, and their mutual friend Terry’s journeys merge at the Women’s Professional Tour, just as Giacopelli is beginning to conceptualize what it means to hold onto life, loosely. Each member of the triad has arrived a place of renewed spiritual enlightenment and self-discovery in a different way.  The healing journeys converge through the venue of tennis competitions, as each begins to find, (or reveal in Terry’s case) a truer, more authentic and unfettered relationship with self, others and God.   Holding On Loosely is a story exposing how one man’s spiritual awakening produces ripple effects in his relational worlds.  The book brilliantly displays the manner in which a changed life--a life set free, remade and a psyche healed--can have monumental effects in the circle that joins one life to another.   Giacopelli demystifies spiritual concepts--concepts reflecting the nature of God and his world--and reveals how they remain true, valid and endlessly powerful, no matter what garb they are dressed in.  God’s power, love, acceptance and freedom are available and able to be discovered even outside of the boxes in which we traditionally expect to find them.   As Pablo, Stacey and Terry each separately discover, the more tightly they hold onto their own expectations and paradigms, the less open they are to  truly receiving the things they so desperately desire.  Their tight grips of control are actually barriers preventing them from opening their hands, minds and hearts to receive the gifts God is waiting to give them. During one conversation midway through the book, Terry reminds Pablo and Stacey that, “Active Surrender is the midpoint between control and resignation.  It is the tension that admits the desire to control and the desire to resign.”  Giacopelli expounds on this point later, stating that, “Living in a place of Active Surrender generates an amazing power.  As we welcome mystery into our lives, we leave room for God to do the good things he wants to do.  There is a big difference between living lives full of expectations and living lives expectantly."  (paraphrased, 79; 157) Other concepts Giacopelli touches on, involve coming to terms with one's past circumstances and relationships.  Each of the three characters in the story have been wounded by a significant person in their lives. Stacey, Terry and Pablo, whose story is being told, each come into a healing place within the self, a place of Active Surrender where holding on loosely takes place. Pablo refers to this place “the Zone”.  As each character begins to understand Active Surrender, s/he is able to arrive at a new vision of life and relationships.   I am glad I had the opportunity to read this simply shared story of how God can free anyone from the baggage picked up on the journey through this life.  It reaffirms the beauty that our generous and loving God does not have one way of revealing himself.

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  • Posted January 23, 2012

    Two Thumbs Up!

    In his new book, Holding on Loosely, author, coach, and teacher Pablo Giacopelli gives us a both personal and powerful picture of the tension that we all feel as we walk through this life . . .

    Rabbi Michael Lerner calls it the Right hand of God vs. the Left hand of God . . .

    The tension the we must reconcile between "taking control" of our lives and "making you destiny a reality" and the confidence, faith, and trust to "be yourself" to be willing to ride the wave called life, always being flexible and open to where it leads . . .

    There is a still small voice, and often a loud one, that speaks to us from each of these worldviews . . .

    In this book Pablo not only bears witness to this tension in a personal, intimate and clear manner but in the metaphor for teacher / student, of pastor / parishioner, of coach / athlete . . .

    The most powerful way to communication any subject is by storytelling and the is Mr. Giacopelli's personal story from which application can be made far outside the sports world.

    I recommend it highly.

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    Posted December 17, 2012

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