How Can I Get Through to You?: Breakthrough Communication Beyond Gender, Beyond Therapy, Beyond Deception

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A respected interview consultant and an attorney offer a tested method for improving communication with loved ones, explaining a Read, Respond, and Reciprocate process and the four stress styles--Feeler, Driver, Analyzer, or Elitist--that people manifest.

An internationally acclaimed interview master reveals proven techniques for achieving total communication with loved ones. The authors explain how a system of "Read, Respond, and Reciprocate" allows us to get to the...

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Overview

A respected interview consultant and an attorney offer a tested method for improving communication with loved ones, explaining a Read, Respond, and Reciprocate process and the four stress styles--Feeler, Driver, Analyzer, or Elitist--that people manifest.

An internationally acclaimed interview master reveals proven techniques for achieving total communication with loved ones. The authors explain how a system of "Read, Respond, and Reciprocate" allows us to get to the heart of another person, the key to effective communication.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Former police officer Foster is now an interview consultant for the FBI, the U.S. State Department and the Federal Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms. Here, writing with attorney Marshall, he presents the ``Foster Method,'' his innovative technique for effective communication. Through practice of the ``3 R's'' (read, respond, reciprocate), the authors show how to recognize four personality types--Feeler, Driver, Analyzer and Elitist--and how to ``get through'' to each. Also included is interesting--and sometimes frightening--information on reading physical cues. For example, claim the authors, someone with ``three whites of the eyes'' is almost always suffering from great stress; and, as with Pinocchio, rubbing or pulling the nose is a signal of dishonesty. Some will find this neat pigeonholing of people into four, basically negative ``types'' to be based on a grim view of humanity that does not allow for individual differences. First serial rights to Good Housekeeping; author tour. (June)
Library Journal
This is an eye-opening, accessible, and informative book on augmenting family communication. Foster, a former polygraph examiner, and Marshall, a lawyer specializing in family law, draw upon the now-classic works of Desmond Morris, Edward Hall, Carl Jung, Elizabeth Kbler-Ross, Katherine Briggs, and Isabel Briggs Myers. Successfully synthesizing these sources, the authors demonstrate how one can identify differences in order to foster better communication through their technique of read, respond, and reciprocate. Recommended for self-help collections on marriage and family enrichment.-Scott Johnson, Meridian Community Coll. Lib., Miss.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781401309404
  • Publisher: Hyperion
  • Publication date: 6/15/2007
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 1,036,284
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.56 (d)

Meet the Author

D. Glenn Foster is a well-known interview consultant who instructs the FBI, the U.S. State Department, and the Federal Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms in professional interview techniques. He also has lectured to professional bodies of judges, trial attorneys, psychiatrists, and psychologists. The originator of the Foster Method--which is in constant use professionally and is now adapted for mainstream use--he is in demand by federal, state, and local agencies to conduct interviews in major criminal and civil cases throughout the U.S. He lives in Atlanta.

Mary Marshall is an attorney with an extensive background in family and matrimonial law. She has been instrumental in broadening the Foster Method into the field of interpersonal relations and is currently working on its application in situations of domestic violence and how people deceive each other. She lives in Barto, Pennsylvania.

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Table of Contents

Preface
Introduction 3
1 The Four Personality Types: Feeler, Driver, Analyzer, Elitist 17
2 How to Read the Personality Types of the People You Care For 29
3 How to Read Your Own Personality Type 40
4 How to Read What People Really Mean 62
5 Acceptance and Rejection 77
6 How to Read Mood Language 95
7 How to Respond to Moods 112
8 How to Tune In on a Person's Mood Frequency and Lead Him or Her into Acceptance 135
9 How to Keep People in Acceptance 156
10 The Steps of Reciprocation 169
11 How to Get Others to Understand Who You Are 188
12 How We Distort Each Other's Meaning 206
13 Differences: The Most Valuable Assets of Any Relationship 220
Appendix: The Language of Moods 227
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